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Izvor : Islamicexperiences.com : Preduvjeti braka Ishrat Ali
Bismillah ar rahman ar raheem. Holam Alaykum za rahmati wa jarkethu. Jednom je rekao mudar čovjek, “Osoba provodi djetinjstvo igrajući se, Njegova mladost u spavanju i starosti plačući”. Narod je pitao, “Zašto bi plakao u svojoj starosti?” ‘Poslanik se smijao dok nisam mogao vidjeti njegove kutnjake., “Ta će osoba plakati jer će to biti vrijeme kada će se probuditi iz sna. Shvatit će koliko je vremena izgubio!”

Na trenutak, Zatvori oči. Prvi ajet koji je objavljen naredio nam je da čitamo. Ako se još niste vjenčali, Zatim samo razmislite neko vrijeme s otvorenim umom. Zapitaj se, Kakvu biste osobu željeli oženiti?

Znam da mnogi ljudi imaju idealnu osobu u glavi za koga se žele vjenčati. Točno je i nije pogrešno razmišljati na taj način. Vjerujem da je u redu to učiniti.

Međutim, Ništa se nikada nije lako naći. Ponekad moramo kopati dublje poput arhitekta, letite viši poput ptice koja se želi migrirati na toplije mjesto kako bi dobila ono što želimo.

Svi maštamo savršenu osobu s kojom želimo provesti ostatak života, ali jesmo li okrenuli nekoliko koraka unatrag i pogledali sebe u ogledalo. Ako pogledamo sebe, Mi nismo ništa slično idealnoj osobi koju želimo. Kako onda možemo biti kompatibilni jedni s drugima. Ako se želim oženiti savršenom osobom, Zar ne bih trebao biti savršen sam? Brak je sve u tome da ne preuzmete! Kako ću moći vratiti savršenstvo koje dobivam od svog supružnika?

Jednostavno je! Odgovor je jedan!

Moramo se promijeniti. Učinite naša srca čista radi Allaha Subhana wa ta'ala. Then only we can seek Allah’s help and InshaAllah we will marry someone great.

Marriage is the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam. It brings lots of happiness and peace. However it is a huge responsibility. When we sign our marriage contract, we have to be prepared for it. We have to be ready to shoulder all the responsibilities that come with it. Marriage is like an exam. We can’t just go enter the class for an exam without preparing for it? Can we? We will just fail if we do that. We don’t want that. We want to be successful in our lives. We are an Ummah of success, not failure.

If you are single and if you have lots of free time, think of that free time as a blessing. For those who do not have free time and are single, you can at least try inshaAllah. Nothing is impossible if you are willing to do it.

I have thought about a few things that will not only help us get better in our Deen but also it will help us become good spouses to maintain a healthy marriage.

1. Acquire Knowledge:

Adh-Dhahabi related that they said: “Let’s sit and count the good traits that Ibn al-Mubarak has.” So, they ended up listing: “Knowledge, Fiqh, literature, grammar, Jezik, zuhd, eloquence, poezija, praying at night, ibadet, hadždž, Jihad, bravery, instinct, snagu, speaking little in what doesn’t concern him, poštenje, and lack of conflict with his companions.”

A Shaykh once said, “It is a must for the young Muslim men and women to gain knowledge about marriage in Islam before they get married”. Mislim da je dobro ako naučimo fikh brak prije nego što se vjenčamo. Također preporučujem čitanje knjiga poput idealnog muslimana, Idealan musliman.

Jednom sam upoznao jednu sestru koja mi je rekla da je prošlo trinaest godina i da je jako zadovoljna svojim brakom. Zamolila me da pročitam knjigu, “Blaženi brak”. Još uvijek ga moram pročitati inshaallah. Dobro je ako čitate puno knjiga.

Abu 'Abdullah Muhammad bin Isma'il al-Buhari je pitao:
“Što je to što jača nečije sjećanje?”
‘Poslanik se smijao dok nisam mogao vidjeti njegove kutnjake.: “Stalno gledajući knjige.”

