Puleaina o le vevesi mo le ulugalii fou

E iai ni fautuaga a Janet Kozak mo le ulufale atu i le faaipoipoga ma o loʻo faʻasoa fautuaga i le puleaina o le vevesi mo ulugalii fou.

Mo se ulugalii fou e nonofo faatasi mo le taimi muamua, o loʻo punou i lalo mea e ono le fiafia pe leai foi ma le le faʻaaloalo i se tagata matua faaipoipo e mafai ona avea ma faigata galuega. Mo muslim ulugalii o ai e amata le mafutaga i le nikah, E leai se fetuunaiga vaitaimi o le iloa o le tagata lava ia o le tagata lava ia e oʻo i aso vave na muamua tusia ai le faʻaipoipoga. Tele ulugalii, ona, o le mea e taua tele i tulaga e tatau ona latou faia le tele o le mea e ola ai ma manuia ia latou faaipoipoga.

O le a, ona, mafai ona fai ulugalii e fai le faiga o olaga o le ogatotonu, avanoa ma le tele o le ola o le olaga o le faigofie o mea faigofie? Na ou feutanaʻi atu ni tagata faapolofesa e lua e aʻoaʻo ai o latou fautuaga ma fautuaga mo le le gata mama ma faʻatulagaina avanoa, Ae mo le faʻaititia o feteʻenaʻiga i faʻaipoipoga. Mo nisi ulugalii, E mafai ona oʻo mai o le le avanoa e le o avea o se 'faʻamamaina-tutusa' ia latou faʻaipoipoga. E alavai i le va ma fatuina se avanoa o paaga uma lagona le mafanafana i, E i ai ni mataupu faʻavae o le a fesoasoani e avea ma le le fiafia i itu uma e lua.

Faamama i luma o le faaipoipoga
Afai e mafai, Ua fautuaina tele le faia o se ie lelei ae leʻi siʻitia faʻatasi. A o le afa o le ulugaliʻi e ave le taimi e oʻo atu ai i a latou lava mea aʻo leʻi faʻaipoipo, E sefe ai le tele o maasiasi ma le ulu-butting pe a uma le faaipoipoga. Fai le oloa o le mea e te lava ai, ma iloilo le taua o le aumai i totonu o le mafutaga fou. Mea tetele, pei o meaafale ma isi mea faigaluega, e tatau ona tuu i lalo mai uma aiga e aveese ni kopi ae le i alu i le fale fou.

O se tasi o fautuaga sili o le faʻaipoipoga meaalofa na ou faʻalogo i ai o le meaalofa o le taimi ma se faʻalapotopotoga tomai e mautinoa ai le ulugaliʻi e oʻo i le vae sili ona lelei i luma. Shelina jokhiya, E ona le tagata e le o le tagata o le DevLutr, masani ona aoga ma le faletua-i-i ai ae le i tuua lona aiga, Fesoasoani ia te ia ia faia ia lavalava ma isi mea totino. Peitai, O le tautua e tutusa ma le taua mo teuga e faaaoga ai. Tusa lava pe o le teine ​​faʻaipoipo e fealuaʻi i totonu ma ana tulafono, O le potumoe ma potu ola e tatau lava ona toe iloiloina ma o se mama, saogalemu ma serene space e tatau ona faia mo le faletua fou ma ana mea totino.

O fou fou e manaʻomia le faia o se taumafaiga faifai pea e amata ona le mafai ona tuʻufaʻatasia o latou olaga faʻatasi. O le amataga o le faʻaipoipoga o le a setiina le tone mo tausaga e o mai ma avea ma faʻailoga tamaiti pe a iai, Matau ma Faaaʻoaʻoina. Amata mai i se avanoa-leai se totogi avanoa ma leo faʻavavega o le a alu atu i se auala umi agai i le faia o le fealofani ma le manuia.

Ave oloa o le tulaga
Tafa i lou fale i le fale, ma talanoa i lau paga e uiga i le mea ma e le galue i avanoa uma, Ona faia lea o se lisi o galuega pe maeʻa le vaiaso o le vaiaso lea e te iloa uma ai au sini ma faʻatulagaga o se ulugalii.

Ua fautuaina e Shelina, "A o oe [Agai i totonu] O le "Aiga Fale" Muamua Faaaoga i le Fale. Aua le taumafai ma sui faiga ma order vave pei o le a mafua ai le vevesi mo mea uma. Faʻaaoga i lou olaga fou mo ni nai aso poʻo ni vaiaso ona talanoa lea i le aiga. Masalo e iai se kulupu talanoaga e uiga i le auala na faʻatuina ai le fale ma fautua mai le auala [faiga e mafai ona faʻaleleia] Agai i luma. Afai nisi augatupulaga, e pei o matua o matua, ua mumusu e talanoaina lenei mataupu, Aua le tuleia i latou. O le a latou vaʻai mai i le vaega o totoe o le aiga o loʻo faatulagaina poʻo le a le mea fou o le a ma amata mulimuli [Isha Allah].”

