Muab daim ntawv no
Zina (kev puas siab puas si) Kuj yog ib qho chaw tshwm sim nyob rau hauv cov Muslim cov hluas zej zog, Thiab cov Muslim cov ntxhais thiab cov tub hluas muaj sadly poob prey rau lub snares ntawm thaj haiv neeg Thaj. Tej zaum koj yuav xav li cas yuav zoo li cas thaum cov Muslim cov niam txiv zoo muab lawv cov me nyuam nyob rau hauv 'xauv thiab tseem ceeb'. Cov lus teb yog tias feem ntau cov niam txiv yog nruj me ntsis uas lawv cov me nyuam txhawj xeeb, Lawv tsis coj lub sij hawm mus tham thiab piav rau lawv txog cov seriousness ntawm Zina. tiag mas, Lawv muab ib Fatwa ntawm “tsis muaj hluas nraug” Thaum lawv tus ntxhais mus txog puberty. Tej kev txiav txim zoo li ordering ib ob xyoos tsis kov lub hwj huam taw tes. Koj xav tias tus me nyuam yuav ua li cas?
Zaj tom ntej no qhia tias peb yuav qhia peb cov menyuam li cas thiaj txawj qhia Vajlugkub.
Nyob Islam, Yog tsis muaj tej yam li ib tug hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo. Neb yog sib yuav los yog koj tsis yog. Qhov no yog li cas peb yuav tsum tau ingrain rau peb cov me nyuam thaum ntxov. Peb yuav tsum tsis tos lawv tuaj rau peb thaum lawv hluas nug txog hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo. Thaum lig theem lig, Txawm tias peb forbid lawv muaj tej kev sib raug zoo, Yog peb mloog peb lus, peb yuav mloog peb lus yog hais tias lawv yog smitten los ntawm ib tug neeg? li no, Nws tseem ceeb heev uas peb qhia peb cov me nyuam tias lub sij hawm xwb ib tug ntxhais los yog tus tub yuav muaj ib txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog ib tug tsis-Mahatma (Tsis-Mahatma yog ib tug neeg uas lawv yuav tau) yog nkawd sib yuav! Tas lawm, Yog ib tug hluas nkauj los yog tus tub nkag mus rau hauv ib tug hluas nkauj hluas nraug txoj kev sib raug zoo ces nws yuav nkag mus rau hauv ib txoj kev sib raug zoo ua ntej sib raug zoo.
Thaum cov teenage theem, Peb yuav tsum tsis txhob txaj muag qhia lawv tus kheej ntawm cov cuab yeej ob leeg tsim muaj. Peb yuav tsum to taub tias kev sib raug zoo ua ntej sib raug zoo yog zoo li cov kev sib raug zoo extra-marital kev sib raug zoo, Los yog dab tsi feem ntau hu ua adultery los yog 'kev yi'. Nws ruins lub zej zog los corrupting cov neeg. Nws unleashes puag muaj siab uas, Ib zaug pub dawb-reign, tsev neeg puas tsuaj. Peb yuav tsocai rau lawv cov piv txwv ntawm illegitimate thiab abandoned cov me nyuam, tsev tawg lawm, abortions, thiab kev ua niam txiv – daim ntawv mus. Peb yuav tsum tau taw tes rau lawv lub txim rau kev sib raug zoo sab nraum lub neej: Ibn Masoud (r.a.a.) Hais txog cov tug yawm saub Muhammad (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) Hais, “Cov ntshav ntawm ib Cov Muslim yuav tsis raug cai spilt uas tsis yog nyob rau hauv ib qhov ntawm peb instances: tus txij nkawm uas kuas nyuas siv zug cov laus, txojsia ib puas muaj txojsia nyob mus ib puas lawm, Thiab ib tug uas forsakes nws kev ntseeg thiab abandons lub zej zog.” [Bukhari thiab Muslim]. Ua txhais tau tias, Tus txij nkawm uas kuas nyuas siv zug cov neeg laus yuav raug tua los ntawm stoning tuag [Muslim]. Tab sis zoo li cas txog tus neeg unmarried uas muaj kev sib raug zoo? So assured tias tus neeg no yuav tsis mus unpunished – Nws los yog nws yuav tau whipped los yog whipped ib puas zaug [Muslim]. Txawm nyob hauv lub Hereafter, txim loj heev: Tus cev Vajtswv lus (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) saws, poj niam thiab poj niam, Nyob rau hauv ib lub ci ci hauv Hellfire [Bukhari].
Ntawm no theem koj tus me nyuam teenage yuav hais tias hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo yuav tsum tsis mus kom deb li deb tau qhov kev ua niam txiv kev ua niam txiv; Lawv yuav tswj lawv tus kheej thiab tsuas txaus siab rau lwm lub tuam txhab. Counter no, Koj hais tias nws yog ib tug Disease fact thaum ib tug ntxhais thiab ib tug me nyuam tub yog ib leeg ua ke, Lawv kev ua niam txiv xav awaken thiab ua ntej lawv paub nws, Lawv yuav tau ua tej yam uas tsis permissible ntawm cov neeg unmarried. Yog vim li cas rau qhov no yog vim Shaytaan yuav yog tus neeg thib peb nrog lawv [Ahmad] Thiab nws yuav whisper thiab tempt lawv nrog lub forbidden. Qhov no yog vim li cas Islam shuns tag nrho avenues ua rau kev noj nyiaj txiag ntawm lub siab, plig.
Ib yam dab tsi uas peb yuav tsum qhia lawv yog khi lawv muaj siab. Peb yuav ua tau li cas los ntawm qhov uas pub nqe zog rau peb ua tau li ntawd, Xws li tus neeg uas controls nws lust yuav yog cov neeg uas Allah bestows mercy li:
Abu Hurairah (r.a.a.) Narrated tias tug yawm saub Muhammad (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) Hais tias cov xya tus neeg uas Allah yuav ntxoov ntxoo rau nws ntxoov ntxoo rau hnub ntawd (Txiav Txim Plaub Ntug) Thaum tsis muaj ntxoov ntxoo tsuas yog nws ntxoov ntxoo, Yog ib tug txiv neej uas yog tempted los ntawm ib tug poj niam zoo nkauj thiab tsis kam teb ntshai Allah. [Bukhari thiab Muslim].
Hauv qab no yog xav paub ntxiv txog kev pab koj tus menyuam, thaum ntxov, Chaste kom thaum nws laus zuj zus, Nws yuav tsis txhob mus rau hauv ib tug hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo. Thawj, Koj yuav tsum tham thiab piav rau lawv txog tej no thaum lawv tseem hluas, ces thaum lawv loj hlob, Koj kom paub tseeb tias nws yog muab tso rau hauv xyaum.
Koj yuav tsum qhia nws los yog nws:
1. Tsis txhob dawb do nrog tus txheem pw ua ke.
2. Tsis saib tus txheem pw ua ke. Qhov no yog ua los ntawm lowering los yog averting lawv ob lub qhov muag li Allah qhia peb: “Qhia rau cov txiv neej believing txo lawv gaze thiab tiv thaiv lawv qhov chaw. Uas yog purer rau lawv. Verily Allah yog All-Aware txog lawv ua dab tsi. Thiab qhia rau cov poj niam believing cov poj niam los txo lawv gaze thiab tiv thaiv lawv qhov chaw…” [24:30-31] Tas lawm, Tug yawm saub Muhammad (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) Hais, “…Tsis txhob cia ib pliag saib ua raws li tus thawj. Thawj saib yog pub rau koj tab sis tsis tus thib ob.” [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, ntawm-Tirmidhi]. Qhov no txhais tau tias yog tias tus thawj saib yog los ntawm kev huam yuaj. Yog hais tias qhov no tshwm sim ces tsis txhob noj ib pliag saib. Tug yawm saub Muhammad (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) Tseem hais tias lub qhov muag kuj kuas nyuas siv zug adultery los saib ib tug neeg uas muaj lust. [Bukhari]
3. Rau cov ntxhais, Qhia lawv tsis ua lawv cov suab lus nws seductive los yog qab zib pem lub taub hau cov-Mahram. Qhov no yog ua los ntawm lowering lub suab thiab tsis flirting. Raws li Allah qhia cov poj niam uas tug yawm saub Muhammad (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) “…tsis txhob nyiam hais lus, ua rau nws lub plawv muaj ib tug mob uas yuav tsum muaj siab xav txog koj…” [33:32]
4. Tseem ceeb yog qhov kawg, Qhia kom lawv hnav khaubncaws hnav kom tsis txhob kos kom lawv tus kheej. Uas yog, Cov ntxhais yuav tsum hnav Hijabs thiab khaub ncaws xoob thaum tub hluas yuav tsum tau hnav khaub ncaws xoob, Tsis nruj ris los yog ris nrog T-shirt ntsaws hauv. Nws tu siab tias, Ncua, Cov niam txiv cia lawv cov me nyuam hnav khaub ncaws zam uas, feem ntau, Tsis tau raws li qhov yuav tsum tau txais Islamic tiab code. Dab tsi txawm sadder yog saib Muslim niam npog lawv tus kheej kom taug kev nrog lawv uncovered teenage ntxhais thiab cov tub.
