HÁZASSÁG – Husband's obligations

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Által: Ml. I Khamissa
Have you ever pondered over the Khutbah which the Imaam recited to you before you enthusiastically uttered “Nakahtuhaa Wa Qabiltuhaa Wa Tazawwajtuhaa?”

Let us shed some light over this contract which you have made yourself party to, vagyis “The Nikah Contract.” The Imaam recited to you three verses from the Noble Qurãn:

– Surah Nissa (4) vers 1

“O Mankind Fear your guardian Lord who created you from a single soul, and He created from it its mate and from them He scattered many men and women.”

– Surah Aale Imraan (3) vers 102

O Ye who believe! Fear Allah as He should be feared and die not except in a state of Islam.

– Surah Ahzaab (33) vers 70

O Ye who believe. Fear Allah and make your utterances straight.

TAQWA:The common element in each of these verses is the Arabic word “Taqwa” (God Consciousness). Ezekben a versekben emlékeztetnek arra, hogy félj Allah Taãla -tól úgy, ahogyan azt a hölgyet kezeli, akit feleségének szed. Nincs senki, aki látja, hogyan viselkedsz az otthonában. Hagyja, hogy az a tény és a hit, hogy Allah figyeli, irányítja Önt a feleségednek a nővel való bánásmódjában, azáltal, hogy megérdemli a tiszteletet és a méltóságot, amelyet megérdemel.

Ön hozta valaki lányát a saját otthonába. Elhagyta a családját, A barátai, szoros munkatársak, és sok esetben még a városban is, amelyben nőtt fel, és egy furcsa környezetbe került, hogy csak egész életét megosszák veled. Átadták neked, hogy fizikai és szóbeli visszaélésed célpontja legyen?

A próféta (Samlahiii Olayaha Weiveram) is reported to have said in connection with the treatment of animals:

“Fear Allah in your treatment of these animals who cannot speak.” If this was his concern for the animals, how tremendously greater would his concern have been for humans; ezért, can you imagine what his reaction would have been to the wife battering that takes place nowadays?

What then are the most important ingredients of a happy marriage? Allah Taãla says in Surah Roum (30) vers 21.

“And from amongst His signs is that He created for you from amongst yourselves partners, that you may live in tranquility with them, and He has created love and mercy between you. Bizony ebben vannak jelek azok számára, akik gondolkodnak.”

It is this love and mercy that strengthens the bond of marriage. The ability to overlook each other”s faults goes a long way in cementing the relationship. Once a man came to Rasulullah (Samlahiii Olayaha Weiveram) és mondta,

“Ó Allah”s messenger, how many times should I forgive the wrongs of my slaves.” A próféta (Samlahiii Olayaha Weiveram) válaszolta, “Forgive them seventy times a day.” If a worker is entitled to so much of compassion what about your lifelong companion?

BEST OF YOU:Ma, we are very courteous to our clients, appreciative to our colleagues and cheerful to our friends. Unfortunately this warmth is not extended to the poor wife who is most deserving of this courtesy and charm. A próféta (Samlahiii Olayaha Weiveram) állítólag azt mondta, “The most complete of believers in faith are those who are best in character. The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Mishkat)

Every person has shortcomings. It is therefore quite natural to find this in your partner. A próféta (Samlahiii Olayaha Weiveram) has advised us to take pleasure in the good and overlook the bad. Have you ever spared the thought that there may be so many habits which you possess that may be bringing grief to your wife? She may have been patiently bearing it not wanting to hurt your feelings.

Let us go back and fulfil the demands of this contract.

TREAT YOUR WIFE AS YOU WOULD LIKE YOUR SON-IN-LAW TO TREAT YOUR DAUGHTER.
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