4 Tips ad invenire unum

Source: http://mentalhealth4muslims.com/2010/03/23/four-tips-to-finding-the-one/

Author: Per Dr.nafisa sekandari, Sr. Hosai mojadidi,

Nam Muslims non est melius exempli gratia vel praecedens specimen maritus quam prophetam Muhammad (Pax sit super eum). Et erat maxime amandi, benignus, humilis, misericors, misericors, fidelis, confido, et liberalis virum semper fuisse; Immo in exemplum in omni facet vitae est perfectum et album de suis attributa sunt multo nimis multi enumerare, Sit pacis et beneficia Dei sit super eum. Propter hoc, Et vexillum omnis Muslim mulier ut utor cum quaeritis sponsa. Nam Muslim hominum, Signa quid spectare in specimen uxorem inveniuntur in traditione prophetica: "A mulier nupta est quatuor sunt, i.e., opes eius, eius familia status, eius pulchritudinem et eius religionem. Ita ut uxorem ducere ad mulierem religiosam (aliter) eris Victus. "

In addition to learning from the perfect example and advice of the Prophet Muhammad (Pax sit super eum), when considering prospective suitors it’s helpful to outline specific qualities and issues to think about. We’ve provided four important tips for you to keep in mind below:

1. benignitas: When you first meet someone, you may have instant physical attraction, but this should not be confused with love. Love is something you must work on. It has to be created and developed between the two of you. Kindness and giving create love. A love that is giving and kind is based on an internal connection and is more lasting. Physical attraction is an external connection and will fade over time. Love that is based on giving is because you care about the person, not because you want to get something back in return. Hoc dare debet utraque via. Utrumque individua daturum inter se de loco misericordia et curat. Ita vultus ad aliquem, quod possit dare vobis et movere vos ad eos. Nubere hominem vis dare et si vos adepto nihil in reditu.

• Quid tu scis si non curant, benignus, et Miserator? Audi eos. Audi quod dicunt, Vigilate quomodo alii, Et audi quomodo sentiunt circa auxilium eorum in opus. Operam ad quam tractare cum opus misericordiam. Sunt ita se absorbetur non deficient cognoscere necessitatibus vel non accipies in forsit et experiri dare vobis compassy? Si vere attendere, Vos can exciperent multus de persona est scriptor mores per quomodo loquuntur to alii et quomodo loquuntur de alii. Non spectant in aliis, sunt solum focused in se et necessitates; est reactionem ad alios extremam?
• Cave aliquem genus amoris, quod deest a sensu dandi et sensus curat.

2. Communi proposita: Suus 'maximus scire te primum et considerans utrum participes communis metas cum particeps. Tibi utrumque idem, values, somniabunt, et spes? In essentia, Tum utrumque eandem. Si particeps habet somnia et adspirat, qui in oppositum a te, Vos non participes vita simul, Etiam si genus et dare. Ut diceret, 'Quod si non habet aliquam proposita et volens ire in aliquo directionem Im' iens "? Cavete huius generis cogitandi; being with a person who lacks self-awareness and direction in their life will only complicate your life. They need to mature and develop a sense of self before they can make important life-long decisions. Many couples find themselves on the road to divorce because after the initial honeymoon phase is over, one partner begins to realize their goals in life differ from those of their spouse. It’s important to be on the same page initially. Early on in the relationship, make it a point to discuss issues like how many kids you want to have, how you will raise them, what values you want to instill in them, and what type of lifestyle you want to have, etc. You must know what the other person’s goals are and really objectively consider if those goals are compatible with yours.

3. Consider the Whole Person: Learn to appreciate the whole person which includes the good, the bad, and the ugly. Realize that the person you care about has all the great qualities you enjoy as well as some you may not enjoy. Many people get into marriages with the unrealistic expectation or idealized sense of what a spouse is supposed to be. They focus so much on the hope that he/she will possess all the wonderful qualities of a spouse without considering the possibility of any negative ones. It’s this idealized expectation which oftentimes leads couples down the path of divorce. Going into a marriage with the realization that people are imperfect will help you see that with all the advantages that come with a wonderful partner, there will also be some disadvantages as well. Knowing and preparing for this in advance might lessen the shock and help you both work together at building the relationship you want. You will never have it all in a relationship. Te interroga, what is more important to you? Is it more important to have someone you can have a deep and meaningful connection with or someone that will keep a nice and tidy house? You may not get both. Is it more important to you to have a responsible and reliable partner or someone that is fun and adventurous? What areas are you willing to compromise in?

4. Physical Appearance: Last but not least should be looks and physical attraction. Physical attraction isn’t necessarily based on a standard of physical beauty. Quid habes pulchra ut non sit quod amicos inveniet pulchrum sed suus 'maximus ut vos amo quomodo spectant. Non habent corporaliter perfectus sed certus appellare vobis. Et custodiunt in mente, quae spectat solum non potest facere necessitudo. Quid magis quam compatible es, Quid dans vobis quisque in relatione, et quantum curo invicem. Et factum est ut et invenies invicem attractive est certus momenti sed experiri ad eam sicut vico in crustulam pro principalis ingrediens.

Ut pro necessitudine succedant habetis humilitatem agnoscere limitations in te et aliis. Nos omnes ex Deo et quisque habet vitiisque et defectuum. Nemo est perfectus. Propter hoc, Oportet esse volens iactare de terminus "perfectum" et compromissum ad "satis" necessitudinem et "satis" socium. Est unrealistic et arrogant cogitare te merentur perfectionem. Quoniam non perfect vos discere accipere imperfectionibus aliorum. Qui cogitat mundum se solet qui expectat mundum ab aliis. Et superius articulus est inspirati et accommodata a presentatione a Rabbi Dov Heller, M.a

Source: http://mentalhealth4muslims.com/2010/03/23/four-tips-to-finding-the-one/