5. Peb yuav tsum qhia peb cov menyuam tias peb yuav tsum txo hwjchim, Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob ib ncig ntawm tus txheem pw ua ke. Hais txog kev txaj muag, Peb yuav tsum siv tus Cev Vajtswv lus (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) Ua qauv zoo rau peb xyaum: Abu hais Al Khudri (r.a.a.) Tus cev Vajtswv lus qhia tias tus cev Vajtswv lus yuav tsum qhia tias (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) Txaj muag tshaj ib nkauj xwb nyob rau hauv nws chav tsev. [Bukhari] Yog peb instill no rau lawv thaum muaj hnub nyoog ces thaum ntxov ces, Insha’ Allah, Thaum twg lawv nyob ze lub cheeb tsam ntawm tus txheem pw ua ke, Lawv yuav txaj muag thiab txaj muag, yog li ntawd, t, yuav tsis ua tej yam tsis zoo. Nws tseem ceeb heev uas peb khaws cov kev sib txuas lus channels qhib nrog peb cov me nyuam kom peb yuav tham thiab piav rau lawv tej yam, thiab lawv yuav nug peb cov lus nug, Tsis muaj ib tog twg lawm txaj muag. Ces, thaum laus zuj zus, thiab pab peb, Lawv yuav pib to taub vim li cas nws yog tias tsis muaj ib tug tshaj plaws hu ua 'tus hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo'.
Dab tsi coj mus rau qhov no?
Muaj ntau yam vim li cas cov ntxhais nrhiav kev tawm cov tub hluas. Thawj culprit tias niam txiv taw tes rau accusing ntiv tes ntawm yog tus ntxhais raging hormones. Qhov no tej zaum yuav muaj tseeb nyob rau hauv tej hluas nkauj tab sis tsis yog txhua yam. Muaj cov ntxhais uas muaj raging hormones tab sis leej twg yuav tswj tau lawv tus kheej, Thiab ces muaj cov ntxhais uas tsis muaj raging hormones tab sis leej twg tseem caum tus txheem pw ua ke.
Yog li ntawd, vim, Tej yam uas lwm yam tau vim li cas rau tus ntxhais tus cwj pwm?
Phooj ywg siab yog ib tug. Thaum tag nrho nws cov phooj ywg thiab tsev kawm ntawv mates muaj hluas nraug, Nws pom tau tias compelled ua raws li ce. Yog hais tias nws tsis muaj ib tug hluas nraug ntawm nws tus kheej ces nws pom tau tias tshuav vim nws tsis haum rau lawv tom qab tsev kawm ntawv kev ua ub no thiab tsis tau koom rau hauv lawv sib tham. Dab tsi ua rau nws mob heev ntxiv yog tias sawv daws yuav pom nws ua ib tug “geek”.
Lwm vim li cas yog hais tias nws yog undertaking ib qhov chaw contest. Nws competes nrog lwm cov ntxhais nyob attaining li ntau hluas nraug thaum nws yuav pom leej twg yuav yog tej chaw poj huab tais. Cov contests no kuj tshwm sim vim hais tias nws pom tias tsuas nrov hluas nkauj muaj hluas nraug. Boredom feem ntau drives ib tug hluas nkauj rau hauv lub caj npab ntawm ib tug me nyuam tub. Nws pom nws lub neej li monotonous thiab tshawb rau thrill thiab excitement nrog tus tub. Los yog saib tsam nws tus kheej esteem yog tsawg, Li ntawd, nws nyob ntawm nws kom nws xav tias desirable thiab xav.
Tau lwm vim li cas yog tias nws yuav tsum hlub. Nws thov nws niam thiab txiv hlub tab sis tsis tau saib nws, yog li ntawd, t, Nws thov nws sim lwm qhov. Zoo li no yog hais tias nws yog mus nrhiav nws niam thiab txiv paub. Nws defies lawv mus nrhiav ib tug hluas nraug kom nws yuav muaj lawv paub. Tej xim rau nws zoo dua tsis paub. Qhov txawv ntawm qhov xav tau kev hlub thiab qhov xav tau xim yog tias tus qub nws passively. Yog hais tias nws tsis tau txais nws los ntawm nws niam thiab txiv ces nws mus sim lwm qhov. Whereas lub tom kawg zov nws los ntawm nws niam thiab txiv. Tej zaum yuav muaj lwm yam los yog vim li cas yuav yog thaum lawv tseem saum toj no. Tiam sis, xijpeem yog vim li cas los yog vim li cas tej zaum yuav yog, niam txiv yuav tsum tau xyuas thiab to taub nws. Qhov no yog yooj yim dua nws suab li cov niam txiv muaj ib tug nyiam triggering lawv tus ntxhais mus clam.
Yuav ua li cas mus kom ze rau lawv?
Thaum cov niam txiv tham, yuav tsum tau noj kom tsis txhob ua accusative (“Koj puas tau qhov no rau…”) thiab kev txiav txim (“Li ntawd, koj yog li ntawd,…”), Txwv tsis pub nws yuav mus zoo li ib tug tub ceev xwm interrogation (“Vim li cas koj thiaj ua li ntawd…?”). Qhov no tsuas ntxiv rau lawv tus ntxhais defiance. Kuj, kom nws tus kheej esteem intact, zam “Yuav tsum”, “Txhob” thiab tag nrho lwm cov lus tsis zoo. Hais lus zoo kuj txhais tau tias thaum mloog. Qhov no hais txog qhov no tsis yog lub rooj sib hais tab sis to taub. To taub dab tsi lawm hais, cov niam txiv yuav tsum tau hais kom meej txog nws (“Koj puas txhais hais tias…?”), acknowledge nws (“Koj hnov… Vim…”) thiab empathize nrog nws (“Koj suab yeej…”). Thaum cov hluas pom tias nws niam nws txiv to taub nws, Nws yuav tau thov nej tsam ces confide nyob rau hauv lawv thiab piav seb yog vim li cas nws ua tej yam thiab seb nws pom tau tias txog nws. Thiab raws li kuv hais ua ntej lawm, to taub, Cov niam txiv yuav tau txais daim duab tag nrho thiab yuav ces paub tias tsim nyog yuav siv sij hawm. Kuj, Yog niam txiv xav mloog lawv cov me nyuam, Lawv yuav tsum tau qauv zoo mloog kev txawj ntse. Cov me nyuam yuav ua li niam txiv ua es cov niam txiv hais. Tam sim no yog ib lub sij hawm zoo pib xyaum cov kev txawj ntse.
insecurity
Saib closer saum toj no vim li cas, Cov niam txiv yuav pom tias qhov zoo tshaj yuav yog tias tus ntxhais pom tau tias insecure txog nws tus kheej. Nws tus kheej esteem yog tsawg thiab ces nws relies rau tus tub kom nws xav zoo txog nws tus kheej. Lub hauv paus ntawm poob rau hauv cov cuab ntawm peer-pressures, tej chaw contests, Qhov xav tau thiab hlub, thiab yuav tsum muaj xim, insecurity. Yog hais tias qhov no yog cov ntaub ntawv ces muab nws tus hlub thiab xim tias nws xav tau. Qhia thiab qhia rau nws tias koj hlub nws dua li ntawm nws “Phem” cwj pwm coj, thiab tsis tau koj yuav tso cai rau lawv. Qhia nws tus kheej zoo txog nws tus kheej thiab nws kev ntseeg. Tsim nws tus kheej esteem los acknowledging nws tus cwj pwm zoo thiab achievements los yog nws me nyuam no yuav mus cuag (thiab tsis focusing rau failures). Assign nws nyuaj tasks thiab stimulating kev ua ub no. Qhov no kuj siv tau rau tus ntxhais bored.
