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Ozi ndị ọzọ
- Ihe abụọ kacha ewute maka ịgba alụkwaghịm
- Alụmdi na Nwunye Na-aga nke Ọma: Njikọ na-efu efu
- [Pọdkastị] Ịnagide Ịtụkwasị Obi nke Mmetụta
- [Pọdkastị] Akụkụ 2: Otu esi akwado onwe gị na mmetụta mmetụta uche, Uche na Ime Mmụọ Maka Alụmdi na Nwunye
- She received a marriage proposal from someone who is infertile and her family rejected him
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Ajụjụ
“Islam nyere nwoke ikike ịlụ nwunye anọ. Gịnị kpatara na nwanyị enweghị ike inwe di anọ?
Zaa
Al Hamdulilah, was-salat was-salam ala rasulullah. Allahu 'Alim.
(It is Allah who has All Knowledge)
Rights and Limits
Na mbụ, it is important for us to keep in mind that Islam came to establish two very important fundamentals for human beings:
Rights and Limits.
Everyone and everything has certain rights given to it by the Creator and Sustainer of the universe (Chineke). N'otu oge ahụ, each creation has its own limitations established by Allah.
First Right – Allah has the right to be worshipped without making partners from what He has created. Direct worship to Him, naanị ya.
Second Right – Prophet’s right to be followed according to his teaching and commandments.
Third Right – Parents rights to be honored and cared for, with special emphasis on the mother first.
Fourth Right – Wives and Husbands have rights on each other.
Conditions 1,400 Years Ago
Now let us do some basic research here. We begin by looking into the condition of the women in various societies at the time 1,400 years ago when Allah revealed the Quran to Muhammad, udo na ngozi diri ya.
Pagan Arabs – Burying Girls Alive
During that time the pagan Arab men used to bury their newborn daughters alive in the sand, out of shame for having something so low and disgusting like a girl instead of a son. Women were treated horribly and with utter disgust.
Men could marry as many as they liked and very often they owned women like cattle or sheep. There were no laws to protect the women and they had no rights at all.
Christians – Arguing If Women Had Souls
Christians at that time were holding council meetings to determine whether or not a woman even had a soul. The church blamed “Eve” the mother of all humans after Adam (udo na ngozi diri ya) for the “original sin” and damned her and her seed for what she had done.
Priests – Best Men – Forbidden Marriage – To Any Women
Priests, bishops, cardinals and even the Pope are the very best of the Catholic men within the church. Yet the church still forbids their clergymen the chance for marriage and families. This unnatural situation has caused very serious ramifications throughout the society around the world.
Nuns – Best Women – No Marriage – No Children
Nuns are the very best of the Catholic women. They cover themselves in proper attire much the same way as the Muslim women. Ma, they are never allowed to marry or have children throughout their lives. This unnatural condition has caused untold number of disgraceful and disgusting practices within the very church itself.
If Only Bad People Have Children – What About Tomorrow?
We must ask the question, “If the very best of the men and the very best of the women are not allowed to marry or have children – does this mean only the worst of the people are the ones allowed to reproduce and populate the world?” – And where will that leave us tomorrow?
Jews – Blame Women and Curse Women
The Jews blamed women for the “original sin” and as such they were treated with disgust. A woman’s monthly cycle was considered by the Old Testament of the Bible to be a “curse from God” for her inequities. Her child bearing pains were also a ‘punishment from God’ for her bringing man down from heaven.
Islam – No Blame On Women For Evil
Islam does not blame Eve for Adam’s sin. Each of them accepted their own mistake and repented to Allah, and asked Allah to forgive them and Allah did forgive them.
Now before going any further, please read Surah An-Nisa’ (isi 4 in the Quran) – all the way through, in order to better understand what is actually being said about women, men and marriage.
Read Quran
Now let us think about the verses. Do you believe that Allah Knows what He created and He has revealed the perfect ‘Deen’? Do you know the condition of the people at the time the order came to restrict the number of wives? (Restricted to be only four)
“Now read the verse about having more than one wife, very carefully.” [Noble Quran 4:3]
What does it say? And what do you understand from it?