2. Briga o sebi:

Da! Trebali bismo se dobro brinuti o sebi. Ako ne, Onda kako se možemo pobrinuti za svog supružnika?

• Vježbajte svakodnevno
• biti čist
• Jedite pravilno tri puta dnevno.
• Obavezno se dobro oblačite
• Održavajte svoj izgled, itd

Allah says in the Qur’an:
“O’ Children of Adam! Wear your beautiful apparel at every time and place of prayer: eat and drink: but waste not by excess, for Allah loves not the wasters. Reći, Who has forbidden the beautiful [gifts] od Allaha, which He has produced for His servants, and the things, clean and pure, [which He has provided] for sustenance? Reći: Oni su, in the life of this world, for those who believe, [i] purely for them on the Day of Judgment. Thus do We explain the Signs in detail for those who understand.” (7:31-32)

3. Keep yourself on the Deen:

Pray all the five daily prayers. Read Qur’an daily or at least twice a week inshaAllah. Give Sadaqah. Fast as much as you can.

Abu ad-Darda (Radi Allahu Anhu) rekao je:
“My beloved friend (tj., the Prophet Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) advised me to do three things that I shall never give up as long as I live: brzo tri dana u mjesecu, moliti dva, I ne spavati dok se nisam molio Witr.” (muslimanski, 5/235)

4. Radite na svom liku:

Prorok (Sall allyyyyyhi wa sallam), Tko ima najbolje od manira, rekao je,

“Najbolje među vama je najbolji među vama u manirima.” (Povezao Buharee (6035)

Znate sebe bolje od bilo koga. Naučite imati dobre manire. Poštujte ljude oko sebe. Nasmiješite se svima.

Al-Fowel ibn 'navikao sam na stranu, “Kad je lik osobe loš, tada i loše (I siromašan) Je li njegova praksa religije, Njegov status, i njegov udio ljubavi [među ljudima].” (Knjiga manira, stranica 435)

5. Daj sve od sebe u praćenju sunneta:

Prorok (Sall allyyyyyhi wa sallam) imao najbolji karakter i manire. Bio je ljubazan i plemenit prema svima. Mi smo njegov ummet i on (Sall allyyyyyhi wa sallam) Je li naš uzor. Nitko drugi!

Allah says in the Qur’an:

“Reći (o Muhammede (Sall allyyyyyhi wa sallam) čovječanstvu): Ako ti (stvarno) Voli Allah, onda me slijedi (tj., prihvatiti islamski monoteizam, Slijedite Kur'an i sunnet), Allah will love you…” (3:31)

There is so much you can do before you get married. If you really work hard now, once you get married everything will become easy for you. You will know exactly what to do and what to expect from others.

All the best in your marriage. Expect the best from Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala and more importantly don’t forget to make lots of Duas. Ask Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala to grant you a pious spouse, great in laws and also that you become a good spouse inshaAllah.

We all want to marry this very special person we have in our minds. Međutim, when we look inside our hearts, we can see so much darkness. We need to replace that darkness with the light of our Emaan. Then only we reach be successful in our marriage and our lives as well. Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala knows what is in our hearts and what we want. If we really want the best, we should be willing to sacrifice our sleep. We need to devote ourselves to Him to seek His pleasure. Allah Subhana Wa ta’ala wants what is best for us. It is we who need to become better Muslims inshaAllah. This advice is to myself first and then to everyone inshaAllah. I pray to Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala that we be among the couples of Jannah! Amin

Umar bin Al Khattab (Radi Allahu Anhu) rekao je, “Nothing succeeds perfection but imperfection”

Let’s do this inshaAllah!! Allahu ekber!

“In accordance with how good your expectations of and hope in Allah are and how truthful your reliance and trust are in Him, Allah will not betray your hopes in the least, as He does not betray the hopes of those who hope and does not cause any effort to go to waste.”- Knjiga: “Reflections: Expecting The Best From Allah”

Article submitted by Ishrat Ali
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Izvor : Islamicexperiences.com : Preduvjeti braka Ishrat Ali