Coj nws mus teenage Islamic gatherings thiab camps. Txhawb nws kom cov muslim phooj ywg tshiab. Raws li ib tug nrog raging hormones uas tsis tau tswj nws tus kheej, Nug nws yog hais tias nws xav yuav (Tab sis tsis yuam kom nws thaum nws).
yeej, Nco ntsoov qhia nws tias nws yog tus hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo uas tsis tau pom zoo thiab qhia nws (Dua) Txog Islam txoj hauj lwm nrog regards rau qhov no. kawg, Muab Muslim cwj pwm rau nws. Dab neeg txog cov poj niam uas khwb lawv chastity thiab piety yog rewarded ua li ntawd. Maryam, niam uas cev Vajtswv lus (a.s.), Piv txwv li no:.
Tsis txhob hnov qab txog cov tub hluas
saib xyuas tus ntxhais, Kuv yuav tam sim no kub siab xim rau tus tub. Nws yog ironical tias niam txiv hnov mob li yog hais tias muaj ib tug tuag nyob rau hauv tsev neeg thaum lawv tus ntxhais txuam yuaj rua ib tug hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo. Tab sis thaum nws yog tus tub uas yog nyob rau hauv ib txoj hauj lwm zoo los yog mob heev ntxiv, Cov niam txiv yog complacent,. Xav tias tus tub yuav tsum muaj kev thiab txaus siab rau nws tus kheej ua ntej nws yuav khom thiab yuav. Nws yog txhais tau hais tias tus ntxhais ib leeg yog tus yawm ntawm tsev neeg.
Yog peb hwm vajtswv, peb yuav tsum faib tawm hauv tsev neeg yog hais tias nws yuav tsum khaws cia rau hauv. Qhov no txhais tau tias leej txiv, Niam, Tus tub thiab tus ntxhais yuav tsum ceev faj zov tus kheej. Yog leej txiv los yog leej niam loses nws tus yawm saub ces lawv yuav muab lub luag hauj lwm qauv rau lawv cov me nyuam. Thiab yog hais tias tus tub loses nws yawm thiab mus unpunished ces tus ntxhais yuav pom qhov no ua ib hypocritical tsab cai thiab consequently rebels. Rau tej mediating tes hauj lwm ua hauj lwm rau tus ntxhais, Cov niam txiv yuav tsum zoo ib yam li lawv tus tub thiab. Nrhiav seb yog vim li cas cov ntxhais caum cov tub hluas ces cov niam txiv yuav pom tias cov neeg no tib yam uas propel tub rau hauv lub caj npab ntawm cov ntxhais.
Tau qhov twg los: ilovallaah
assalam alykum,
i fahad khan ib zaug xwb ,sir kuv xav paub txog mesterbust(tes xyaum)….ua ib islam.. Thov muab cov lus teb rau kuv
Assalaamu alaikum mr. fahad , Kuv twb nyuam qhuav nyeem tsab xov xwm no thiab stumbled li koj lo lus nug , Nyob Islam , masturbation , nws yog qhov xyaum tes , los yog siv dab tsi los pleasure koj tus kheej , Yog haraam thiab kuj suav li zina , Tej zaum Allah pab peb nyob deb ntawm nws.
Asalam o alakum Mr. Ibrahim
Koj thov tsocai rau qhov no?
Kuv tsis nrhiav tau nws lwm qhov chaw uas tes xyaum yog zoo li zinna los yog nws yog haram.
Tsaug ua ntej.
assalam alekum Adnaan bhai
thov saib qhov txuas no
koj yuav tau teb koj cov lus teb
http://www.4-men.org/overmasturbation.html
Hom web info luam tawm??? ua ib qhov chaw phem….siv tau ib qhov chaw valid.
BarakAllah
Nyob zoo
Nws cov lus nug yooj yim heev. Koj yuav tsum paub tias Islam yog cov kev cai dab qhuas ntawm xwm thiab yog ib cov Muslim peb tsuas yuav tsum tau mus ntawm txoj cai txhais tau tias. Peb yeej las mees txog qhov teeb meem no yog tias peb haiv neeg los yog niam txiv tsis muab txoj cai txhais tau tias (txij nkawm) Thiab txawm tias peb sim peb tus kheej lawv tsim hurdles. Consequently peb yuam mus ntawm qhov kev xaiv tsis ncaj ncees lawm. Masturbation yog ib qho yooj yim tshaj plaws ntawm peb opt rau ntawd. Allah muab qhov kev ua niam txiv zoo kawg thiab muaj siab rau tib neeg beings kom tib neeg reproduction txheej txheem tseem thiab yog vim li cas peb tug yawm saub (PBUH) muab ib txoj kev nyuaj siab zoo kawg thiab rau cov txij nkawm. Li ntawd, kuv qhia rau koj yog nrhiav ib tug poj niam zoo thiab mus ntawm txoj kev zoo. Peb scholar kuj las mees qhov tseeb thiab lawv sau cov articles loj xws li ib tug saum toj no tab sis tsis qhia rau txoj kev uas yog hais nyob rau hauv cov hadith
Muslim :: Phau 8 : Hadith 3233
Abdullah (b. Mas'ud) (Allah yuav txaus siab rau nws) Qhia tias Allah messenger (tej zaum nws yuav nyob kaj siab lug) hais rau peb: 0 hluas, cov neeg uas yuav tau kev them nyiaj yug me nyuam yuav tsum tau sib yuav, rau nws ob lub qhov muag (Ntawm casting siab phem glances) thiab khaws cia ib tug ntawm kev plees kev yi; Tab sis nws tsis them taus nws yuav tsum saib ceev rau nws yog ib tug txhais tau tias tswj kev ua niam txiv siab.
Muslim :: Phau 8 : Hadith 3240
Jabir qhia tias Allah messenger (tej zaum nws yuav nyob kaj siab lug) pom ib tug poj niam, Ces nws tuaj rau nws tus poj niam, Zainab, Thaum nws tau tanning ib tawv thiab muaj kev ua niam txiv intercourse nrog nws. Nws mam li mus rau nws companions thiab hais rau lawv: Tus poj niam advances thiab retires nyob rau hauv qhov zoo lawm ntawm ib dab ntxwg nyoog, Li ntawd, thaum koj pom ib tug poj niam pom ib tug poj niam, Nws yuav tsum tuaj rau nws tus poj niam, Rau qhov uas yuav repel dab tsi nws pom tau tias nyob rau hauv nws lub plawv.
Kuv vam tias Allah ua nws yooj yim rau peb mus rau txoj kev zoo.
Vim li cas qhov no tseem ceeb kub siab rau cov ntxhais, Thauj tw, Qhov tseeb, Cov tub hluas yog cov sawv daws yuav ua tau tus thawj khiav mus thiab nkag mus rau txoj kev sib raug zoo ntau dua?
Tsab xov xwm yuav tsum tau sau txog ob leeg.
Assalaamu alaikum muam maryam , Kuv tsis sau tsab xov xwm no nyob rau hauv tej kev uas kuv twb nyuam qhuav nyeem ntawv , Xwb cov tub hluas yog cov ones uas muaj ntau koom tes nrog no hom kev ua thiab lawv yog cov ones uas feem ntau mislead tus hluas nkauj rau tej yam phem , Tus sau kom meej meej hais nyob rau hauv cov kab lus kawg uas txhua yam lawv sau tau txog kev tiv thaiv rau cov ntxhais kuj siv rau cov tub hluas , Tej zaum Allah qhia peb sawv daws thiab tiv thaiv peb ntawm poob rau hauv sins.
Kuv xav tias tus muam mariam koj yog hypocritical tub thiab cov ntxhais yog ob lub luag hauj lwm. Koj tsis cia li pw blame tias cov tub hluas yog cov sawv daws yuav ua tus thawj kauj ruam. Kuv twb pom ob zoj zis thiab cia tsis qhov kev ua si blame, Yog peb ua raws li peb kev ntseeg kom zoo raws li ib tug quran thiab lub sunnah, Cov txaus qhia no yuav tsum tsis arise.
