"Manlju kinne mei fjouwer trouwe – wêrom net froulju trouwe fjouwer?"

Assalaamu A'laikum, Tige tank foar in heul imforative ferklearring fan it houlik yn de Islam, In protte fan ús broer's en suster begripe it hjoed net, want it hjoed net en wol it pleatst yn ús maatskippij. Soe Allah trochgean mei oplieden fan ús yn 'e dingen en gebiet moatte wy yn ús libben ympersoanje.

Assalamu alaikum,
It antwurd op 'e fraach fan fjouwer houliken foar manlju is útwurke en heul diplomatyk. moai wurk.. hawwe wy noch oan, brûkt om nachts te bidden en as er de witr bea soe er sizze, libbene, ús sels oplieden as ús foarige generaasjes fan 1,400 jierren lyn.. Maatskippij is feroare.. Technology hat foarút… Wittenskip hat boppe syn hoarizons berikt… en wy binne noch yn it jier fan 1,400 jierren lyn prate oer fjouwer houliken foar manlju. Wetten wurde oanpast oan suite de maatskippijen… wetten binne feroare.. Manlju binne feroare.. Froulju binne feroare… Mar ús wet bliuwt om te soargjen foar manlju net foar froulju… Stiene-leeftydferhalen oer froulju binne net mear yn dizze moderne wrâld…. Froulju dogge alles dat in man profesjoneel docht.. Wêrom allinich moslims en fral manlju libje noch en feilich beskermje en feilich beskermje, de fjouwer houliken lykas in profesije.. Mar gjin oare bestjoers fan oarders dwaan fan 'e Islam….????????? Dat myn konklúzje is in moslim man moat net it rjocht hawwe om te trouwen om fjouwer te trouwen as syn frou libbet en sûn en berne syn bern berne… Just om't hy syn broek net koe hâlde……

FAN: Antwurden op mienskiplike fragen oan non moslim troch dr. Zakir Naik
1. Polygamy
Fraach:
Wêrom is in man tastien mear dan ien frou te hawwen yn 'e Islam? i.e. Wêrom is
Polygamy tastien yn 'e Islam?
Antwurdzje:
1. Definysje fan polygamy
Polygamy betsjuttet in systeem fan it houlik, wêrtroch ien persoan mear dan ien hat
echtgenoate. Polygamy kin fan twa soarten wêze. Ien is polygyny wêr't in man trouwe
Mear dan ien frou, en de oare is polyandry, wêr't in frou troud
Mear dan ien man. Yn de Islam, beheinde polygypy is tastien; wylst polyhandry
is folslein ferbean.
No komme nei de oarspronklike fraach, Wêrom is in man tastien mear dan te hawwen
ien frou?
2. De Koran is it ienige religieuze Skrift yn 'e wrâld dy't seit,
"Marry mar ien".
De Koran is it ienige religieuze boek, Op it gesicht fan dizze ierde, dat befettet de
útdrukking 'trouwe mar ien'. D'r is gjin oar religieus boek dat manlju ynstrueart
hawwe mar ien frou. Yn gjin fan 'e oare religieuze Skriften, Oft it it is
Vedas, De Rama,, De mahabharat, The Geeta, de Talmud as de Bibel docht
Men fynt in beheining op it oantal froulju. Neffens dizze Skriften ien
kin trouwe safolle as ien winsken. It wie mar letter, dat de Hindoe prysters en
De kristlike tsjerke beheind it oantal froulju oan ien.
In protte Hindoe religieuze persoanlikheden, Neffens har skriften, hie meardere
frouljier. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had
several wives.
In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished,
since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few
centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.
Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had
three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny
continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an
edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries
continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of
Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.
(*Interesting Note:- As per the 1975 census of India Hindus are more
polygynous than Muslims. The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of
Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 En it is heul mooglik dat jo iets net leuk fine, wylst it goed foar jo is 67 dat
the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 En it is heul mooglik dat jo iets net leuk fine, wylst it goed foar jo is 1961
wie 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According
to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is
illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being
illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, dêr
was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives
allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it
became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian
Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the
Hindu scriptures.)
Litte wy no analysearje wêrom't Islam in man lit mear dan ien frou hawwe.
3. Qur'an fergieten Limited polygyny
Lykas ik earder neamde, Koran is it ienige religieuze boek op it gesicht fan 'e ierde
dat seit 'trouwe mar ien'. De kontekst fan dizze sin is it folgjende fers fan
Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur'an:
"Troud mei froulju fan jo kar, twa, of trije, of fjouwer; Mar as jimme bang binne dat
Jimme scille gewoan net kinne omgean (mei harren), dan mar ien. "
[Al-Qur'an 4:3]
Foardat de Koran waard iepenbiere, der wie gjin boppeste limyt foar polygyny en
In protte manlju hiene skoares fan froulju, Guon sels hûnderten. Islam set in boppeste limyt
fan fjouwer froulju. Islam jout in man tastimming om mei twa te trouwen, trije as fjouwer froulju,
allinich op 'e tastân dat hy gewoan mei har behannelt.
Yn itselde haadstik I.E. Surah NISA Verse 129 seit:
“Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women….”
[Al-Qur'an 4:129]
Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. Many people are under the
misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.
Broadly, Islam has five categories of Do’s and Don’ts:
(i) ‘Fard’ i.e. compulsory or obligatory
(ii) ‘Mustahab’ i.e. recommended or encouraged
(iii) ‘Mubah’ i.e. permissible or allowed
(iv) ‘Makruh’ i.e. not recommended or discouraged
(v) ‘Haraam’ i.e. prohibited or forbidden
Polygyny falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be
said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as
compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.
4. Average life span of females is more than that of males
By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. IN
female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the
germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the
pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the
females.
During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die
due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females
is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the
world than widowers.
5. India has more male population than female due to female
foeticide and infanticide
India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, yn
which the female population is less than the male population. The reason lies in
the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one
million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are
identified as females. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have
more females as compared to males.
6. World female population is more than male population
In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one
million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male
population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole
has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not
wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared
to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia
has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million
more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.
7. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not
practical
Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than
thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands
(considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more
than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine
million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband.
Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, of
suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. De
only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who
already has a wife or becomes ‘public property’. There is no other option. Alle
those who are modest will opt for the first.
Most women would nto like to share their husband with other women. But in
Islam when the situation deems it really neccessary Muslim women in due faith
could bear a small personal loss to prevent a greater loss of letting other Muslim
sisters becoming ‘public properties’.
8. Marring a married man preferable to becoming ‘public property’
In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple
extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected
life. The same society, lykwols, cannot accept a man having more than one
frou, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and
lead a protected life.
Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to
marry a married man or to become ‘public property’. Islam prefers giving
women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the
second.
There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, mar
it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.

