Kaʻana like i kēia
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu e manaʻo wau e nalowale ana koʻu manaʻoʻiʻo.
Akā he aha ka mea i loaʻa iā mākou ma kahi mua inā he ʻāpana kēia o ka manaʻoʻiʻo?
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu e ʻeha maoli nā hoʻokolohua. Akā ke ʻōlelo nei ke Akua, “A i ʻole ke manaʻo nei ʻoe e komo ana ʻoe i Paradaiso i ka wā e like ai [hookolokolo] ʻaʻole i hiki mai iā ʻoukou e like me ka poʻe i hala ma mua o ʻoukou? Ua hoʻopā ʻia lākou e ka ʻilihune a me ka pilikia a hoʻoluliluli ʻia a hiki i [ʻo kā lākou hoʻi] i mai la ka elele a me ka poe i manaoio pu me ia, 'Ahea la ke kokua o Allah?'" (Qurʻan, 2:214)
ʻAʻohe mea i ʻōlelo mai iaʻu ʻaʻole makemake wau i kekahi mea halal. Wahi a ke Akua, "Akā, inaina paha ʻoe i kekahi mea a maikaʻi ia iā ʻoe." (2: 216)
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu e koi ʻia au e uē iā Allah a kū i koʻu mau makaʻu. Wahi a ke Akua, “E ʻimi i ke kōkua ma o ke ahonui a me ka pule; a he oiaio, paʻakikī koe wale nō ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa”(2:45)
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu ʻaʻole pono kaʻu kāne i kaʻu ʻae a ʻaʻole ʻo ia iaʻu, akā, ke ʻōlelo nei mākou i kēia "ʻOiaʻiʻo no ke Akua mākou a iā ia mākou e hoʻi ai."
ʻAʻohe paha i haʻi aku iā ʻoe e nānā ʻoe i nā mea āpau e pili ana i kou helehelena a ʻimi i kou mau hemahema, e imi ana i ka hoapono. Aka, o ka Elele o ke Akua (Maluna ona) i ʻōlelo ai, “ʻAʻole nānā ke Akua i kāu mau kiʻi, ʻaʻole hoʻi i ko ʻoukou ʻaʻahu akā ke nānā nei ʻo ia i ko ʻoukou naʻau [a me na hana].” [Mahometa]
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iā mākou e lilo mākou i mea ʻāina. Akā ke ʻōlelo nei au he naʻauao kēia manaʻo. "A inā ʻaʻole na ke Akua i nānā [kekahi] kanaka ma o hai, ina ua ino ka honua. (2:251)
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hewa i kēlā me kēia manawa aʻu e hōʻino waha ai i kaʻu kāne, Hiki iaʻu ke koho e hoʻohana i koʻu alelo e loaʻa ka uku ma ka heluhelu ʻana i ka Quran. A ma ka hana ʻana pēlā, E hoʻomāmā wau i ka haunaele o koʻu puʻuwai no "ʻOiaʻiʻo ma ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana iā Allah e hoʻomaha ai nā naʻau." (13:28)
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu ma muli o koʻu manaʻo ponoʻī a me ka lili nui, e hāʻule haʻahaʻa koʻu manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole au e nānā hou aku iā Jannah (no ka mea, aole au i makemake ia ia no'u iho). Akā, laila, ke hooikaika nei au he paradaiso pau ole e haiia aku, “E ka ʻuhane hōʻoluʻolu, E hoʻi i ko ʻoukou Haku me ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka ʻoluʻolu iā ia. (89:27-28) a i ʻole e noho pū me kaʻu kāne? A ua poina anei au e hoopau ke Akua i ka inaina (7:43) a me ke kaumaha (35:34) mai iaʻu?
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu e hakakā wau i koʻu nafs, ʻo ka ʻāpana oʻu e hōʻole nei e ʻike i kekahi pōmaikaʻi (ʻoiai ʻike wau aia) a hōʻole ʻole e noi iā Allah e hana maʻalahi kēia (ʻoiai ua ʻike wau e hana ʻo ia)… ʻo ka hapa oʻu makemake ʻole i kēia me ka mea ʻole! Akā i kēia, Haʻi wau iā Dhul-Nun nāna i ʻōlelo, "Mai hoʻopaʻapaʻa me kou Haku no kou ʻuhane, e paio me ko oukou uhane no ko oukou Haku.”
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu e pili i kaʻu kāne ke aloha i kou kaikuahine i kāu mea e aloha ai iā ʻoe iho.
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu hiki iaʻu ke olakino, hoihoi, a hanau keiki a hana mau no.
ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu he maikaʻi maoli ia.
A i ʻole ua hana lākou, akā, ʻaʻole au i ʻike hiki ke pili iaʻu.
Ua lohe mākou i nā moʻolelo "polygyny gone wrong".. Me he mea lā e hele ana lākou me he ahi ahi lā ʻoiai he kakaikahi nā moʻolelo maikaʻi, me he mea lā he mau mea ʻokoʻa lākou a ʻaʻole ka mea maʻamau. Hana mākou i kēia e aʻo aku kekahi i kekahi akā ua pau mākou i ka weliweli.