Ua ntej tshaj plaws ntawm tag nrho cov ntxhais zoo nkauj, Nws yog tus nyiam saib ib tug poj niam zoo nkauj. Txawm tias cov poj niam muaj envious ntawm lwm cov poj niam kev zoo nkauj, Uas tsis tshwm sim ntawm cov txiv neej. txawm hais tias qhov no, Kuv tsis hais cov ntxhais yuav tsum tau zoo nyob rau hauv lawv behavious, Tub hluas no kuj kuv ua equally kom zoo
Nws yuav tsis tau hypocritical. Tsab xov xwm masha Allah hits pob tawm hauv lub tiaj ua si, Tiam sis nws yog teem rau vivncaus (ib txwm), nrog ib tug “p.s.. khaws ib qhov muag rau cov tub hluas ib yam nkaus thiab” hom lus xaus. LOL kuv twv tej yam yeej tsis hloov.
lol @ Sakeena lub peev xwm mus blame
yep. Yeej muaj tseeb li ntawd tiag.. dab tsi. Txiv neej muaj tsis nco qab lawm ib yam raws lub sij hawm, Ib yam uas muab poj niam lub hwj huam saum toj no tag nrho. Peb muaj zog ntawm cov hwjchim, Tseeb. Tab sis peb yog cov sawv daws yuav tsim lub neej. Thiab peb yog cov uas muaj lub vaj kaj siab hauv ntiajteb no mus ib txhis. Lwm tus yog ib tug txiv neej nrhiav oblivion, Tshaj nyob rau hauv ib tug poj niam txhais tes? Yog li ntawd, lawv thiaj ua rau peb siab phem, vim peb yog kev phem kev qias, Peb yuav tsum tau submissive. Txhua tus txiv neej muaj tseeb nrog nws tus kheej paub tseeb tias nws kev ua niam txiv impulses, Tsis hais txiv neej xav txog kev pw ua ke kuv tsis paub ntau npaum li cas txhua teev? Muaj pes tsawg tus poj niam ua li no?? tsis muaj.
Tsis txhob sib ntaus li cov tub hluas thiab cov ntxhais… Zoo peb kho peb tus kheej. Thov txhob pw ua ke(tub los ntxhais) tsov rog. Xav tias ua ib cov Muslim.
Assalamu alaykum muam Andreea, thov ua tib zoo ceev faj txog tej uas koj hais. Cov poj niam tsis tsim lub neej los yog ua lawv muaj paradise. Allah Subhana wa ta'ala muab cov no txhais tau tias.
Allah paub zoo tshaj plaws.
Tus muam hlob, Tsab xov xwm no yog sau txog ob leeg, Thiab nws txawm ntsiab lus tawm li cas cov niam txiv yuav hypocritical thiab cia tus tub swb nrog nws ua. Tus sau tsab xov xwm no pawg xaiv sau txog cov ntxhais ua ntej, Vim li no thaum lawv tau mus piav txog tus tub lawv kom meej meej teev tias tib txoj cai thov rau cov tub hluas. Muaj tsis muaj taw tes rau rewriting tag nrho tsab xov xwm rau tus tub thaum nws twb ua rau tus ntxhais ua ntej. Tag nrho lawv yuav tsum ua yog pav li cas txhua yam siv rau tus tub thiab. Ntseeg kuv, Sawv daws pom zoo tias tus tub tej zaum kuas nyuas siv zug zinah feem ntau.
Kuv paub tsab xov xwm siv rau ob leeg, Thiab kuv paub kuv teb yog los nyob rau hauv ib lub caij lig, Tab sis kuv xav hais tias koj nyob nraum zoo. Tsab xov xwm no tswj equally ntawm ob tug tub thiab cov ntxhais. Vim yog qhov no, Kuv xav vim li cas lawv yuav tsum cais cov cai rau cov tub hluas thiab cov ntxhais yog hais tias cov cai yog tseeb tib yam.
Uas yog tag nrho. Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh =)
Kuv lig pom zoo.. Qhov no sau tau yog me biased me ntsis biased… Thiab nws tsom rua ntau restraint rau cov ntxhais… koob pheej ntawm lawv yog txoj kev mus rau pem hauv ntej..
Tsab xov xwm no yog ib-sided kom paub tseeb. Muab tag nrho cov blame rau tus ntxhais thiab muab NW nyuam qhuav ob paragraphs chaw nyob qhov chaw nyob “npaug” Txiv neej hormones yog li condescending ntawm cov poj niam nws tseem yuav luag unbelievable. Lo lus nws xav li cas, Nws yog dab tsi thiab uas yog ib editorial txog cov degradation ntawm cov poj niam.
Zoo tsab xov xwm zoo thiab thiaj muaj tseeb.
Nws yog zaj lus qhia zoo heev li kuv niam ob tug ntxhais thiab kuv paub tam sim no li cas kuv qhia kuv tus ntxhais thiab sis maryam qhov no yog cov tshooj lus rau ob leeg
Yeej ib tsab xov xwm zoo kawg thiab ….Ntuj Allah qhia txhua1 txoj kev zoo
AAMEEN…..
Kom paub tseeb tias peb invoke Allah qhia peb rau txoj kev zoo,No suab zoo rau ntau cov hluas hnub no xws li kuv tsis tau nws yog ua peb mus jahannama,ooos!tshaj rau qhov kev txhawj xeeb txog curb no,Tej zaum Allah ua rau nws vam meej.
MA nws yog ib tsab xov xwm vry nyce tsab xov xwm. Kuv yog ib tug 14 tus ntxhais laus uas wondered heev txog qhov no. Kuv niam los yog kuv txiv yuav tsis muab sij hawm ntau rau kuv tab sis nws twb tsis lawv txhaum thiab kuv pom tau hais tias. Kuv paub tias kuv niam wholeheartedly hlub kuv. Ib qho txawm tias peb yeej tsis tau cov hais lus abt n khoom, Kuv to taub tias nws twb tsis ncaj ncees lawm. Kuv xav tias yog kuv niam hlub uas ua kuv tsis kam lub temptations. Rau ntau zaus kuv yuav tau tempted tab sis MA kuv yuav cia li xav txog kuv niam thiab txiv, Kuv kev ntseeg thiab kuv tsev neeg lub npe thiab kuv yuav hais ‘ Tsis yog kuv yuav xav tau phooj ywg'. Tiam sis, Kuv ua thiab tham nicely nrog cov tub hluas thiab peb nyob nraum zoo phooj ywg zoo tab sis kuv saib xyuas tias kuv dun muab tej lub tswv yim tsis ncaj ncees lawm. Yog tsis zoo xwb lwm tus neeg vim li cas kuv tsis kam. Nws twb tseem tias kuv xav tias kuv yuav tsis nyiam muaj ib tug tub uas tej zaum yuav tau nrog lwm cov ntxhais. Thaum kawg peb sawv daws khoom ib tug neeg thiab dab tsi wud peb ua yog peb yav tas los cumes rov qab n haunts peb. Muaj ib tug huv yav tas los yuav tsuas tsim ntshiab thiab muaj tseeb kev sib raug zoo thiab 'muaj tseeb luv'. Belonging tsuas yog ib tug neeg. Kuv xav tias depite cov niam txiv cawv nws;Kuj yog cov kas txoj kev xav dat teeb meem.
LOL kuv ua ib tug ncej ntev!
Maacha Allah! Kuv tag tias ib tug hluas nkauj li koj yuav xav txog tej ib txoj kev zoo kawg thiab tiv thaiv koj tus kheej los ntawm ua phem Zinah. Kuv pom zoo nrog koj tias nws yog ib tug neeg txoj kev txiav txim siab mus rau hauv nws, Tiamsis peb yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias peb tsis nco qab txog peb tus kheej, Rau nws yog ib tug muaj peev xwm tiv thaiv peb los ntawm kev ua tej yam zoo li no, Raws li tau koom tes nrog ib tug hluas nkauj-hluas nraug kev sib raug zoo, Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws uas ua rau peb mus Zinah.. Ntuj Allah (SWT) coj raws li peb lub siab nyiam… Ameen!!
Zoo heev hais los ntawm ib tug hluas nkauj hluas nkauj heev li koj. Thaj koj niam thiab txiv ua nyob rau hauv koj lub foundation heev ntawm txoj kev ntseeg thiab ntshai hauv Vaj tswv, hlub thiab saib taus cov niam txiv thiab ib tug kheej, kev nkag siab txog qhov zoo thiab tsis ncaj ncees lawm thiab muaj zog qhuab qhia. MashaAllaah… May Allaah tus Almighty , Txoj kev Qhia zoo thiab tsuas tiv thaiv thiab qhia koj ib txwm…. InshaAllaah…
Kuv zoo mentsis lawm 20, thiab kuv muaj ib tug niam laus. Ib lub sij hawm thaum kuv niam zaum nrog nws tham txog hom kev sib raug zoo, Nws zaum kuv cia ib yam nkaus thiab mloog thiab, Kuv tsuas yuav 7/8 thaum nws tau 11/12. Kuv yuav tsum hais, Uas txawm tias kuv tsis to taub feem ntau ntawm nws, Nws pub kuv lub hauv paus tham nrog kuv niam txog nws txij thaum ntawd los yog hais tias kuv yuav tsum tau mus. Nws pab kuv ib ton thiab kuv xav inshallah tias lwm leej niam yuav kam tham lub sij hawm rau kindly tham txog nws nrog lawv cov me nyuam thiab tsis ua si qhov kev ua si blame.
