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Pono ke kūkulu ʻana i nā alakaʻi nui i ka hana ikaika mai nā mākua, nā mea hoʻonaʻauao, kumu, nā kākāʻōlelo, nā imam, kaikuaʻana, a me nā alakaʻi kaiaulu. Ua puka mai kekahi o nā alakaʻi nui i ka wā i mamao a ākea ʻo Jahiylah. I ka 'oiaʻiʻo, Ua laha ka Islam i ka manawa o ka hana ino nui a me na pilikia pilikanaka. I ka hala ʻana o nā kenekulia, Ua hoʻomau ʻia ka puka ʻana o nā alakaʻi koʻikoʻi ʻoiai aia ka palaho ma ka ʻāina. No laila, ma kahi o ka ʻae ʻana i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻohaʻahaʻa e hoʻopuni nei iā mākou e hele i ka manaʻo kaumaha, pono mākou e nānā i nā ala e hiki ai iā mākou ke hānai i nā alakaʻi hanohano. ʻO ka pilikia nui a ka Ummah e kū nei i ke kūkulu ʻana i nā alakaʻi pono ʻo ka nele o ka ʻike lokahi a me ka misionari.
Ma keia 'atikala , e hoʻomaka mākou ma ka hele ʻana i ʻelima mau hiʻohiʻona nui e pono ai kēlā me kēia alakaʻi nui, hāʻawi i nā hiʻohiʻona o nā alakaʻi nui ma ke ala, a e hoʻopau me kekahi mau hana koʻikoʻi e hana ai i mea e hoʻoulu ai i nā alakaʻi maikaʻi. E mālama i kahi puke puke a me ka peni no nā ʻanuʻu hana i helu ʻia ma lalo nei!
1. E hoomaemae i kou manao
Ua haʻi ʻo ʻUmar al-Khattab i ke kāula (Salallahu alayhi was salam) i ʻōlelo ai:
ʻO nā hana [he hopena] wale no ka manao [o ka mea keaka], a he kanaka [uku ʻia] e like me kana i manao ai. No laila, ka mea i hele aku no ke Akua a me kana elele, a laila, no Allah a me kāna ʻelele kona hele ʻana. ʻO ka mea i hele aku no ka waiwai o ke ao nei, a he wahine paha [ana i makemake ai] e mare, alaila, no ka pono o kona hele ana [hoʻoneʻe iā ia] e neʻe aku. (Al- Bukhari a me Muslim)
ʻO kā mākou manaʻo hoʻokahi e hōʻoluʻolu iā Allah swt ma nā mea a pau a mākou e hana ai, i ole ia, he mea ole ka kakou hana. Nui ka poʻe e hāʻawi i ka Zakat a hana i nā hana ʻē aʻe, akā, ʻo ko lākou manaʻo e hōʻike aku, a i ʻole e mahalo i nā kānaka iā lākou, etc.
Hana Hana: Ma mua o kēlā me kēia hana, e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo a e hōʻoia e ʻoluʻolu lākou i ke Akua (subhannah wa Taʻalah). Hoʻomaka kēlā me kēia alakaʻi nui ma ʻaneʻi. ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa e hele ai i kēia, ʻo ia ke hana i kahi papa inoa o nā mea a pau āu e hana ai no ke Akua (subhannah wa Taʻalah), a laila e hoʻolālā e hoʻokō i kēlā me kēia hana e like me ia. O kahi laʻana, E heluhelu au 2 Hadiths i ka pō me kaʻu mau keiki a kūkākūkā pū me lākou inshAllah.
2. E hoʻomohala i ka hoʻomanawanui
ʻO ke Akua (subhannah wa Taʻalah) wahi a ka Quran:
"E haawi aku no makou i ka poe hoomanawanui i ko lakou uku e like me ka maikai o ka lakou hana ana." (Ka Quran Mokuna 16: Paukū 96)
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ke ahonui ke kī i ka lilo ʻana i alakaʻi maikaʻi. Me ke ahonui ole, paʻakikī loa ka mālama ʻana iā ia iho ma ke ala pololei, ʻoi aku ka emi o ke alakaʻi, hoʻoikaika a hoʻoikaika i nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻOiaʻiʻo, pepehi ka huhū i nā ʻano maʻamau ʻē aʻe a pau. Akua (swt) haʻi mai iā mākou e loaʻa i ka poʻe hoʻomanawanui ka uku maikaʻi loa ma kēia hope aku, inshaʻAllah.
