Pili 'Romantic', Nā Manaʻo male a me nā moeʻuhane o ka hopena

“ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu kahi e hoʻomaka ai… ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu pehea ia i hana ai. Ua nānā maikaʻi nā mea a pau, me he mea la e hana pono ana. ʻAʻole au i manaʻo e hōʻeha i kekahi."

Inā hoʻokahi mea aʻu e makemake ai e hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo a hoʻomaopopo pono i nā ʻōpio hoʻokahi o kēia mau lā, ʻo ia ka ʻokoʻa kupaianaha a me ka chasmic ma waena o ka pilina ma mua o ka male ʻana me kahi lālā o ke kāne ʻē., he mare a he mare.

Inā aia wale nō kekahi ala e hiki ai iaʻu ke ʻike iā lākou i ke ʻano o kēia mau mea ʻekolu, ʻoiai pili loa me nā mea ʻē aʻe, kūʻokoʻa a kūʻokoʻa i kona ola ponoʻī.

Eia naʻe, ʻIke wau aia hoʻokahi wale nō, ala hoʻokahi e ʻike ai i ka ʻokoʻa huna ma waena o kēia mau ʻekolu, a ʻo ia ka paʻakikī, paakiki, ʻO ke ala haʻawina i loaʻa i ke ola maoli.

E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke aupuni paʻakikī o ka hana ʻana non-mahrums a he aha nā palena e nānā ai me ka launa pū ʻana me lākou he kumuhana paʻakikī loa e kamaʻilio i kēia lā, i mua o nā ʻōpio Muslim.

ʻIke ʻoe, ʻO ka wā ʻōpio ʻo ia ka manawa e moeʻuhane ai ke kanaka a noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻana o ke aloha aloha me kekahi o ke kāne., ka mea, e like me ko lakou makemake, pono e mohala i loko o ka hoʻomaopopo like ʻana a me ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i ka noʻonoʻo i hoʻopili ʻia me ka "pepa" kūpono o ka hoʻohihi..

A laila makemake lākou i kēia "cloud-nine, hanu-takingly 'kiʻekiʻe' ike" e smoothly alakai i ka hope sila ma ka "pili": he halawai o na makua elua.

ʻae nō hoʻi, Pono nā mākua ʻelua e paʻi ma ka hālāwai mua a hāʻawi i ko lākou ʻae ʻana i ka uniona me ka ʻole o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa., hopohopo, manao lua, ina paha.

A laila, voila, ka hoʻolālā ʻana o ka ʻaha mare maikaʻi ma waena o ka hauʻoli, ʻakaʻaka a hoʻomāhuahua, “E haʻalele mākou-ʻaʻole-makemake-o-kākou-ke aliʻi(ss)-ʻaʻole i hoʻokō ʻia i ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ia i ka moeʻuhane-mare ʻo ia i manaʻolana ai" ʻo ia ka mea i hoʻokumu ʻia i ke kaulahao aʻe o nā hanana i loko o kēia moʻolelo ʻoluʻolu a maikaʻi hoʻi o ka make-believe e hana nei i loko o ka noʻonoʻo. o ka hapanui o na opio, manaʻolana ka poʻe hoʻokahi e makemake ana i ka wā e hiki mai ana i ka male hauʻoli no lākou iho.

ʻO ka hoʻomana hoʻomana (no ka nele i ka wehewehe ʻokoʻa) hiki i nā ʻōpio ke paheʻe i loko o kekahi ʻo istikharah ma kahi o ke ala, akā, huikau i ka wehewehe ʻana i ka moeʻuhane a me ka heluhelu hewa ʻana i nā manaʻo ma kēia mua aku ʻoiai lākou e hakakā nei e ʻike a wehewehe i nā hōʻailona akua o "go-ahead" no kā lāua male ʻana mai luna mai..

He kūlohelohe maoli kēia kaʻina moeʻuhane noʻonoʻo, a hoʻomaka koke. No na kaikamahine, hiki ke hoʻomaka i ka wā ʻōpio a i ʻole ma mua, a me nā keikikāne, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka neʻe ʻana i ka wā i piha ai lākou i ka iwakālua.

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he kakaikahi loa ka poe hookahi i keia la he pragmatic a maoli, me ka paa paa o ko lakou mau wawae i ka lepo. Kakaikahi mau, Laki ka nanea i kahi kokoke loa, makemake nui, ka pilina aloha a me ka mōhai me Allah, makemake e hana i kona mau palena me ka ninau ole i ko lakou naauao, kūpono a kūpono paha, me ka hoʻopiʻi ʻole ʻana ke ʻano paʻakikī loa lākou e mālama i kēia mau lā.

He aha ka hopena i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai ko lākou manaʻo e pāʻani i kēia mau pāʻani me lākou i kēlā mau makahiki ʻōpio o ko lākou ola ʻana a ko lākou naʻau e ʻiʻini nei i ka hauʻoli o ka male., no ke Akua, hooikaika hoomanawanui (sabr /Hoomanawanui) - ʻoi loa i mua o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka lehulehu, antagonism mai nā poʻe kahiko a hopohopo, a me nā ʻōlelo hoʻopiʻi no ka ʻano ʻē a me ka "extremist" mai kā lākou mau hoa aloha a me nā hoa.

Hoʻomaʻamaʻa lākou i ka صبر ma ka hoʻopau ʻana i ko lākou makemake moe kolohe ma o ke ʻano i kauoha ʻia e Allah ma Islam: hoʻohaʻahaʻa / kiaʻi i ka nānā, ma ke akea a ma kahi kaawale, ka pale ʻana i ka hui ʻana i ka wā o ka hui ʻana a me ka launa pū ʻana me nā lālā o ke kāne ʻē ma kahi ʻē: ina ma ke kula, ke keena, ma ka home e.g. i ka wā e hele mai ai nā hoahānau a i ʻole nā ​​ʻohana no kahi pāʻina a ʻae ʻia e nā mākua a me ka leʻaleʻa 'pōʻino' ʻole, a i ʻole i loko o nā ala pāpaʻi pūnaewele e lawe mai ana i nā kiʻi, blogs, nā manaʻo, leka uila, wikiō a me nā ʻano memo koke ʻē aʻe ma ko lākou mau lima ma o kā lākou iphone, Blackberry, Android a i ʻole HTC.

ʻAʻohe kānalua no ia mea: ka hoao ana o ka hoowalewale i na opio i keia la, ma ke ʻano o nā pilina ma mua o ka male ʻana, he mea nui loa, mea paakiki loa. Shaitan - ko mākou ʻenemi hoʻohiki - ka mea i hoʻohiki i ko mākou mea nāna i hana e hele mai ʻo ia iā mākou mai nā ʻaoʻao ʻehā e alakaʻi hewa iā mākou - makemake nui i ka hoʻouka ʻana i ka ʻōpio hoʻokahi ma o ka hoʻolālā pālua.: me ka hoʻohana ʻana i kā lākou mau hormones huhū a me nā makemake kino ʻole, hui pū me ko lākou naivete a me ka ʻike ʻole i ke ola, e hoʻopunipuni iā ​​​​lākou e pili ana i ka pilina me ke kāne ʻē ma o ka plethora o ke kō, maikai-like, "mau pahele" i manaʻo ʻia:

1. “E oki i ka hana kolohe. He hoaaloha wale nō mākou. He kaikamahine a he kane hiki loaʻa kahi hoaaloha platonic! No laila pehea inā e noho mākou ma kahi a kamaʻilio no nā hola? ʻO ia koʻu hoa.
2. "He aha ka hewa o ke kōkua ʻana iā ia i ka wā e pono ai ʻo ia i ka ʻōlelo aʻo? Ke hana nei au i kahi hana maikaʻi ma ke aʻo ʻana iā ia i kēia pilikia. "
3. "Hiki iā ʻoe ke poina i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā noi male maikaʻi inā uhi ʻoe i kou maka. ʻO ka helehelena o kahi kaikamahine ka mea hoʻonani mua no nā noi mai ka maikaʻi, ʻohana i hoʻokumu maikaʻi ʻia me ka maikaʻi, nā keiki kāne waiwai maikaʻi. ʻO ka nani ke kumu nui e hahai ai nā kāne. "
4. "Makemake au e ʻike pono i ke kanaka e ʻike i kona ʻano maoli ma mua o ka ʻōlelo ʻana" ʻae" i ka noi. Pehea wau e mare ai i kahi malihini? He aha inā ʻaʻole like mākou? E kamaʻilio wau iā ia ma ke kelepona no kekahi mau pule a e ʻike mua iā ia.
5. "He aha kāu ʻōlelo ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lulu lima i kou hoahānau ke aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe? Ua pupule anei ʻoe? Ke lilo nei ʻoe i kaikamahine ʻelemakule! E ho'ōki i ka hoʻopono pono iā ia iho _______ [*bleep*]!”
6. “Inā hiki iaʻu ke kamaʻilio me koʻu mau hoa wahine a me koʻu mau hoahānau me ke kūʻē ʻole, Hiki iaʻu ke kamaʻilio me kaʻu kāne hoʻopalau, pū kekahi. Ma waho aʻe, kā mākou male aia ma ka pono 2 Nā ʻanuʻu i ka ʻimi ʻana i wahine Muslim. Me he mea lā ua mare mua mākou. ʻO ka noʻonoʻo wale ʻana ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio me ia ke kaumaha iaʻu.

ʻIke ʻoe, e like me ka Quran, ke mare ke kane a me ka wahine, lilo lākou i "paʻa", ʻoi aku ka wahine. Ua hōʻoia ʻia kēia ma ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua kapa ʻia ka Quran i nā wahine mare ʻo "المُحْصَنَاتُ" - nā wahine paʻa a pale ʻia., a ʻo nā kāne e mare iā lākou "مُحْصِنِينَ" - ka poʻe e ʻimi nei i ka male no ka hoʻoikaika a pale ʻana i ka wahine no ka wā lōʻihi i.e.. ʻaʻole i manaʻo e hoʻohana i kona kino no kekahi manawa no (ʻae ʻia) conjugation wale nō e hoʻolei iā ia ma o ka hemo ʻana. Ma keia mau olelo elua, ua like ka huaolelo kumu, "Papu", ʻo ia hoʻi ka "pākaua".

ʻO ke kumu o ka male ʻana he "pale" a i ʻole "pākaua" no ka Muslim, no ka mea, hiki iā ia ke hoʻokō i ko lākou mau kuko ma ke ʻano ʻae a nani. No laila, i ka wa e maona ai ko lakou kino, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana i loko o ke kaiāulu me ka ʻole o ka "hoʻopilikia ʻia" e nā lālā o ke kāne ʻē, ke nānā mau nei lākou i nā palena o ke Akua ma kā lākou mau pilina pilikanaka.

Ke hoʻi nei e pili ana 10 i 12 makahiki i ka manawa, Hiki iaʻu ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana o ka haʻalele ʻana i nā pilina pāpā ʻia no ka mea hoʻokahi, he mea paakiki loa. ʻO ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o nā hoa a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana mai ka poʻe kahiko i kēia mau lā ke koi nei i ka poʻe ʻōpio e "hilinaʻi" ʻole. (heluhelu "mauna ole") a me ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka charismatic (heluhelu "flirtious") i ko lakou launa ana me na mea a pau.

No laila, ʻoiai ma waena o nā ʻohana i kapa ʻia ʻo conservative a maikaʻi i kēia lā, koi ʻia ka ʻōpio ʻaʻole e kāohi a nānā i nā palena, ma ka hana a ma ka pāʻani paha (pāʻina); e ʻaʻahu e like me ko lākou makemake a e hōʻike i ka mana; e loaʻa i nā kino kūpono a me nā ʻaʻahu hōʻailona e hōʻike aku i kēia mau kino kino; ʻaʻole e waiho i kekahi pōhaku i hoʻohuli ʻole ʻia i ke komo ʻana i ke kulanui kūpono a i ʻole i ka hana kūpono ma ka ʻoihana kūpono, hiki mai.

ʻO nā ʻōlelo mai ka ʻōpio "fundo's" a laila, e like me "ʻAʻole au makemake e hele i kahi kulanui coeducational no ka ʻōlelo hōʻino pili", a i ʻole "ʻAʻole wau makemake e hana i kahi keʻena e hoʻohana ana i nā wahine ʻaʻahu liʻiliʻi", a i ʻole "makemake wau e mare i ka 20" e hoʻomāhuahua ai nā maka, ʻāwae e hāʻule a me ka noʻonoʻo o ka poʻe kahiko e hōʻino loa ʻia a weliweli; ʻO kēia mau noi mai kā lākou poʻe keiki e hōʻole koke ʻia ma ke ʻano he hoʻohaʻahaʻa hilinaʻi, ʻoihana-hune, 'extremist', pseudo-hoʻomana idiocy pili ana i lunacy.

Pre- a ʻo nā pilina ma waho aʻe o ka male e hoʻokomo i nā mea hoʻopunipuni e hoʻoulu ai i ka ʻeha wale nō

ʻO ka puʻuwai kahi noho o nā makemake. Ina e lilo kekahi i kauwa na kona makemake, ʻO ka hopena, ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka hōʻeha mau, ka pilikia a me ka ehaeha.

Ua ulu aʻe nā hanauna i nā haneli mau makahiki i ka ʻai paʻa o mele aloha hoopunipuni, nā moʻolelo aloha a me nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni cheesy me ka paulele hauʻoli. Hui ke kāne a me ke kaikamahine, manaʻo i ka vibes o ka hoihoi, hoʻolimalima manawa, malia paha e hana i ke kuko, moe kolohe spur-of-the-moment (اِعُوذُ بِاللهِ), alaila, e hoolei akahele i ka makani, e hoolohe i ko lakou naau, e hahai i ko lakou makemake, hoʻopaʻapaʻa i ko lākou mau hoa paio, uhaki i na kapu, e hahai i ko lakou mau moeuhane, blah blah….(hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokomo i kekahi ʻano maʻamau, ʻO nā cliches i uhi ʻia ma ʻaneʻi), e holo/holo i ka lewa e paʻa ana nā lima i ka nānā ʻana o ka honua me ka haʻalulu a me ka ʻai ʻana o nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni.

He aha kēia mau moʻolelo, i kuke ʻia e nā mea kākau a lawe ʻia mai iā mākou e ka media, hana, ʻo ia ka pāʻani ʻana me kā mākou mau ʻōpio makemake a hoʻolilo iā mākou i moeʻuhane e pili ana i kahi aloha Utopian i ʻoi aku ka nui.

No laila, ke paʻi mai ke ola maoli iā mākou i ka maka, ʻeha mākou, kōkua ʻole a haki i loko.

E lawe i ka hihia o "ʻO Bhisima"a"ʻO Bilal” (ʻaʻole ko lākou inoa maoli). No nā lāhui like ʻole a me ka hoʻomana (Manaʻo wau e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i kaʻu ʻōlelo ma aneʻi). ʻOiai ʻike (nā hopena i manaʻo ʻia o) kēlā, Ua hoʻomaka lākou e hoʻonui i ka manawa ma ka pā kula. ʻO ka hopena, Ua haʻi ʻo Bilal iā ia e pili ana i kona manaʻo iā ia a ma hope koke iho, Ua haʻi ʻo ia iā ia ua like kona manaʻo. Ua hoʻomau lākou i ka hui me ka hōʻike ʻole i ko lākou mau mākua i ko lākou pilina, i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i kēia manawa a i ʻole i hoʻokō ʻia e kā lākou mau ʻōlelo (kapaia) “aloha”.