Vim hais tias nyob rau hauv ib qho lecture kuv tau txais, Txawm ntau npaum li cas kuv nyiam ib tug txiv leej tub kuv yuav TSIS tuaj ze nws besides ua ib tug phooj ywg, lossis tsawg dua. Yuav muaj ib lub suab hauv kuv lub taub hau uas yuav nco ntsoov qhia kuv txhua yam uas kuv niam hais rau kuv yuav tshwm sim yog hais tias kuv puas tau nkag mus rau ib txoj kev sib raug zoo. Thiab xyoo ntawm kuv tus menyuam lub neej, Kuv niam cov lus proved muaj tseeb rau tej kuv cov phooj ywg uas tsis mloog lawv niam thiab txiv. Kuv xav kom kuv cov kwv tij thiab muam/viv ncaus, Yog hais tias lawv tsis mloog niam txiv cov tswv yim, Coj ib kauj ruam rov qab thiab coj ib tug loj saib nyob ib ncig ntawm lawv. Cov kev sib raug zoo yuav tsuas ua rau koj los yog tus neeg koj nyiam kawg, Li ntawd, nws zoo tshaj plaws nyob tam sim ntawd.
Thov txim rau lub saib ntev.
Sana, Kuv pom zoo koj nrog txhua yam txawm tias im tsuas 12,Kuv niam thiab txiv tsis xav tias kuv muaj txoj kev xav tab sis kuv nyiam cov muslim hais mav tab sis kuv tsis xav kom lawv ib leeg yuav bothering kuv thiab yeej tsis tham rau kuv thiab attracts kuv tab sis kuv sim nyuaj tsis mloog tab sis kuv cia li yuav paub tias qhov no tsis yog ib txoj kev sib raug zoo tswv yim, Tiam sis yog leej twg yuav muab kuv tswv yim rau li cas los tiv thaiv kuv tus kheej los poob rau hauv cov cuab shaytan thiab kom txhob nyiam cov tub hluas, Nws yuav zoo kawg thiab.ua tsaug koj Alhamdulillah.
Assalaamu alaikum tus muam sabrina kuv yog ib tug 14 year old boy and my personal advise is to just say you are not intressted this will dicourage the boy and he will stop bothering you i also think you should try to stay away from him so that he has less chances of talking to you i hope this has helped. ps. you could try to say any thing to discourage him from trying to ask you out.
reply once you have tryed it so i can see how it has worked out for you
Salaam!
Sister Sabrina,
i applaud you for your interest in getting closer to religion, and knowing that you may be doing something wrong and want some guidance to make these feelings go away. the sad thing is, we are humans. attractions, likings, Hlub, crushes, these are all bound to happen, ONLY WHEN WE LET IT HAPPEN. if we avoid making friends with guys, Tsis txhob dressing mus ntes cov xim uas hais mav, Thiab tsis txhob nyob ib ncig ntawm tej phooj ywg uas muaj hluas nraug los yog tham bout tub, Thiab tsis txhob nyob ib ncig ntawm tej phooj ywg uas muaj hluas nraug los yog tham bout tub. you also should increase your prayer time and dikr time with Allah, He can definaltey help you ALOT! Inshallah you will be guided and will refrain from anything more than what u have now.
I went through that. My best advice is to calmly confront the guys and tell them to please leave you alone, with a serious tone to your voice. If that doesn’t work out, try your best to always be with a trusted girlfriend(s) who won’t leave you if the guy is around (because if a guy and girl are together, shaytaan makes the third person). This will help to keep the guy in check, Thiab koj yuav tau pab koj cov phooj ywg kom nws tawm mus.
Kuv vam tias qhov no yuav pab koj inshallah. 🙂
Excellent zaj tom ntej………..Ntuj ALLAH qhia txoj kev zoo….
Asssalam o alikum
kuv lub npe hu ua M. Wajid. Kuv xav nug tias yuav muaj ib tug me nyuam tub thiab tus ntxhais tham nrog sib yog hais tias lawv tham nrog rau qhov txwv ntawm islam.i txhais tau hais tias lawv muaj tsis muaj kev sib raug zoo r tej yam phem xws li yos thiab lwm yam. Vim tej zaum yuav b bored thiab nws xav nrog nws kaw ib tug. nws pub los yog tsis? tham hauv xov tooj r internet thiab tham nrog txwv.
brother it is not permissible in islam don’t make urself fool.shaytan may trap u anytime u both r non-mahram to each other until the marriage contract is done then u can talk to her and seek the reward of ur lord (ALLAH) don;t mess urself into such things try to make urself busy into useful things like remembering ayats,dua’s etc
yes brother i do but i usually try to put her in good track.ask her about offer salah regularly,recite holy quran. we are not in same country. and Alhumdulillah i daily recite holy quran.my own heart some times doesnt permit me to do like this but i mostly guide her about islam.is it bad???yeah i know that it is not permissible but some things depends on thoughts and intentions. Alhumdulillah she is quite changed as compared to before. and i didnt touched her before or saw her with bad eyes. and i want to change her much as a perfect Muslimah.
brother the argument is in vain because u r not getting or trying to giveup this relationship,y she wants to learn deen through evil sources like being alone with or chatting etc,there are lots of sources through she can learn deen ask her to join the company of good religiously commited women or girls n i hope this will work INSHA’ALLAH if her intension to learn the deen is pure.
if something is forbidden in our religion thn it is in our favour
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Dear Brothers and sisters, the article is clearly about ourselves to see where we actually are going. Try just to understand that this topic is not just focusing girls but boys as well. watching the current fact and figures girls are more often involved in such acts and boys are always weak at this and at the end both end up at same they performed zinah a very big sin. Kindly try to understand as both boys and girls needs to watch him / herself and do what Islam says. I request you all not to change the topic into blaming game to each other. Every one knows him / herself better than anyone else. So monitor youself closely and try to focus to preechings of Islam. May Allah bless us and show us the right path. Ameen. Allah O Akbar.
I am sorry, what does “boys are weaker at this” mean?? are they excusable and forgivable, Sab xis?? “well, they are weak anyway, let’s just get over it. but she, she’s the one to blame, she should be strong and guard her honor” bla bla i say. Men are the head of the family, Sab xis?? well, how should i accept my man to be my head and trust him, if he is weaker than me?? isn’t this the teaching of our religion?? Men rule. well, if they want to rule, they have to prove themselves capable of that.
Asaaalamu alakum ,
This is to Sabrina. I’m a new shahada mashaala. but the most i can tell you for now is fear allah
This was a great read. I come from a Muslim background and my parents have instilled in my mind that being in a relationship is wrong.. I still however feel the need to be in a relationship( which doesn’t have to ne a sexual one) to find out who I am and what I want in a partner before I marry them. What still puzzles me is how a woman is meant to go about this.. I’d like to marry someone I know very well… I live in Australia and I know traditionally in the Arab world ( where my heritage lies) that marriage is very different to that of the rest of the world …. By the way I agree with Mariam. This article is solely based on the girl. when it is in fact the BOY who usually pursues relationships with women or ‘ makes the first move’
Asaaalamu alakum,
This was a very educational article that I really enjoyed reading. I am a proud 18 year muslim and found this information benefical for when I have kids. I think it is ashame that todays young generation don’t tend to care enough about their religion or have enough respect for themselves to keep from zinan. Fear of Allah should keep any true muslim from doing anything haram.
i encourage everyone to share this with their friends. Dont fear their criticisms and judgements. post it on ur walls, email it, and spread Islam ! 🙂
Ahm..i don’t know if those who wrote this actually read our comments, but if you do: you are being hypocrites. I am sorry to say this, but this article is a shame to the islamic way of treating sexes. Tham 2 pages about the “bad girls” and one paragraph about they boys: “hey, let’s not forget about them completely, remind them a bit, but if they forget, well, they are boys and they are weaker”. study biology anatomy, whatever you want and get the hard facts of life: males are initiating sexual contacts in almost ALL species. including us. so you’d better adress them first. as i already said, because they are men, they are our heads, Sab xis? heads of families, societies, imams and so on. If they are the heads, they have to act as such or get down from the throne. I will not have a man who’s hiding under the excuse of being weaker when it comes to sex as a head of anything. Gilrs want to be liked. sexual impulse develops much later in life. and that’s a fact. not brain-washing. I’m dissapointed with this page.
andreea … let’s not say that it’s one sided. being muslim we must acknowledge certain facts cos ALLAH S.W.T knows what’s good for the both of us (males n females) There r reasons why certain rules applies to men n not women. so it’s better for us to upgrade our islamic knowledge n find out. Islam have upgrade the standing of women as compared to life b4. w r rated equally if we r more pious than the men then the we can go to heaven b4 them. never2 play the gender game cos it doesn’t do u gd … sorry … just a little advice from an old lady
Who cares if it’s not focusing on guys as much? It’s still directed to both sexes and does a VERY good job of telling us the instructions of islam. Islam is meant for men and women, are you telling me that men can get drunk but a woman cannot? Saying these people are hypocrites are going a bit too far, if anything you should be a bit more pleased, there you go, an article mainly devoted for women like you. But these certain rules apply to everyone in Islam, we must try to come closer to Allah and make some sacrifices for him, een. A man’s sexual desire is…. stronger than a woman’s, which makes him weaker, but not a weak person, but he can’t “make the first move” if the WOMAN herself is not giving herself out. Girls want to be liked? They also like first as well. Men want to be liked? The mainly want to like someone first as well, who doesn’t want to be liked. But guess what, Islam has taken precautions against that, which is why we shall wait till marriage, let’s all try to be unitized here sister, jazakullahukhayr and peace be upon you.
