"Men can marry four – why not women marry four?"

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Source : islamalways.com
Question
“Islam gives man permission to marry four wives. Why can’t a woman have four husbands?

Answer
Al Hamdulilah, was-salat was-salam ala rasulullah. Allahu ‘Alim.

(It is Allah who has All Knowledge)

Rights and Limits

First of all, it is important for us to keep in mind that Islam came to establish two very important fundamentals for human beings:

Rights and Limits.

Everyone and everything has certain rights given to it by the Creator and Sustainer of the universe (Allah). At the same time, each creation has its own limitations established by Allah.

First Right – Allah has the right to be worshipped without making partners from what He has created. Direct worship to Him, alone.

Second Right – Prophet’s right to be followed according to his teaching and commandments.

Third Right – Parents rights to be honored and cared for, with special emphasis on the mother first.

Fourth Right – Wives and Husbands have rights on each other.

Conditions 1,400 Years Ago

Now let us do some basic research here. We begin by looking into the condition of the women in various societies at the time 1,400 years ago when Allah revealed the Quran to Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him.

Pagan Arabs – Burying Girls Alive

During that time the pagan Arab men used to bury their newborn daughters alive in the sand, out of shame for having something so low and disgusting like a girl instead of a son. Women were treated horribly and with utter disgust.

Men could marry as many as they liked and very often they owned women like cattle or sheep. There were no laws to protect the women and they had no rights at all.

Christians – Arguing If Women Had Souls

Christians at that time were holding council meetings to determine whether or not a woman even had a soul. The church blamed “Eve” the mother of all humans after Adam (peace and blessings be upon him) for the “original sin” and damned her and her seed for what she had done.

Priests – Best Men – Forbidden Marriage – To Any Women

Priests, bishops, cardinals and even the Pope are the very best of the Catholic men within the church. Yet the church still forbids their clergymen the chance for marriage and families. This unnatural situation has caused very serious ramifications throughout the society around the world.

Nuns – Best Women – No Marriage – No Children

Nuns are the very best of the Catholic women. They cover themselves in proper attire much the same way as the Muslim women. Yet, they are never allowed to marry or have children throughout their lives. This unnatural condition has caused untold number of disgraceful and disgusting practices within the very church itself.

If Only Bad People Have Children – What About Tomorrow?

We must ask the question, “If the very best of the men and the very best of the women are not allowed to marry or have children – does this mean only the worst of the people are the ones allowed to reproduce and populate the world?” – And where will that leave us tomorrow?

Jews – Blame Women and Curse Women

The Jews blamed women for the “original sin” and as such they were treated with disgust. A woman’s monthly cycle was considered by the Old Testament of the Bible to be a “curse from God” for her inequities. Her child bearing pains were also a ‘punishment from God’ for her bringing man down from heaven.

Islam – No Blame On Women For Evil

Islam does not blame Eve for Adam’s sin. Each of them accepted their own mistake and repented to Allah, and asked Allah to forgive them and Allah did forgive them.

Now before going any further, please read Surah An-Nisa’ (chapter 4 in the Quran) – all the way through, in order to better understand what is actually being said about women, men and marriage.

Read Quran

Now let us think about the verses. Do you believe that Allah Knows what He created and He has revealed the perfect ‘Deen’? Do you know the condition of the people at the time the order came to restrict the number of wives? (Restricted to be only four)

“Now read the verse about having more than one wife, very carefully.” [Noble Quran 4:3]

What does it say? And what do you understand from it?

“Now read the ayah (verse) that forbids men to marry women who are already married.” [Noble Quran 4:24]

Now read from An-Nisa’ (Chapter 4) about the role of men and women. [4:34]

Man Supports And Protects Women

Do you understand that one must take on the role of supporter, protector, provider, custodian and servant to the family (man’s role)?

Woman Gives Birth – Raises Children

One must take on the role of carrying the child and delivering it and then feeding it and raising it to become a true servant of Allah (woman’s role).

Not Equal – But Treated Fairly In Justice

Men and women are not the same nor are they “equal” as some folks would have us believe. Whatever is on one side of an ‘equals’ sign must be exactly the same as what is on the other side without any difference in value, only in the way that it is expressed. How then could we say that a man, who is unable to conceive or give birth and then breast feed a baby is the equal to a woman who can?

