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Jèn lamarye ak Veterinè cheval la ki gen anpil kè kontan yo kontan anpil pou maryaj k ap vini an ak maryaj la ak kè kontan ke li pral pote..

Twa a sis mwa pita, reyalite a te mete nan ak tou de mari oswa madanm reyalize ke maryaj se pa yon travay fasil, men youn ki mande anpil efò ak pasyans.

Sa ki anba la yo se konsèy pou tou de madanm ak mari, pou ede fè travay la yon ti kras mwens redoutable, ak ogmante anpil rekonpans ki posib nan yon relasyon bèl bagay ak konplèks.

1. Antre nan maryaj la ak entansyon an dwa ak renouvle sa a souvan

Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing Allah, Subhanana ou ye, in order to receive His grace and blessings. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. Allah will be pleased with them and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one’s intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.

2. Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam

Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, men Lè sa a, konpòte yo nan yon fason trè diferan lè li rive pwòp mari oswa madanm yo. Mizilman yo ta dwe toujou sonje ke mari oswa madanm yon moun se tou yon lòt frè oswa sè nan Islam e ke dwa ak devwa ki aplike nan fratènite jeneral la. (sè) nan Islam, ta dwe tou fòme baz la nan relasyon marital la. Li evidan, yon mari oswa madanm gen dwa pi lwen pase sa yo, men ta dwe gen yon konpreyansyon klè sou dwa fratènite yo (sè) ak aderans ak prensip sa yo.

3. Pa kenbe atant ireyèl

Anvan maryaj, moun souvan gen lide ireyèl sou mari oswa madanm yo-a-yo, tann pèfeksyon nan tout aspè. Sa a raman, si tout tan, jwe an reyalite epi li ka mennen nan pwoblèm ak enkyetid ki pa nesesè. Nou ta dwe sonje ke Allah, Subhanana ou ye, te kreye moun kòm èt enpafè, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. Sa a, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage.

4. Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse

Since no one is endowed with all of the best qualities, emphasis should be placed on the positive qualities that a spouse possesses. Encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. An attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics, pa gen anyen yo dwe fyè de bagay la sèlman ki aktyèlman kenbe yo ale se ego bèbè yo, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, te di, “A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her, men ka jwenn yon lòt nan li ki fè plezi.” (Mizilman)

5. Fè pi bon zanmi konpayon ou a

Eseye panse a sa yon pi bon zanmi vle di epi fè youn ak mari oswa madanm ou. Sa ka vle di pataje enterè, eksperyans, rèv, echèk ak boulvèsan. Sa ka enplike konprann renmen ak pa renmen yon mari oswa madanm epi eseye fè l plezi nan nenpòt fason posib.. Yon pi bon zanmi se tou anjeneral yon moun ki ka fè konfyans, epi konte sou li. Yon konjwen ta dwe kalite zanmi ke yon moun ta vle kenbe pandan tout lavi.

6. Pase bon kalite tan ansanm

Li pa ase pou pataje manje, travay ak ti pale ansanm. Konjwen yo ta dwe jwenn tan tou pou konsantre sou ranfòse relasyon an. Souvan koup yo okipe ak pwòp travay separe yo epi bliye travay sou youn nan eleman ki pi enpòtan nan lavi yo. Tan bon jan kalite ka anyen soti nan gen yon trankil, konvèsasyon pwofon pou ale pou yon bèl mache long lanati, pataje yon pastan espesyal oswa pwojè. Tou de mari oswa madanm yo ta dwe jwi opsyon an patikilye chwazi ak distraksyon yo ta dwe kenbe nan yon minimòm.

7. Eksprime santiman yo souvan

Sa a se pwobableman yon trè “Lwès fim” konsèp ak youn ke kèk moun ka gen difikilte pou akonpli, men li enpòtan pou w ouvè ak onèt sou santiman yon moun, tou de pozitif ak negatif. Liy kominikasyon yo ta dwe toujou louvri epi nenpòt enkyetid yo ta dwe pote bay atansyon lòt mari oswa madanm nan le pli vit ke yo leve.. The rationale of this is that what begins as a simple concern may grow into a major problem if it is not addressed quickly and properly. La “silent treatment” has never been the remedy for anything.

8. Admit to Mistakes and ask for Forgiveness

Just as we ask Allah to forgive us when we make mistakes, we should also do the same with our spouses. The stronger person is the one who can admit when he or she is wrong, request pardon from the other, and work hard to improve his/her aspects that are in need of change. When a person is unwilling to do this, there will be little growth and development in the marriage.

9. Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past

It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. Nan Islam, it is generally not recommended to dwell on the past. One may remember errors that were made so that they are not repeated, but this should not be done excessively. Sètènman, as humans, we are not in the position to judge another person. Advice may be given, but not in a harmful manner.

10. Surprise Each Other at Times

This may entail bringing home a small gift or flowers, preparing a special meal, dressing up and beautifying oneself (this is not only for women), or sending a secret note in a lunchbox. A little imagination will go a long way here. The idea is to spice up the marriage and avoid getting into a dull routine that may negatively affect the marriage.

11. Have a Sense of Humour

This particular aspect can go a long way in preventing arguments and brightening the atmosphere of the home. Life is a constant stream of challenges and tests, epi apwòch li nan yon fason ki lejè ap ede fè vwayaj la pi dous ak pi agreyab. Ou ka jwenn tou ke mari oswa madanm ou jwi karakteristik sa a epi li sanble pou pi devan pou pase tan avèk ou poutèt sa.

Konsèy rapid pou diskisyon ak dezakò:

– Kòmanse ak entansyon pou rezoud pwoblèm nan. Si tou de mari oswa madanm gen entansyon sa a ak plan pou konsilte ansanm, li gen plis chans ke pral gen yon rezolisyon siksè.

– Sonje ke li pran de pou diskisyon. Si yon sèl moun chwazi pa diskite, pap gen diskisyon. Anjeneral, moun ki mal la fè pi fò nan pale.

– Tou de mari oswa madanm pa ta dwe fache an menm tan. Si youn nan mari oswa madanm yo vin fache, li pi bon si lòt la eseye rete kalm ak kolekte.

– Pa janm rele youn ak lòt sof si kay la ap boule. Natirèlman, dife nan kay pa rive trè souvan; rèl ta dwe rive nan apeprè menm vitès la.

– Pa janm al dòmi ak yon diskisyon pa regle. Sa a se youn nan pi move bagay ki ka rive nan yon maryaj epi yo ta dwe evite otank posib. Sa a pèmèt santiman blese ak panse yo retade epi jeneralman agrave pwoblèm nan.

– Si yon mari oswa madanm bezwen pou genyen, kite se konpayon ou. Pa konsantre sou genyen tèt ou; sa a se rezon prensipal ki fè diskisyon yo gen tandans vin chofe.
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