Tus muam hlob, i dont know which science you are talking when you say Boys’s initiate sexual contacts in almost all species?? if you take the phylum arthropoda(insects) i think the percentage will reverse in favour of females.
But yes i do agree that this write up is biased but anyhow it does portray the right message. One more thing i dont understand here is … The write ups directs us not to mingle with the opposite sex or interact… but here we are openly discussing with each other and everyone…. i think more insights are needed on this topic (interaction) as i strictly doubt that it falls under the category of ‘Haraam’.
Assalamu alaykum brothers and sisters,
First off sister Andreea, you are completely missing the point of the article. It was to teach us how to explain to young Muslims (male and female) about the consequences of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and how to explain it to them in a proper manner.
– As in a comment above, the article’s structure was written with all the theory and practice in regards to a female then specifically written that everything that was written applies to males just the same. There would be no point in writing the same things all over again for males.
– You may argue that why did not the writer start by addressing males. You would be correct in asking so. I cannot speak for the writer but I may suggest that we know and science also suggests that females are more emotional beings, in the sense that, they react more with their emotions. No, I think you will agree, does not always end well. li no, this may have been a reason to address females first, again I cannot speak for the writer.
– You forgetting Islam regards women in the highest of rankings with males. Our beloved Prophet Muhammed – Sallallahu alaihi wassallum – fought for the rights of women. Anything nowadays which promotes only men be the heads of the family or belittle women, is culture. So understand that that kind of thinking is due to the environment those individuals have been in, it is not the general consensus.
– There women leading nations as well, please think before you speak/write. Your comment conveys a lot of emotive language suggesting you too were being emotional.
– Brother Asjad, I cannot imagine interacting for the sake of Allah and Islam without actually looking at each other as being incorrect. That is just my opinion, Allah knows best and Astagfirullah if I am wrong.
Again brothers and sisters, please try and understand why this article was written. It was definitely not written to belittle any gender nor praise one over another. It was simply written for us to take a lesson into how we can become better Muslims and pass these teachings onto the Muslim youth.
Allah paub zoo tshaj plaws.
Assalamu alaykum.
Hello Andreea, I understand what you mean but us girls have more attractions then guys do. And I mean physically. Due to this matter, we should control ourselves from men who seek interest in you. Especially as a teenager. Plus, in our teens, we don’t exactly know what we want so we should not make a “Hlub” decision. Keep in mind that guys are usually first attracted to us by our assets. And we believe that they love us for who we are. And I’m not saying all men are like this but their really is men who do this. This is why we have to be much more cautious then a male. I hope you understood.
dear….lets 4gt abt grls n boys….jst try to listen to what qura’an says….thin article is by allah…sent to us thru Mr.Ibraheem…or whoevr wrote this…v r really lucky to read this article…
Well as men are different in nature and stronger then women….so its by nature its means that men need more controlled then women….and yes true, there is one who has to take first step…so its men mostly and its by nature…
from all species…all male species are beautiful only in humen females are beautiful…
ah, men seem to know everything, even what goes inside a woman’s head 🙂 you don’t, i am sorry to break your bubble. yes, it is true that we have less physical power than men. but one woman has more power than all men put together: to create life. and this is what made us a threat to the rule of men, and this is why we are demonized. this isn’t just islam that makes me angry 🙁 all religions do the same: women are evil. it started with the christian church and it still goes on. our religion is beautiful. but as i always say: humans, men and women alike, take by the rules of thei societies and forget what the religion ascribed. well. if anybody thinks i am wrong, i will quote the Qur’an: go and learn about our history, specially the religios one. yo will see i am right.
miss Andreea ,
i have read all your comments , and i think you are mentally sick , i think some boy or ( boys ) have done something with you and you are blaming all men ? i don’t think you are muslim too so please stop saying these s…..s and scare from Allah’s torture
Asalamwaliakum brothers and sisters. In my humble opinion I believe the best thing to do is get our children married at an earlier age. Often times we are so caught up with our cultures that we forget what Rasulullah (POM) told us, that young people should get married so they can avoid the temptation of haram relationships. Today we often here, “Oh son how can you think of marriage, you don’t have your master’s degree, six figure salary, or a house how can you get married?” Rasulullah (POM) said these things dont matter, what should matter is maturity and iman. Parents as a young person I must warn about the dangers of delaying marriage. The longer you let that coal burn the hotter it will get. I think the best thing to do is what my friends did. My friends were engaged when the boy was 18 and the girl was 14, so they got to know each other well and they soon fell for each other. At the ages of 21 Thiab 17 their parents got them married, but they had rules.
1. they would live with their parents until the boy got a good paying stable career and his masters.
2. they would be allowed to see each other on weekends and holidays
3. they had to keep their grades up otherwise they would not be able to see or call each other until they got their grades up
4. no children until they started living together
This worked out perfectly for them. My friend became more mature and responsible and he became a better student. He was a straight B student before, but after his marriage he became straight A. They both had halal means of controlling their hormones and they developed a deep love for each other. Alhamdulilah they are living together now with two children.
Inshallah if i said anything good it is from Allah, and if I said something wrong or not of any benefit that is my fault alone.
ahm…this is silly, a women at 14 is a girl. you shouldn’t be engaging a girl, nor a 18 years old who’s still a boy. and if you got them married, they should do whatever they feel appropriate. otherwise why marry them at all. then the parents live their children’s life. if this worked for a couple, it doesn’t mean it will work for all. logics.
Well it seems that theres a lot of anger about the society in your heart and thats true as well we hve turned into muslim from diffrent religions
unfortunately some of thoses false believes couldnt be abundand by us for instance a girl should be asked for her intention nd will wether to get married with a person or not but non of us actually ask them nd thats basically not Islam its hindu vulture nd a lot of other stuff but when it comes to the rights of male nd female females hve far more rights than males hve because females r weaker nd Allah made em not our fault nd Islam is the religion of the weak but to make a married life perfactly beautiful the duties r designated nd men are made the head of the family as they hve the tendency to bear nd get off from tensed situation ,stronger heart nd built ,better decesion making capabilities nd stuff like that. In the end jst wana say u commented above that because of this discrimination or watever u dont like religion well ur this kinds of thoughts wont give any harm to Allah or his religion but to urself cuz we all r gonna die may be an hour a day or some years nd we r goin to be raised up again by Allah almighty u can not question Allah one did nd got cast away frm Jannah nd called satin for remaining days of his life nd Allah damned him u know the truth dont u .. I do not consider a person wanting to kill me my biggest enemy but Iblis is our biggest enemy because he wants us to be wid him in the fire of hell(naoozubillah) for he challenged Allah that he will take us away frm Allah’s path nd he is goin very well wid that these kind of thaughts he is putting in ur subconciouse through his army of kafir jinns who obeys him ..PLz recognize him for he is our worst enemy of all time.. may Allah shows us the path of his blessed one’s ..(een)
Mashallah. This is a very important topic. Don’t worry about how it is presented(gender difference) better take the message from the presetation. If the author has really written this with an intention to hurt the sisters, then obviously he will be questioned on the day of judgement. But I don’t think he/she did this on purpose. The message was very clear and we have seen some youngsters were happy to understand, the core point. Inshallah lets hope and pray for ourselves and our Muslim friends all over the world, to stay away from such sins.
agreed on the point. but it hurts my feelings as a women nevertheless. we are treated unfairly so often. it is outragoues than on this one point where it is obvious who’s sexual needs are stronger, we are still talked about first. read the article again and see what is meant for boys is more like a P.S., like the author just reminded herself or himself there exist men in a sexual relationship also. li ntawd, thiaj, so unjust. i rarely get annoyed for this, i personaly am self-assured and have trust in myself. but i just hate demagogy, from the bottom of my heart. just nice talk, no deeds. ptz!
the nice article it is. so nice so nice. i really like it. its gud knowledge for us and also fr the new generation. we know everything abt this article becaz we are muslims . bt now we cant stop zina and another things. oh my ALLAH raham on us . we want to stop zina . sp pls all youngster to read this article and stop bad things.