Equal In Faith And Actions

They are equal in their beliefs and good deeds of course. But still they are not the same as each other. Each one must fulfill their role as humans.

Children’s Rights Protected

Islam is also very much about rights. Children also have rights in Islam. When a man dies his wealth is left to his family. How could the court know who to give the wealth of a man, if he was one of several husbands to a woman? How would a child know who his father was? No society ever supported the concept of a woman being married to two or more men at the same time.

Women’s Right – Best Treatment

Almost every society supported the concept of a man having more than one woman. Yet, they did not limit the number nor did they provide the protection and maintenance that Islam insists on for each one. Islam came to set things straight. Women were given rights. Men were strictly ordered to treat their women with the very best of treatment.

Limit – Number in Marriage

When the verse was revealed the companions of Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.

Limit – Equal Maintenance and Treatment

Second, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?

Next, the limitation very clearly states; “.. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one …”

Muslims Today – Most Monogamous

Step by step, the men of Islam have come to be known today as the most monogamous of all men on earth (we only have one wife). Check for yourself and see. In the majority of all the Muslim homes on earth, a man gets married once, to one woman and then he stays married to her until the death of either himself or his wife.

Woman’s Right To Choose Any Husband She Likes -Even If He Is Already Married

One very important point that is often overlooked by modern society is the right that Islam gave to the women that it does not give to the man. A man is limited to marry only from the woman who is not already married. Obviously, this provides rights for the children and provides for them from inheritance from the father. But Islam also permits the women to marry a man who is already married to protect her in a society where the number of women outnumbers the population of men. Additionally, the woman has a large selection of men to choose from. In fact, she has the right to choose from any man in the community as long as he does not already have four wives. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. After all, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.

Women Need Husbands – Allah Provided the Answer

The prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) predicted that in the Last Days the women would outnumber the men to a great extent. Today we are seeing this become a reality all over the world. Allah has already provided for us for this occasion. After all, He is the One who makes it all happen and He already knew that many women would come into Islam in these days. He also knew many of the Muslim men would be killed or die at an early age, just as it is happening these days. These women all need husbands. Allah has given us the solution to all of life’s problems.

Women’s Right to Vote – 1,400 Years Ago

We might add that Islam also gave the women full status as citizens over 1,400 years ago by giving her to right to speak and vote the same as anyone else. American women had to take their cause to the streets with “Women’s Suffrage” and were not granted the right to vote until just ninety years ago.

Women Keep Their Identity – And Their Names

Additionally, Islam protected women’s rights to keep their identity and they were not considered property of some man. As such, they were no longer forced to change their last names to be that of their husbands. This is still the practice of Muslim women today just as it was fourteen hundred years ago.

Women Keep Their Property And Earnings – Men Must Share

Yet, at the same time the western society is so concerned about the way Islam demands that a couple be married, the man actually must work instead of the woman; the woman owns her own property without giving anything for the support of the house or the child; a child has the right to his or her own mother raising them instead of a baby sitter or day care; father must support his children; divorce is hated; and marriage is sanctified.

West Can’t Tolerate Man And Woman – In Marriage

It is strange isn’t it, a society like America, has no problem accepting sex without marriage; homosexuality; same sex marriages; sex without responsibility; children without fathers; and divorces are more common place than the measles or chicken pox. Yet, there is no tolerance for marriage between a man and a woman if it is not on their terms.

What Needs to Be Re-evaluated?

Compare the two for yourself and see which one needs correction.

We will be waiting to hear from you. May Allah Bless you all and increase you in all that is good, ameen.

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Source : http://www.islamalways.com/

20 Comments to "Men can marry four – why not women marry four?"

  1. Assalaamu a’laikum, thank you for a very imformative explanation of the marriage in Islam, Many of our brother’s and sister’s don’t understand the need for it today and want reject it’s place in our society. May Allah continue to educate us in the things and area we need to implament in our lives.