ʻO ka hopena, Ua hoʻomaka ʻo Bisma e hele pū me ia i nā lā i nā hale ʻaina a me nā hale ʻaina mai ka pā kula, me ka ike ole o kona mau makua. Eia wau makemake e kuhikuhi i kēlā ʻoiai ʻaʻole i pule hewa (e hoʻomaopopo i ka "stop-judging-them-you-self-righteous-fundo!" Mākaʻi: e ʻoluʻolu, mai hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻōlelo mai iaʻu i kēia manawa, E wehewehe au ma lalo nei i ke kumu aʻu i ʻōlelo ai i kēia manaʻo), He mau manaʻo maikaʻi ko lāua - e male.

Ua ʻōlelo mua ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hele i nā lā no ka mea he "hewa" i kona mau maka a me kahi hana i ʻae ʻole ʻia e kāna ʻohana "conservative".; akā naʻe, ua pahee loa. ʻO kāna mau maka kuko, hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia e pili ana i kona helehelena, a hoohehee puuwai, ʻo ka hoʻomau mau ʻana i ke aloha iā ia, ua hoʻokuʻu ʻia ʻo ia.

Nā ʻāpana nui o ka cheese - ʻike wau. Akā, ʻo ia kēia cheese e hele ai ka hapa nui o nā kaikamahine.

ʻO ka ʻili ʻana i ka pepa pepa ma hope o ka pepa pepa o Mills-&-ʻO Boon-type nonsense e hoʻohauʻoli ana i ko lākou mau naʻau a holo ka noʻonoʻo, hiki i kekahi ke noʻonoʻo i ka hopena maoli nā hōʻike o nā manaʻo aloha a me ka leo husky, ʻo ke kamaʻilio mushy ma luna o lākou!

Eia naʻe, ʻAʻole kāhāhā ka mea i hiki mai: ua hoʻomaka lākou i ke kino, e noho kaawale ana nae i ka moe kolohe.

Ua hoʻomaka ʻo Bisma e haʻalele i kāna mau hoaaloha no ka mea, ʻo Mr; E huhū loa ʻo ia inā ʻo ia e hele i kahi me kāna mau hoa papa, nā kāne a me nā kaikamāhine, me ke kono ole aku iaia ilaila. He, ʻae nō hoʻi, hiki iā ia ke hele i nā wahi āna i makemake ai me kāna mau hoa kaikamahine a kāne. Nā kūlana pālua i ke ala āpau, akā, ʻo nā hōkū ʻālohilohi i nā maka o Bisma me he mea lā ua makapō iā ia i ka ʻike ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.

ʻOiai ʻo nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i lilo i mau noi pololei mai Bisma iā ia, ua hōʻole ʻo ia e haʻi i kona mau mākua no ko lāua pilina, ʻoiai he hana kāna i kēia manawa, ua pau 21 i ka makahiki, a loaʻa ka loaʻa kālā paʻa.

E like me ka nui o ia mau pilina, Ua puhi ʻia ka uhi i ka wā i loaʻa ai iā Bisma kahi noi ʻaʻole makemake kona mau mākua e hōʻole. ʻO ia wale nō alaila Ua holo wikiwiki ʻo Mr. ʻO Bilal kona inoa e hana i kahi hoʻomalu pōʻino ma ke noi ʻana i kona makuahine e kāhea i ka makuahine o Bisma me kahi noi male., aka, ua lohi loa. ʻO ke kāne ʻē aʻe e hoʻolāʻau mai ana mai kahi ʻohana waiwai loa, a ua loaʻa iā ia ka ʻaelike no nā mākua o Bisma.

He paʻi mai kona makuakāne, he paio ohana, he hoopaapaa, waimaka mau, kaumaha, kaumaha - nā mea a pau i manaʻo ʻia mai kēlā ʻano kūlana - hahai ʻia. Hoʻokumu ʻia mai ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kekahi ma ke kelepona a mai ka hele ʻana i nā wahi āpau, koe ke kulanui, uē ʻo ia i ka hāʻule o ka pāpale - no nā hola.

Hoʻomanaʻo wau i koʻu weliweli, ʻoiai, i koʻu lohe ʻana i kāna ʻōlelo ʻana me ka waimaka, "No ke aha ke Akua i hana mai ai iaʻu?? No ke aha ʻo ia i hōʻike mai iaʻu i ke ʻano o ke aloha ʻoiaʻiʻo, e lawe wale aku?”

*ʻaʻa*

Uh, mai ka manawa hea "ke Akua" e hoike mai ia makou ke ano o keia mea i kapaia "aloha oiaio".? ʻAʻole anei ʻo ia i ʻae mai iā mākou e komo i loko o ia mau pilina? Ua ʻike kēlā me kēia Muslim maʻamau. A i ʻole he manaʻo hewa paha kēia ma koʻu ʻaoʻao?

ʻOi aku, ʻoiai wau e haʻi mau nei i nā wahine hoʻokahi e nīnau mai iaʻu i ka ʻōlelo aʻo, inā "aloha" ʻo ia iā ʻoe - ʻoiaʻiʻo - e like me kāna ʻōlelo, e hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e mare iā ʻoe i ka wā hiki. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ia e hana, ʻoiai inā he kaikuaʻana male male ʻole kona(siti@singapore), a inā no kahi kaiāulu ʻokoʻa ʻo ia. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e kali a hiki i ka bele hope e ala aʻe ma ke ʻano he ala hope loa a hana i kahi mea e male ai iā ʻoe.

ʻOi aku, inā ke kiʻi nei ke keiki i kāna lole mai ka mīkini lole no ka manuahi, no ke aha la oia e hooikaika ai e uku? ʻĒ? E kiʻi i kaʻu ʻōlelo?

ʻOiai nā kānaka a pau, hui pū, hooki i ka pule hewa a me ka manao hoole i na kauoha a pau a ke Akua, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou aa e “hewa” Akua ma ka hoʻopili ʻana i nā wahaheʻe e like me, "No ke aha ʻo ia i hana mai ai iaʻu?”, iāia.

Hoole mua kakou i kana mau kauoha, hōʻole ʻole e moe i mua ona ke kāhea ʻo ia iā mākou elima manawa i ka lā, e hahai i ko makou makemake, hana i na mea ana i papa mai ai, a i ka wā e ʻeha ai mākou - nui loa, weliweli, ʻeha loa - ma muli o kā mākou lawehala ʻana i kona mau palena, makou e ʻaʻa e huli a ʻōlelo pēlā Ua hana ʻo ia i kēia iā mākou?

Ua hoʻopalau ʻo Bisma i ka Mr Whats-his-ino hou ʻoiai he aloha ʻo ia i kekahi kāne ʻē aʻe e ʻeha mau ana i loko o kona puʻuwai.. Me ka ʻae piha o kona mau mākua, Ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kamaʻilio me kāna kāne male i kēlā me kēia lā ma ke kelepona a hele pū me ia i nā lā.

I loko o kekahi mau mahina, Ua poina ʻo ia iā Bilal a ua aloha ʻo ia i kāna kāne hoʻopalau a - ke ʻimi nei au i ka puʻuhonua mai ke Akua mai - ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia i ke kino me ia., i ko lākou hele ʻana i ka pō me kāna kaʻa a i ʻole ʻo ia i hana pū me ia ma ka lumi hoʻokipa o ka hale o kona mau mākua, ka puka i pani ʻia i ka wā o kāna kipa ʻana e kona mau mākua ponoʻī. Ua aʻo nui kona makuahine iā ia i kēia manawa o ka "hoʻololi" i kāna "aloha" kūpono ʻole me kekahi, ʻohana-apono ʻia, e koi ana iā ia e hoʻopaʻa me kāna kāne hoʻopaʻa i mea e poina ai kāna hoa kāne mua.