“Now read the ayah (amaokwu) Nke ahụ machibidoro ndị nwoke ịlụ nwanyị ndị lụrụla.” [Noble Quran 4:24]
Ugbu a gụpụta site na-Nisa’ (Isi 4) banyere oru ụmụ nwoke na ụmụ nwanyị. [4:34]
Nwoke na-akwado ma na-echebe ụmụ nwanyị
Ị ghọtara na mmadụ ga-arụ ọrụ nke onye nkwado, onye nchegide, onye na-eweta, Onye na-elekọta ezinụlọ na-elekọta ezinụlọ (Ọrụ Mmadu)?
Nwanyị na-amụ nwa – Exsatemụaka
Mmadụ ga-arụ ọrụ nke iburu nwatakịrị ahụ na ịnapụta ya wee nye ya nri na ịzụlite ya ka ọ ghọọ ezigbo ohu nke Allah (Ọrụ Nwanyị).
Ha nhata – Mana a na-emeso ya ikpe ziri ezi
Ụmụ nwoke na ụmụ nwanyị abụghị otu ma ọ bụ na ha bụ “nhara” Dị ka ụfọdụ folks ga-eme ka anyị kwere. Ihe obula di n'otu n'otu’ Ihe ịrịba ama ga-abụrịrị otu ihe dị n'akụkụ nke ọzọ na-enweghị ọdịiche dị na uru ọ bụla, naanị n'ụzọ ọ na-egosipụta. How then could we say that a man, who is unable to conceive or give birth and then breast feed a baby is the equal to a woman who can?
Equal In Faith And Actions
They are equal in their beliefs and good deeds of course. But still they are not the same as each other. Each one must fulfill their role as humans.
Children’s Rights Protected
Islam is also very much about rights. Children also have rights in Islam. When a man dies his wealth is left to his family. How could the court know who to give the wealth of a man, if he was one of several husbands to a woman? How would a child know who his father was? No society ever supported the concept of a woman being married to two or more men at the same time.
Women’s Right – Best Treatment
Almost every society supported the concept of a man having more than one woman. Ma, they did not limit the number nor did they provide the protection and maintenance that Islam insists on for each one. Islam came to set things straight. Women were given rights. Men were strictly ordered to treat their women with the very best of treatment.
Limit – Number in Marriage
When the verse was revealed the companions of Muhammad (udo na ngozi diri ya)did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.
Limit – Equal Maintenance and Treatment
Nke abụọ, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?
Osote, the limitation very clearly states; “.. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (ha na ha) mgbe ahụ naanị otu …”
Muslims Today – Most Monogamous
Step by step, the men of Islam have come to be known today as the most monogamous of all men on earth (we only have one wife). Check for yourself and see. In the majority of all the Muslim homes on earth, a man gets married once, to one woman and then he stays married to her until the death of either himself or his wife.
Woman’s Right To Choose Any Husband She Likes -Even If He Is Already Married
Otu ihe dị mkpa nke ọha na eze na-elegharakarị anya na-eleghara ụmụ nwanyị na-enye ụmụ nwanyị na ọ naghị enye nwoke ahụ. Otu nwoke pere mpe ịlụ naanị nwanyị na-alụbeghị di. Igbanihe, Nke a na-enyere ụmụaka aka ma na-egbo ha ihe nketa site na Nna. Mana Islam na-enyekwa ụmụ nwanyị ịlụ nwoke alụọla nwanyị nke ịlụn iji chebe ya na ọha mmadụ ebe ọnụ ọgụgụ ụmụ nwanyị na-ahụ ọnụ ọgụgụ ụmụ nwoke. “Mgbe ọ bụ n’abalị nke etiti Shaban, Nwanyị ahụ nwere nnukwu nhọrọ nke ụmụ nwoke ịhọrọ site na. N'ezie, O nwere ikike ịhọrọ nwoke ọ bụla n'ime obodo ma ọ bụrụhaala na ọ nweghị ndị nwunye anọ. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. Ka emechara, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.
