COV NTXHAIS THIAB SEXUALITY: TO TAUB LI CAS COV NIAM TXIV THIAB COV MUSLIM ZEJ ZOG YUAV UA RAU LAWV TUS NTXHAIS

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Cov teeb meem hais ntawm no yog ib feem ntawm ib daim duab loj npaum li cas thiab mas nws yeej tsis nyob ua ib lub nqus tsev nqus tsev

Thaum kuv los ua ib tug therapist kuv muaj ib tug tsis pom kev zoo pab neeg tau los ntawm lub sij hawm nyuab heev, sib tham nrog lawv tsev neeg, thiab tsim foupective thaum lawv muaj kev nyam. Kuv twb tau honored nrog lub nyog uas tau pub ib nyuag ntsia mus rau hauv lub neej ntawm kuv cov neeg tau nrog lub hom phiaj no nyob rau hauv siab. Kuv nyog loj tshaj (thiab sib tw) Kom deb li deb tau mus ua hauj lwm nrog cov hluas nkauj hluas nkauj.

Thaum kuv zaum ntawm cov hluas nkauj uas tuaj ntawm cov Muslim tsev neeg, Kuv thawj sib tw yog fim kuv tus kheej apprehension. Kuv tsis paub dab tsi preconceived notions lawv yuav tau pom ib conservatively hnav hijab hnav therapist. kom deb li deb, Kuv nrhiav tau cov hluas nkauj tsis tsuas qhib, Tab sis kuj kaj siab lug kam nrog kuv. Thaum nws tseem tsis tau kuv qhov chaw raws li ib tug therapist kom muaj ib daim duab kev cai dab qhuas daim duab rau kuv cov neeg tau, Kuv paub tias rau tej theem lawv muaj relieved yuav tau tab neeg tham nrog ib tug neeg uas zoo nkaus li embody lub ntsej muag heev ntawm lawv backgrounds uas lawv xav tias disconnected.

Kuv ntseeg tias txoj kev sib tw cov Muslim cov ntxhais fim hauv navigating lawv tus kheej nyob rau hnub no lub neej yog nyuaj dua lawv puas tau. Ntawm cov struggles mus tsis tu ncua ntawm societal, familial, thiab kev cai dab qhuas, poj niam, thiab feem ntau tsis zoo ntawm kev tawm, Cov hluas nkauj feem ntau tshuav navigating yog leejtwg teeb meem uas yuav tawm ntau cov neeg laus nyob rau hauv ib paralyzing bind. Rau lub sake ntawm tsab xov xwm no, Kuv yuav txwv cov kev sib tham rau tej teeb meem lwm tus hluas nkauj thiab sexuality.

Nws yog ib qhov teeb meem pervasive uas yog tej yam cov Muslim zej zog.

"Kuv tsis xav tias txhua tus tub yuav puas tau muaj rau kuv siab ntsws li Amani* yog. Thiab kuv cia li tsis pom kuv tus kheej tau nrog ib tug me nyuam tub uas tsis muaj rau kuv siab ntsws."

"Kuv ib txwm crushed rau Jasmine, Yeej tsis rau Aladdin."

KEV UA NIAM TXIV THIAB KEV UA NIAM TXIV YOG LEEJTWG TIAG

Ua ib qho kev kawm ntawv loj, Kuv yuav tsum tau nyeem ntawvLub Disappearance ntawm Childhood, Neil Postman. Postman tham txog tej yam tawm hauv lub portrayal thiab poob innocence rau cov me nyuam. Nws muaj kev ruaj ntseg hais tias haiv neeg twb tuaj ib txoj kev ntev txij thaum 1994 Thaum phau ntawv ntawd luam tawm, Thiab tias peb muaj nyob deb tshaj qhov chaw tawm input tshaj tau muaj nyob rau hauv lub 90 tus. Seb puas tsim los ntawm print, filtered duab rau Instagram, los yog TV, Cov hluas nkauj yog lossi bombarded nrog dluab ntawm dab tsi yog zoo nkauj thiab attractive. Cov kis ntawm cov ntxhais thiab cov poj niam yog kaw sai li hluas nkauj ntaus puberty thiab lub cev mature thaum muaj hnub nyoog ua ntej lawm puas tau ua ntej. Khaub ncaws thiab zam rau tweens thiab cov poj niam laus yuav luag indistinguishable, Uas ua rau cov hluas nkauj yuav tau teem rau lawv lub zog (los yog tsis hijab) Ua ntej lawv twb muaj caij nyoog los tsim ib ntxaum kev txiav txim zoo ntawm tus kheej.

