“Marriage isn’t all that we live for, though it is the corner stone of an Islamic society. The business of marriage is part of life’s journey, not the reason why we live. As Muslimoon we have to live for Allah and we have to indulge in remembering Him often.” Commentator Mohummud Yaaseen made the above thought provoking statement. The entire comment written by Mohummud Yaaseen was so profound that I thought it warranted a post of its own. Mohummud Yaaseen stated the following:
“Assalaamu allaykum Ladies
I really think that what sometimes makes marriages unhappy, (any marriages, polygamous or monogamous) is a total and utter focus on the marriage itself.
Marriage isn’t all that we live for, though it is the corner stone of an Islamic society. The business of marriage is part of life’s journey, not the reason why we live. As Muslimoon we have to live for Allah and we have to indulge in remembering Him often.
The sweetness of His Thikr is sweeter than the bonds of your marriages. as He says, that Indeed in the remembrance of Allah to hearts find contentment”
The Prophet (S.A.W) “You are not a true believer unless you love for your brother what you love for yourself” This you should remember when it comes to your sisters in Islam .If you know your husband is a good man, and that perhaps, your co wife also loves him as you love him, and that he also loves them and has to deal fairly with them in order for him to also reach Paradise (Jannah) then you should try and make it easy for him and not difficult. Do you love your husbands enough to want Jannah for them? Do you love your sisters enough to want Jannah for them also? Do you want Jannah for yourself?
Be better than hateful towards your sister wives because the chances that they will also be hateful towards you are equally great. Which wife do you think is more preferred to your husband, the one that is continuously complaining and being hateful, or the one with whom he finds peace and tranquility? Be the peaceful one, and perhaps the other wives will learn to be peaceful, even if out of mere competition.
Remember, live your life for God, not for anyone else, and be dutiful toward Him and in fulfilling the rights that He has prescribed towards Himself and all of His creation, including your husbands and his other wives. Respect that just has you have rights over your husband so does his other wives. Respect also, that just has he has responsibilities to fulfill regarding you so does his other wives have similar needs.
And Allah knows best.”