ʻO Bisma lāua ʻo Bilal kekahi o nā haneli haneli o ka poʻe hoʻokahi i hōʻeha nui ʻia no ko lāua komo ʻana i loko o nā pahele o kahi hoʻopunipuni., pili aloha transitory kēlā, ʻoiai ua hāʻawi ia i ka hauʻoli pōkole i ko lākou mau puʻuwai no ka hoʻokō ʻana i kā lākou makemake kumu, akā naʻe, waiho i nā hōʻailona hohonu o ka mihi a me ka ʻeha i hoʻopaʻa paʻa ʻia i loko o ko lākou puʻuwai, nā manaʻo a me ka moʻolelo ola.

ʻEhia mau manawa ʻoe e ʻike ai i nā poʻe waena a i ʻole nā ​​​​ʻelemakule e hōʻike i ka mihi no kā lākou mau hana i hala a me nā pilina? ʻEhia mau manawa e huhū ai nā mākua i ka hele ʻana o kā lākou mau keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine i ke ala like a lākou i hele ai ma ke ʻano he mau ʻōpio mālama ʻole.; ʻO nā hana a lākou e mihi nui ai i nā makahiki he mau makahiki ma hope o ka mae ʻana o ka pua o ko lākou wā ʻōpiopio?

I kēia lā, Ua mare hauʻoli ʻo Bisma lāua ʻo Bilal i kā lāua mau kāne. ʻAʻole naʻe, Ua ʻike lākou i ka poʻe i lilo i kāne i kēia manawa i ka wā e pili ana kekahi i kekahi. Ina ua kauoha mua ia ka mare me keia mau kanaka elua, Malia paha ua pale ʻia nā ʻeha a pau ma ka ʻae ʻole ʻana iā lākou iho e komo i loko o ka pilina ma mua o ka male ʻana?

ʻOi aku ka mea nui, Ua pale ʻia ko ke Akua hoʻolohe ʻole a me kona lawehala ʻana i kona mau palena - inā ʻoi aku ka makaʻala - a me ka hoʻohihi like ʻana i hoʻoulu ʻia i ka wā e noho pū ai lākou., ua hoopauia mai kinohi mai?

Ma hea kahi i ʻōlelo ai ma ka Quran ʻaʻole hiki i ke kāne a me ka wahine ke lilo i mau hoaaloha pili?

He hōʻike maopopo ko ka Quran e pāpā ana i nā kāne a me nā wahine Muslim mai ke komo ʻana i kekahi ʻano pilina a pili paha kekahi i kekahi ma waho o ka male.. Aia ma lalo kahi ʻāpana mai kahi pauku i lawe ʻia mai Surah Al-Nisaa, ma kahi e kūkākūkā ai ʻo Allah i ke ʻano o nā wahine Muslim e ʻimi ai nā kāne ma ka male. Penei kāna wehewehe ʻana i nā wahine e ʻimi nā kāne i ka male:

مُحْصْنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلاَ مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ

“…(na wahine) pono e maemae, aole kuko, ʻaʻole hoʻi e lawe i nā hoa aloha.."
[Al-Quran – 4:25]

Tafsir Ibn Kathir 'ōlelo e pili ana i kēia māhele o ka paukū ma luna: "Ka ʻōlelo a ke Akua, م .حْصَنَـت (pono lakou e maemae) ʻo ia hoʻi, he mau wahine hanohano i moe kolohe ole, a ʻo ia ke kumu i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Allah, غٍيْرَ مُسَـفِحَـتٍ ("ʻaʻole hoʻokamakama i nā wahine") e pili ana i na wahine hoino, ka poe i hoole i ka moe kolohe me ka poe ninau.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Ibn ʻAbbas, ʻo nā wahine hoʻokamakama ka poʻe hoʻokamakama ʻaʻole kūʻē i ka pili ʻana me ka mea ʻimi., oiai, وٍلاَ مُتَّخِذَاتِ ٍخْدَانٍ ("ʻaʻole pili") e pili ana i ka lawe ana i kane.

Ua ʻōlelo like ʻia e Abu Hurayrah, Mujahid, ʻAse-Shaʻbi, Ad-Dahhak, ʻAta' Al-Khurasani, Yahya bin Abi Kathir, Muqatil bin Hayyan a me As-Suddi.

Hoʻopau ʻōlelo Ka wehewehe.me.

ʻO kekahi paukū ma ka Quran, e hiki mai ana ma ke kakahiaka nui Surah Al-Maʻidah, e wehewehe ana i ke ano maemae like me ka Mahometa nā kāne pono e loaa ke imi wahine.

Pono au e hoʻohui i kēia paukū o ka Quran, malalo, ʻO ka hapa nui o nā hui Muslim i kēia mau lā, kahi i hoʻokuʻu ʻia ai nā poʻe ʻōpio e nā moʻolelo o ke kaiāulu mai ka moekolohe a me ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hoaaloha, a ʻo nā kaikamāhine wale nō i pāpā ʻia mai ka haʻalele ʻana i ko lākou mau home, o hāʻule lākou i ka hewa.:

مْحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ وَلاَ مُتَّخِذِي أَخْدَانٍ

“…a (ia oukou na kanaka) makemake i ka maemae, ʻaʻole ka moekolohe, ʻaʻole hoʻi nā hoa huna.."
[Al-Quran – 5:5]

Kūkākūkā ka paukū ma luna i ka hihia o nā kāne Muslim e ʻimi nei i ka male. Me ka hele ʻole i ka holoʻokoʻa ka wehewehe ana o ka pauku (ʻo ia kaʻu e paipai nei iā ʻoe e hana i mea e hōʻoia ai ʻaʻole wau i ʻōlelo i kekahi mea ma waho o ka pōʻaiapili) Ua lawe wale au i kela hapa o ia mea i papa loa a papa loa i na kane mai ka mare wale no ka pono o ka moe kolohe., a ke papa aku nei hoi ia lakou mai ka launa pu me na wahine mawaho o ka mare.

Tafsir Ibn Kathir ʻōlelo e pili ana i kēia ʻāpana o ka paukū ma luna: "A e like me ka maemae o na wahine a pale aku i ka moe kolohe, penei (kekahi) ka hihia me nā kāne, he pono no ka maemae a me ka hanohano.

No laila, Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Allah - Anonymous - (… “aole moe kolohe“) e like me ka poe moe kolohe, ka poe pale ole i ka hewa, aole hoi e hoole i ka moe kolohe me ka mea nana ia i haawi ia lakou. وٍلاَ مُتَّخِذِى ٍخْدَانٍ (… “ʻaʻole hoʻi e lawe iā lākou i mau hoaaloha (nā mea aloha)”) manaʻo: ka poʻe nona nā haku wahine a me nā hoaaloha.."

Hoʻopau ʻōlelo Ka wehewehe.me.

Manaʻo wau he mea pono ke kuhikuhi ʻana i ke ʻano o ke Akua, ma na pauku maluna, i ʻōlelo i ka hana o ka pili ʻana a i ʻole ka lawe ʻana i nā mea aloha - مُتَّخِذِى أَخْدَانٍ - kaʻawale mai ka moe kolohe., a i ʻole مُسَافِحِينَ . ʻO ka huaʻōlelo “اَخْدَان” ka nui o ka huaʻōlelo “خِدْنٌ”, ʻo ia hoʻi ka "hoaaloha".

ʻIke mākou a pau i kēia mau hana ʻelua: ka launa pū ʻana me nā kāne (اَخْدَان), a me ka moe kolohe (Pākuʻi kāne a i ʻole ke kino), hiki e kaawale, ma ka moʻomeheu Muslim. ʻAʻole manaʻo ka poʻe o ko mākou moʻomeheu kūloko i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka pilina aloha ʻole a i ʻole ka hoaloha like ʻole me nā lālā o ke kāne me ka ʻole o ka moekolohe maoli..