Women Need Husbands – Allah Provided the Answer
Onye amụma ahụ (udo na ngozi diri ya) predicted that in the Last Days the women would outnumber the men to a great extent. Today we are seeing this become a reality all over the world. Allah has already provided for us for this occasion. Ka emechara, He is the One who makes it all happen and He already knew that many women would come into Islam in these days. He also knew many of the Muslim men would be killed or die at an early age, just as it is happening these days. These women all need husbands. Allah has given us the solution to all of life’s problems.
Women’s Right to Vote – 1,400 Years Ago
We might add that Islam also gave the women full status as citizens over 1,400 years ago by giving her to right to speak and vote the same as anyone else. American women had to take their cause to the streets with “Women’s Suffrage” and were not granted the right to vote until just ninety years ago.
Women Keep Their Identity – And Their Names
“Mgbe ọ bụ n’abalị nke etiti Shaban, Islam protected women’s rights to keep their identity and they were not considered property of some man. Ya mere, they were no longer forced to change their last names to be that of their husbands. This is still the practice of Muslim women today just as it was fourteen hundred years ago.
Women Keep Their Property And Earnings – Men Must Share
Ma, N'otu oge ahụ ọdịda anyanwụ Society nwere nchegbu banyere ihe a na-achọ ka di na nwunye lụrụ di na nwunye, Nwoke ahụ kwesịrị ịrụ ọrụ kama nwanyị ahụ; Nwanyi nwere ihe nke aka ya n'enyeghi ihe obula maka nkwado nke ulo ma obu nwatakiri ahu; Nwatakịrị nwere ikike nke nne ya na-azụlite ha kama ilekọta nwa oge; Nna aghaghi ịkwado ụmụ ya; A na-akpọ ịgba alụkwaghịm; Alụmdi na nwunye dookwa nsọ.
West enweghị ike ịnabata mmadụ na nwanyị – N'alụlụ
Ọ bụ ihe ijuanya abụghị ya, Otu Otu dị ka America, enweghị nsogbu na-anabata mmekọahụ na-enweghị alụmdi na nwunye; nwoke idina nwoke; Alụlụ di na nwunye; Mmekọahụ na-enweghị ọrụ; ụmụaka na-enweghị ndị nna; alụkwaghịm bụ ebe a na-ahụkarị karịa ihe ma ọ bụ ọkụkọ ọkụkọ. Ma, there is no tolerance for marriage between a man and a woman if it is not on their terms.
What Needs to Be Re-evaluated?
Compare the two for yourself and see which one needs correction.
We will be waiting to hear from you. May Allah Bless you all and increase you in all that is good, ameen.
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Assalaamu a’laikum, thank you for a very imformative explanation of the marriage in Islam, Many of our brother’s and sister’s don’t understand the need for it today and want reject it’s place in our society. May Allah continue to educate us in the things and area we need to implament in our lives.
Mashaallah , I really enjoyed this very informative Advise, kwuru nke ọma!
Assalamu alaikum,
The response to the question of four marriages for men is elaborate and very diplomatic. nice work.. are we still wearing, iri oriri, living, educating our selves as our previous generations of 1,400 years ago.. society has changed.. technology has advance… science has reached beyond its horizons… and we are still in the year of 1,400 years ago talking about four marriages for men. laws are adapted to suite the societies… laws have changed.. men have changed.. women have changed… but our law remains to cater to men not for women… stone age stories on women are no more in this modern world…. women are doing everything a man is doing professionally.. why only muslims and particularly men are still living and safe guarding the four marriages like a prophecy.. but not do any other orders commands of ISLAM….????????? N'ihi ya, nkwubi okwu m bụ onye Alakụba ekwesịghị inwe ikike ịlụ anọ mgbe nwunye ya na-ebi ma nwee ahụike ma mụọ ụmụ ya… Naanị n'ihi na ọ nweghị ike idobe uwe ya……
Ọ bụ naanị iwu ụmụ mmadụ dabara na ọha mmadụ, Ọ Bụghị Iwu Chineke. N'ihi na ọ maara ihe bụ, Ihe bụ na ihe ga-abụ; Ọ bụ ya mere iwu ya ka dị mkpa n'ofe ọgbọ niile, ọbuná ihe kariri anyi.