Niaj hnub no, Cov hluas nkauj tau lossi opposing lus txog leejtwg tiag, kev ywj pheej, suab, txo hwjchim. Thaum cov exploitation ntawm cov poj niam yog guised li liberation thiab ywj siab, Nws yog ib qho yooj yim saib li cas ib lub zog thiab sexiness yuav yuam kev rau worthiness.  Qhov txawv ntawd, Thaum peb drill lub tswv yim ntawm txaj muag yog purely txog outer garments, Peb yuav xa tib yam lus: Tus poj niam ntawd tsim nyog yog relegated rau qhov uas nws tiab. Thov nco ntsoov tias qhov no tsis yog ib tug saib rau cov txheej xwm ntawm hijab hauv Islam. Lub tswv yim ntawm no yog highlightUa li cas Peb tham nrog peb cov hluas nkauj thiab cov lus peb yuav muab rau lawv thaum peb txaj muag kom deb ntawm ntxaum ntau lub ntsiab lus, albeit nyuaj, sib tham.

SEXUALITY VS. SEXUALIZATION

Dr. Leonard Sax distinguishes ntawm sexuality thiab sexualization hauv nws phau ntawv hluas nkauj rau ntawm ntug. Nws notes qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev ua niam txiv sexuality ua ib qho tseem ceeb thiab noj qab nyob zoo ib feem ntawm cov hluas txoj kev loj hlob. Sexuality yog hais txog leej twg yog ib tug, ib feem ntawm nws tus kheej yog leejtwg tiag, whereas sexualization yog ib tug kub siab rau li cas ib tug neeg zoo li cas. Sexuality yog ib qho zoo thiab tsim nyog ib feem ntawm tib neeg txoj kev loj hlob. Tib neeg sexuality yog txhais li "qhov zoo ntawm kev ua niam txiv, Los yog txoj kev uas tib neeg hnov thiab qhia lawv tus kheej li sexual beings. Qhov no yuav pab tau pebtshuaj lom neeg, erotic, cev nqaij, siab ntsws, kev sib raug zoo, Lossissab ntsuj plig kev xav thiab tus cwj pwm coj." 1 Adolescence yog ib lub sij hawm thaum youngsters yog figuring tawm lawv qhov chaw nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb thaum navigating lawv hloov lub cev, tig tau, thiab kev lub neej. Sexuality yog intertwined nyob rau hauv txhua nam ntawm ib tug hluas ob leeg nrog lawv tus kheej thiab lub ntiaj teb nyob ib ncig ntawm lawv. Nws yog ib qho zoo li qub, ntuj, noj qab nyob zoo thiab noj qab nyob. Tus sexualization ntawm cov hluas nkauj tsis tas li ntawd, tsis yog.

sexualization, tsis zoo li sexuality, Yog thaum tus kub siab yog ib lub zog thiab pw ua ke tsis txaus siab thiab mus tes nrog objectification. Nws mus tsis hais tias cov sexualization ntawm cov poj niamua rau muaj ntau yam tsis zoo Tshaj ntawd qhov uas tau qhov no.  Tiam sis, Tsis pub dhau lub zej zog Muslim, No mas, xws li peb twb ua ntshai ntawm qhov yuav tshwm uas peb yuav tua rau lwm cov tshuaj nyob rau hauv lub npe ntawm kev tiv thaiv/kev ruaj ntseg. Noj qab nyob zoo thiab tsim nyog sib tham txog sexuality yog abandoned thiab txawm stigmatized. Cov lus rau cov ntxhais yog tias lawv sexuality, thiab essence, lawv tau, txaj muag thiab tsis tau nes mas hais Ius ntawm. Vim li ntawd, Peb cov poj niam hluas yog tshuav navigate txoj kev sib tw ntawm tsim ib tug kheej inclusive ntawm lawv tus kheej tag nrho rau lawv tus kheej. Ib tug neeg tau hais rau kuv, "Kuv niam tsis xav kom kuv puag tub hluas. Uas tsis txawv vim kuv bisexual lawm." Kuv tsis tau pab tab sis xav li cas tus ntxhais yuav tau noj nws txawv yog hais tias nws niam muaj sib tham txog nws tus kheej tsim nyog thiabUa li cas Nws tau nug nws refrain los ntawm tej cwj pwm. Peb tsis twb paub lawm yog tias thaum cov neeg laus nyob rau hauv cov hluas lub neej tsis hlub qhia lawv thiab khaws lub qhov rooj qhib rau kev sib tham sib tham, Kev tawm yuav yooj yim heev sau tus void.