Nui nā kāne a me nā kāne e hauʻoli e kamaʻilio me nā wahine no nā hola ma ke kelepona, a i ʻole e hoʻohana i ka Pūnaewele no ka loaʻa ʻana o nā flings maʻamau a me nā hoa aloha, a i ʻole pili mau i ka pilina 'koʻikoʻi' me kahi hoaaloha, a he hoopalau paha.

E nānā wale i ka DAWN Magazine's ʻAnakē Agni kolamu e like me ka hōʻike ʻana o kēia ʻano kaumaha. ʻOiai me ka noi ʻole ʻana i nā mākua o kahi kaikamahine, I kēia mau lā, hiki i ke kāne/kāne ke loaʻa i kahi hoaaloha paʻa e hele pū me ia i ka lā (e like me Bisma a me Bilal maluna), he pilina i kapa ʻia he "pili pili". I ka 'oiaʻiʻo, hiki iā mākou ke hele a hiki i ka ʻōlelo ʻana pēlā, ma ka ʻāina, kūlanakauhale, elite a.k.a moʻomeheu 'burger', ʻO ka poʻe nalo wale nō ʻaʻole i loaʻa nā hoa pili aloha.

ʻO kēia mau pilina a pau, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou e komo i ka moe kolohe, akā naʻe, ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻae ʻia i ka mālamalama o ka Quran - e like me kaʻu i hōʻike ai ma luna - no ka mea ua hāʻule lākou i ka ʻāpana o "مُتَّخِذِى أَخْدَانٍ".

ʻO ia ke kumu, ua aneane like me ke Akua, i ka haʻi ʻana i ka hiki ʻole o ka moekolohe ma waho o ka male, e hoʻomau i ka wehewehe ʻana i ka lawe ʻana i nā hoaaloha pili mai ke kāne ʻē aʻe, a i ʻole he moe kolohe ʻole, ua kapu loa.

Ina e pule ikaika ka opio i kela la i keia la, hiki loa iā lākou ke haʻalele i nā pilina pili aloha

أقِمِ الصَّلَا إِنَّ الصَّلَا تَنْهَى عَنِ الْفَحْشَاء وَالْمُنكَرِ وَلَذِكْرُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ

"Hewa (pule) kaohi i na hana hilahila a me ka pono ole; a ʻo ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana iā Allah ka mea nui loa (mea i ke ola), me ke kanalua ole. [Al-Quran – 29:45]

I kaʻu i ʻōlelo ai ma luna, ʻaʻole mau ʻo Bisma lāua ʻo Bilal i ka pule ʻelima mau pule i kēlā me kēia lā, ʻo ia ka mea e hōʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka mālama ʻole ʻana i ka pule e wehe i ka puka i nā hewa a me nā hewa he nui i ke ola o kahi Muslim.. Hewa he pale pale e pale ai i ke kanaka mai ka hewa. ʻAʻole kānāwai paʻakikī, aka nae, ʻoiaʻiʻo no ka hapa nui.

Ke ʻike kekahi ua pule wale lākou he obligatory hewa, a e hana hou i loko o kekahi mau hola, Hilahila lakou e noho ma kahi kihi me ke aloha pu me, a i ʻole kamaʻilio ma ke kelepona e hoʻoheheʻe ana i ka mush me, he kāne a he kaikamahine paha a lākou e manaʻo ai. ʻO ka hilahila a lākou e manaʻo ai, ʻike ʻia hoʻi ʻo ka غيرة mahalo ʻia (“gheerah ”) ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻōki ai ka mea ʻike iā Allah ma mua o ka hana hewa ʻana, e hoeha loa i ko lakou naau i ka hewa a me ka mihi, a ʻaʻole e hoʻomaha ko lākou lunamanaʻo i kā lākou hana.

No laila, inā he ʻōpio ʻoe a hoʻokahi, Makemake au e ʻōlelo pono iā ʻoe e pule i kāu mau lā ʻelima hewa pule i ka manawa, mālie, holo ʻole, me ka noonoo piha a i ole خشوع, hooloihi ana i kou kulou ana (kulou ana) a me kou hoomana ana (Kulou ana).

No nā kāne, Makemake wau e hoʻoikaika lākou - a hoʻoikaika maoli, paʻakikī loa - e pule i kēlā me kēia pule obligatory ma ke anaina ma kahi kokoke loa hale pule, ʻoiai inā manaʻo nā kānaka a pau he poʻe pupule lākou a kapa ʻia lākou he nalo a he "maulvi” no ia mea. Poina iā lākou. E hana wale!

ʻO kekahi mau mea e pili ana i ka istikharah no ka male

ʻO ka manaʻo linguistic o ka huaʻōlelo Arabic "استخاره" ʻo ia ka ʻimi ʻana i ka maikaʻi, a maikaʻi paha. ʻAʻole i manaʻo ʻia he ʻano hoʻomana kilokilo e hopena i kahi epiphany koke e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe i ke ala āu e hele ai., a i ʻole ka hoʻoholo āu e hana ai, i ka pō.

aka, ke pule ʻoe i ʻelua pule pule i kēlā me kēia manawa o ka lā (ʻaʻole pono i ka pō) a laila e kāhea aku iā Allah me ka mea i kauoha ʻia duʻa o استاره , ke noi ʻiʻo nei ʻoe iā ia e kauoha iā ʻoe, ma waena o nā koho ʻelua, ka mea i oi aku, no ka olua duniyaa me kāu ʻAkahi.

Inā paha ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi noi no ka male ʻana, a i ʻole inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi o ke ʻano maikaʻi a me ka moʻokūʻauhau i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ma ke ʻano he wahine hoʻopalau nau, ʻO ka hana استخاره e hōʻoia ʻoe e ʻimi i kēlā hopena / hopena mai ke Akua mai ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi iā ʻoe. ʻO استاره he duʻa, maʻalahi a maʻalahi.

Ma ka hana ana, ke noi aku nei ʻoe iā Allah e hoʻoholo i ka mea nona iho, ma ka hoʻohuli ʻana i nā naʻau a/a i ʻole ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā hanana i mea e poʻo ai nā mea i mua a i ʻole no ka hui ʻana, a kūʻē paha. A ʻo ia ka mea e hana ma hope o kahi استخاره: a i ʻole e hoʻokō ʻia kahi noi a hoʻokō ʻia kahi male, a i ʻole ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia ka male ʻana, no kekahi kumu.

Nui nā poʻe ʻōpio makemake e mare i kahi mea a lākou e makemake ai, E kanikau i kā lākou hana استخاره no nā makahiki, a ʻoiai ua ʻike nā mākua ʻelua i ko lāua makemake e mare i kēlā kanaka, ʻAʻohe mea i manaʻo e hana - ke kū nei ka noi male i nā pilikia i manaʻo ʻole ʻia, lohi a me nā pilikia.

Pono, pono lākou e ala aʻe a hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole paha i manaʻo ʻia ko lākou male ʻana me ka mea i nīnau ʻia. Inā hōʻike mai ʻo Allah iā mākou i kāna mau hōʻailona me ka maʻalahi a me ke ākea, akā, hōʻole mākou e "ʻike" aʻae iā lākou, na kakou iho no ia i koho.

Ua male au i ka'u mea pili aloha, a i kēia manawa ke manaʻo nei au i ka hewa e pili ana i ka ʻāpana pili mua o ia mea. Pono anei au e mihi?

ʻae nō hoʻi!

