Ka Makaula aloha (s.a.w) - Pehea e aloha ai me kāu kāne

na Maulana Fraz Ibn Adam

Ke kokoke mai nei nā lā i ka male ʻana, hauʻoli, ecstasy a me ka elation pump ma o ka wahine mare a me ke kane. ʻO ke kūkulu ʻana i ka male ʻana he ʻike ia o ka hauʻoli a me ka hauʻoli. I ka wa e mare ai, ʻO ka hauʻoli a me ka hauʻoli o kekahi aia ma ka ʻaoʻao o ka piha ʻana a me ka piʻi ʻana. I ka hui ʻana o nā kāne hou no ka manawa mua, ʻAʻole hiki i nā huaʻōlelo ke wehewehe i ka ʻono, hauʻoli, ka maluhia, leʻaleʻa a me ka hauʻoli i ʻono ʻia e lāua.
Inā hōʻike kēlā me kēia lā o ka male i ka lā mua o ka male, a ʻo kēlā me kēia pō e hōʻike ana i ka pō mua o ka male ʻana, a laila e lilo ka male i mea euphoric ma kēia ao.

ʻO nā mahina mua ʻelua he 'honeymoon' mau.. Ke noho ka male, a laila hoʻomaka ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Nui nā kāne i hāʻule i kēia manawa. Hoʻopili ke kāne i kāna hana. Hoʻi ʻo ia i ka home me ka luhi a me ka lohi, pololi a luhi. Koi ʻo ia i ka meaʻai a moloā e hana i kekahi mea. ʻAi ʻo ia, waiho i nā papa lepo i loko o ka poho a moe i lalo i ka sofa. Hiki iā ia ke ala e hana i ka salāh inā ʻike ʻo ia i ka salāh. A i ʻole, ala ʻo ia ma hope o ka pō, kelepona i kekahi mau hoa, nānā i ka TV a kauoha mau i ka wahine e kiʻi iā ia x a me y. I ka manawa e hiamoe ai, ʻO ke kāne inā maikaʻi kona manaʻo, e launa pū ʻo ia me kāna wahine-akā e hoʻokō i kāna mau pono. Ke hoʻokō ʻia ʻo ia, kū ʻo ia a hāʻule i ka hiamoe. ʻO ka māʻona paha o ka wahine a ʻaʻole paha ʻaʻole i ʻike i kona manaʻo. Lilo kēia i mea maʻamau o kona ola.

ʻO ka wahine ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, hoʻomaka ʻo ia e ʻoluʻolu i kāna kāne. Nalo mālie ʻo ia i kona ʻoliʻoli ʻoiai ʻaʻole lawa ka nānā ʻana mai kāna kāne. Hoʻomoʻa ʻo ia e ʻoluʻolu i kāna kāne. E hooikaika ana oia i kana ai. E hoʻāʻo ʻo ia a hoʻopiha i nā kikoʻī āpau o ka meaʻai. ʻO ka hōʻike, Hoʻokomo ʻia nā mea ʻala a me nā mea ʻala i hoʻohui ʻia kekahi i kekahi. Ma hope o kekahi manawa, hoʻomaka ʻo ia e luhi i kēia no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻōlelo ke kāne a hoʻohewa paha ʻo ia i kāna ʻai. Ke hele koke ke kāne i ka hana, aia ʻo ia ma ke kelepona i kona mau hoa. Hana ʻo ia, nana TV, hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka hale a hauʻoli i kona lā ma mua o ka hoʻi ʻana mai o kāna kāne. Ke hiki mai ke kane, lilo hou ia i kauwa.
ʻO kēia ʻano male ʻaʻole i hōʻike ʻia ke aloha, ʻaʻohe manaʻo maoli i hoʻoili ʻia mai kekahi ʻaoʻao a i kekahi e hele ana i ka luku.
Pono ke kāne e hoʻokō i ke aloha a ke Kāula Salallahu alaihi wasallam i hōʻike ʻia. Manaʻo mākou he aloha ʻo Romeo akā ʻaʻole ʻo ke Kāula Salallahu alaihi wasallam. Inā wau e ʻōlelo ʻo ke Kāula Salallahu alaihi wasallam ka mea aloha loa, ʻAʻole wau e hoʻopunipuni. E nana pono ana i ka moolelo o ke Kaula Salallahu alaihi wasallam, e ʻike ʻoe ua hāʻawi ʻo ia i ka mahalo nui i kāna mau wahine a ke hōʻike nei i ka manaʻo kiʻekiʻe, mālama a aloha iā lākou. ʻO ia ke kumu hoʻohālike maikaʻi loa no ke ʻano kūpono i ka wahine. Ua hōʻoluʻolu ʻo ia i kāna mau wahine, e holoi ana i ko lakou waimaka, mahalo i ko lakou mau manao, ka lohe ana i ka lakou olelo, mālama i kā lākou hoʻopiʻi, e hoopau ana i ko lakou kaumaha, e hele pu ana me lakou i ka pikiniki, heihei me lakou, e amo ana i ko lakou haalele ana, e kūkākūkā pū ana me lākou, malama ana i ko lakou hanohano, kākoʻo iā lākou i nā pilikia, e hai aku ana i kona aloha ia lakou a ua hauoli loa me ia aloha.