Nws yog ib qho zoo rau cov hluas kom muaj lus nug txog lawv lub cev tsim lub cev thiab kev ua niam txiv khiav. Peb ua peb cov me nyuam thiab peb cov zej zog ib disservice thaum peb xaiv las mees cov realities ntawm lawv txoj kev loj hlob. Yog tsis yooj yim dua thaum lub sij hawm ntawm tus yawm saub rau cov poj niam tuaj nug txog intimate matters. Lawv paub tias txaj muag thiab openness yuav coexist. Peb pom, tom qab tau txais kev pab, Tus yawm saub ntawd tseeb txog ib tug poj niam lo lus teb rau kev ua niam txiv arousal thiab cov implication uas qhov no yog ib feem thiab parcel ntawm conception.

Um-Sulaim tuaj rau Allah tus Tubtxib thiab hais tias, "Verily, Allah tsis txaj muag ntawm (qhia koj) qhov tseeb. Nws yog tsim nyog rau ib tug poj niam coj ib da dej tom qab nws muaj ib tug npau suav peb npau suav (kev ua niam txiv tsis zoo?) Tus cev Vajtswv lus hu ua Prophetreplied, Tub Ntsuag teb tias, "Yog, Yog hais tias nws pom ib tug discharge." Um Sulaim, Ces them nws lub ntsej muag thiab nug, "O Allah tus Tubtxib! Puas yog ib tug poj niam tau txais ib tug discharge?Nws teb tias: "Nws teb tias: "Nws teb, Tub Ntsuag teb tias, "Yog, cia koj txhais tes rau hauv plua plav (Ib arabic qhia hais teeb-heartedly rau ib tug neeg uas nws tsab ntawv uas koj contradict) thiab yog vim li cas tus tub resembles nws niam." Sahih Muslim 608 Tshooj 3, Phau ntawv ntawm Menstruation (Kitab Al-Haid) `

KEV UA NIAM TXIV YOG LEEJTWG TIAG

Ntxiv rau sorting los ntawm lawv lub cev, siab ntsws, thiab kev loj hlob, Cov hluas hnub no yog nyob rau hauv ib lub sij hawm uas nws tseem yuav luag xav pom tias lawv yuav tshawb, los yog lus nug tsawg kawg 12, lawv kev ua niam txiv yog leejtwg tiag. Qhov no yog lwm lub npe tias cov Muslim zej zog feem ntau nyiam kom qab qhov rooj kaw. Peb xav tias peb cov me nyuam yuav txais cov heterosexual norms ntawm peb kev cai dab qhuas thiab kev cai dab qhuas zej zog. Ntau yuav, Tiam sis nws tsi muaj ib yam dab tsi uas yuav tau noj rau granted. Seb peb nyiam nws los tsis, Thiabirrespective ntawm lub Islamic txiav txim rau lub npe, Disease fact yog tias ntau tshaj ntawm peb cov hluas nkauj yog muag nrog cov lus nug txog lawv kev ua niam txiv yog leejtwg tiag. Lawv lub neej yuav ntes tau hauv lub dichotomy ntawm ib haiv neeg uas kev ua niam txiv kev tshawb kawm yog thov nej tsam ces thiab tsev thiab cov zej zog uas tham txog sexuality yog taboo.

Nyob rau hauv ib nyuas uas 1) Hluas nkauj-hluas nkauj kev ua niam txiv intimacy lawm taboo, 2) kev ua niam txiv orientation, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau cov poj niam, normalized, 3) Qhov twg kev puas siab ntsws unengaged yuav tawm hauv cov ntxhais uas muaj kev puas siab ntsws kom sau, Thiab 4) Cov hluas uas tsis paub tab dua lawv siv los ua, Yog tsis surprise tias ntau thiab cov hluas nkauj yog xa mus rau tib pw ua ke rau comfort thaum cov formative thiab nyuaj xyoo. Thaum cov ntxhais hluas nkauj battling txoj kev loj hlob ntawm adolescence, Thaum nyob hauv tsev uas lawv xav ignored, criticized, to taub yuam kev, Nws yuav txhais lus rau hauv nws tus kheej esteem, kev nyuaj siab, ntxhov siab, thiab/los yog rebellion.