Ma muli wale nō o kou male ʻana i ke kanaka āu i hele pū ai a pili kino a/a i ʻole naʻau ma waho o ka paʻa male, ʻAʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e mihi no ka pili ʻana me lākou i kahi pilina. ʻAʻole nō hoʻi ia manaʻo, ma ka mare ʻana i kēlā hoa kāne a i ʻole hoa wahine, ʻO ka hewa o ka launa pū ʻana a me ke kino me ia ua holoi ʻia.

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, puuwai, ʻO ka mihi wale nō ka mea e holoi ai i ka hoʻolohe ʻole i ke Akua, a pono e hui pū ʻia me ke koʻikoʻi, mihi hoʻohaʻahaʻa a mihi, hui pū me ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kala ʻana o ke Akua ma o dhikr (ka hoomanao ana ma ke alelo), hewa,sadaqah/aloha aloha, (ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi) uē a uē paha me ka waimaka o ka minamina, a ʻo ka mea hope loa, e holo wikiwiki ana i nā hana pono a me ka manawaleʻa i uku, e hooluolu i ka inaina o ke Akua a loaa kona lealea.

Ka mihi, i ka wa oiaio, hiki iā ia ke holoi i nā hewa i hala ʻaʻole mai ka puke moʻolelo wale nō, aka, mai ka puuwai mai, ka manao a me ka hoomanao ana i na kanaka i ike i kela hewa.

ʻO ke kuleana o nā kūpuna, ʻoi aku nā mākua

Nui nā manawa, i ka wa opiopio, hoʻokahi Muslim, ʻO ka mea makemake nui i ka hana a me ka hoʻolaha ʻana i ka Islam (dawah) i ke ola, makemake i ka male ʻana me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe i like ka manaʻo hoʻomana, nā mea a lākou i hālāwai ai a i lohe ai paha ma o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe - he mea maʻamau ka ulu ʻana o kahi paio hoihoi ma waena o lākou a me ko lākou mau mākua ma muli o kēia koho..

ʻO nā mākua hoʻomana ʻole e like me ko lākou makua, Hiki i nā keiki hoʻokahi ke hana i ka nui o nā pilikia i ka hana male male. He nui nā kumu o kēia, akā ʻo ka mea nui no lākou, no ke aloha a me ka manao nui i ka lakou mau keiki, e hoʻokau i kā lākou mau makemake a me kā lākou mau manaʻoʻiʻo e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka male maikaʻi ʻana i kā lākou mau keiki kāne a i ʻole kaikamahine makua ʻole..

Eia kekahi mau laʻana o kekahi o nā mea maʻamau o ia mau pilikia:

1. "ʻAʻole mākou e mare iā ______________ (hoʻokomo i ka inoa o kekahi lāhui, ʻo ia hoʻi. Memon, Bihari, ʻO Hyderabadi, Balochi, Kiniki, ʻO Patana, ʻŌlelo Punajabi, ʻŌlelo Urdu, ʻO Lucknowi, ʻO Chinioti, etc. blah blah) no ka mea, he _________________ loa lākou (e hoʻokomo i kekahi hoʻolaha laulā, e like me ke kolohe, paio, paʻakikī, mea waiwai, kala kala ole, hoʻokaʻawale, hūpō, kuko wale, etc. blah blah).”
2. "ʻAʻole mākou e mare ma waho o ka ʻohana."
3. "ʻAʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo ʻokoʻa, hoʻomāinoino, a me na ohana haipule paakiki. Hoʻokipa ʻia nā ʻohana hoʻomana haʻahaʻa.
4. “Pono ʻoe e hana mua i kāu Masters. Mai noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka male ma mua o kēlā manawa. "
5. "ʻAʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo i nā noi mai nā ʻāina ʻē. He wikiwiki loa nā kaikamahine / keikikāne i hānai ʻia ma ke Komohana. "
6. “Pono he ʻokoʻa makahiki o 5 makahiki, mea iki loa."
7. “ʻO kā mākou shahzada kiʻekiʻe a nani. Pehea ʻoe e ʻōlelo ai i kēlā kaikamahine puʻupuʻu i ʻoi aku ka ʻeleʻele ma mua o kona? Haye, Makemake ʻoe e huli kaʻu mau moʻopuna hele mai?”
8. “Ua ʻoi aku ko lākou kūlana waiwai ma mua o ko mākou. He aha ka poʻe e ʻōlelo ai? Makemake ʻoe e ʻakaʻaka ʻia e pili ana i ka lilo ʻana i mea ʻilihune i kou ola a pau?”
9. “Elima kaikuahine?! A me ko'u makuakane, ʻAʻole hiki i kaʻu kaikamahine ke hoʻopaʻa i ʻelima mau ʻōlelo alelo e hoʻopiha ana i nā pepeiao o kona makuahōnōwai wahine i nā manawa a pau.
10. "ʻo ia 2 ʻoi aku ka pōkole ma mua o ʻoe! Kuch to socha hota….bewaqoof!”

ʻO nā mākua ka ʻōnaehana kākoʻo koʻikoʻi e hiki ai i kahi ʻōpio Muslim ke male. E hoʻokuʻu iā lākou i ko lākou manaʻo, ʻoi aku ka paʻa o ka hope a i kālai ʻia i ka pōhaku, hiki ke lilo i hana hiki ole, ka mea hiki ke uhai i ke kanaka opio a i ole wahine haipule i ka wa i huli ae ai kana manao oluolu no na kumu ole a lapuwale..

Hope, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole pono e nalowale. Inā ʻimi ka ʻōpio i ka helehelena a me ka leʻaleʻa o ke Akua ma o nā hana maikaʻi, mālama i nā kuleana a pau a ke Akua i kākoʻo ai ma luna o lākou, a noho kaawale i na mea hiki ole (Mea huna), e noi ana i ke kōkua o ke Akua ma o ke ahonui, ka hoomanawanui a me ka pule mau, hiki i ka manawa ke hoʻololi i ka maikaʻi.

ʻO ka mea koʻikoʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻōho, papa ʻōlelo a hōʻino paha i nā lunakahiko, ʻaʻohe mea a lākou e hana ai a ʻōlelo paha iā ʻoe. ʻO ka lua, mai ho'ōki i ka pilina me ke Akua i mea e loaʻa ai kāna kōkua ma kou ʻaoʻao. ʻO ke kolu, E kiʻi i kekahi ʻelemakule haipule mai ke kaiāulu e ʻuwao no ʻoe a e aʻo i kou mau mākua.

ʻO ka hope loa, inā pau ʻole kāu mau hana a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke mare i kēlā kanaka āu i manaʻoʻiʻo ai he kūpono iā ʻoe - e hoʻāʻo e ʻae i kēia kauoha e like me ka makemake o ke Akua a me ka hopena o kāu استخاره ʻoiaʻiʻo a mau..

Ma ia wahi, neʻe aku. E ʻohi i kēlā puʻupuʻu i kou ʻāʻī, uwe kekahi, akā laila - neʻe aku.

E hoomanao, ke keiki e nānā mau ana i hope i ka ʻāpana lole maʻamau i ʻae ʻole ʻia e kona mau mākua., makapo kona mau maka i ka wela, kulu waimaka, ʻaʻole nānā kona poʻo i mua i ke ala a kona mau mākua e alakaʻi lima ai iā ia, ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻike, ʻai a hauʻoli paha i ka mea nui, keke kokoleka maikaʻi a lākou e mālama nei nona wale nō; no ia mea, ua hoole lakou ia ia i kela awelika, ka candy haʻahaʻa maikaʻi ʻo ia pela i makemake e loaa.

Ua makemake maoli kona mau mākua e loaʻa iā ia kahi mea maikaʻi aʻe. Aka, o kona paakiki paa me, a mihi ma, ʻo ka mea maʻamau i hala iā ia ʻaʻole ia e ʻike iā ia.

Ua loaʻa paha iā ʻoe, i kou manaʻo paʻa ʻo Mr a ʻo Ms Perfect wale nō ka mea nou, ke nānā nei paha ʻoe i kekahi mea nui, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi?