Hana Hana: E hana i ka papa inoa o nā mea a pau e huhū ai ʻoe a laila e ʻimi i nā ala e lanakila ai i kēlā mau kūlana. O kahi laʻana, ina e huhu oe i ka lohi, a laila e noʻonoʻo pehea ʻoe e hiki ai i ka manawa, ʻo ia hoʻi., e ala ʻoe 20 mau minuke ma mua, a laila e hana i kēlā hana i ʻole ʻoe e huhū hou no kēlā ʻano.
Kaula Ayoub: He Kumu Hoohihi
I ka loaʻa ʻana o ka nui o ke ahonui a me ka hoʻomanawanui i nā manawa hoʻāʻo loa, Kaula Ayoub (alayhi salam) ʻo ia ke kumu hoʻohālike ʻālohilohi. ʻO kāna (alayhi salam) ʻO ka moʻolelo kekahi e noʻonoʻo ai kākou a pau. He (alayhi salam) hoomanawanui loa, ʻo ia naʻe (alayhi salam) ua ahonui a mahalo i na mea a pau, mashAllah. ʻO Ayoub (alayhi salam) ua haawiia mai na lokomaikai he nui e ke Akua (subhannah wa Taʻalah). He (alayhi salam) he waiwai, nui na keiki, olakino, a oi aku. ʻO kēia, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole i hoʻokiʻekiʻe iki ke kāula ʻo Ayoub. A laila hoʻomaka ʻo Allaah swt e lawe i kēlā me kēia mea mai ona aku, a me ke kaula Ayoba (alayhi salam) ʻaʻole i kanikau. E hoʻomaikaʻi ʻo ia iā Allah (swt) i kēlā me kēia manawa, a pule aku ia ia. Ua ʻike ʻo ia ʻo Allaah (swt) nana i haawi i ka waiwai, olakino a me nā keiki, a ina ke Akua (swt) ua koho e lawe aku ia lakou, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e huhū. ʻO kēia ke ʻano o ke ʻano i kōkua iā ia e hoʻokō i kāna mau manawa paʻakikī, a hoike aku ia Allah (swt) ua hoomanawanui maoli oia. Pono kēia hiʻohiʻona e aʻo iā mākou i ka wā e hiki mai ai ka pilikia a i ʻole ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, pono mākou e paʻa i ke kaula o ke Akua. (swt), a e hoomanawanui, inshAllaah a pono mākou e hana e like me ke kāula ʻo Ayoub (alayhi salam) hana a pule aku ia Allah swt e like me kana i hana'i:
"He oiaio, ua pilikia au i ka pilikia, a ua oi loa aku kou lokomaikai i ka poe a pau i aloha mai." (Ka Koran: Mokuna 21: Paukū 83)
3. E lilo i Makana
Pono ke alakaʻi i ka ʻike a hoʻoulu i nā kānaka e hana i ko lākou ʻike. Ma keia ano, Pono e hoʻoikaika ʻia kāna hui e lilo i ʻāpana o kahi mea hoʻoikaika. Hui pu, hiki iā lākou ke noʻonoʻo nui a kōkua i ke kaiāulu e ʻike i ke kiʻi nui a lākou e hana nei.
Hana Hana: He aha kāu makemake e hoʻokō? He aha ka pahuhopu nui āu e makemake ai e hana? O kahi laʻana, makemake ʻoe e kākau i puke; ʻo ke kiʻi nui paha e unuhi ʻia ka puke 30 nā ʻōlelo, InshAllah, a i ʻole, ʻo ka puke ka mua o ka moʻo 10 buke inshAllah. ʻO kēia ke ʻano o kou noʻonoʻo nui a me ka moeʻuhane kiʻekiʻe. E hōʻoia ʻoe e lawe i nā memo!