Ị nwere ike ịhapụ nkwenye gị “but our law remains to cater to men not for women”
“why only muslims and particularly men are still living and safe guarding the four marriages like a prophecy.. Ma ọ bụghị ime iwu ọ bụla ọzọ nke Islam ....?????????”. Nkwupụta a zuru oke. Kedu ihe bụ ihe akaebe gị. Ole ụmụ nwoke ndị Alakụba ka ị nwere ụwa niile sampịara iji mezuo.
Ọ na - egosi na ị nwere nsogbu na nguzo nke Polygamy na Islam site na mmechi gị ” just because he couldn’t keep his pants zipped……”, like this is the sole reason for polygamy.
It is fair to be objective if at all we have to make our opinions known.
Great. But your voice go unheard and most of the male chauvinism that exist in all religion will never make your view public in fear of losing their dominion over women.
As a muslim dear Khadija u re wrong to say that,.would u rather allow ur man to flirt around than him bringing another wife because men are polygamous by nature…we cannot bend the rules of islam to suit our fancies. So a muslim man has the right to marry more than one wife unless he fears that he ll not be able to do justice. These days non muslim marry more than one,….
U’re right Aisha.
we must just follow the commands as we don’t have every knowledge of ourselves better then the creator Allah subhana wa taala. so theres need to be patience.
Ekele…. Correct me if i’m wrong??? 1400 years ago men that time is pure and so much afraid to commit mistakes and what the Quran says about 4 wives they know, they follow, they memorize and they keep it in their mind and heart…. Man now a days can follow the rules the teaching the responsibility all about having 4 wives that mention in the quran? The man during the time of the prophet Mohammad SAW is different from all the man in todays generation… Most of man todays they will marry 4 wives or more because they have money because they want younger and more beautiful woman they are not contented to their wife they keep looking for more….. We must accept the truth the reality of todays life…
There is no reality anywhere order than what Allah has decreed.
FROM: ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS TO NON MUSLIM BY DR. ZAKIR NAIK
1. POLYGAMY
Ajụjụ:
Why is a man allowed to have more than one wife in Islam? ya bụ. why is
polygamy allowed in Islam?
Zaa:
1. Definition of Polygamy
Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one
nwunye. Ịlụ karịa otu nwanyị nwere ike ịbụ ụdị abụọ. One is polygyny where a man marries
more than one woman, na nke ọzọ bụ polyandry, where a woman marries
more than one man. Na Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry
is completely prohibited.
Ugbu a na-abịa na ajụjụ mbụ, why is a man allowed to have more than
one wife?
2. The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,
“marry only one”.
The Qur’an is the only religious book, n'elu uwa a, that contains the
phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to
have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the
Vedas, onye Ramayan, ndị Mahabharata, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does
one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one
can marry as many as one wishes. Ọ bụ naanị ka e mesịrị, that the Hindu priests and
the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.
Ọtụtụ ndị okpukpe Hindu, dịka akwụkwọ-nsọ ha siri dị, had multiple
ndị nwunye. Eze Dashrat, nna Rama, nwere ihe karịrị otu nwunye. Krishna had
several wives.
N'oge mbụ, E kwere ka ndị ikom bụ́ Ndị Kraịst nwee ọtụtụ nwunye otú ha chọrọ,
ebe ọ bụ na Baịbụl enyeghị iwu gbasara ọnụ ọgụgụ ndị nwunye. It was only a few
centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.
A kwadoro polygyny n'okpukpe ndị Juu. Dị ka iwu Talmud siri dị, Ebreham nwere
three wives, Solomon we nwe ọgu ndinyom. The practice of polygyny
continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an
Edict megide ya. Obodo ndị Juu na-ebi na mba ndị Alakụba
na-aga n'ihu na-eme ruo oge agwụ 1950, ruo mgbe omume nke isi egbe nke
Israel gbatịkwuru mmachibido ịlụ ọgụ karịa otu nwunye.