Ua noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole hāʻawi ʻo Allah iā ʻoe i ka lole no ka mea ke mālama nei ʻo ia i hoʻokahi keke kokoleka maikaʻi loa no ʻoe.?

Hōʻole i manaʻo ʻole ʻia

ʻO ka hope loa, Makemake au e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei i kekahi manawa, mahope hele nā ​​mea a pau e like me ka hoʻolālā a hoʻopau ʻia kahi noi male, nui i ka hoomaha o na kanaka a pau.

Hauʻoli a hauʻoli ka kāne hoʻopalau; ʻoluʻolu nā mākua i ka hoʻokō ʻana i kā lākou hana i kā lākou mau keiki makua, a hoʻomaka me ka hauʻoli e hoʻomākaukau no ka male e hiki mai ana. He ea hauʻoli i loko o nā hale ʻelua.

Hiki koke, mai kahi ʻole, hoʻomaka nā mea e hele hewa. ʻO kekahi o ka wahine mare- a i ʻole ka hoʻololi ʻana o ka manaʻo a i ʻole ke kāne male. ʻAʻole maopopo iā lākou no ka hele ʻana i ka male. ʻO kā lākou mau manaʻo ʻole a me ka hopohopo ʻole i ka wā mua e ulu aʻe i ka makaʻu a me nā kānalua nui e pili ana i kā lāua male ʻana.. ʻAʻole koke, lilo lakou i oi loa aku ke alo, mamao, a me ke anu; e papa ana i ka laua hoopalau me ka huhu ma na mea liilii loa. ʻIke koke ʻia ko lākou mau hūnōna kāne he poʻe lousy, a ma hope o kekahi mau pule o ia ʻano… ʻae, ua kuhi ʻoe: hooki lakou i ka hoopalau.

Haʻalulu, nui ka hoomaloka a me ka hoole ma na aoao elua. Ua haki nā naʻau; ua haki nā moeʻuhane a hāʻule ka manaʻolana. Ma hope o kekahi mau lā o ka ho'āʻo ʻana i ka pōʻino, ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka hopena o ke kauoha a ke Akua e komo i loko. Noho ka lepo me ka manawa; ua malie na mea a pau, akā hoʻokahi nīnau e mau ana i loko o nā manaʻo o kēlā me kēia kanaka:

“Akā no ke aha?”

'Ōlelo maʻamau ka poʻe, "Ua hana mākou i ka استخاره ma mua o ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka noi - i nā manawa he nui! No ke aha la keia?” Ua ʻōlelo ʻia nā mea like i ka wā e hemo ai ka male hauʻoli i ka wā mua a hopena i ka hemo ʻawaʻawa.

ʻO mākou, ma ke ʻano he kanaka liʻiliʻi ka ʻike, ninau i ke kauoha a ke Akua no ka mea, aolehana manao iā mākou i ke kumu e hiki ai iā ia ke hoʻoikaika iā mākou e hele i kahi kaʻina i manaʻo ʻia he pololei loa i ka hoʻomaka, aka, ua lilo ia i mea kaumaha, ʻawaʻawa a ʻehaʻeha no mākou. Nīnau mākou iā Allah no ke aha ʻo ia i hoʻomaka ai i kahi kaʻina hauʻoli i ko mākou ola i ka wā Ua ʻike ʻo iae pau ai i ka eha. Kahaha mākou no ke aha i puka mai ai kā mākou استخاره i ka hoʻomaka ʻana inā he pōʻino loa ka hopena o ke kaʻina hana..

Hoʻokahi mea e noʻonoʻo ai ma ʻaneʻi. Pono ʻoe e ʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe iho a noʻonoʻo mua i kekahi mea:

Ua lawehala paha ʻoe i nā palena o ke Akua i ka wā e hele ai i kēlā kaʻina?

E.g. he kāne i hauʻoli loa i kā lāua hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ka wā mua, e hoʻomaka paha e kamaʻilio kekahi i kekahi i nā manawa āpau ma ke kelepona paʻa, nā leka uila a me nā leka uila; malia paha e hele i kahi lā - he mau hana kūʻē i nā kauoha a ke Akua. (ʻAʻole wau e haʻi i kekahi fatawama ʻaneʻi no kēlā me kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo fatwa Ua piha ka pūnaewele iā lākou. Ua lokahi nā haumāna a me nā mana hoʻomana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole pono e kamaʻilio manuahi kekahi i kekahi)

I loko o kekahi manawa, Shaitan hana i kāna hana ma luna o lākou a hoʻowahāwahā iā lākou kekahi i kekahi, no ka mea, ʻo ka hoʻonui ʻana i ko lākou kamaʻāina a me ka ʻōlelo ʻoiaʻiʻo e hōʻike paha i kekahi mau hewa a me nā hemahema e hiki ai ke hoʻohuli i kekahi a i ʻole ʻelua o lāua e pili ana i kekahi he hoa ola kūpono..

He mea kēia aʻu i ʻike nui ai i nā kāne pili i ka hoʻomana - ka poʻe i manaʻo e mare kekahi i kekahi no ka leʻaleʻa i ke Akua., a me ka manaʻolana e alakaʻi i ke ola male a hānai i kahi ʻohana e like me ka makemake o ke Akua, ma ka pili ana i ka Islam ma ke kumu a me ka hana.

No ia mau kāne, na pahele o Shaitan ʻokoʻa mai, ʻōlelo, na hei ana e waiho ana no kēlā mau kāne i ʻike liʻiliʻi a ʻaʻole ʻike i ka Islam a hana ʻole i nā kuleana o ka hoʻomana..

He mea maʻalahi nā mea hope Shaitan - ʻo kāna mea wale nō e hana ai, ʻo ia ka mea e manaʻoʻiʻo ai ka poʻe kuko, ʻO ke aloha aloha a lākou i manaʻo ai i ka wā o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana ʻo ia ka mea maoli. No laila ua maʻalahi ʻo ia iā lākou e makapō i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo paʻakikī o ke ola e hiki mai ana i ko lāua male ʻana, ʻo ka hoʻolilo ʻana iā lākou i ka nānā wale ʻana i ka ʻaoʻao moekolohe, e hoʻolilo iā lākou me ke kuko i nā mea e hiki mai ana i ko lākou pō male ʻana. ʻO ia pō wale nō kā lākou e noʻonoʻo ai a e kali nei.

ʻO nā kāne hoʻomana e kokoke ana e male e koi i kahi hana ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī Shaitan, ko makou laa, enemi hoopunipuni aka naauao. ʻIke ʻo ia inā e male kēia kāne, e hooikaika lakou kekahi i kekahi, kokua kekahi i kekahi ʻO Deen, lilo i kākoʻo hoʻomana kekahi i kekahi i ke ola, a e hanai i na keiki ikaika, hilinaʻi Mahometa i ka wā e hiki mai ana. No laila, hoʻohana ʻo ia iā lākou i kahi ʻano ʻē aʻe, ʻoi aku ka maalea.