  2. Assalamu alaikum,
    The response to the question of four marriages for men is elaborate and very diplomatic. nice work.. are we still wearing, eating, living, educating our selves as our previous generations of 1,400 years ago.. society has changed.. technology has advance… science has reached beyond its horizons… and we are still in the year of 1,400 years ago talking about four marriages for men. laws are adapted to suite the societies… laws have changed.. men have changed.. women have changed… but our law remains to cater to men not for women… stone age stories on women are no more in this modern world…. women are doing everything a man is doing professionally.. why only muslims and particularly men are still living and safe guarding the four marriages like a prophecy.. but not do any other orders commands of ISLAM….????????? so my conclusion is a muslim man should not have a right to marry four when his wife is living and healthy and gave birth to his children… just because he couldn’t keep his pants zipped……

    • Lanre Okusi

      Only human laws are adapted to suit the society, not the laws of God. Because He knows what was, what is and what will be; that is why His laws remain relevant across all generations, even beyond that which we are.

      Can you expatiate your assertion “but our law remains to cater to men not for women”

      “why only muslims and particularly men are still living and safe guarding the four marriages like a prophecy.. but not do any other orders commands of ISLAM….?????????”. This assertion was generalised. What is your proof. How many Muslim men have you sampled world wide to come to a generalisation.

      It already shows that you have a problem with the stand of Polygamy in Islam from your conclusion ” just because he couldn’t keep his pants zipped……”, like this is the sole reason for polygamy.

      It is fair to be objective if at all we have to make our opinions known.

    • Great. But your voice go unheard and most of the male chauvinism that exist in all religion will never make your view public in fear of losing their dominion over women.

  3. Aisha Njidda

    As a muslim dear Khadija u re wrong to say that,.would u rather allow ur man to flirt around than him bringing another wife because men are polygamous by nature…we cannot bend the rules of islam to suit our fancies. So a muslim man has the right to marry more than one wife unless he fears that he ll not be able to do justice. These days non muslim marry more than one,….

  4. we must just follow the commands as we don’t have every knowledge of ourselves better then the creator Allah subhana wa taala. so theres need to be patience.

  5. Salam…. Correct me if i’m wrong??? 1400 years ago men that time is pure and so much afraid to commit mistakes and what the Quran says about 4 wives they know, they follow, they memorize and they keep it in their mind and heart…. Man now a days can follow the rules the teaching the responsibility all about having 4 wives that mention in the quran? The man during the time of the prophet Mohammad SAW is different from all the man in todays generation… Most of man todays they will marry 4 wives or more because they have money because they want younger and more beautiful woman they are not contented to their wife they keep looking for more….. We must accept the truth the reality of todays life…

  6. SAFFIYAAH ABDULNASIR PAREKH

    FROM: ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS TO NON MUSLIM BY DR. ZAKIR NAIK
    1. POLYGAMY
    Question:
    Why is a man allowed to have more than one wife in Islam? i.e. why is
    polygamy allowed in Islam?
    Answer:
    1. Definition of Polygamy
    Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one
    spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygyny where a man marries
    more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries
    more than one man. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry
    is completely prohibited.
    Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than
    one wife?
    2. The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,
    “marry only one”.
    The Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the
    phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to
    have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the
    Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does
    one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one
    can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and
    the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.
    Many Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple
    wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had
    several wives.
    In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished,
    since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few
    centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.
    Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had
    three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny
    continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an
    edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries
    continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of
    Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.
    (*Interesting Note:- As per the 1975 census of India Hindus are more
    polygynous than Muslims. The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of
    Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that
    the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961
    was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According
    to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is
    illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being
    illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there
    was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives
    allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it
    became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian
    Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the
    Hindu scriptures.)
    Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.
    3. Qur’an permits limited polygyny
    As I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth
    that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from
    Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:
    “Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that
    ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one.”
    [Al-Qur’an 4:3]
    Before the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and
    many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit
    of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women,
    only on the condition that he deals justly with them.
    In the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:
    “Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women….”
    [Al-Qur’an 4:129]
    Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. Many people are under the
    misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.
    Broadly, Islam has five categories of Do’s and Don’ts:
    (i) ‘Fard’ i.e. compulsory or obligatory
    (ii) ‘Mustahab’ i.e. recommended or encouraged
    (iii) ‘Mubah’ i.e. permissible or allowed
    (iv) ‘Makruh’ i.e. not recommended or discouraged
    (v) ‘Haraam’ i.e. prohibited or forbidden
    Polygyny falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be
    said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as
    compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.
    4. Average life span of females is more than that of males
    By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. A
    female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the
    germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the
    pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the
    females.
    During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die
    due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females
    is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the
    world than widowers.
    5. India has more male population than female due to female
    foeticide and infanticide
    India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, in
    which the female population is less than the male population. The reason lies in
    the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one
    million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are
    identified as females. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have
    more females as compared to males.
    6. World female population is more than male population
    In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one
    million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male
    population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole
    has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not
    wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared
    to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia
    has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million
    more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.
    7. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not
    practical
    Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than
    thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands
    (considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more
    than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine
    million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband.
    Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or
    suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. The
    only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who
    already has a wife or becomes ‘public property’. There is no other option. All
    those who are modest will opt for the first.
    Most women would nto like to share their husband with other women. But in
    Islam when the situation deems it really neccessary Muslim women in due faith
    could bear a small personal loss to prevent a greater loss of letting other Muslim
    sisters becoming ‘public properties’.
    8. Marring a married man preferable to becoming ‘public property’
    In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple
    extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected
    life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one
    wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and
    lead a protected life.
    Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to
    marry a married man or to become ‘public property’. Islam prefers giving
    women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the
    second.
    There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but
    it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.

