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Murume pachake angave ari chisakiso cheroorano isingafadzi. Semuyenzaniso, anogona kuva anonyima uye ane hutsinye… Anogona kunge ari munhu ane hasha zvikuru, akaoma uye anodzvinyirira. Angave ari uyo anomanikidzira kuda kwake nezvisarudzo pamudzimai wake munhau iri yose pasina kubvunzana naye, tichifunga nezvemanzwiro ake, tichipanana pfungwa panyaya iyi nekunakirwa nemukadzi uyu.
Anogona kuona mudzimai wake seimwe mhando yekutaura [panzvimbo pomumwe munhu] uye nokudaro anobata naye nechando uye nekukasharara pasina tsitsi kana hunyoro…
“Anogona kukuvadza mudzimai wake zvakasiyana-siyana, sekumutuka kana mhuri yake, vachimutuka, vachimutuka nezvikonzero zvidiki… Kana [chimwe chiito chenushuoz paari ndechekuti] angaedza kumukuvadza nokumuramba uye ipapo, nguva yekumirira isati yapera, mudzosere kwaari somukadzi wake ipapo momurambazve. Zvose izvi zvinoitwa pasina vavariro yokudzokera kuupenyu hwewanano chaihwo asi kungomukuvadza nokudarika kodzero dzake. Kana kuti angadzivisa kurara naye pasina chikonzero kana kuti murango wapamutemo. Izvi zvingaita kuti mukadzi arasikirwe netsika dzake uye aite chimwe chinhu chinorambidzwa.” [Al-Bahuti al-Hanbali, Kishaaf al-Qinaa' uye Matn al-Iqnaa', vol. 5, pp. 184, 290, 213; Ibn Abideen, Radd al-Mukhtar ala al-Darr al-Mukhtar wa Hashiyah, vol. 3, p. 190; Tafseer al-Manaar, vol. 5, p. 76.]
Shaikh al-Islam ibn Taimiyyah akadaro,
“Kukuvadza kunouya kumukadzi nomurume achirega kuvata naye ndekwokuti muchato uparare mumamiriro ezvinhu ose., zvisinei kuti zvanga zviri zvemaune kubva kumurume kana nekusaziva, kana kuti aikwanisa kuita zvepabonde kana kuti kwete.”
[Ibn Taymiyyah, al-Fatawa al-Kubra, vol. 4, p. 562; Ibn Taymiyyah, Majmuah al-Fatawa, vol. 32, p. 40.]
[Nushooz kumurume kunosanganisira] paanomurayira kuti aite chimwe chinhu chinorambidzwa kana kuti chisiri pamutemo, sekubuda pachena achiratidza runako rwake kana kufukura mativi ake anofanira kuvharwa, kuenda pakati pevarume vaasina hukama navo...
Kana, angasaita zvinodikanwa zvomudzimai wake navana zvokuti garikano yavo isati yaitwa. Kana, anoita zvinhu zvinorwadza nokuzvidza mudzimai wake uye anoratidza kusamuremekedza, vakadaro vachimunyomba, vachimuchera kana kumuseka. Kana, anogona kunge achishuva pfuma yake uye anomumanikidza kuti aishandise achimumiririra.
[Yakatorwa Kubva “Kusawirirana Kwewanano (An-Nushooz)” naSh. Saalih Al-Sadlan, p. 32]
Chokwadi Iri Veeeeeery Truuuuuu ! Zvese zvandinoverenga pamusoro ndizvo zvandiri kuona muhupenyu hwangu izvozvi ! N zvinondisvota kana ndikatarisa vanhu ivavo vanobata vakadzi vavo sechinhu kwavari 🙁
Ichi ichokwadi,
Varume vazhinji mazuvano vanoseka vakadzi vavo senge tv show yekuti iye neshamwari dzake pane chimwe chinhu. 🙁
Ichi ichokwadi,
Varume vazhinji mazuvano vanoseka madzimai avo sechirongwa chemuTV kuti iye neshamwari dzake vataure chimwe chinhu.
Ipapo ndipo panobva paenda murume achitaura izvozvo “kana uri mukadzi kwaye haufe wakatadza nyangwe murume wako akashata sei” 🙁
Zvinosuwisa zvikuru anonzi MuMuslim nezita rekuti Hama/ Varume vanoshandisa Muchato wechiIslam semberi kwechimbadzo chavo chinorambidzwa muIslam kutsvaga mukadzi kana madzimai eVisa/Permanent Resident uye zvishuwo zveruchiva zvenguva pfupi.. Allah swt anoziva zvese. Hanzvadzi kana uine manzwiro akaipa mumoyo mako ibva kure vasati vaparadza kutenda kwako kweIman muna Allah swt. InshAllah Allah swt achavatsiva nemunhu anokukoshesa seMudzimai wechokwadi wechiMuslimah.