Phooj ywg yooj yim ua tus thawj txhawb lawv, thiab kev puas siab ntsws yuav txhais lus rau hauv lub cev intimacy. Thaum kuv nug ib tug ntawm kuv cov neeg tau txog nws txoj kev xav ntawm nws tsev neeg ignoring nws, Nws hais tias "Kuv tsis tu. Kuv cov phooj ywg yog kuv lub ntiaj teb. Tsuav yog kuv txhua yam! ua tau, thiab tsis qhia rau kuv niam no, Kuv tus phooj ywg zoo thiab kuv nyuam qhuav pib tawm ob peb lub lis piam dhau los." Kuv twb ua haujlwm nrog tus neeg tau ntev txaus paub tias nws tsis unaffected los ntawm nws tsev neeg dismissal ntawm nws, Tab sis, txoj kev uas nws yog coping los ntawm nws friendships— uas yuav mus txog qhov romantic thiab.

Dr. Sax posits tias tus "hluas nkauj lawv tus kheej yuav tsis to taub dab tsi yog zoj zis vim hais tias tus hluas nkauj tsis kov nrog lawv tus kheej sexuality." (p 33) Raws li Dr. nax, Cov hluas nkauj uas paub li lesbian los yog bisexual tej zaum yuav qhov chaw ntawm 15 mus rau 23%. Peb yuav tsum tso tseg tias Muslim cov ntxhais hluas nkauj thiab cov poj niam hluas tsis poob rau hauv no ntau yam. Peb kuj yuav tsum paub tias superficial sib tham txog txaj muag thiab hijab thiab exhortations "muaj taqwa" nrog ntshai heev txawm ntawm ntuj raug txim yuav tsis muaj ib cov tshuaj viable. Cov teeb meem no ntxaum ntxaum thiab yuav tsum tau peb txav tawm hauv peb tsam tsam thiab saib hauv daim iav li niam txiv, neeg laus, thiab ua ib lub zej zog.

QHOV NO NROG LWM COV TSHUAJ

hijab. Nws yog tus thawj tshaj plaws uas los mloog rau ntau tus neeg. Cov lus nug txog seb yuav tsum muaj los yog tsis tau partitions hauv masajid tseem tau hotly debated. Nyob defending peb txaus qhia rau lub cev barriers ntawm cov txiv neej thiab cov poj niam, Peb poob pom ntawm tus Disease fact tias peb cov hluas nkauj yog chav; tsis hais seb lawv hnav hijab. Thaum nws tawm los rau cov Muslim cov ntxhais, Peb ua li tshaib plab rau lub npe ntawm lwm tsom uas peb mus overlooking sib tham txog dab tsi nws txhais tau tias yuav tsim ib tug zoo siab rau tus kheej, kev sib deev, thiab tsim nyog. Qhov teeb meem underlying no tsis muaj los yog hla ntawm lub cev barrier, hijab, khaub ncaws, los yog may, Ntau li ntau nws yog peb cov ntxhais cov tawv qhov txhais los ntawm thiab txwv rau tej no. Kuv tsis arguing tias sib tham los yog tham txog hijab nrog peb cov ntxhais yuav tsum tau abandoned. Kuv ntseeg tias tsis tas li ntawd, Tias cov kev sib tham no yuav tsum tshwm sim nyob rau hauv ib lub ntsiab lus teb loj uas ua rau lawv ntau meaningful.

Ib tug huab, religiosity yuav tswj rau cov ntxhais. Lawv yuav qhia li cas yog halal, haram, Thiab feem ntau overly cautioned txog tej yam uas yuav coj lawv mus ntuj raug txim. Cov ntxhais yog qhia tias hijab yog ib qho tseem ceeb vim lawv tau analogous rau khoom qab zib uas yuav tsum tau them los ntawm flies. Qhov no qhia cov ntxhais?  Kuv tsis tau muaj pes tsawg tus neeg kuv ntsib uas yog muab kom deb ntawm Islam vim lawv twb tau muab tej tsaus nti thiab ignorant foupective. Zoo tshaj plaws, Lawv begrudgingly oblige. Phem, Lawv pib xyuas raws li "nyob rau hauv lub txee dai khaub ncaws atheist." Thaum peb tsis kho cov hluas tshaj peb compassion thiab mercy, Lawv pib ntseeg tias vajtswv —nws qhia vaj tswv txog tej uas peb qhia vajlugkub rau nws thiab khuvleej luag lwm tus.