(*Mara Mara:- Dị ka kwa 1975 ọnụ ọgụgụ nke India Hind
Polygynous karịa ndị Alakụba. Akụkọ banyere Kọmitii nke Ọnọdụ nke Ọnọdụ
Nwanyi na Islam ', bipụtara na 1975 na-ekwu na nọmba ibe 66 na 67 na
pasent nke alụm di na nwunye n'etiti afọ 1951 na 1961
bụ 5.06% n'etiti ndị Hindu na naanị 4.31% n'etiti ndi Alakụba. Dika
na ndị India na-akwado ụmụ nwoke Alakụba ka ha nwee karịa otu nwunye. Ọ bụ
iwu na-ezighi ezi maka onye ọ bụla na-abụghị ndị Alakụba na India inwe karịa otu nwunye. N'agbanyeghị na ọ bụ
kemegidere iwu, Ndị Hindu nwere ọtụtụ ndị nwunye dị ka ndị Alakụba. Na mbụ, Ebe ahụ
abụghị mmachibido iwu ọbụlagodi na ụmụ nwoke Hindu n'ihe banyere ọnụ ọgụgụ ndị nwunye
kwere. Ọ bụ naanị n'ime 1954, Mgbe a lụrụ omume ịlụ di na nwunye na ya
became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian
Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the
Hindu scriptures.)
Ka anyị tụlee ihe mere Islam ji kwere ka nwoke nwee ihe karịrị otu nwunye.
3. Qur’an permits limited polygyny
As I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth
that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from
Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:
“Marry women of your choice, abuo, ma ọ bụ atọ, ma ọ bụ anọ; but if ye fear that
ye shall not be able to deal justly (ha na ha), then only one.”
[Al-Qur'an 4:3]
Tupu e kpughee Koran, there was no upper limit for polygyny and
many men had scores of wives, ụfọdụ ọbụna narị otu narị. Islam put an upper limit
of four wives. Islam nyere nwoke ikike ịlụ abụọ, ụmụ nwanyị atọ ma ọ bụ anọ,
only on the condition that he deals justly with them.
N'otu isiakwụkwọ ahụ i.e. Surah Nisa amaokwu 129 kwuru:
“Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women….”
[Al-Qur'an 4:129]
Ya mere polygyny abụghị iwu kama ewepu. Ọtụtụ mmadụ nọ n'okpuru
Nghọta na-ezighi ezi na ọ bụ mmanye mmadụ ịbụ onye Alakụba inwe karịa otu nwunye.
N'obosara, Islam nwere ụdị ise nke na-eme:
(i) 'Fear' I.e. mmanye ma ọ bụ ibu ọrụ
(ii) 'Mustahab' I.e.. tụrụ aro ma ọ bụ gbaa ume
(iii) 'Gbanwee' I.E. nwere ikike ma ọ bụ kwere
(iv) 'Makruh' i.e. ọ bụghị ndị na-atụ aro ka ọ bụ nkụda mmụọ
(v) 'Haraam' I.e. machibidoro iwu ma ọ bụ machibidoro iwu
Polygyny dara n'etiti ụdị ihe ndị kwere ekwe. Ọ gaghị adị
kwuru na onye Alakụba nwere abụọ, Ugboro atọ ma ọ bụ anọ bụ onye Alakụba ka mma
Tụnyere onye Muslim nwere naanị otu nwunye.
4. Nkezi nke ụmụ nwanyị karịrị nke ụmụ nwoke
Site na ụmụ nwoke na ụmụ nwanyị amụrụ na-amụ ihe dị ka otu. A
Nwatakịrị nwanyị nwere ihe mgbochi karịa nwa nwoke. Nwatakịrị nwanyị nwere ike ịlụ ọgụ
nje na ọrịa dị mma karịa nwa nwoke. N'ihi nke a, n'oge
pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the
ụmụ nwanyị.
N'oge agha, e nwere ọtụtụ ndị ikom e gburu ma e jiri ya tụnyere ụmụ nwanyị. More men die
due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females
is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the
world than widowers.
5. India has more male population than female due to female
foeticide and infanticide
India bụ otu n'ime mba ole na ole, tinyere mba ndị ọzọ gbara agbata obi, n'ime
which the female population is less than the male population. The reason lies in
the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one
million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are
identified as females. Ọ bụrụ na a kwụsị omume ọjọọ a, then India too will have
more females as compared to males.