Kaula Mahometa (Salallahu alayhi was salam): He Makana Oiaio
ʻO ka hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi loa o kekahi mea ʻike maka ʻo ia ʻo ke kāula ʻo Muhammad (Salallahu alayhi was salam). ʻO kekahi laʻana o kēia, ʻo ia ke kuʻikahi o Hudaibia i hōʻike i ke kāula (Salallahu alayhi was salam)ʻO ka naʻauao i ka ʻae ʻana i nā ʻōlelo ʻaʻole e komo nā alakaʻi he nui i kahi kuʻikahi no ka pono o kahi Islam maikaʻi aʻe i ka lā ʻapōpō. Ua makemake ka poe Quraysh i ke kuikahi, a ua huhu ka poe Mahometa i keia mea, ʻo ʻUmar paha (Iwaho). Ua huhū ʻo ia a ʻaʻole makemake i ke kāula ʻo Mahometa (Salallahu alayhi was salam) e ae i keia. Eia naʻe, ke Kaula (Salallahu alayhi was salam) he kanaka ike maka, ua ʻike ʻo ia ʻo ka mōhai no kēia lā a ʻo ka hoʻomanawanui ʻana i kēia manawa e alakaʻi i ka lā ʻapōpō maikaʻi aʻe, InshAllah. Ua maopopo, ua kuai maluhia ma waena o ka Quraysh a me Mahometa no 10 makahiki a ua alakaʻi i ka naʻi ʻana iā Meka, a he nui aku, Alhamdulillah.
4. E hai i ka oiaio
Na ke Akua e pale aku i ka poe manaoio oiaio (Kūʻē i ka ʻino). ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole makemake ʻo Allah i ka mea hoʻopunipuni, A i ʻole ka mea hoʻomaloka. (Ka Koran, Mokuna 55: Paukū 9)
Inā ʻike ʻia ke kanaka he ʻoiaʻiʻo, e hilinaʻi nā kānaka iā ia inshAllah. ʻAʻohe kanaka makemake i alakaʻi wahaheʻe a hoʻopunipuni i nā kānaka. ʻO kēia kekahi o nā kumu nui i hahai ai ka poʻe he nui i ke Kāula (Salallahu alayhi was salam) i kana olelo ana he elele ia na ke Akua. Ua kaulana ʻo ia i kona ola a pau ʻo ia ka Trustworthy, a pela i kana olelo ana, nui ka poe i ae wale ia mashAllaah.
Hana Hana: Kākau i lalo i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e hoʻopunipuni ai, a i ʻole ke hoʻopunipuni ʻoe. He mea nui kēia no ka mea e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe i kahi kuhi hewa; e pili ana, e kākau i kāu mea e hana ai. O kahi laʻana, nīnau kekahi iā ʻoe i kāu hana a ʻōlelo ʻoe he kahu hānai wau. Ma ke ʻano loea, he kokua kauka oe aole kahu. Eia naʻe, no ka mea, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kani ʻana o ke kahu hānai a ʻoi aku ka maʻamau o kēlā huaʻōlelo, ua koho ʻoe i kēlā ʻōlelo. Pono ʻoe e koi iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo i ke kōkua olakino, a inā ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i ke ʻano o ia mea, e wehewehe wale ʻoe iā lākou. E ʻōlelo wau e kākau i kāu papa inoa a inshAllaah e ʻimi i nā ala ʻē aʻe e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke haʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. E makau aku i ke Akua (subhannah wa Taʻalah), aole kanaka.