Ibn Majah narrates rau txoj cai ntawm Jundab ibn 'Abdallah uas hais: "Peb tau nrog tus yawm saub – ib pawg youngsters ze ntawm lub hnub nyoog maturity. Peb learnt dab tsi yog iman ua ntej peb yuav kawm cov Quran. Tom qab ntawd peb learnt lub Quran. Ua li ntawd, ua li ntawd, Peb ntau zog peb iman."

Qhov no hadith qhia tau hais tias peb tias cov tug yawm saub pib nws qhia youngsters los tsim ib txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog Allah. Yog tsis muab tias hijab yog ib tug hais kom ua los ntawm Allah. Tiam sis, Thaum peb txo kev cai dab qhuas qhia tsuas tshooj lus rau halal/haram, Txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog Allah tsis muaj sij hawm los tsim.

Lwm yam huab yog thaum sib tham txog txaj muag thiab zoo hijab yog scoffed ntawm thiab tswv txiav txim thiab/los yog kev cai. Thaum ob yoj ntawm feminism, nrov notions ntawm cov poj niam cwj pwm hauv zej zog, Lawv sexuality thiab reproductive txoj cai tau debated, Thiab txaj muag yog posited ua ib byproduct ntawm tus txiv neej patriarchy. Muaj ntau cov notions kuj yog entrenched nyob rau hauv lub zej zos Muslim thiab tej lus nug los yog criticisms niaj hnub hijab thiab zam tiam sis yog politically tsis muaj tseeb. Nws kuj qhia feem ntau kom tau raws li cov Muslim "feminists". Kuv siv quotes nyob ib ncig ntawm feminist vim kuv ntseeg tias muaj coob tus hluas nkauj tsis tau paub keeb kwm ntawm feminism, Los yog li cas nws tej yam uas lawv tshaj ntawd muab lawv ntau txoj cai tshaj li cas yog afforded rau lawv nyob rau hauv lawv tsev neeg.

Qhov teeb meem nrog ob leeg ntawm cov approaches yog tias lawv coj kom deb ntawm kev sib tham ntawm sexuality thiab yog leejtwg tiag. Peb ua tibneeg hu tauj coob imposing los yog defending lwm yam uas ntxaum sib tham poob rau txoj kev. Nws kuj tsis pab tias ntau siv kev tawm yog forcing hluas nkauj yuav tsum "koob yees duab npaj" lest ib daim duab unflattering duab ntawm lawv ua rau lwm tus neeg snap zaj dabneeg Snap.

PEB YUAV UA LI CAS PEB THIAJ UA TAU?

Cov teeb meem hais ntawm no yog ib feem ntawm ib daim duab loj npaum li cas thiab mas nws yeej tsis nyob ua ib lub nqus tsev nqus tsev. Ntawm no yog tswv yim ntawm cov niam txiv thiab cov zej zog yuav ua tau rau lawv tus ntxhais.

Nco ntsoov. Nug nws seb nws puas zoo li cas. Acknowledge tias nws yog yooj yim. Acknowledge tias tej zaum koj yuav tsis to taub, Tab sis, txoj kev uas koj xav tau. Tsis txhob xav tias koj paub dab tsi koj tus ntxhais yuav mus txog. Kuj, Tsis diminish nws tu siab los yog lwm yam tig tau uas ua rau koj seeb li "dramatic." Peb muaj ntau tus neeg laus uas tau nyob lawv lub neej tau hais rau lawv yog ua poj huab tais thiab tig, Lawv tus cwj pwm txawv yeej tsis valid. Peb perpetuate no injustice rau peb cov ntxhais thaum peb las mees lawv mob los yog qhia rau lawv seb lawvYuav tsumLossisyuav tsum tsis txhobxav.

empathize. Tej zaum koj yuav tsis paub nws pom tau tias zoo li yuav nyob rau hauv koj tus ntxhais nkawm khau. Tej zaum koj yuav tsis to taubUa li cas Nws pom tau tias qhov uas nws pom tau tias, seb tu siab, txhawj xeeb, kho siab, los yog pog. Tab sis koj paub tias tej kev xav no yog dab tsi. Koj twb undoubtedly muaj lawv. Cia koj tus ntxhais (thiab cov tub ntawd teeb meem) paub tias koj muaj kev li no ntawm tej taw tes rau koj lub neej, thiab tseem muaj tej yam zoo li no. Normalize cov kev xav rau koj cov me nyuam. Paub thiab verbalize lawv hav zoov.