6. World female population is more than male population
In the USA, umunwanyi kariri umu nwoke site na 7.8 nde. New York alone has one
million more females as compared to the number of males, nke nwoke
Onu ogugu nke New York Otu nke ato bu giz i.e. U.S.A dum
nwere ihe karịrị nde iri abụọ na ise na ise. Nke a pụtara na ndị a anaghị eme ya
chọrọ ịlụ nwanyị. Great Britain nwere ụmụ nwanyị anọ ka ukwuu dịka atụnyere
ka ụmụ nwoke. Jamanị nwere ụmụnwaanyị nde ise karịa ndị nwoke. Russisia
nwere nde iteghete karịa ụmụ nwoke karịa ụmụ nwoke. Naanị Chineke maara ole nde
Umu nwanyi kariri uwa nile dika aturu ka umu nwoke.
7. Na-egbochi onye ọ bụla na onye ọ bụla inwe naanị otu nwunye abụghị
praktikal
Ọ bụrụgodị na onye ọ bụla lụrụ otu nwanyị, A ka ga-enwe karịa
Nde nke iri atọ na U.SA nke na-agaghị enwe ike inweta di
(n'ịtụle na America nwere nde mmadụ iri abụọ na ise). A ga-enwe ọtụtụ
Karịa ụmụ nwanyị anọ na Great Britain, 5 nde ụmụ nwanyị na Germany na itoolu
ụmụ nwanyị na Russia naanị na-agaghị enwe ike ịchọta di.
Ka e were ya na nwanne m nwanyị mere otu n'ime ụmụ nwanyị na-alụbeghị di na USA, ma ọ bụ
Ka e were ya na nwanne gị nwanyị ga-eme ka otu n'ime ụmụ nwanyị na-alụghị di na USA. Oseihe nwoke
Naanị nhọrọ abụọ fọdụrụnụ bụ na ọ lụrụ nwanyị nwoke
enweela nwunye ma ọ bụ bụrụ 'ihe ọha'. Enweghị nhọrọ ọzọ. Dum
ndị dị obi umeala ga-ahọrọ maka nke mbụ.
Ọtụtụ ụmụ nwanyị ga-eme na-achọ ịkọrọ ụmụ nwanyị ndị ọzọ. Mana na
Islam mgbe ọnọdụ na-ewere ya n'ezie na ụmụ nwanyị Alakụba nwere okwukwe
nwere ike ibute obere ihe onwe ya iji gbochie m ịhapụ ịhapụ onye Alakụba ndị ọzọ
Sistersmụnna nwanyị na-aghọ 'Njirimara Ọha'.
8. Na-agba onye lụrụ nwanyị ka ọ ga-ahọrọ ịghọ 'ihe ọha na eze’
Na Ọdịbi Ọdịbi, Ọ bụ ihe a na-ahụkarị na nwoke nwere ndị ettersles na / ma ọ bụ ọtụtụ
A na-eme ihe omume di na nwunye, na nke ikpe, nwayi nēduzi ihe-ihere, echekwara
ndu. Otu obodo, Otú ọ dị, enweghị ike ịnabata otu nwoke nwere ihe karịrị otu
nwunye, nke ndinyom nējide nsọpuru-ha, ọkwá dị mma na ọha mmadụ na
lead a protected life.
Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to
marry a married man or to become ‘public property’. Islam prefers giving
women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the
second.
Enwere ọtụtụ ihe ndị ọzọ, ihe mere Islam ji kwe ka mmachi polygyny, ma
it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.
2. POLYANDRY
Ajụjụ:
If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a
woman from having more than one husband?
Zaa:
A lot of people, including some Muslims, question the logic of allowing Muslim
men to have more than one spouse while denying the same ‘right’ to women.
Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation of an Islamic society is justice
and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different
capabilities and different responsibilities. Ụmụ nwoke na ụmụ nwanyị dị iche,
phypioging na psychogically. Ọrụ ha na ọrụ ha dị iche.
Menmụ nwoke na ụmụ nwanyị hà nhata na Islam, mana ọ bụghị otu.