    2. POLYANDRY
    Question:
    If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a
    woman from having more than one husband?
    Answer:
    A lot of people, including some Muslims, question the logic of allowing Muslim
    men to have more than one spouse while denying the same ‘right’ to women.
    Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation of an Islamic society is justice
    and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different
    capabilities and different responsibilities. Men and women are different,
    physiologically and psychologically. Their roles and responsibilities are different.
    Men and women are equal in Islam, but not identical.
    Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 verses 22 to 24 gives the list of women with whom
    Muslim men can not marry. It is further mentioned in Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4
    verse 24 “Also (prohibited are) women already married”
    The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in
    Islam:
    1. If a man has more than one wife, the parents of the children born of such
    marriages can easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can
    easily be identified. In case of a woman marrying more than one husband,
    only the mother of the children born of such marriages will be identified and
    not the father. Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of
    both parents, mother and father. Psychologists tell us that children who do
    not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental
    trauma and disturbances. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for
    this reason that the children of prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood.
    If a child born of such wedlock is admitted in school, and when the mother
    is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names!
    I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both
    the mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Thus
    this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the
    present.
    2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
    3. Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite
    having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several
    husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman
    undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different
    phases of the menstrual cycle.
    4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual
    partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or
    sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her
    husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case
    in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital
    sex.
    The above reasons are those that one can easily identify. There are probably
    many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.

  7. Naef Abdul Quayum

    assalamualaikum
    the above information is wonderful. i only want to know that if my wives die one after another ( like i got married and she died and after that i got married again) in this case how many times i am allowed to get married? are there any restrictions? thank you.

  8. I very much enjoyed reading the informative well structured piece about this issue but the problem is that we need to shed the light of what most men are doing when marrying women, they belive that marrying 4 wives is what every man needs to do but in reality there is few who can be able to carry this huge responsibity and this is a huge nicmo as u said when the ayat was revealed not all the companions went seeking for 4 wives. This improper conduct leaves.many families in disaster and women’s heart broken. While he is marrying and looking for other women he should help raised the kids with his wife and this will help in the hearafter as well. And i also would say to women that if you feel your husband is wisking away for a second wife just be patient as you will get your reward for it in the hearafter. Alahu-aclam

  9. I think this is an interesting article as it displays the truth. I am not against what Allah swt’s words are because for me as a muslim that would be a shirk. However I do have one thing to say an its not a disagreement, yet a personal note on todays men and generation. Islam allows men to marry up to four wives on certain circumstances. But nowadays people are more focused on the one and only. Because its much more easier to have one woman an one man being together and sharing a family and a household rather than 2-4. We all know that. And women have the right to say no and reject their husbands wish to marry another woman and have a polygamous marriage. So if the current wife refuses than the man has two choices: to stay in his current marriage with just one wife and find happiness within or to leave and find another woman who will make him happy with one or more wives otherwise. It feels noce to have a husband who just wants all his focus on you and is fully committed, has his gaze lowered towards other women and just wants you by his side every day and night of his life. But there are some men who arent like that and thats where islam gives the limit of up to four wives within reason and circumstances.