Pono ke kāne a me ka wahine e hoʻopaʻa i kekahi i kekahi ma ka psychologically, ma ke kino a ma ka uhane. Eia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi a me nā manaʻo e pono ai mākou e hoʻokō e hoʻokō i kahi male o ke aloha:

1) E ʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo
Ke hai aku nei ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam ia Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha : "Ua maopopo iaʻu ke ʻoluʻolu a huhū paha ʻoe iaʻu. wahi a Aisha: Pehea ʻoe i ʻike ai? Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia: Ke ʻoluʻolu ʻoe iaʻu, hoʻohiki ʻoe ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana "Ma ke Akua o Mohammad" akā inā huhū ʻoe e hoʻohiki ʻoe ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana "Ma ke Akua o Ibrahim". Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia: Pololei ʻoe, ʻAʻole wau e haʻi i kou inoa."
Pono ke kāne a me ka wahine e hoʻomaopopo i ka manaʻo o kekahi. Pono ke kāne e ana i ka wā e huhū a kaumaha paha kāna wahine, pela no ka wahine e heluhelu i ka hana a kana kane. Ma ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā manaʻo o kekahi, e kōkua i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā ʻokoʻa. Ke kaumaha a huhū paha kāu kāne, ma laila e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia. Noho pū me lākou, e kamaʻilio pū me lākou, e hoʻolohe iā lākou. E ho'āʻo a hoʻomake iā lākou. Inā ʻike mau ke kāne i ka manaʻo o kāna wahine, a ʻike mau ka wahine i ka manaʻo o ke kāne, a laila e kōkua nui kēia i ka mālama ʻana i ka 'flicker'.

2) E hōʻoluʻolu iā ia
Aia ʻo Sayyidah Safiyah radiallahu anha i kahi huakaʻi me ke Kāula Salallahu alaihi wasallam. Ua lohi ʻo ia no laila ua hoʻokipa ke kāula ʻo Salallahu alaihi wasallam iā ia e uē ana. Holoi ka Makaula Salallahu alaihi wasallam i kona mau waimaka me kona mau lima ponoi a hoao e hoomaha ia ia..
ʻO kēia kekahi hiʻohiʻona e pono ai ka male. Pono kēlā me kēia kāne e noho ma laila no kekahi i nā manawa maikaʻi a me nā manawa ʻino. Pono ka wahine e hōʻoluʻolu a hōʻoluʻolu i ke kāne a pono i ke kāne ke loaʻa ka pumehana a me ke aloha i kāna wahine. E akahai kekahi i kekahi.

3) E waiho ana ma ka uha o ka wahine
E noho ana ka Makaula Salallahu alaihi wasallam ma ka uha o ko kakou makuahine aloha Sayyidah Aisha radaillahu anha a hiki i ka mokuaina i kona wa e ma'i ai.. E heluhelu ana ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam i ka Qur῾ān oiai e moe ana ma ka uha o kana wahine..
ʻEhia mau manawa a mākou i hoʻomaha ai ma ka ʻūhā o kā mākou hoa kāne? He mea liʻiliʻi paha kēia mau hana akā ʻo ia nā hana e hoʻopili ai i nā puʻuwai. Hiki i ka wahine ke ʻike a ʻike i ke aloha o kāna kāne iā ia ma ia mau hana. I kēlā me kēia manawa e hoʻi mai i ka home a hele wale a hoʻomaha ma ka poli o kāu wahine. E mahalo nui ʻo ia i kēia hana.

4) Hoʻopili i ka lauoho o ka hoa kāne:
Aisha radiallahu anha e pulu i ka lauoho o ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam a holoi i kona lauoho.
ʻO kēia ka pili pono o nā kāne. E ulu ana ke aloha a ulu aʻe i kahi nui e makemake ai ka wahine e hana i nā mea a pau no ka hoa kāne ʻē aʻe inā ʻo ia e hui pū i ko lākou lauoho.. No ka mālama ʻana i ke aloha kiʻekiʻe, e hana hoi i na mea liilii no kau wahine. He hopena koʻikoʻi ko nā hana liʻiliʻi i ka manaʻo o ka wahine. Kakaʻikahi ka huluhulu, e lawe i ko lakou mau lole e aahu ai, e lawe mai i mea inu anu i ka la wela, hoʻomākaukau i kekahi mea no lākou etc.