Isi nke Nissa 4 Ọ dị mkpa ịmara na a na-akpọ ha abụọ a dị ka akụ sitere n'okpuru ocheeze nke Allah. 22 ka 24 na-enye ndepụta nke ụmụ nwanyị
Ụmụ nwoke Alakụba enweghị ike ịlụ. A na-ekwu maka ya na Surah Nissa NISA 4
amaokwu 24 "Ọzọkwa (Amachibidoro) Womenmụ nwanyị alụọla nwanyị "
Ihe ndị a na-esote gosipụtara ihe kpatara Polyyandry na
Islam:
1. Ọ bụrụ na nwoke nwere karịa otu nwunye, Ndị nne na nna nke ụmụ m mụrụ
A ga-amata alụmdi na nwunye. Nna na nne nwere ike
A ga-amata ngwa ngwa. Bụrụ na nwanyị lụrụ karịa otu di,
Ọ bụ naanị nne nke ụmụ ndị ikom mụrụ na alụmdi na nwunye dị otú ahụ
Ọ Bụghị Nna. Islam na-enye oke mkpa maka njirimara nke
Ma ndị nne na nna, nne na nna. Psychologists tell us that children who do
not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental
trauma and disturbances. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for
this reason that the children of prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood.
If a child born of such wedlock is admitted in school, and when the mother
is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names!
I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both
the mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Ya mere
this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the
present.
2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
3. N'ụzọ ndụ, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite
having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several
ndị di, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman
undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different
phases of the menstrual cycle.
4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual
partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or
sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her
husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case
in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital
sex.
The above reasons are those that one can easily identify. There are probably
many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.
assalamu alaikum
the above information is wonderful. i only want to know that if my wives die one after another ( like i got married and she died and after that i got married again) in this case how many times i am allowed to get married? are there any restrictions? Daalụ.
I very much enjoyed reading the informative well structured piece about this issue but the problem is that we need to shed the light of what most men are doing when marrying women, they belive that marrying 4 wives is what every man needs to do but in reality there is few who can be able to carry this huge responsibity and this is a huge nicmo as u said when the ayat was revealed not all the companions went seeking for 4 ndị nwunye. This improper conduct leaves.many families in disaster and women’s heart broken. While he is marrying and looking for other women he should help raised the kids with his wife and this will help in the hearafter as well. And i also would say to women that if you feel your husband is wisking away for a second wife just be patient as you will get your reward for it in the hearafter. Alahu-aclam
Very nice and good to read by Saffiyyah thanx
I think this is an interesting article as it displays the truth. I am not against what Allah swt’s words are because for me as a muslim that would be a shirk. However I do have one thing to say an its not a disagreement, yet a personal note on todays men and generation. Islam allows men to marry up to four wives on certain circumstances. But nowadays people are more focused on the one and only. Because its much more easier to have one woman an one man being together and sharing a family and a household rather than 2-4. We all know that. And women have the right to say no and reject their husbands wish to marry another woman and have a polygamous marriage. So if the current wife refuses than the man has two choices: to stay in his current marriage with just one wife and find happiness within or to leave and find another woman who will make him happy with one or more wives otherwise. It feels noce to have a husband who just wants all his focus on you and is fully committed, has his gaze lowered towards other women and just wants you by his side every day and night of his life. Mana enwere ụfọdụ ụmụ nwoke na-enweghị mmasị na nke ahụ na nke ahụ ebe Alakụba na-enye oke nke ndị nwunye anọ n'ime ihe kpatara ya na ọnọdụ.
Daalụ maka nkọwa nke ukwuu. Ekwenyere m 100% nwanyị ahụ enweghị ike karịa otu di n'otu oge. Agbanyeghị, na ur nkọwa m na-ejide anya m. (Aghọtara m Onye Kraịst wee gbanwee tupu anyị alụọ) Anyị tụụrụ nwa nwoke Mohammed IQBal..11Math mgbe a mụsịrị ya, anyị nwetara ịgba alụkwaghịm.. nwa m nwoke bụ 3 Ọtụtụ afọ na nna ya ahụbeghị ya kemgbe.. Ọ lụrụ onye ọzọ, na-adịkwa ndụ dị ka a ga-asị na ọ nweghị nwa.. Anọ m na-enye nwa m nwoke baptizim kemgbe Shukr dị ka m nwere ọrụ na ihe a pụrụ imere nwa m nwoke a.. Achọrọ m ịgbakwunye na ọ bụghị naanị ụmụ nwoke na-enye ụbọchị ndị a, Achọpụtara m na ọ bụ ndị Alakụba na-alụ nwanyị bụ ndị Kraịst na n'oge na-adịghị anya ha alụkwaghịm (N'echiche m, ha na-eji ụmụ agbọghọ ndị otu a n'oge a) Enwere m ihe atụ anọ nke a.. ị nwere ike ịgwa m ihe kpatara nke a??