Thaum peb tsis empathize nrog cov me nyuam, Nws yuav tuaj nyob li indifference los yog shaming. Ntau zaus kuv pom cov niam txiv qhia lawv cov me nyuam tsis quaj los tsis hnov ib txoj kev. Qhov no minimizes tiag thiab feem ntau tsis yooj yim tig tau thiab tsis tau qhia cov hluas txog yuav navigate qhov muaj tshwm sim yuav ua rau lawv. Nws cia li qhia lawv kaw lawv txoj kev xav tawm. Qhov teeb meem yog tias peb tsis tau selectively tig tawm tig. Thaum peb xaiv kev sib txuas peb peev xwm hnov mob thiab tu siab, Peb inadvertently kuj kaw tawm peb muaj peev xwm hnov kev kaj siab lug thiab excitement.

Xyuam xim. Daim ntawv ceeb toom hloov hauv koj tus ntxhais mus ob peb vas. Nws yog rho nws tus kheej? Nws yog lossi rau kev tawm? Thaum nws yog ib qho zoo rau cov hluas thawb kom deb ntawm lawv niam thiab txiv, Nws tsis yog ib qho zoo rau lawv kaw lawv kiag li. Them xim yuav tsum tau siv sij hawm nrog peb cov me nyuam thiab tau paublawv yog leej twg. Nws txhais tau tias nrhiav dhau lawv qib thiab seb lawv paub yuav ua li cas kom chai rau lawv nyiam, lawv passions, thiab lawv struggles.

Tsis txhob muab piv rau. Tsis rau koj struggles, Tsis mus rau ib tug kwvtij zoo, tsis mus rau lwm nkauj muam nraug nus/phooj ywg/random tus neeg goodness. Piv tsis zoo txhawb leej twg. Peb cov ntxhais muaj txaus ua comparisons nrog airbrushed qauv yog tus txheem ntawm kev zoo nkauj. Wb tsis ua rau lawv ntseeg tias lawv tsis zoo txaus los qhia rau lawv tias so-and-so-so-so handled tib nriaj los yog kis tib yam uas ya xim. Piv xa lus tias peb tsis hlub uas lawv yog. Tsis txhob ua comparisons nrog tus cwj pwm zoo ntawm lwm tus, kawm kom paub thiab compliment qhov teebkev siv zog uas yog ua.

Zoo siab rau tus niam txiv txhais tau hais tias tus niam/txiv ntawd. Tej zaum peb yuav tau hlub tshua, khuvleej, thiab txais tos cov me nyuam thaum tseem teem ib thaj tsam ntawm ciam teb. Kuv xav kom sawv daws yog ib tug niam txiv, los yog ua haujlwm nrog cov hluas nkauj nyob rau hauv tej peev xwm nyeem ntawvCov ntxhais nyob rau ntawm ntug To taub cov uas siv rau kev tawm, kev ua niam txiv, thiab lwm yam uas yuav ua rau txoj kev loj hlob ntawm cov ntxhais hluas nkauj. Nws yuav tsis yooj yim mus tiv thaiv cov grain ntawm ntau nrov norms, Tiam sis nws yuav tsis muaj mob rau peb cov ntxhais nyob rau hauv cov mus dhia ntev.

Qhov no yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev thaum nws tawm los rau kev tawm.Kev tshawb fawb tau pom tias ib correlation correlationNtawm qhov peb siv ntawm qhov chawkev tawm thiab kev nyuaj siab. Yog lossi txuas nrog yuav muaj ib tug detrimental nyhuv rau cov poj niam hluas, Thiab nws yog mus rau cov niam txiv tswj thiab qhia lawv cov me nyuam yuav tsum tau lub luag hauj lwm thiab balanced nyob rau hauv lawv siv kev tawm.