I am talking to my frend and she is a girl,she is just my frend not my girlfrend,is that right to talk wid her in islam rules?She send me islamic messages also n even i dont see her in my life ,plz give me advice is that haram/halal to share thought with exchanging mesages
hello,
if u want to marry her and if u do like her then is ok then u can talk to her
but if u don,t want to marry her then is not allowed in islam that you talk to her.
I think Andrea needs to learn the positive aspects of this message from sister Sana.This is a universal message. I believe anybody can take a good lesson from it. I admit it may have focused on women more than men but it is undeniably true that men are equally or more responsible in comitting zina than women. Please don’t lose the seriousness of this message. I urge both men and women to take home a lesson for them from this article. No one is perfect and no male is superior than a female or vice versa other than good actions and piety. Prophet Muhammad pbuh said, ” the best thing a believing man could ever have is a faithful woman” so please let all all (both men and women) act towards each other kindly towards each other. I love and respect all the women (Grandmother, Niam, Vivncaus, aunts) in my life with all my heart and alhamdulillah i’m a better person because of them.
peace be unto all my brothers and sisters in faith and family and May God bless this ummah with rock hard faith and honesty.
don’t use lol … instead use soq … smile on quietly. that is what our prophet Muhammad (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) did when funny incident or happy ones occur . anyway it is not so becoming of a muslim laughing out loudly in public especially. just a little advice from an old lady
Read the articles and keep low…. endless
commenting and arguing is just a way of Satan to get you all engaged… even our beloved prophet said one who steps out arguments even though he is right there sure is great reward from him… so chill guys… if you feel this article is biased it is and if you think not than it is not… don’t even bother replying to me cuz am not checking it back… don’t wanna get by Satan’s tricks to argue whi my own brothers and sister’s..
asslam….the most activities are going on phones or orally in these relations….boys and girls think that only direct contects of them with each other will be included in zinah….but they forget that to get relaxed by any sense i.e. eyes, ears.tongue.hands and so on….also included in zinah…the most true reality of these relations….would you tell me please…am i right while saying this that this is also zinah….and i require valid references.
@Andrea: This is no place to vent ur stupid anger………u r just being a quarrelsome person……..if u got problem with ur lives, then try to solve it…….instead of blaming this article or the author of article or the people here………This article is for educational purpose………and if u got so much grudge on boys…..try to ride it out……….instead of flamin on the readers of this article………i know this is none of my job…….but when this article is read……..from to bottom……..it shows a single thing…… Andrea the witch excuse me for that but u r just being one……..May Allah blesss u with good knowledge…….
Muaj, women should keep their opinions to themselves.
..Assalamualaikum…i am a parent of 3 young adults and i had been young once too .and obviously had had my fair share of young life…i am living in a community where boys and girls are given equal opportunities and almost impossible to prevent free mixing of boys and girls..so the only way is to educate the young ones on the do’s and dont’s…but still the unwanted still occur…but what i noticed that a sure foolproof way is to create an extremely
strong family bond and love within the family by endlessly practising the sunnahs of Rasullulah (sallahualaihi wassallam),npe
1)solah in jemaah
1)having meals in jemaah
2)travelling on holidays together(in jemaah)
3)resting together (in jemaah)(once the Prophet lay resting under one blanket with the family of Ali(r.anhu) and Fatimah(ranha) with their 2 tub(r.anhum)
because these actions bind the hearts.
Next the virtues of the love and bondage created..is to TRUST them and make doa to Allah that they will always honour the love of family.
Never ever vent anger to children and alway ever call your children by the dearest names you can think of even they are adults because love knows no age.My children are still my babies no matter what their age are.
My point boils down to one point in the article above which is INSECURITY…which i feel is the main and only reason and the precursor to all ails.A happy and secure child will needs no others’ love but those in his/her heart…and that should be ALLAH’s and family’s love…but if there’s none in the heart…obviously Shaythan will fill it…WaAllahu’alam
Let’s just take a look at it this way..step-by-step…a woman responds to love..with love…now I’m referring to love of her parents, siblings, phooj ywg.
Islam is itself a religion of peace and love.
Tiam sis, our religion teaches us that there are well-defined Boundaries for everything.
Li ntawd, yog li…when it comes to loving someone, Allah (S.W.T.T.) bestows us with the Icon of love itself.. a Mother…followed by a father, siblings, phooj ywg… Pls dont get me wrong…I’m merely trying to explain the Purity of the feeling called love
When it comes to the opposite sex, Allah S.W.T has destined one person for each one of us…all we need to do is save ourselves from the rest and wait for that one person… sure, there is going to be many options that come your way, that tempt you with dreams of a happy life together (and some of them may even be sincere)….BUT!…… have patience… Know that the One person that Allah S.W.T has chosen Best for You will be THE BEST for YOU…. in the meanwhile…protect yourself….make dua for yourself…seek refuge from falling in the wrong hands….and be Patient…i know all of this is easier said than done… but Do give it a try and your love for that One person will be soo pure and undivided and his for you too…inshaAllah 🙂
Tug yawm saub (kev sib haum xeeb) Hais: “None but a noble man treats women in an honorable manner, and none but an ignorant treats women disgracefully.” [Tirmidhi]
Assallam wa alaikum to all my brothers and sisters..this article is simply outstanding..mashALLAH…may almighty ALLAH bless us and make us to follow the right path and avoid all the sins..well as i was passing down and reading comments i realized many things..we muslims quickly get hyper when someone says anything or advice us some good thing to follow..because we think that we are superior from other or we are the only one who is on the right track..”i can’t be wrong, im always right”..complex..we just advice someone but we don’t look ourselves that what we r lacking..how pathetic?? we should see how much sincere and devoted we are to almighty ALLAH..Almighty ALLAH says in the quran that “Whatever misfortune happens to you, is because of the things your hands have wrought, and for many (lawv) He grants forgiveness.-verse 30-Surah Ash-Shura”..so we can’t blame anyone else that he/she is the responsible one..remember we r da responsible one..not the boys/girls..ask from ALLAH to save us from all the sins..we should ask the ALLAH all the time..recite the holy quran daily at least one verse after every prayer..how much of us offer prayer regularly?? hardly 1% i include myself as well..im not criticizing anyone..i said all these thing just to make my imaan my faith more stronger..because when we preaches someone we r the first whom the reactions occurs then only the reacts others…may almighty ALLAH fill our hearts with full of fears..and bless us with his blessings and rewards us heaven..jazakaALLAH..wassallam
Hi sister mariam pls focus on matter what Prophet Muhammad (s.wisconsin.wisconsin.w) want show us
don’t take this matter in gender
salam alaykum..i totally agree with green sea, jemaah with all in the family is the way to go. Rasulullah (S.A.W) has left us a legacy of his sunnah and the Qur’an which we shud follow to ensure the righteous path. i am a parent of adult children and teenagers. insya allah i try to instill good Islamic values in them n i pray for Allah to grant them the true path. the western-influenced world around us is the greatest culprit in undermining our efforts to make our youths exemplary Muslim youths n shaitaan is always on the lookout for preys to be his comrades in hellfire therefore beware you young muslims out there!
@Andrea,i think you bear a lot of grouse on this presentattion,i really would want to know you and understand your point very well before i can say anything.
Well In Islam Zina is a sin, who do it, the parents of their children should guide them and restrict their out going and bad things so that they should know the right path to follow.Rasulullah (S.A.W) has left us a legacy of his sunnah and the Qur’an which we shud follow to ensure the righteous path. i am a parent of adult children and teenagers.
ASSALAMOALIKUM….
i want to ask tht i m 17 years old nd in a relationship with a boy ……i wanted to ask tht we have planned to get marry after sm years nd we only chat online…..we only talk once becuz we knw this is not good….want to ask is it forbidden in islaam…???
Salam alaikoum. I think that most of these problems can be resolved if parents started marrying their teenage children to avoid zina and sin. Like they used to. We developed into a society where we think that teenagers are too young to get married, but it’s not an accident that our bodies develop at a young age.
