Mafê jinê li ser mêrê wê û mafê jinê li ser jina wî çi ye

Raising and educating children is one of the duties required of parents. Allaah has enjoined that in the Qur’aan, Û hûn ewa ku Yezdan ji bona we ra ferman kiriye, bigerin. (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) also enjoined that. Allah dibêje (şirovekirina wateyê):

Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye! Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye (Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye) Kîjan sotemenî mêr û kevir e, li ser kîjan in (wezîfedar kirin) Angels Stern (û) giran, yê ku negotî, (ji rêveberiyê) Fermana ku ew ji Allaah distînin, Lê ya ku ew têne emir kirin " [Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye 66:6]

Imam al-Tabari said, commenting on this verse:

Here Allaah is saying: O you who believe in Allaah and His Messenger, “Ward off yourselves” teach one another that which will protect those who do it from the Fire and ward it off from them, Ger ew di bindestiyê de ji Allaah re were kirin û ew bi îbadeta Allaah re dikin. The phrase “and your families against a Fire” means, û malbatên xwe hîn bikin ku kiryarên bindestiyê ji Allaah re bikin da ku ew xwe ji agir biparêzin. [Tawaeer Al-Tabari, 18/165]

el-Fetawa el-Kubraa:

Muqaatil said: This is a duty that he owes to himself, his children, his family and his male and female slaves. Ilkiya said: We have to teach our children and families religious commitment and goodness, and what they cannot do without of etiquette. This is what Allaah says: "Û enjoin as-salaat (Dua) li ser malbata xwe, and be patient in offering them.” [Ta-Ha 20:132]

And Allaah said to the Prophet (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) (şirovekirina wateyê):

“And warn your tribe (Mihemed) of near kindred.” [al-Shu’ara’ 26:214]

Û Pêxember (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) got: “And teach them (zarok) to pray when they are seven years old.”

û mêrên wan jî li ser wan xwedî maf in, 18/196

The Muslim – any Muslim – is a daa’iyah who calls people to Allaah, so the first people whom he calls should be his children and family who are close to him. When Allaah commanded His Messenger (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) to call people, Wî got (şirovekirina wateyê):

“And warn your tribe (Mihemed) of near kindred.” [al-Shu’ara’ 26:214] because they are the first people to whom he should do good and show mercy.

ji bo serjêkirina pez hatiye tesbîtkirin (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) gave the parents the responsibility of raising the children and made that obligatory upon them.

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) gotin:

“Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock. A servant is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock.” He said: and I think he said, “A man is the shepherd of his father’s wealth and is responsible for his flock. Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.” Buxarî rîwayet kiriye, 583; Muslim, 1829.

Part of your duty is to bring them up from a young age to love Allaah and His Messenger and to love the teachings of Islam. You should tell them that Allaah has a Paradise and a Hell; that His Hell is hot and its fuel is men and stones. The following story contains an important lesson.

Ibn al-Jawzi said:

There was a king who had a lot of wealth, and he had a daughter and no other children. He loved her very much, and he used to let her enjoy all kinds of entertainment. This went on for a long time. Beside the king there lived a devoted worshipper, and whilst he was reciting one night, he raised his voice saying, Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye! Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye (Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye) whose fuel is men and stones “ [Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye 66:6 – interpretation of the meaning]. The girl heard his recitation and said to her servants, “Stop!” But they did not stop. The worshipper started to repeat the verse, and the girl kept telling them to stop, but they did not stop. She put her hands to her collar and tore her garment, and they went to her father and told him the story. He went to her and said, “My dear, what happened to you tonight? What made you weep?” and he hugged her. “Dema ku ez bi Pêxember re razayî bûm, menzîla min ket, “I ask you by Allaah, O my father, to tell me, does have Allaah have a Fire the fuel of which is men and stones?" Wî got, “Yes.” She asked him, “Why did you not tell me? By Allaah I will not eat any good food or sleep on any soft bed until I know whether my abode is in Paradise or Hell.”

Safwat al-Safwah, 4/437-438

You have to keep them away from the places of immorality and misguidance; do not leave them to grow up with evil things from the television etc, then after that expect them to be righteous, for whoever sows thorns cannot harvest grapes. That should be done when they are young, so that it will be easy for them when they grow up, and they will get used to it, and it will be easy for you to tell them what to do and what not to do, and it will be easy for them to obey you.

heke mêrê jinên din hebin (heke mêrê jinên din hebin) got: “Dema ku ez bi Pêxember re razayî bûm, menzîla min ket (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) got:"Gava ku heft salî ne, zarokên xwe hîn bikin ku dua bikin, and smack them if they do not do so when they are ten, û wan di nav nivînên xwe de veqetîne. "

Ji aliyê Ebû Dawûd ve hatiye rîwayetkirin, 495; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5868

But the educator must be merciful, forbearing, easy-going and approachable, not foul-mouthed or unkempt, arguing in a manner that is better, far removed from insulting, rebuking and beating, unless the child is one of those who willfully disobey and rejects his father’s commands and neglects his duties and does haraam things; in that case it is better to use stern measures with him, without causing him harm.

Al-Minaawi said: For a father to discipline his child when he reaches the age of discernment means that he should raise him with the characteristics of the righteous believers and protect him from mixing with evildoers; he should teach him the Qur’aan and good manners and the language of the Arabs, let him hear the Sunnah and the sayings of the Salaf and teach him the religious rulings that he cannot do without. He should warn him then smack him if he does not pray etc. That will be better for him than giving a saa’ in charity, because if he teaches him properly, his actions will be among his ongoing charity, whereas the reward for a saa’ of charity is limited, but that will last as long as the child lives. Discipline is the nourishment of the soul, and training it for the Hereafter.

Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye! Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye (Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye)…”

[Dema ku ew gazî wê dike nav nivînan nade û ew tehîre ye 66:6 – interpretation of the meaning]

Protecting yourself and your family from it means reminding them of Hell. Discipline includes preaching, warning, threatening, smacking, detaining, giving and being kind. Disciplining one who is good and noble is different from disciplining one who is difficult and ignoble.

Fayd al-Qadeer, 5/257

Smacking is a means of correcting the child.It is not something that it wanted in and of itself, rather it is resorted to if the child is stubborn and disobedient.

There is a system of punishment in Islam, and there are many punishments in Islam, such as the hadd punishments for adultery, theft, slander, etc. All of these are prescribed in order to set the people straight and put a stop to their evil.

Concerning such matters the Prophet (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) advised parents to deter their children from doing wrong.

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the Messenger of Allaah (Selam û selamê Xuda lê bin) got: “Hang your whip where the members of the household can see it, for that will discipline them.”

Narrated by al-Tabaraani, 10/248; its isnaad was classed as hasan by al-Haythami in Majma’ al-Zawaa’id, 8/106

Al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4022, it is hasan.

So raising children should be a balance between encouragement and warning. The most important element of all is making the environment in which the children live a good one, by providing the means whereby they may be guided; this means that their educators should be religiously committed, including their parents.

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