التمتع بالحياة الزوجية الحلال

بواسطة الزواج الخالص - شهر اغسطس, 20ذ 2013

مصدر: www.onislam.net

مؤلف: Sadaf Farooqi

Her hands still show faint remnants of the intricate patterns of henna applied on the day of her nikah.

Their bedroom still emanates a whiff of fragrance of wilting roses still majestic in their ‘faded glory’.

The customary blushes, shyness, nervousness and social awkwardness still mark their nouveau relationship.

The initial days and nights after a wedding are a blur of activity for a newly married couple, as they respond to invitations by close family and friends to dinner parties, lunches and other social get-togethers with culturally resplendent bridal splendor.

As the newly married husband and wife get sucked into the whirlpool of wedding-related activities, alternating between intimate nocturnal moments and frenzied daytime decking up and dining, it is easy to slip into heedlessness of God and laid-backness regarding acts of worship.

There are a few things that the new bride and groom can do in order to prevent their marriage from creating a distance between them and God on an individual level. The answer lies in ‘joining forces’ to become each other’s pillar of support in staying closely connected to God during this blissful and blessed milestone of their young lives.

Praying Together

Late night dinners and frequent intimacy should not become an excuse to miss prayers, especially the pre-dawn Fajr prayer. The bride and groom should use their cell phones to put alarms for prayers that are spaced out in time, so that if one of them shuts off their alarm, rolls over and promptly goes back to sleep, the subsequent alarm set by the other spouse can wake them both up. It should be a priority for them that no prayer is ever missed when they are in each other’s company.

Many a young man who used to sleeping through Fajr during single life, has been known to reform as soon as he married a righteous, whose wife starts waking him up for Fajr when she gets up to pray herself.

It is for this reason that Prophet Muhammad has wisely and emphatically given the advice below to all single Muslim men:

“A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, جمالها, or for her religion. Choose the religious one, may your hands be rubbed with dust (بمعنى آخر., may you prosper)." (ابن ماجه |)

Daily Reviewing the Quran Together

يجب وضع بضع دقائق في اليوم جانبا من قبل الزوجين المتزوجين حديثا لمراجعة القرآن معًا, ويفضل في الصباح الباكر, قبل بدء موجة الأنشطة في اليوم.

من أجل مساعدة أنفسهم على تذكر الاتصال بالقرآن كل يوم, الزوج والزوجة يجب أن تتذكر كيف, أوقات لا حصر لها في الماضي عندما كانوا عزباء, اعتادوا أن يصليوا مع خوشو إضافي (تركيز), وقراءة القرآن بتركيز إضافي, من أجل الدعاء بجدية لله بعد ذلك للزوج الصالح; من أجل الوسيلة الحلال لرضا حثهم البيولوجي; لاستكمال نصف إيمانهم.

يجب أن يتذكروا الساعات العديدة التي أمضوها في التخيل حول ما سيكون عليه زوجهم في المستقبل, and what kind of romantic dates they’d go on with them to fully enjoy married life.

Now that all those dreams are coming true, with romantic walks on sun-kissed beaches and cozy dinners at quaint restaurants, the bride and groom should try to consistently remember and thank God for granting them what they asked Him for in their dua’.

و, as a means of thanking Him, they should try to study the Quran together on a daily basis, reviewing the Arabic recitation, translation, and short exegesis of a few verses. One of them can start this review with recitation and tajweed, after which they can take turns in reading from the meanings of the text, gleaning practical lessons for their lives from those verses.

في هذا الطريق, God will purify and bless the love that they have for each other, by transforming it into the selfless love that is purely for the sake of Allah.

Observing the Islamic Etiquette of Intimacy

A brother once attended a wedding at the masjid that was convened on a Friday after Jumu’ah prayers. In the khutbah, the imam exhorted the importance of a bride and groom never missing an obligatory prayer due to physical intimacy/conjugal relations.

He also claimed that when a husband and wife allow an obligatory prayer to be missed due to lovemaking, and if this intimacy results in a pregnancy, then the child that is born is disobedient and unrighteous.

The newly married husband and wife should take utmost care in following the Islamic etiquette of sexual intimacy i.e. starting with the prophetic supplication, and culminating with a timely ghusl (avoiding dozing off in a state of sexual impurity). They should also beware of straying into deviant forms of sexual satisfaction that would disgust any one possessing a sound mind and pure heart, such as those that humiliate or cause pain to one or both of the spouses.

When their physical, sexual relationship will commence on the right footing, أي. including the remembrance of God and following the model of the السنة (way) of Prophet Muhammad, the blessings of these conjugal relations will be felt and reaped by the couple in all the other areas of their marital life as well, for years to come,إرادة قوية.

