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작가: Maryam Amirebrahimi

우리 중 일부는 우리를 다른 사람들과 차별화시키는 무언가가 우리를 결혼 대상으로 고려하지 않는 이유가 될 수 있다는 두려움을 가질 수 있습니다.. This story shows us that what makes us truly unique is the characteristic which can draw someone to love us.

“After converting to Islam in my formative years of college I always had one frequent 너 ' (기도) I would make; ㅏ 너 ' to be blessed with a righteous wife. Whether it was hearing marriage completes half your 디엔 (삶의 방식) or constantly being pressured by media and temptations to engage in a relationship; or possibly a combination of factors. 에 관계없이, I knew one thing and that was that I had a deep desire to find a spouse who would be my companion in this life and, God willing, assist me in making it to heaven in the next life.

I constantly spent my nights making 너 ' to be blessed with a righteous wife. 하지만, during the days I would continuously be told and hear about horror stories revolving around Muslim matrimony. There were two main themes to these horror stories:

A family from one culture would not accept a potential suitor from a different culture.
There are absurd and superficial expectations to be met. The man must be a doctor or engineer, his salary must be a certain amount of money, he must be older than the woman, he must provide a마흐르 (dowry) worth X amount of dollars etc.

Despite these horror stories I kept hoping and praying that I would be blessed with a righteous wife. Then one day, sorry to sound cliché, I saw my dream woman; this woman in my community, who, due to her condition, uses a wheelchair to get around, entered into a contest to win an accessible van. My heart inclined towards this woman. As I read about her on her contest page my admiration for her kept growing and growing the more I learned about her character and values. 하지만, it seemed there were a few roadblocks on my newfound journey to love; most noticeably:

She is Arab and I am white
I was still in school with no high-paying job or desired degree
She is five years older than me

Even with these roadblocks ahead of me I knew in my mind I had found the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life. As I obtained a job and grew closer to my graduation date I thought it was an appropriate time to ask for her hand in marriage. 그러므로, I asked for her father’s contact information and to my relief she gave it to me without hesitation. I was thrilled to be granted an opportunity to ask for her hand in marriage but at the same time I felt a little uneasy about going through the allegedly daunting experience of meeting with an Arab father. I was in a glass case of emotions. 하지만, when the day of the meeting arrived it could not have gone smoother alhamdullilah (praise be to God). Her father told me about how he has four sisters and when they got married they were just concerned about the 디엔. Then he began to talk with me and not once did he ask about my ethnic background, 내 일, my status, my educational background or young age. 마샤알라 (what God wills) all this man wanted was a good Muslim husband for his daughter. Near the end of the talk I said I was appreciative that they did not judge me based on my skin color and the father’s wife looked me in the eyes and said: “This is not Islam.” 알라후 아크바르 (God is Great).

'뉴 노멀 I have now been engaged to my dream woman for a decent amount of time and we plan to get married soon. Although we have vastly different backgrounds and personality traits we both believe it is the Qadr of Allah (the will of God) that we are soul-mates. We jokingly say we are the perfectly imperfect couple, alhamdullilah. I felt the need to share this to show any single person who may have concerns regarding the possibility of intercultural marriage that despite any differences, whether they may be cultural, ethnic, educational or age, with sincerity and good intentions if you hook up with Allah, Allah will hook you up as Maryam previously explained.”