5. Hanai i ka lokomaikai
Ua haʻi ʻia ʻo Jarir bin ʻAbdullah: Ka Elele o ke Akua (Salallahu alayhi was salam) i ʻōlelo ai,
"ʻAʻole e aloha ʻo Allah i ka mea aloha ʻole iā haʻi." (Al-Bukhari a me Muslim)
Haʻi ʻia ʻo ʻAishah: Ka Elele o ke Akua (Salallahu alayhi was salam) i ʻōlelo ai,
"He lokomaikaʻi ʻo Allah a makemake ʻo ia i ka lokomaikaʻi, a hāʻawi mai i ka lokomaikaʻi āna i hāʻawi ʻole mai ai ma luna o ka ʻoi loa, ʻaʻole hāʻawi i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe (lokomaikaʻi).” (Mahometa)
Kū'ē i nā hana dictatorial e hoʻohana ai nā alakaʻi he nui, Paipai ʻo Islam i nā alakaʻi e aʻo, hoʻonaʻauao a alakaʻi, a laila pule mākou no ka holomua inā maikaʻi ia iā mākou inshAllaah. Aia nā hopena i ke Akua mau (subhannah wa Taʻalah). No laila inā he lokomaikaʻi mākou, akahai a noʻonoʻo no laila inshAllah ka poʻe a mākou e alakaʻi nei e makemake e puni iā mākou, a makemake e hahai i kā mākou ʻike inshAllah. Eia naʻe, inā pilikia kekahi alakaʻi, pono ʻo ia e hoʻi i hope a hoʻokomo iā lākou iho i ke kūlana o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe; ʻo kēia ka mea e hiki ai iā mākou ke aloha a lokomaikaʻi. Aia paha kekahi manawa e hoʻokuʻu aku ai i kekahi poʻe, akā, pono e hana ʻia me ka mahalo a me ka lokomaikaʻi.
Hana Hana: E hoʻopaʻa i kēlā me kēia manawa ʻaʻole ʻoe lokomaikaʻi. He aha kou huhū? O kahi laʻana, noi ʻoe i kekahi e hana ʻekolu manawa a ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻokō i kāu noi; no laila e huhū ʻoe, a e olelo me ka leo nui, leo ʻinoʻino. Ma hope o kāu hana ʻana i kāu papa inoa, e kākau i ka hopena no kēlā me kēia kūlana. O kahi laʻana, inā ʻaʻole hoʻokō kekahi i kaʻu noi i ke kolu o ka manawa, E noi au i kekahi e hana, a na'u iho e hana, InshAllah. Eia naʻe, ʻAʻole au e ʻae i kēlā kanaka e hoʻomāinoino iaʻu. ʻIke ʻoe i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hoʻonā a kākau i lalo e maʻalahi iā mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i ka manawa aʻe a inshAllaah e hoʻomaka mākou e hoʻololi.. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kāu mau hoʻonā āpau i ka lā 1, akā e nānā mau i kāu leka uila, a hoʻopaʻanaʻau i kāu mau hoʻonā, a laila hoʻohana wale ia mau manawa a lilo i mea maʻamau!
Nā ʻanuʻu koʻikoʻi e hoʻoulu ai i ke alakaʻi
ʻO ke alakaʻi ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā kānaka a me ka hoʻopili ʻana iā lākou e kōkua iā ʻoe e hana i kahi hana. Lawe ia i nā ʻano maikaʻi a pau, like me ka pono, hoʻolaʻa i ka manaʻo, ka manaʻo ʻole, ʻike, akamai, hiki ole, a me ka manao paa aole e ae aku i ka hemahema.
ʻO Adimarala Arleigh A. Burke
ʻanuʻu 1:
ʻO ka mua, pono mākou e hoʻonaʻauao iā mākou iho. E like me nā mākua, kumu, nā mea hoʻonaʻauao, nā imams a me nā alakaʻi kaiaulu, pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo i nā ʻano alakaʻi a ʻike i nā mea e alakaʻi nui ai. ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa e hana ai i kēia, ʻo ia ke aʻo ʻana i nā alakaʻi nui ma ka nānā ʻana i ko lākou ola. ʻO ka hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi loa o ke kāula ʻo Muhammad (PBUH), a laila nā ʻelele o ke Akua (subhannah wa Taʻalah), a laila nā alakaʻi kupaianaha i ka wā.
Hana Hana: Manaʻo nui wau e heluhelu i ʻelua moʻolelo biography hou i ka mahina, InshAllah. Hana i papa inoa o 24 bio āu e makemake ai e heluhelu no ka makahiki inshAllaah. A laila ma hope o ka pau ʻana o kēlā me kēia mea e hoʻi i kāu papa inoa a loaʻa i ka mea aʻe inshAllaah.
