When people are faced with any issues, wants or needs, the first thing they do is look to others to find a solution. When things go wrong, this is when they turn to Allah for help.
하지만, one of the qualities of piety and righteousness is that the believers ask Allah FIRST and foremost for whatever their needs are, rather than leave their reliance upon Allah as an afterthought.
Allah’s Messenger salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam 말했다: ”Who will guarantee me that he will not ask mankind for anything, and I will guarantee for him Paradise (in return)? So Thawban said, “I”, and he added, “And I would never ask anyone for anything.” [아부 다우드]
진실로, for those who place their full trust in their Lord, seeking ALL good from Him, Allah will send for him help from different sources – be it from people or a change in circumstances.
The best of adhkar to say in this regard is:
فَقُلْ حَسْبِي اللَّهُ لا إِلَهَ إِلاَّ هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ
Hasbi-allahu la ilaha illa Huwa ‘alaihi tawakkaltu
wa Huwa Rab-bal ‘arshil ‘atheem
말하다: Allah is sufficient for me. None has the right to be worshiped but He, in Him I put my trust and He is the Lord of the Mighty Throne [꾸란, 9:129].
예언자 salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam used to say this seven times in the morning and evening – so commit this to memory and ensure that from now on, you ask EVERYTHING from Allah, no matter how big or small it is. The reward for this is no less than paradise!
A young lady was in this country illegally, I fell in love with her, paid the dowry and all the legal expenses, and married her. After 13 years and giving birth to two male children, she has become totally disrespectful, disobedient, and a scourge to live with. If you knew everything that I have sacrificed to make this woman happy and how deeply it hurts me the way she treats me, you would understand how hurt I am.
I have consulted with our Imam because she has refused to have sexual intercourse with me in over a year and he has sided with her! 결과적으로, it appears that my wife has fallen in love him and it does not appear that he is ” casting his vision down” in his relationship with my wife. This is just another hurt that I’m forced to endure.
I’m certainly not perfect, but I’m so hurt about how this marriage is turning out after all the sacrifices I made to support this family. Please understand that I’m over 20 years older than my wife and I’m sure she wants a younger man. I’ve prayed to Allah (SWT) and I can never forgive this woman in the way that she used me and how badly she has treated me after all I’ve done for her. Even my children want me to “stand up for myself and be the man of the house”. If I strike this woman, I know I’ll end up really hurting her and I know I will end up in jail!
Please Help and offer dome good advice!