Author: Pure Matrimony
Jealousy and envy (Hasad) is classed as a disease of the heart. Some scholars say it’s one of the first sins committed by Shaytaan, because he disobeyed Allah SWT when asked to make sujood to Adam AS.
The Prophet SAW said:
“Beware of jealousy, for verily it destroys good deeds the way fire destroys wood.” [Abu Dawood]
Having hasad for someone is one of the most destructive feelings you can have towards others for several reasons:
- You’re unhappy at what Allah SWT has chosen for someone
- By wishing the other person doesn’t have the happiness you want for yourself, you’re actually PREVENTING yourself from having the same blessings because evil is ONLY ever returned with evil, while good is only ever returned with good
- Having hasad of others means you’re unhappy with the decree of Allah for YOU
- Hasad is one of the highest forms of ingratitude to Allah because you’re basically saying that what Allah has given you isn’t enough
- It causes you to be miserable because you’re focusing on other people’s happiness instead of your own
When the Prophet SAW was asked who are the best of people? He SAW replied: “the one with a clean heart and truthful tongue.” The Sahabas then asked: ‘We understand a truthful tongue, but what does a clean heart mean?’ The Prophet SAW replied: “It is the heart of one that is pious, pure, and is free of sin, transgressions, hatred and Hasad.” [Ibn Majah]
Interestingly, Allah SWT revealed surah Falaq as a means of protection from hasad:
“Say: I seek refuge in the Lord of the dawn… from the evil of envious when he envies.” [Soorah al-Falaq (113): 1]
This is proof that hasad is an evil thing because Allah SWT has told us it is.
In fact, the Prophet SAW said:
“There has come to you the disease of the nations before you, jealousy and hatred. This is the ‘shaver’ (destroyer); I do not say that it shaves hair, but that it shaves (destroys) faith…” [Tirmidhi]
In another hadith, the Prophet SAW said: “They are enemies for Allah’s bounties.” The Sahaba asked: “Who are they?” He SAW said: “Those who envy people for what Allah has given them of Bounty.” [at-Tabaranee]
Allah SWT is the Lord of Provision and therefore, it is SOLELY due to His Mercy that a person is blessed with good things. Therefore, when you have hasad for what Allah has given to others, you are questioning what Allah has given to them.
So if you struggle with this disease of hasad, what’s the best way to deal with it?
Firstly, take the advice of the Prophet SAW who said:
“Do not look to those above you. Look to those below you, as it will more likely remind you of Allah’s favors bestowed on you.” [Bukhari andMuslim]
Secondly, make dua for Allah SWT to increase the person you envy in the thing you also want and be sincere in your dua. This has three effects. Firstly, it helps to remove any bad feelings you have in your heart towards that person. Second, you’re doing the exact opposite of what Shaytaan wants you to do and that is to hate. Lastly, when you make dua for someone, the angels say ‘ameen and ameen for you too’.
Third, learn to be grateful for the things Allah SWT has given YOU – because gratitude to Allah for what He has chosen for you brings peace and contentment to the heart in such a way that you will never be unhappy for those who have more than you.
Lastly, remember that whatever you have is from Allah’s blessings, and whatever you DON’T have is from His wisdom.
May Allah SWT save us all from jealousy and envy ameen!
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