Kuʻi ʻo ia iā lākou me nā kānalua, makaʻu, ʻaʻole palekana, a hiki paha i ka lanakila i ka hana ʻino ʻana iā lākou, paakiki loa, kaumaha loa, pōkole, pōʻeleʻele a i ʻole ma kekahi ʻano pono ʻole kekahi i kekahi. Hāwanawana ʻo ia i nā mea liʻiliʻi i ka pepeiao o ko lākou mau mākua, nā kaikaina a me nā hoaaloha, ʻo wai, e pāʻani ana i ka ʻāpana o nā pūʻali hoʻopunipuni ʻole o Shaitan, e hele e ʻōlelo i kahi ʻōlelo ma aneʻi, he olelo malaila; e hoʻolei ana i nā ʻōlelo hoʻomāinoino, a me ka hoʻolei ʻana i nā kānalua i loko o ka manaʻo o ke kāne hoʻopalau:

1. "He aha? Ua kelepona ʻo ia iā ʻoe ʻelua wale nō i kāu huakaʻi? Kāhea mai koʻu hoa kāne iaʻu i kēlā me kēia lā, mamao loa. Makemake ʻoe iā ʻoe?”
2. “He awelika kona nanaina. ʻAʻohe hewa o ka hele ʻana i ka nani, maopopo iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole anei ʻoe i ʻike aia he hadith e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana ua male ka wahine no kona nani?”
3. "Inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e mālama iā ʻoe i kēia manawa, e emi mai ana kona malama ana ia oe mahope o ka male ana. Ua emi ke aloha ma hope o ka male ʻana, e like me ka mea. Pono ʻoe e manaʻo e like me ʻoe ma kahi kiʻekiʻe - ma ke ao ʻeiwa; hanu a hauʻoli! No laila, no ke aha ʻoe e mopey?”
4. “He ʻoi loa ʻo ia i kāna hoʻolimalima. Manaʻo ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama iā ia? Nā ʻanuʻu i ka ʻimi ʻana i wahine Muslim, makemake e splurge Rs 35,000 ma ka make-up, hoʻokahi wale nō pō?”

A pēlā, e na makamaka heluhelu, ʻO nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa lōʻihi ma waena o ka poʻe haipule a i ʻole ka poʻe hoʻomana hoʻomana ʻole i kekahi manawa, ʻoiai nā manaʻo maikaʻi loa ma nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua. Shaitan lanakila i ka mālama ʻana i ʻelua maikaʻi loa, ʻO ka poʻe ʻōpio ʻōpio Mahometa hoʻokahi wale nō a ʻaʻole i hoʻopaʻa ʻia - ʻaʻole ikaika a me nā makemake moe kolohe ʻole.

Ma waho o ka pā kaua o ka male, hoʻomau lākou i ka pale ʻana i nā pōmaikaʻi, ʻO ka hōʻoluʻolu a me ka hauʻoli e holo wikiwiki ana i ka wā e hui ai ke kāne a me ka wahine male - he pilina kapu e hoʻomaka ana ma ka lawe ʻana i ka inoa o ke Akua - e noho ma lalo o ka hale hoʻokahi a lilo i ʻaʻahu no kēlā me kēia..

I kēia manawa, Ke hoʻomau nei ka neʻe mehameha ka male Muslim hoʻokahi i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia, pōʻino a huikau i loko o ka hui - maʻalahi pio ʻO Shaitan mau pahele mau.

ʻO kēia manawa wale nō, ke kanikau hewa nei lakou i ko lakou mau pilikia o ka noho kaawale ana e like me ka "makemake o ke Akua", i ka manawa, i ka 'oiaʻiʻo, ua ___ ia lakou ka mea i haule no ʻO Shaitan hoʻowalewale a hāʻawi i kāna mau ʻōlelo hoʻopunipuni.

ʻAʻole ʻoliʻoli ka male ʻana, akā, he ala puʻupuʻu - kōkua inā makaʻu kāu kāne iā Allah

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻAʻole he hauʻoli ka male ʻana ma kahi pā leʻaleʻa. Aia kona mau lā maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO nā hoʻāʻo e hiki mai ana ma hope o ka male ʻana e pono ai ke kāne a me ka wahine e pili ikaika iā Allah, me ka hilinai piha (hilinaʻi) iloko ona, a me ka noho kūpaʻa mau ʻana i kekahi i kekahi - ma o ka lilo ʻana i mea mau loa, lole pale no ka laua wahine, ʻoiai i mua o ko lākou mau mākua ponoʻī.

ʻO ka pilina kāne a me ka wahine ka mea maʻalahi loa i ka hoʻouka ʻana e Shaitan no ka mea, ʻo ia ke kumu o ke kūkulu ʻana o ke kaiāulu - ke kumu i hānau ʻia ai ka hanauna hou o ke kanaka. Ina he palupalu a palupalu ka mare, ʻaʻole e mamao loa ka ʻohana mai ka hāʻule ʻana.

I ka wā e hemo ai kēia ʻohana kumu, ka naaupo, nā keiki liʻiliʻi hopohopo ʻole e puka mai ana a lele i loko o ka nohona me ke alakaʻi ʻole ʻana o nā mākua, ʻo nā mea maʻalahi loa, pio ole no na puali o Shaitan e hoouka a luku. A ʻo ia ke ʻano o kāna hoʻāʻo ʻana e alakaʻi hewa i ka hapa nui o mākou - ma ka ʻimi mau ʻana i ka wā e hiki ai iā ia ke hāʻawi i kahi kī i ka male ikaika loa o ka Muslim..

Inā makemake ʻoe e hauʻoli i kahi pilina male ikaika i ka wā e hiki mai ana, he pohaku oolea mamua o ka hahau ana a na daimonio lehulehu mai na kanaka a nā jinn, E hoʻomanaʻo e pono ʻoe e hoʻopau i nā manaʻo hoʻopunipuni ma kou poʻo e pili ana i ka pili aloha aloha a me nā 'hoaaloha' flirtatious me nā lālā o ke kāne ma waho / ma mua o ka male ʻana.. Pono ʻoe e ulu a loaʻa i kahi loiloi ʻoiaʻiʻo nui e hoʻokomo paʻa i kou mau wāwae ʻeha ma ka honua..

Ua mae ka opio me ka manawa. ʻO nā hoaaloha i hoʻohiki e noho ma kou ʻaoʻao ma o ka mānoanoa a me ka lahilahi e nalowale ana mai ka lewa me ka uē o kā lākou pēpē mua.. ʻO ka hopena, koe wale no, i kou mau kaikaina, nā hoahānau, paʻahana nā hoa papa a me nā hoa hana me kā lākou mau hoa kāne a me nā keiki.

Inā makemake ʻoe i kēlā hale moe me ka māla nani i hoʻomaʻamaʻa maikaʻi ʻia, pā picket keʻokeʻo (Ua ʻike wau he ʻakaʻaka wau ma ʻaneʻi), ka van ʻohana a me ka pōpoki puaʻa puaʻa - e hoʻopau mua i nā moeʻuhane hoʻopunipuni o ke aloha pau ʻole a me ka male kiʻi maikaʻi loa., a loaa maoli. Huli ia Allah, e hoʻolohe iā ia i ka pōmaikaʻi a me ka pilikia, e hooikaika e loaa ma o 100%halal ʻo ia hoʻi, a e mihi me ka oiaio no na mea a pau au i manao ai e huhu mai ai oia ia oe. A laila e nānā i ka hana ʻana o kāna kauoha e wehe kokoke loa i mua o kou mau maka.

ʻO kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa, ʻO nā manawa piha piha a hauʻoli hoʻi i hiki ke loaʻa i ke ola, ʻo ia ka manawa a ke Akua i hoʻoholo ai i nā mea a nā poʻe a puni ʻoe hoohiki ʻaʻole loa e hiki.

'Ōlelo mai kaʻike pilikino: He kaikamahine wau me ka helehelena paʻa i haʻalele i ka hui ʻana o ke kāne ma hope o ka mihi ʻana mai ka pilina o ke kula a me ke ola kulanui., a laila ua alo i nā manaʻo i ka wā mua o ka iwakālua, "ʻO wai ka mea e mare iā ia?”

Ina oe e hoomau i ka hehi i ke ala o ʻO Deen, i ka hopena, lilo ka ninau hawanawana: “ʻO wai ʻaʻole?”

Puna: Sadaf Farooqi, http://sadaffarooqi.com/2011/03/24/romantic-relationships-marriage-proposals-and-dreams-of-destiny/