Na-adọrọ adọrọ na nkwenye
M na-enwe mmasị ịlụ nwa agbọghọ na-adịghị mma.
Dị nwute na ndị nzuzu na-enweta nnukwu Jubbah na Beard wee mụọ Islam 4 afọ ma ọ bụ karịa na-akụzisi Alakụba dị ka nke a.
Enwere ike… Mana ọtụtụ ihe na-ekwe omume na Islam na-abụ Makruh ma ọ bụ Haram oge ụfọdụ. Otu na-aga maka ọtụtụ alụmdi na nwunye.
Ọ ga-amasị m ịgba ndị nwoke na-ahapụ nwunye ya 30 ịlụ di otu n'ime 16! N'ihi na Chineke ọzọ ọzọ mere ihe mere.
LIKE THE EXAMPLE OF PROPHET SAW! IF A man married a 60 year old or 80 year old while they r married to 16 year old! And gave her her rights then I will see they r following Islam otherwise their low self worse than dogs…
Like the example of Prophet SAW!!!
If a man married to a women in Australia to a women 15 years older than himself and remained married for 20 ma ọ bụ 25 years then upon her death married again then the are following Rasul! (SAW)
Shame on such stupid bearded men who stand up as our leaders then allow such crap. I guess they have to justify what they have done.
Wake up Muslim Ummah, while u chase women, younger, more beautiful ..u r wasting time u should be using to serve this Ummah, educate yourself further, raise your children as scholars of Islam.
Could write a book on this…
How much your nafs have strayed u but shaitan makes u feel u r doing Sunnah!
I am a little angry so not gonna check no spelling or Grammer u understand u understand, bad luck!
Lol
May Allah guide us!
I’m against polygamy and I was born Muslim. I have some doubt in my heart about Islam because of these verses about polygamy. No men can understand the great pain of a woman who knows that her husband loves and sleeps with someone else. In this era, people need to work so many hours to support a family. Yabụ, practically, it’s not possible to give enough time to spend having so many wives and children. There are many single men out there to marry rather than being 2nd or 3rd wife of a married man.
@Hmmm or whatever your name is…your comments was as if its coming from a learned but unfortunately you are not and not even close.
Mbụ, Having more than one wife is Highly Recommended and not just permissible, this is the due to the verse in suratul Nisai verse 3 that you should marry any women, 2 ma ọ bụ 3 ma ọ bụ 4 but if you fear that you cannot do justice then marry one.
Nke abuo, It can only be makruh or Haraam only if you knew you cannot do justice among your wives or you do not even have means to get married and you went ahead to do it anyway and there is a punishment for a man who marry more than one wives and do not do justice with them as Allah will raise with half of his body paralysed.
Nke atọ, You wanna abuse someone and not only did you abuse your fellow supposed muslim (that is if you are a muslim) but also use what Islam preaches to do so (beard). When the prophet (SAW) said Abusing a muslim is a sin and fighting him is kufr. Hating any part of what the prophet brought is Nifaaq (ihu ihu) which Allah described as people who will be @ the deepest part of the hell fire.
I agree with you on the fact that one can marry in the manner that the prophet as married. Having a wife older than him like 15 years and didn’t marry again until she died or that he married Aisha(Ọpụpụ) and married way older women while keeping her rights but that is not the only permissible way of getting married more than one wife as the companions who Allah has described as believers did not marry like that and the prophet didn’t forbid them.
Yabụ, Hmmmm…Be mindful of what you say without knowledge as Allah will ask you how you use every part of your body and they will testify against you. Yabụ, my advice for you is taubah (repentance) if you are a muslim