2. POLYANDRY
Fraach:
If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a
woman from having more than one husband?
Antwurdzje:
A lot of people, including some Muslims, question the logic of allowing Muslim
men to have more than one spouse while denying the same ‘right’ to women.
Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation of an Islamic society is justice
and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different
capabilities and different responsibilities. Men and women are different,
physiologically and psychologically. Their roles and responsibilities are different.
Men and women are equal in Islam, but not identical.
Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 fersen 22 nei 24 gives the list of women with whom
Muslim men can not marry. It is further mentioned in Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4
fers 24 “Also (prohibited are) women already married”
The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in
Islam:
1. If a man has more than one wife, the parents of the children born of such
marriages can easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can
easily be identified. In case of a woman marrying more than one husband,
only the mother of the children born of such marriages will be identified and
not the father. Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of
both parents, mother and father. Psychologists tell us that children who do
not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental
trauma and disturbances. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for
this reason that the children of prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood.
If a child born of such wedlock is admitted in school, and when the mother
is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names!
I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both
the mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Dus
this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the
present.
2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
3. Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite
having several wives. In frou, in a similar position, having several
manlju, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. In frou
undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different
phases of the menstrual cycle.
4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual
partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or
sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her
husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case
in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital
seks.
The above reasons are those that one can easily identify. There are probably
many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.

Ik genoat tige oer it lêzen fan it ynformative goed struktureare stikje oer dit probleem, mar it probleem is dat wy it ljocht moatte skodzje fan wat de measte manlju dogge by it trouwen by it trouwen, Se leauwe dat trouwe 4 Wiven is wat elke man moat dwaan, mar yn 'e realiteit is d'r in pear dy't dizze enoarme ferantwurdlikens kinne drage kinne as in enoarme Nicmo is as de Ayat waard iepenbiere net alle kompanjyten dy't net waarden iepenbiere 4 frouljier. Dizze ferkearde gedrach Leaved.Many famyljes yn ramp en frouljus-hert brutsen. Wylst hy troud is en op syk is nei oare froulju soe moatte hy helpe om de bern mei syn frou te reitsjen en dit sil ek helpe yn 'e hearren. En ik soe ek tsjin froulju sizze dat as jo fiele dat jo man fielt foar in twadde frou, wês gewoan geduldich, om't jo jo beleanning derfoar sille krije yn 'e hearrafter. Alahu-aclam

Ik tink dat dit in ynteressant artikel is, om't it de wierheid toant. Ik bin net tsjin wat de wurden fan Allah Swt binne, om't foar my as in moslim dat in shirk soe wêze. Ik haw lykwols ien ding om te sizzen dat jo gjin ûnienigens sizze, Dochs in persoanlike notysje op hjoeddeistige manlju en generaasje. Islam lit manlju trouwe om te trouwen oant fjouwer froulju op bepaalde omstannichheden. Mar tsjintwurdich binne minsken mear rjochte op 'e iene en allinich. Om't it folle mear makliker hat om ien frou te hawwen dy't in ien man tegearre is en in famylje en in húshâlding diele 2-4. Wy wite allegear dat. En froulju hawwe it rjocht om nee te sizzen en har manlju ôfwize wolle dat in oare frou trouwe en in polygamous houlik hawwe. Dus as de hjoeddeistige frou wegeret dan de man hat twa keuzes: yn syn hjoeddeistige houlik te bliuwen mei mar ien frou en it lok fine binnen of te finen en in oare frou te ferlitte en te finen dy't him lokkich sil meitsje mei ien of mear froulju. It fielt noce om in man te hawwen dy't gewoan al syn fokus op jo wol en is folslein tawiisd, Hat syn blik ferlege om oare froulju te wurden en gewoan wolle jo elke dei by syn kant en nacht fan syn libben troch syn kant. Mar d'r binne guon manlju dy't net sa binne en dat is wêr't Islam de limyt fan maksimaal fjouwer froulju jout binnen reden binnen reden en omstannichheden.

Yntresting advys en diskossje
Ik wol graach trouwe mei in min orordh famke. Wa nedich myn soarch..Age inshahallah

Ik bin tsjin polygamy en ik waard muslim berne. Ik haw wat twifel yn myn hert oer de Islam fanwegen dizze fersen oer polygamy. Gjin manlju kinne de grutte pine fan in frou begripe dy't wit dat har man leaf hat en sliept mei immen oars. Yn dit tiidrek, Minsken moatte safolle oeren wurkje om in famylje te stypjen. Sa, praktysk, It is net mooglik om genôch tiid te jaan om te besteegjen om safolle froulju en bern te jaan. D'r binne in protte single manlju derút om te trouwen ynstee fan 2e of 3e frou te wêzen fan in troude man.