Ma mua o kou noʻonoʻo ʻana i kahi o ka ʻatikala e kamaʻilio ana i ke kāne a i ʻole ka wahine ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ma ʻaneʻi; no ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana iā ʻoe wale nō.
Pehea au? manaʻo paha ka wahine mua. He maikai ko lakou, ʻoiai ʻo wau ka mea e ʻeha.
ʻAʻole wau e kūkākūkā i nā pōmaikaʻi i ke kaiāulu a i ʻole nā kumu i hana ai ʻo ia a ʻaʻole wau e haʻi iā ʻoe pehea ʻoe e hana ai iā lākou.. hou, no ka mea e pili ana kēia iā ʻoe.
Akā, e hanu nui kākou a noʻonoʻo i ka mea e paʻakikī ai kēia no mākou.
He haʻaheo paha. Malia paha ʻo ka wahine wale nō ka mea e manaʻo ai mākou i ka pōmaikaʻi, pomaikai, a palekana.
Wahi a ke Akua,
"A no ke kanaka, i ka wa e hoao ai kona Haku ia ia, a haawi lokomaikai mai ia ia, wahi ana, 'Ua hoonani mai ko'u Haku ia'u.' Aka, i kona hoao ana ia ia a kaohi i kana ai, wahi ana, Ua hoʻohaʻahaʻa mai koʻu Haku iaʻu. (89:15-16)
Subhan Allah. ʻO kēia ka hana me kā mākou mau kāne. Maikaʻi nā mea a pau a aia kēia "makemake wau e noho i Jannah me ʻoe" aloha, akā, ke haʻi ʻo ia i ka huaʻōlelo "p"., me he mea lā ua nalowale ko mākou ʻoluʻolu a hilahila mākou a hilahila.
Ua haʻi mai koʻu mau kaikuahine iaʻu ʻaʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo i ka polygyny, AKA na laua ka wahine mua. No ke aha mai? Inā mākou e hoʻomaʻamaʻa maoli e like me ke ala a ke Akua i kauoha ai, ʻAʻole mākou e loaʻa kēia manaʻo o ka "wahi waiwai" a ʻaʻohe ʻokoʻa ʻike ʻia ma waena o nā wahine.
E nīnau iā ʻoe iho inā e ʻae ʻoe i kāu kaikamahine i wahine ʻelua a ʻekolu paha. Inā ʻaʻole kāu pane, e ninau ia oe iho, "No ke aha mai?"Ke manaʻo nei mākou e nele ana ʻo ia i kekahi mea? Manaʻo mākou he pono ʻoi aku iā ia? Hana i ka lua, ke kolu, a i ʻole ka wahine ʻehā i ka stigma o ka "home wrecker"?
Hoʻāʻo ʻo Allah iā mākou me ka maikaʻi a me ka hewa. Inā manaʻo ʻoe, “ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole polygyny. Hiki iaʻu ke hana i nā hoʻokolohua ʻē aʻe ma waho o kēlā ", ʻo ia ke kumu e hoʻāʻo ai ʻo Allah iā mākou. Hoʻāʻo ʻo ia i kēlā me kēia o mākou i nā mea e pono ai mākou e lilo i poʻe manaʻoʻiʻo maikaʻi.
ʻO kekahi o kēia mau lā e loaʻa iā mākou kahi koho. Hiki iā mākou ke koho e hoʻomau i ka huhū makua i ka wā e poʻo ai ko mākou mau manaʻo o ko mākou ola me ka hoʻolālā a ke Akua a i ʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokuʻu iā mākou iho mai kēia kaua ma ka waiho wale ʻana. (ʻIke wau… aia hou kēlā ʻōlelo).
"ʻAʻole anei i hiki mai ka manawa no ka poʻe i manaʻoʻiʻo e lilo ko lākou naʻau i ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa i ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana iā Allah a me nā mea i iho mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo??” (57:16)
Loaʻa iā ʻoe ke koho o ka noho ʻana i kahi rut a i ʻole e kiʻi iā ʻoe iho e loaʻa i kahi kiʻekiʻe o ʻoe. ʻAʻohe mea i ʻōlelo e maʻalahi. Hiki iā ʻoe ke mahana, i lalo i ka honua kaikuahine ʻaʻole i ʻeha i ka huaʻōlelo "p".. ʻAʻole wau e ʻōlelo e pono ʻoe. Inā maikaʻi ʻoe a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi i kāu rut, alaila. Ke ʻōlelo wale nei au iā ʻoe kēlā koho.
A ke hana ʻoe i kēlā koho, ʻaʻole paha e hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo, "ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu."
Puna: Andrea Umm Abdullah |, http://www.saudilife.net/marriage/21481-no-one-told-me-reflections-on-the-p-word
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