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Many thanks for the help in this question.
Jazak’ALLAH you share very informative info with us. thanks for this post ..
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I am very grateful to you. Many thanks.
What boys & girl think about their partner before in relationship
http://goo.gl/um51w
i read the whole article carefully some point are very useful every parents must read this article at least once & teach there child
Aoa,
even if u want 2 mary wid her even den ur not allowed 2 tak its wat i think n understans coz first satan will say u tht its ok 2 tak bt no one knows wehen he wl made u cross limita n u dnt knw abt that
Assalamulaikum, i have a qns. Lets say a girl and a guy commit fornication b4 marriage and the guy leaves the gal after touchin her sayin that he dont like her.. Is it even a worser act?
Alsalamu 3aleikum I have a question , in islam is kissing I don’t mean sex haram ?
..what more can i say,i am so happy that a page like this exists and that i am opportuined to read this,i appreciate the fact that people like sabrina&muhammad read and benefit from this page at such their early age,i wish i saw,read from or even just scrolled through a page like this while i was growing up,anyway,i am now 23years and would be getting married next year inshaALLAH,and i talk with my ‘fiance’ almost everyday and there is almost nothing we haven’t or we don’t talk about,the only reason we are waiting till next year is because i want to be a graduate before i get married and probably because my mom is kinda scared of giving me out yet…i am not sure,if its ok that myself and my fiance talk about everything,we don’t see eachother neither for real nor through webcam?
Jazakallah for such good article…. inshallah aftr reading this atlest girls n boys will get on track vid islam…. inshallah…:)
jazakallah for such a good article…. inshallah i hope aftr dis atlest girls n boys vil stay out of such a relationship…..
thov txim 4 repeatin e qns. Can i know, if both a male and a female has commited fornication and the guy leaves the gal after touchin her.. Isit a worser act?
salaam brothers and sisters!
pls tell me with help of citation and websites, if for example a woman / man had commited adultery , realises his/her mistake, but rest of the world has no idea about it and they want repentence….surely its clear the punishment on earth for adultery (esp if commited while in marriage or with sumone else in marriage), is to be stoned to death…..i’ve read in several places about how forgiving God is, abt His mercy….and how sumtimes God helps in keeping one’s secrets unrevealed. Can there be anyway that such people can perform thauba, refuses to commit the sin again and leads a good religious life?? maybe do additional fasting for God’s sake, additional prayers apart from the compulsary five, help the poor, teach other muslim brothers and sisters thru their own mistakes…..and ofcourse beg for God’s forgiveness? or shud he/she HAVE to come forward and admit to the crime commited and get stoned???
Assalam O Alaikum,
Dear Sister Ameena, please refer to the following website, hope it answers your question:
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/20983
May Allah s.w.t. deliver us from all evil.
Assalamulekum brother
I heard a lecture from a sheikh about this subject masterbation (tes xyaum) and he said it is allowed in case that you might fall in to zina. If you think I have to masterbate or else I am going to commit zina then the sheikh said it is preferable that you do masterbate.
Assalamualeikum.
i was going through this blog and what i noted is that this article had the most comments. we just talk in an article about the women and bang, they feel as if they are kicked out or abused rather than taking advise from it, they start fighting.
the point i want to make is that every one is equally responsible for the boy-girl relationship. it’s not an individual, but the society due to which all the evils exist. xub thawj, blame the society or the community we live in. we have thrown away the concept of hijab and what we have is a “show off” hijab which applies to both, the men and women. the girls don’t do proper hijab but wearing jeans and a scarf on top of it, and boys, have totally forgotten that they have to grow the beard. secondly, our family, who were least bothered as to what the youth were wearing while moving out of the house. thirdly, ourselves, because we know what is right and what is wrong but still be believe more on ourselves rather than having faith in Allah.
the problem is interlinked. you moved out of your house without a hijab (both men & Poj niam) the guy looks at girls, doesnt lower his gaze, the girl also likes him because he has no beard and moves according to the society but not with the sunnah or the islamic teachings. and TADA!!!!
the hijab is the best thing for both men and women to overcome the current rising problems of youth as discussed above. men wont bother looking at a girl with proper hijab, and women wont get attracted to the fuzz on a guys face plus as soon as you see a black long coat, you know its a women or you see the fuzz of faces, you know its a man and its easy to lower your gaze. today, untill you do a scan with your eyes, it’s very difficult to find out if it’s a guy or a girl. and this is one of the signs of the qiyamah.
“the hijab is the best thing for both men and women to overcome the current rising problems of youth”
I agree, men should start wearing the hijab.
Subhanallah… Ya Allah protect us from the evil of Shaytaan. Guard our eeman and make us among Your believing servants. Ya Allah! Give us courage to overcome our negative whims and desires. Forgive us our past mistakes and foil the ones we are planning to commit in the future Ya Rabbil Alameen. Strenghten our Eeman and make us among the Forgiven servants on Yaumul Qiyama by establishing us among the Dwellers of Jannah. Ameen Ya Rabb.
assalamalikum …. this article is relly useful…..i wantd to ask you sir is it permissbl for teenagers to select his lifepartner by her own…im 17 yrs old and i met a boy 1 year ago hez 21 yrs old…v both like each other and want to get married soon….his famly membrs are ready to talk to my parents….but i am scared to tell my parents about him as it comes under love marriageand if my parents take me in a wrong way and gets hurted….as such can u please advise me how should i approch my parents in a way that they shuld not get hurted and accpet us….plz reply
This article is not really realistic.
Plenty of Christians and Jews have relationships and there is no pre-marital sex. If someone doesn’t want to have pre-marital sex they won’t have it. And this includes famous, athletic people, like Tim Tebow who is a virgin despite being a millionaire with a lot of popularity and I’m certain countless offers from young, attractive women.
thib ob. it really is that simple. If you don’t want to date then you won’t, both sexes have the power to reject advances, but really I have never seen a male pursued by a female into a relationship. If the male does not pursue there just won’t be a relationship at all. It is the males that seek them out, not the way this article indicates it is the females.
And thirdly, there is a major danger in telling young people to dismiss and forget their desires for the opposite sex, and then waiting a long time. You will find that by the time the waiting period is done, these men and women no longer have any desire for marriage at all, and you are going to just create more problems by forcing it on them. First force them not to, then when you succeed you will try to put the genie back in the lamp so to speak.
Thaum kawg, I agree with one of the above commentators that state modern society is wrong. Marriage is supposed to be at a young age, and in Islam there is no “teenager” or adolescence. There is only child or adult, and an adult is anybody passing puberty. This notion that the a person that passed puberty is too young is a Western notion, and adopting it into Islam is folly. Muslims are guided by Allah himself, they should not be taking guidance from mankind over Allah’s guidance.
In modern society there is no separation of male and female, so a male that can not interact with females is going to have serious trouble in this world. How will he succeed in school? How will he then get a job, and move up in a career? Maybe the prophet behaved shyly among women, but that will not work for our non-prophet boys.
Now an admission for my part. Zina was never a real danger for me because I’m very unattractive. So maybe for the attractive boys it is a very difficult issue. For them, definitely marriage as soon as possible. But since I know many non-Muslims, it seems that most boys are really not considered attractive so Zina is very unlikely to occur. Many do not get a girlfriend until their mid or late 20s, I know many in their 30s who are still single, and these are non-Muslims that are actively searching. I suppose they’re all unattractive too, but this is a lot of people, and probably your son is also unattractive too just by the percentages at play. There is no real danger and it’s more of an issue the other way: finding partners for our sons is going to be more difficult than not finding them anybody.
This statement clearly explain about the final result which would lead for a girl or to a boy. Thank alot for the author for this great eyplanation. And i too think in the case of boy -girl relationship, it is the same rule given for the both gender. May Allah Subhanuvathala help both the genders to be protected.
This and from so many other articles like these I am surprised you are telling the teenagers to abstain from the opposite gender – but you are not teling what they should do in order to choose a spouse.
How can one possibly decide who to marry by staying away from them.
nthuav, sh. Hamza Yusuf has once said in one of his lectures, and it was long ago, but its so apparent when we read articles like these – the western society has lost so many English words, one of those is ‘courtship’.
Surprisingly nobody is talking about courtship, and there is so much talk on the no-no for a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship!
People, that was the middle way. Please talk about it. Talk to the teens about courtship – where yes, men and women should be okay to mingle with each other under certain parameters and circumstances – so that if they feel attraction towards each other they CAN approach each other and each other’s family in a halal way.