5) ʻO ka inu ʻana a me ka ʻai ʻana mai kahi hoʻokahi:
E inu ʻo Aisha radiallahu anha i ke kīʻaha. Na ke Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam e lawe i keia kiaha a e imi i kahi i pili ai na lehelehe o kana wahine aloha.. I ka loaa ana o kahi i inu ai kana wahine i ke kiaha, e kau ana i kona mau lehelehe ma kahi hookahi i pili ai kona mau lehelehe i kahi a kona mau lehelehe i hoopa aku ai. A laila inu ʻo ia i nā mea o loko o ke kīʻaha i ka manawa like me ka leʻaleʻa i ka hui ʻana me kāna wahine. I ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻiʻo e ʻai ai, E ʻai ʻo Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha. Lawe ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam i ka io mai kona lima aku a waiho hou i kona waha ma kahi hookahi a kana wahine i ai ai.. E hoʻonui kēia i ka ʻono o ke aloha i kāna ʻai.
E hana pū me kāu wahine. Mai ʻai wale i ka manawa like a ma ka pākaukau hoʻokahi, aka, e ai i ka pa hookahi. E waiho wale i ka pā like, e ai pu me ka mea ai hookahi. Na kēia e hoʻopaʻa i nā puʻuwai pili loa i kekahi i kekahi. Ke lilo nā mea a pau a kāu wahine i mea aloha iā ʻoe ma mua o ka meaʻai ponoʻī, e noʻonoʻo i ka lapalapa o ke aloha i kou ola?

6) Honi:
Honi mau ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam i kana wahine. ʻOiai e hoʻokē ʻai ana ʻo ia salallahu alaihi wasallam, honi ʻo ia i kāna wahine.
E hoʻomaikaʻi pinepine i kāu kāne me nā honi. Ke puka i ka hale, e hana mau i kou ha'alele 'ana ma ka launa pū me kāu wahine. I ka hoʻi ʻana i ka home, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana aku i ke aloha iā ia, e hōʻike i kou aloha iā ia.
Ke hana ʻo ia a paʻa paha i kāna mau hana hale, kāhāhā iā ia me ka honi. Pono ʻoe e hōʻike i kou aloha. ʻO ke aloha ka wahie o ka male ʻana; inā makemake ʻoe e holomua kāu male ʻana, pono ʻoe e hōʻike i kou aloha ma nā ʻano a pau āu e hiki ai.
He mea nui ka pilina kino ma ka male. ʻO ka ʻōlelo kaulana, "ʻoi aku ka leo o nā hana ma mua o nā ʻōlelo." E hōʻike i kāu wahine aloha iā ia. Hoʻolaha ʻo Sharī῾ah i ke aloha a me ka pilina kino ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam,
"ʻO ka pilina pili me kāu wahine he Sadaqah."

6) ʻO ka hāpai ʻana i ka ʻai i kona waha
Ua ʻōlelo ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam : Inā hoʻolilo ʻoe i kahi kālā e uku ʻia ʻoe no ia, -ʻoiai ʻoe e hāpai i ka ʻai ma ka waha o kāu wahine.
Pono ke kāne a me ka wahine e hana i kēia mau hana akahai e hōʻike i ko lāua aloha a me ka mahalo. E hānai i kāu wahine me kou mau lima pono'ī i kēia manawa a i kēlā manawa. E ho'ā hou kēia i ka lapalapa o ke aloha i kāu male.

7) Kōkua iā ia i ka hana hale:
Na ke Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam e hoomaemae a kokua ma ka home. E nānā ʻo ia i kāna mau pono ma mua o ke koi ʻana i kāna wahine. E hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻo ia a nānā pono i kona ʻaʻahu.
Me ka ninau ole ia, inā kōkua nā kāne i kekahi i kekahi i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā, e mahalo ai kekahi i kekahi. Pela no, e ho'āʻo kekahi i ka mea maikaʻi loa ʻaʻole e koi aku i kāna kāne e hana nui i nā mea. ʻO kēlā me kēia mea hiki ke hana iā ia iho, pono iā ia ke hana. Pono mākou e noʻonoʻo i ka hoa kāne. Hana luhi ka wahine i ka lā a pau. No laila, inā e noʻonoʻo ke kāne a ʻike i kāna wahine e hana ikaika ana, pili keia i ka wahine. Pela no, ina e hele ka wahine e nana i ka pono o kana kane e noonoo, e hoʻoulu ai i ke aloha nui ma waena o lāua.