  10. Thank you for a very informative explanation. I agree 100%that woman cannot have more than one husband at the same time. However, in ur explanation something caught my eye..that a Muslim husband must take care of their children..I was married to a Muslim (I was christian then converted before we got married) we conceived a son Mohammed Iqbal..11months after his birth we got divorce.. my son is 3 years old and his father hasn’t seen him since.. he married someone else and is living as if he has no child.. I have been providing for my son ever since Shukr to Allah that I have a job and a can do this for my son.. just wanted to add that it’s not solely men who provide these days, and I find it very common that Muslim boys marry christian girls and soon they divorce (in my opinion they just use the christian girls nowadays) I have four examples of this.. could u tell me why this is??

  11. Very sad that stupid people getting a big Jubbah and beard then studying Islam for 4 years or less then teaching Islamic rulings like this.

    There is permisibility… but a lot of permissible things in Islam becomes Makruh or Haram at times. Same goes for multiple marriages.

    I would like to shoot the men who leaves his wife of 30 to marry one of 16! For no other god reason than one.

    LIKE THE EXAMPLE OF PROPHET SAW! IF A man married a 60 year old or 80 year old while they r married to 16 year old! And gave her her rights then I will see they r following Islam otherwise their low self worse than dogs…

    Like the example of Prophet SAW!!!
    If a man married to a women in Australia to a women 15 years older than himself and remained married for 20 or 25 years then upon her death married again then the are following Rasul! (SAW)

    Shame on such stupid bearded men who stand up as our leaders then allow such crap. I guess they have to justify what they have done.

    Wake up Muslim Ummah, while u chase women, younger, more beautiful ..u r wasting time u should be using to serve this Ummah, educate yourself further, raise your children as scholars of Islam.

    Could write a book on this…

    How much your nafs have strayed u but shaitan makes u feel u r doing Sunnah!

    I am a little angry so not gonna check no spelling or Grammer u understand u understand, bad luck!

    Lol
    May Allah guide us!

  12. I’m against polygamy and I was born Muslim. I have some doubt in my heart about Islam because of these verses about polygamy. No men can understand the great pain of a woman who knows that her husband loves and sleeps with someone else. In this era, people need to work so many hours to support a family. So, practically, it’s not possible to give enough time to spend having so many wives and children. There are many single men out there to marry rather than being 2nd or 3rd wife of a married man.

  13. @Hmmm or whatever your name is…your comments was as if its coming from a learned but unfortunately you are not and not even close.
    Firstly, Having more than one wife is Highly Recommended and not just permissible, this is the due to the verse in suratul Nisai verse 3 that you should marry any women, 2 or 3 or 4 but if you fear that you cannot do justice then marry one.
    Secondly, It can only be makruh or Haraam only if you knew you cannot do justice among your wives or you do not even have means to get married and you went ahead to do it anyway and there is a punishment for a man who marry more than one wives and do not do justice with them as Allah will raise with half of his body paralysed.
    Thirdly, You wanna abuse someone and not only did you abuse your fellow supposed muslim (that is if you are a muslim) but also use what Islam preaches to do so (beard). When the prophet (SAW) said Abusing a muslim is a sin and fighting him is kufr. Hating any part of what the prophet brought is Nifaaq (hypocrisy) which Allah described as people who will be @ the deepest part of the hell fire.
    I agree with you on the fact that one can marry in the manner that the prophet as married. Having a wife older than him like 15 years and didn’t marry again until she died or that he married Aisha(RA) and married way older women while keeping her rights but that is not the only permissible way of getting married more than one wife as the companions who Allah has described as believers did not marry like that and the prophet didn’t forbid them.
    So, Hmmmm…Be mindful of what you say without knowledge as Allah will ask you how you use every part of your body and they will testify against you. So, my advice for you is taubah (repentance) if you are a muslim

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