Men Don't Need To Settle Before Marriage - Мұсылмандық неке жөніндегі нұсқаулық

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Таза ерлі-зайыптылардың әпкесі Арфа Сайрамен бірге үйленушінің әпкесі Фатима Фаруки қосылды, олар некеге дейін қоныстанғысы келмейтін ер адамдар туралы мифті жарып жіберді.. This is one lively talk – so tune in now!

Men Don’t Need To Be Settled Before Marriage.

*Ойнап жатыр – Таза неке жаңғырығы*

Ассаламу алейкум, Мұсылман ретінде……, purematrimony.com, өйткені тәжірибе мінсіз етеді.

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Арфа: WL! Ассаламу алейкум (wrb)! And Welcome to Pure Matrimony. Мен сіздің үй иесімін. Арфа Сайра Икбал, head of Pure Matrimony and I’m joined here today with my co-host, Әпке. Fathima Farooqi and the topic we are going to be discussing today is Men Don’t Need to Be Well -Settled before Marriage. Quite an interesting topic, солай…(күледі) I’m quite excited to dig into this one, Are you there, Әпке. Фатима?

Фатима: Иә! Ассаламу алейкум, Әпке. Арфа! How are you?

Арфа: Уа алейкум салам, Wa rahmatullah, Иә, I’m doing good. This is quite an interesting topic, емес пе?

Фатима: Иә, Exactly, because we don’t really get to talk about Men very often and especially their financial part because that seems to be very private and secret and hidden, but then, Жақсы, there are some people who are complete goal diggers and they want men to be more well settled. I think that is more of a control problem, Men all over the world are expected to be well settled with a good job, a great salary, some even prefer, they need to own a house or a car. Is this really what makes a man eligible for marriage?

Арфа: (күледі) definitely not. Шынымды айтсам! I think I should say that.

Фатима: (күледі) Иә! Some Sisters need to hear that!

(Both- Laughing out loudly)

Арфа: Иә! менің айтқым келіп тұрғаны. Let’s get that real right. We live in an age where, Маша Аллах, everybody on the planet at the moment who is connected and is you know, Маша Аллах, is reasonably well- educated will have something going for them. Сонымен, specifically, even now, when you look, especially from the west a lot of sisters are now working, қазір, please don’t confuse what I’m about to say, because at the end of the day, it’s a man’s duty and responsibility to provide for his family. Дұрыс! That goes without saying this is how it’s supposed to be, this is the right a woman has for her husband to be able to provide for her. And that’s the key phrase, ‘BE ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR HER’.

(Arfa Continues) Жарайды ма, if you are married to a man who, by all intensive purposes, got everything, but doesn’t give you any respect, is that a marriage it’s worth having, no definitely no, дұрыс. It is doesn’t define who that man is. Жарайды ма. For a man, it’s important that he is able to provide for his family that, шындап, we can’t get away from this, дұрыс. Сонымен, if you’ve got a brother who is lazy, you do not want to work, who is basically living off the back of his parents, дұрыс, Мысалға, he is living in his parent’s house and doesn’t have a good job and he doesn’t have any aspiration in life, that’s a problem. You don’t want to marry somebody like that, дұрыс?

(Arfa Continues speaking ) For the brothers who are listening to this, you really need to understand this, жоқ, you are not gonna be able to attract the right person just because you happen to live in your parents home and your parents’ has got really massive business, бірақ сен, yourself don’t do anything, Дұрыс! Сонымен, And I have seen many sisters, by the way, turned down proposals, because the brother himself, the family has achieved so much but the brother is a nobody. He doesn’t put any effort into anything, right from his… he is not educated, and he is not bothered about getting himself a good work. It is better for you to live in dignity on your own terms than to ride off back of your family.

Дұрыс! Because for a woman, Woman wants to see that a man is able to go the distance in wanting to provide for her. For man’s hardworking and he has skills, Инша Аллах, that’s not a problem. I would always say that to Sister’s right, sometimes, sisters get a bit, сен білесің, they have the silly ideas in their head, сен білесің, man is gonna come to sweep me off my feet… he is gonna provide absolutely everything for me… I’m going to get like that.

Жоқ! I know so many people who have started right at the bottom, who have literally, they have had literally, next nothing but, because their husband has been very hard working and they worked together as a team, and they have managed to play an amazing lifestyle for themselves but they have taken many years to get to that point. I think it’s really keen, sisters you are listening to this, if you are looking to get married, you want to marry somebody who is good for you.. don’t look out how much money he has got… Шынайы, that’s not the right thing to look at… You want to look at anything more than the world…You want look at his Deen, you want to look at his character…