8 ) Haʻi ʻana i kāna mau moʻolelo
E kūkākūkā i nā moʻolelo a me nā hanana me kāu kāne. E komo i nā kūkākūkā puʻuwai māmā me ia-he mea e ʻakaʻaka a hoʻohenehene. E kūkākūkā ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam i nā moʻolelo i nā manawa he nui, nā hanana a me nā kūkākūkā puʻuwai māmā. ʻIke ʻia ka moʻolelo kaulana i haʻi ʻia e Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha e pili ana iā Umm Zar'.
ʻO kēia kahi kihi i mālama ʻole ʻia ma mua o ka pinepine. He 'oihana' a pau ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine. ʻAʻole lākou e komo i nā kamaʻilio puʻuwai māmā. aka, Hoʻokani ke kāne i kona mau hoaaloha a ʻakaʻaka pū me lākou. ʻO ka wahine ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻakaʻaka ʻo ia i ka lā me kāna mau hoaaloha. ʻAʻole pono kēia. E nānā a hoʻohuli i kāu leʻaleʻa a me ka leʻaleʻa i kāu wahine. Inā makemake ʻoe e ʻakaʻaka, alaila, e akaaka oe me kau wahine.
E hoʻopaʻa i kāu papa hana i kēlā me kēia lā kahi āu e noho pū ai me kāu wahine a ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana wale i ka leʻaleʻa me ia.

9) Kaʻana like ʻana i nā manawa hauʻoli me ia:
I kekahi manawa e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ana ka poʻe ʻAitiopa i ka pana ʻana ma ka hale masjid, ku mai la ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam me kana wahine e nana ana. ʻAʻole wale ʻo ke Kāula salallahu alaihi wasallam i kū pū me kāna wahine, ʻaʻahu ʻo ia i kona ʻaʻahu a puni iā ​​ia. ʻO ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam ʻoiai he mau hana ʻē aʻe kāna e hana ai, Noho ihola ʻo ia ma laila e kū ana me kāna wahine. Hele wale ʻo ia i ka wā i makemake ai kāna wahine e hele.
Pono ke kāne e kaʻana like i nā manawa hauʻoli a me kāna wahine. Ke ua, anu a lā, pono e hoomalu kekahi i kana wahine.
Pono ʻoe e hāʻawi i kāu mau hana e hoʻolimalima manawa me kāu wahine. Ke ike ka wahine i ka mohai nona, e hoʻokumu i ke aloha nui a me ka mahalo i loko o ko lākou puʻuwai.

10)heihei me kana wahine
Na ke Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam e hooikaika a paani pu me kana wahine. Ua ʻike ʻia ka hanana kaulana o ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam e hoʻokūkū ana i kāna wahine e heihei.
I ka wā e hiki ai i nā kāne ke loaʻa nā manawa maikaʻi like, ʻo ia wale nō ka mea e ʻā ai ke aloha.

11) Kāhea ʻia ʻo ia ma ka inoa nani:
Kāhea ka Kāula salallahu alaihi wasallam i kāna wahine ʻo 'Humairā'' no ke aloha. ʻO ke ʻano o ka ʻōlelo ʻo ia ka liʻiliʻi ʻulaʻula, akā, ke ʻōlelo nei ka poʻe naʻauao, ʻo ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, pili ia i kahi kanaka nani loa a ma muli o ka lā e loaʻa ai ka ʻulaʻula ʻulaʻula.. ʻO ia ke kumu i kapa ʻia ai ʻo Humairaa' e ke Kāula salallahu alaihi wasallam..
Kāhea i kāu kāne i nā inoa momona maikaʻi. Pono e hōʻike i kāna hoa aloha i ke aloha a me ke aloha i kēlā me kēia mea liʻiliʻi. Pono kekahi e hānai mau i ke aloha i kāna kāne i mea e ʻā ai ka lapalapa.
I kekahi manawa, nana aku la ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam i na maka o kana wahine. Ke nānā nei ʻo ia i ka honua i loko o nā maka o kāna wahine. A laila ʻōlelo ʻo ia iā Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kona nani,
"Pehea kou mau maka."
ʻO kēia ka mea e pono ai. Pono ke kāne a me ka wahine e hoʻokō mau a hoʻomaikaʻi kekahi i kekahi. Pono ke kāne e hōʻike i kona aloha a me ka hoihoi i kāna wahine. Pono ka wahine e hōʻike i kona aloha i kāna kāne. Ke loaʻa kahi pilina pānaʻi, piʻi kiʻekiʻe ka male.