Ua kom zoo dua. Tom qab tau ua hauj lwm nrog ib tug xov tooj ntawm cov hluas nkauj ua ib counselor, Kuv tuaj ceeb toom ib tug qauv. Txhua tib leeg xwb, tsis kos, pom tau tias criticized thiab/los yog ignored los ntawm lawv niam thiab txiv. Thaum kuv ntsib nrog cov niam txiv, Kuv pom txoj kev hlub thiab txhawj xeeb rau lawv tus ntxhais. Tiam sis, Qhov no tau voiced nyob rau hauv daim ntawv tsis txaus siab los yog tswv yim rau txoj kev txhim kho thaum appreciation thiab genuine compliments yuav tsum tau probed rau. Txawm tias thaum nws tawm los rau cov neeg laus kev sib raug zoo, Dr. John Gottman, Ib renowned kev sib raug zoo muaj pom tias kev sib yuav muaj ib tug 5:1 piv ntawm txoj kev sib tshuam tsis zoo. Raws li cov neeg laus, PebTau Yuav tsum validated thiab acknowledged zoo nyob rau hauv peb txoj kev sib raug zoo. Tsis tau nyob hauv lub hustle thiab bustle ntawm lub neej txhua hnub thiab tau txais tasks ua, Peb tsis nco qab txog qhov no rau peb cov me nyuam. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws ntawm peb cov me nyuam txoj kev loj hlob yog rau lawv paub tias lawv hlub. Tsis txhob xav tias koj cov me nyuam paub tias koj hlub lawv. Qhia rau lawv tias koj ua li cas.

Tsim caij nyoog. Qhov no yog qhov twg lub zej zog los nyob rau hauv. Peb yuav tsum tsim avenues rau cov ntxhais tshawb lawv nyiam thiab tsim lawv kev txiav txim zoo ntawm nws tus kheej hauv lub ntsiab lus teb ntawm ib lub zej zog. Dr. Sax tham txog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm cov ntxhais pib nrog ib lub zej zog ntawm cov poj niam uas muaj hnub nyoog ntau yam thiab raws li muab cov ntxhais lub sijhawm los tshawb lawv spirituality. Peb masajid yog zoo tagnrho tej chaw rau cov poj niam, hluas, tuaj ua ke thiab tsim ib multidimensional kev txiav txim zoo ntawm nws tus kheej.

nrhiav kev pab.Lub neej nyuaj heev. Ntawm tej taw tes peb tsim cov miv nyuas uas peb yuav tsum paub nws tag nrho los yog cas yuav tau xyuas nws. Qhov no cia li tsis muaj tseeb. Peb yuav tsum tsim muaj peev xwm nug kev pab thaum peb xav tau nws rau ib tug neeg, familial, thiab communal theem. Qhov no yuav siv tau daim ntawv mus nrhiav kev pab los yog counseling, leaning rau ib tug phooj ywg rau kev them nyiaj yug, los yog kev sib tham nrog lwm tus. Thaum peb tsis kam thov kev pab, Peb kuj mus tsis tau pab tau peb.

Ua ib tug qauv luag hauj lwm. Tsis yog ntawd kev cai dab qhuas los yog vocational zoo. Nriaj thiab tsis ua hauj lwm yog ib feem ntawm lub neej. Cov qhua tuaj thiab tawm hauv peb lub neej nyob txhua theem. Lawv tsis ua peb tsawg tshaj li lawv diminish peb tsim nyog. Thaum peb xyaum coj ncaj rau txhua fab, peb yuav tsum coj ncaj rau txhua fab thiab xav nrog peb tus kheej tham, Peb qhia cov youngsters nyob ib ncig ntawm peb tias nws tseem tsis zoo xwb kheej, tiam sis kuj muaj kev ruaj ntseg zoo, ua li ntawd. Kam grapple nrog txoj kev sib tw uas yog seeb.  Peb cov me nyuam ua txhua hnub xwb.

Menahal hlob nyob queens, New York. Nws yog ib tug kawm tiav ntawm lub koom haum Al-Huda lub koom haum thiab muaj ib masters kawm ntawv nyob rau hauv clinical Mental Health Counseling. Menahal tej hauj lwm nrog cov neeg, Yim, Thiab ob peb lub npog ib tug neeg puag nrog ntau yam kev puas siab puas ntsws, xws li kev tsim txom me nyuam. Feem ntau notably Menahal tau tiav theem 1-3 Lub neej counseling ntawm lub koom haum Gottman, Ntiaj teb renowned rau nws ua hauj lwm rau lub neej stability thiab txoj kev sib nrauj prediction. tom qab ntawd, Nws ua hauj lwm nrog lub koom haum Gottman sau lub koom haum Islamic siv qhia rau txoj kev Gottman. Nws yog tam sim no pursuing kev kawm nyob rau hauv Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, ib modality los kho trauma.

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