Faaalia le faaaloalo
O tagata uma e iai ni mea taua faʻapitoa poʻo ni mea taua e leai se isi e malamalama i le tau o. Taulimaina ma faasino i mea a lau paga ma le tausiga. Faaalia le faʻaaloalo i mea uma a lau paga ma aganuu masani a le aiga. Amber taguga, O le pule o le faʻatulagaina o taʻavale, faamatala o faaipoipoga uma o se tele-aganuu faaipoipoga, "O le auala na taulimaina ai e lou aiga ni mea e pei o aso fanau, feeseeseaiga, O feau ma le faʻalapotopotoga o aiga e faia uma e uiga i le aganuu a le aiga. " Na ia fautua mai le tautala e uiga, ma le faaaloalo, O le aganuu mai o le mea e sau ai lou toʻalua. Na te faamatala, "O tagata uma e saili le mafanafana o le latou 'masani' ma o lena masani ua aʻoaʻoina ia matou i la matou [Aiga] o le afua mai. " Afai o lau 'masani' e ese nai lo lau paga, O le a manaʻomia oe e sailia le faʻavae masani.

Fesoʻotaʻi
Talanoa i le tasi le isi e uiga i le mea e te manaʻo ai e faʻatautaia ma faʻaaoga ou avanoa. Amber faʻailoa fuafuaina se taimi faapitoa e nofo ai i lalo ma lau toʻalua ma talanoa i ou mafuaʻaga e fai atu ai ia te ia e faia se taumafaiga sili atu. Na ia faamamaina o le mea taua o le "faʻaalia le alofa ma le faʻafetai i mea na ia faia na faia ai lena mea e te fiafia ai. Mo le tele o tagata, O lenei talanoaga e uiga i le le mautonu ma le le mautonu e mafai ona le fiafia ma faigata ona faalogo, Ae o le faia o le 'faamalo i sanuisi' (faamalo > faitioga > faamalo) faia le talosaga e faigofie ona momoli ma maua. "

Fai gaioiga
Fuafua se taimi, A o oe o se isi mea taua aiga Tofiga, i faʻamalosi tino ma develetter faʻatasi ma lau paʻaga. Lagolagoina e le tasi le isi i le fatuina o se faiga o le faiga i lou fale. Galue malosi i au oe lava sini ma mautinoa foi e faʻailoa foi pe a manuia lau paga i le maeʻa o latou. AMBER e fautuaina e le sili atu ma le fa itula i le taimi i se taimi i luga o soʻo se poloketi "ina ia mafai ona tausia le galuega ma le lotoa." Na ia fautuaina, "Fai le mea sili ou te mafaia e te tausia ai le taimi malie - tatala le Windows e tuu le tele o moli i […] ma e fiafia i ai meaʻai i luga o le lima e taofi ai le galuega lagona o le malie e mafai ai. E oʻo i ni nai itula o galuega e mafai ona lelei le taimi lelei o se ulugaliʻi!”

Faafaigaluegaina se polofesa
O le tele o galuega tele e mafai ona lofituina ma taufaafefe. Hiring a professional organiser removes some emotional and procrastination elements of the cleaning and organising process. Having a paid professional there to keep you on task, and nudge you forward when you feel like giving up, will help you accomplish your goals and ensure you implement logical and easy to use systems. Professional organisers are also not as emotionally invested in the stuff or the marriage partners. Shelina explains, “Clients or their partners can yell and scream at us (which happens sometimes) but we won’t ask for a divorce. We will ask for a break and usually a glass of water, but that is our limit.” When you take the emotion out of the project by hiring a professional, more gets accomplished, and there is less tension and resentment within the marriage itself.

Applying these tips will help a couple bridge the culture gap when it comes to creating a home environment filled with peace and order. By purging before marriage, crafting a solid plan of action, and making the time to tackle the target areas as a couple with mutual love and respect, you can strengthen your marriage bond and create a space that will serve as a model for future generations.

About the advisors:
Amber Taggard has a Master’s of Science in Clinical Mental Health and is the owner of The Organizer Chicks. She and her husband of 14 years have two sons and a daughter on the way and live in Northwest Arkansas.

Shelina Jokaiya was born and raised in Kent, England and moved to Dubai in 2005 to start her life there. After spending 13 years working as an in-house solicitor for large corporations, she switched career tracks to launch Decluttr Me in Dubai, making her the first professional organiser in the U.A.E and GCC region.

Janet Kozak is founder and COO of the PR and communications firm Resolute. She’s an entrepreneur driven by business insights and boundless creativity. Janet’s most interested in women-owned business development and social causes including public health issues and domestic violence education in Muslim communities. She founded an online advocacy and support group, Muslim Women Against Domestic Violence and Abuse, and also recently spoke on the topic of financial abuse at the 2nd International Conference on Women’s Empowerment in Karachi, Pakistan.