12)Nā lole no kāu kāne
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Sayyiduna Ibn Abbās radiallahu anhu: "E like me kaʻu wahine e hoʻonani iā ​​ia iho noʻu, Hoʻonani wau iaʻu iho nona. ʻAʻole au makemake e lawe i koʻu mau pono a pau iā ia i ʻole e lawe ʻo ia i kāna mau pono āpau mai iaʻu no ke Akua, ka Mea Kiekie, i ʻōlelo ʻia penei: "A e loaʻa i nā wāhine nā kuleana e like me nā kuleana kū'ē iā lākou." (Qur῾ān 2 :228.)
ʻO kēia kahi kahi e hāʻule ai ka nui o nā kāne. ʻAʻahu wale ka wahine i ka wā kūikawā. ʻO ke kāne ma ka lima ʻaʻole mālama i ka maʻemaʻe a me ka maʻemaʻe. Inā makemake nā kāne i kā lākou mau lā i mea kūikawā e like me kā lāua lā male, pono lākou e ʻaʻahu e hoʻohihi!
E aahu ka wahine i ka lole e oluolu ai kana kane. Pela no, e komo ke kane i ka mea a ka wahine e makemake ai. I kēlā me kēia manawa ke nānā aku ke kāne a me ka wahine, ʻo ka nānā ʻana e hoʻāla iā lākou a e hoʻāla hou i ke aloha i kā lāua kāne. E hoʻā ana kēia i ke aloha i loko o ka puʻuwai.

13)Ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka mea ʻala:
Na ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam he ipu no ka mea ala. Hoʻohana mau ʻo ia i ka ʻala. E hooikaika kekahi e honi i kana wahine i na manawa a pau. Nānā maikaʻi, malama maemae, honi maikaʻi hoʻomaikaʻi i ka pilina exceptionally. E hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kou lauoho, maikai kou lole a honi. ʻO kēia ka mea e huki ai i kāu kāne i nā manawa a pau a e hoʻokomo i ke aloha i loko o ka male.

14)Mai kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāna mau mea pilikino:
Ua wehewehe ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam i ka mea i hoike aku i ka hana a kana wahine i na mea e ae, oia kekahi o na kanaka ino loa..
ʻO nā mea a pau e kū nei ma waena o ʻoe a me kāu kāne e noho ma waena o ʻolua. Nani ke kane a me ka hilahila ke kamaʻilio ke kāne i kāna wahine me kāna mau hoaaloha? ʻAʻole pono e haʻi ʻia nā mea huna a me nā pilikia o ka wahine i kekahi. Mai kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu wahine iā haʻi. Nou kau wahine. No kāu wahine ʻoe. Pono kou kūpaʻa a me kou kūpaʻa i kāu kāne.

15) Aloha & mahalo i ko lakou mau ohana
ʻO kekahi kumu nui e kōkua ai i ka pilina olakino ʻo ke aloha a mālama i ka ʻohana o kāu kāne. Ua nīnau ʻia ka Makaula salallahu alaihi wasallam ʻo wai kāna i aloha nui ai. Pane akula ʻo ia, “Aisha.” I ka wa a ka mea ninau i olelo hou mai ai i kana ninau a ninau mai i na kanaka, wahi āna i pane aku ai, "ʻO kona makuakāne."
Ua hiki i ka Makaula ke olelo maalahi ia Abu Bakr. Hōʻike kāna pane i ke akamai a me ke akamai, ma ka pane hoʻokahi, ua hōʻike ʻo ia i kona aloha i kāna wahine a me kāna ʻohana. Ua hōʻike ʻo ia i kona aloha i kona mau makuahōnōwai. E noʻonoʻo i ka hauʻoli o kāna wahine ʻo Sayyidah Aisha i ka lohe ʻana i kēia pane?
E hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu mau makua kāne i mua o kāu wahine. E hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu wahine i kona ʻohana. E mahalo nui kāu wahine i kēia.

Mai hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ke koʻikoʻi o nā mea liʻiliʻi e like me ka waiho ʻana i ka meaʻai ma ka waha o kāu wahine, wehe ana i ka puka o ke kaa nona, etc.
E hoʻāʻo e ʻimi mau i kahi manawa e pule like ai ʻolua. ʻO ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka pilina ma waena o ʻoe a me Allah Subhanahu wa Taʻala ʻo ia ka hōʻoia maikaʻi loa e paʻa mau ai kāu paʻa male ponoʻī.. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka maluhia me Allah Subhanahu wa Taʻala e loaʻa mau ai ka maluhia ma ka home.