Attending Islamic Lectures and Workshops

Once they are married and a bit more settled into routine life, returning to their job or going back to classes at school, يستغل المتزوجون حديثًا فرصًا لقضاء الوقت على مهل في القيام به مثيرة للاهتمام, الأشياء الصادرة, خاصة في عطلات نهاية الأسبوع والأعياد العامة.

من أجل مزج متعة الله بالترفيه والترفيه المسموح به, يمكن للأزواج المتزوجين حديثًا حضور المحاضرات الإسلامية وورش العمل معًا.

إذا كانت ورش العمل أو المحاضرات هذه في مدينة أو ولاية أخرى, يمكن للسفر المعني أن يجلب ترحيبًا من الحياة الروتينية, السماح لهم بمشاهدة معالم المدينة واستكشاف أماكن جديدة, بالإضافة إلى اكتساب المزيد من المعرفة بالإسلام, وتكوين صداقات جديدة في طريق الله.

واحدة من أفضل الطرق للاستماع إلى تلاوة القرآن والمحاضرات المفيدة هي لعب الأقراص المضغوطة والأشرطة نفسها في السيارة عند الخروج وحوالي, خاصة في ركوب الخيل الطول والرحلات على الطرق.

I have personally seen the immense benefits of listening to beneficial tapes in the car over the years, and the best part is that this kind of learning takes no extra effort. مؤخراً, when the babies come along, it will amaze the parents to witness how quickly they start memorizing and retaining the Quran, only because they heard it being played repeatedly in the car whenever they went out!

Thankfully, the beauty of undertaking Islamic activities with one’s spouse as a form of leisure, is that there is great benefit and blessings in “mixing business with pleasure”!

Remembering God in the Natural Outdoors

Whether it is attending late-night cocktail parties at clubs, bars or elitist hotels with other couples, watching adult-themed films at home in bed, أو ضرب المسارح للقبض على الأفلام الشاهقة, المتزوجون حديثًا في وقت ما ينتهي بهم المطاف ارتكاب الخطايا معًا باسم الرومانسية, التمتع والترفيه على مهل. إنهم يسمحون لأنفسهم أن يصبحوا بلا هجينة من الله وحدود الإسلام بينما يركبون موجة من النشوة الشاب والرومانسية المذهلة بعد زواجهما.

والحقيقة هي أن هناك العديد من الخيارات البديلة للاستمتاع بزوجك حلال way. والأفضل من ذلك أن تكون أوضاع التمتع التي تجمع بين عبادة وذكرات الله والترفيه والاسترخاء.

لن يكون الأمر أكثر متعة في التنزه, جولة على الأقدام, ركوب الدراجات, التجديف, الغوص, التخييم, أو الإبحار – أخذ في جميل, المترامية الأطراف الطبيعية في الهواء الطلق – but such outings will also rejuvenate the couple’s faith in God by allowing them to gaze at and admire the natural beauty that He has spread out through the earth.

When the time for prayer comes during these outdoor trysts, the adventuring couple can enjoy praying on grassy hills, lakesides, or tree-lined forest trails, surrounded by scenic beauty. Praying outdoors like this is truly one of life’s most beautiful experiences!

Touristy Trysts

Other alternative recreation that can enable young newlyweds to have some fun, includes amusement parks, which provide almost child-like excitement and thrills, and trips to educational museums and parks. Going to such places is a healthier alternative to wasting time, طاقة, المال والقوة الجسدية على أنماط الترفيه التي تتكبد غضب الله بدلاً من سعادته.

إذا كان بإمكان الزوجين تحمله, يمكنهم الجمع بين عطلتهم أو شهر العسل مع الأمة من أجل دمج عبادة الله ورفع الإيمان في رحلاتهم على مهل, كبادرة لشكر الله على الزواج منهم لبعضهم البعض, ومنحهم بركات النعيم الزوجي الذي يشعل آمال مستقبل مشرق ومزدهر في الحياة.

خاتمة: الترابط من خلال محبة الله

لا تستمر المرحلة المتزوج حديثًا أكثر من بضعة أشهر أو عامين أو عامين, حيث تكون الحياة بطيئة في وتيرة وشاعرية بسعادة لزوجين متزوجين بسعادة وفي الحب. كتجارب العروس في المطبخ, the groom tries to squeeze in as much private time as he can with her after work hours and other commitments.

During the newlywed phase, the husband and wife should focus not just on bonding with each other, but also on sealing their relationship with the blessing of God’s pleasure, by becoming each other’s pillar of support in faith.

They will then come together, with God’s help, as a dynamic duo so strong in faith, that Satan and his army will not be able to come near them or their future generations, إرادة قوية.

مصدر: www.onislam.net

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