ʻanuʻu 2:
Ma hope o ka heluhelu ʻana i nā moʻolelo o nā kānaka nui loa i ola, a e aʻo ana i nā ʻano alakaʻi mai iā lākou, a laila e hoʻomaka kākou e hoʻokō i ia mea i loko o ko kākou ola. ʻIke ʻoe inā makemake mākou e hoʻāla i nā alakaʻi, a laila inshAllaah pono mākou e hana e like me nā alakaʻi. Pono kākou e lilo i kumu hoʻohālike ola, InshAllah. ʻAʻole paha mākou e loaʻa i kēlā me kēia ʻano akā hiki iā mākou ke hoʻāʻo i kā mākou maikaʻi loa inshAllaah. Ma ia ala, hiki iā mākou ke lilo i kumu hoʻohālike kūpono no ko mākou ʻōpio. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, pono lākou e lohe e pili ana i ka poʻe maikaʻi loa i loaʻa kēia mau ʻano a laila ʻike i ka inshAllaah hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohana i nā ʻano like i kēia lā..
Hana Hana: E hoʻohana i ka ʻike hou o nā alakaʻi nui ma o ka hoʻohana ʻana ia mea i kou ola. E hoʻohana i ʻekolu mau mea hou āu i aʻo ai mai kēlā me kēia alakaʻi nui o ka wā i hala, InshAllah.
ʻanuʻu 3:
Pono mākou e loaʻa nā papahana e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻokō i ke alakaʻi i ko mākou ʻōpio. Pono ka papahana e hoʻonaʻauao i nā mākua, kumu, a me nā alakaʻi kaiaulu e pili ana i nā mākau alakaʻi. ʻO kahi papa seminar-type ma nā hopena pule i kēlā me kēia mau mahina inshAllaah hiki ke lilo i mea hana maikaʻi no kēia. A laila, pono e loaʻa i kēia mau "haumāna" he papa pule pule no nā ʻōpio kahi e hāʻawi ai i ka ʻike a lākou i aʻo ai. ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kēia mau papa e like me nā pūʻulu makahiki hiki ke hoʻonui i ke aʻo ʻana; hiki i nā hui: 5-8 makahiki, 9-12 makahiki, 13-15 makahiki, 16 -19 makahiki.
Hana Hana: E hui i loko o ke kaiāulu, a hoʻohui i kahi hui o 5 nā lālā e hoʻohiki nei e hele i ka papa a laila e aʻo i ka ʻōpio.
KaʻAnuʻu Bonus: Ka Manawa
He mea nui kēia ʻanuʻu i ko mākou kūleʻa ma ke ʻano he alakaʻi inshAllah. ʻIke nā alakaʻi nui mashAllaah pehea e hoʻokele maikaʻi ai i ko lākou manawa.
Hana Hana: E hana i ka papa manawa nou iho a kakau iho i na mea nui a pau e pono e hana i kela la i keia la inshAllaah. A laila e hoʻoikaika i ka hoʻokō ʻana; pale i nā pilikia kelepona, Hoʻopili pūnaewele, etc. E hoʻi i nā mea nui ʻole ke loaʻa ka manawa, a i ʻole ka hopena pule inshAllah.
ʻO ka hānai ʻana i kā mākou ʻōpio e lilo i mau alakaʻi maikaʻi loa ʻaʻole ia he hana paʻakikī loa inā hana kēlā me kēia o kā mākou ʻāpana piha.. Pono mākou e hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa e hoʻonaʻauao iā mākou iho, a laila hoʻohana i nā mea i loko o ko mākou ola, a ao aku inshAllah. ʻO nā pilikia nui a mākou e kū nei ʻo ka lawe mua ʻana i ka manawa e aʻo ai iā mākou iho, a laila ka pilikia o ke aʻo ʻana. Ke hiki iā mākou ke hana iā mākou iho a mālama i ko mākou manawa, a laila, ʻo ka manawa kēia e hoʻihoʻi i ko kākou ʻōpio, InshAllah. ʻO ka hope, e hana i kēlā me kēia hana i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna - kōkua maoli lākou e hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i mea hoʻonohonoho a alakaʻi, InshAllah!
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