Murume anotuka mukadzi wake ovavarira kuunza nhamo mumwoyo make uye misodzi mumaziso ake nemashoko/zviito uye kuvana vake havakodzeri kuroorwa.. Allah swt Mwari vadzivirire vose kubva kurudzi urwu rwevarume. Allah swt vanoda avo vanozvikudza kubva mukudzvinyirirwa/kushungurudzwa…InshAllah vachapihwa mubairo weIman yavo yakasimba Ameen
chikamu pamusoro pake achiti mudzimai akanaka achava akanaka kunyange kana murume wake akaipa…ndicho chiratidzo chako chekutanga kuti ari kuedza kutamba mitambo uye haana kukoshesa kushumira nzira yakarurama yehupenyu ….zvinoratidza kuti haatyi kukuvadza mudzimai wake,..haaratidze chiratidzo kana kufarira muDeen Allah swt. Murume wechokwadi wechiMuslim haambofunga kutaura kumudzimai wake uye kutamba naye mitambo. Mukadzi wechiMuslim ipfuma uye Murume anoda Allah swt uye Islam aizomubata netsitsi.. Murume wechiMuslim haambofi akaseka mudzimai wake pamberi peshamwari dzake izvo zvisina ruremekedzo. Isa Allah swt pekutanga uye uchapihwa mubairo wezviri nani InshAllah. Allah swt vanokubatsira kuti uve wakasimba.
kana ari murume akanaka chaizvo haaiti kuti mudzimai wake acheme kana kuita chimwe chinhu chakaipa
Ini neimwe nzira ndinoona chokwadi chinorwadza chekurapwa kwerudzi urwu saka ndakafunga kusiya murume wangu ndiuye nemwana wangu mumwe chete kunyika yangu.,hoping kuti achachinja mafungiro nemabatiro aaindiita..asi it was a mistake because he became worst than before..Akabva amira kundisporter nemwana wedu and now anozvikudza achiti acharoora futi so he dont. ndoda kundiramba..hapana plan yekupa roora rangu,kana kutsigira mwana wedu kunyangwe netsitsi achinditumira mashoko akaipa andisingagone kutora nguva zhinji..I wanna be free from him but he dont want to cooperate sezvo Iam pamari ndisingakwanisiwo.Ndokumbirawo mundipewo mazano emutemo hama dzangu..Subhan Allah..
InshAllah Allah swt vanokuchengeta wakasimba. InshAllah kana uri kunyika yekumadokero unokwanisa kurambana uye pasina muripo kune magweta emahara. InshAllah kana uri kuMiddle East Country kune maImam vanotora zvakakomba zviito zveVarume vanoshandisa madzimai zvisizvo.. Ratidzai kana murume apera simba achitaura zvekuroora mumwe mukadzi iye achiziva kuti haagone kuchengeta zvaanazvo.. Dai aive Hama yechokwadi yechiMuslim aiwana mazwi akakodzera uye Imam kuti amubatsire kugadzirisa hukama hwake newe. Rangarira kuti Murume akanaka sekambani yaanochengeta, zviito zvake nemashoko ake. Usagadzirisa zvishoma pane hukama hunokudzwa. Hupenyu hupfupi kwatiri isu tese tiri munyika ino kuti tiedzwe uye tisimbise Kutenda kwedu pasi penguva dzinonetsa InshAllah kuti tiwane mubairo wekushivirira kwedu, zviito nemashoko. Allah vanemi Ameni.
Inoramba iripo 1 svondo rekurambana kwangu. Ndinorambana pasina chikonzero chaicho nekuti ndakamukumbira kuti agare achindichengeta. ndiye munhu ane hanya nevamwe vanhu ; mhuri yake, hama, shamwari nemhuri yeshamwari dzake. Akavapa mabasa uye akavatsigira mumamiriro ezvinhu akawanda, asi kwete ini. 4 makore emuchato, Handina kuwana vana, Ndakaenda kuna vanachiremba vakawanda. Ndakanga ndisina chimwe chinhu chakakosha chinonditadzisa kuva pregrant, pane zvinopesana nemishonga (mahomoni) zvandakapiwa navanachiremba zvakandikonzera zvinetso. Ndakazviona ndakuenda nekuuya kumadoctor ndega, asi haana kuita hanya nazvo. Munguva pfupi yapfuura akachinja uye akava akasiyana, aigara achifamba nekuda kwechimiro chebasa rake, akauya chete 1 mazuva pavhiki uye paakauya, anga akabatikana nemhuri yake kana shamwari dzake uye ini ndini chiteshi chekupedzisira. Amai vangu vakashaya musi wa16 Kukadzi 2012 mushure mechirwere chisingarapike chakatora nguva 6 mwedzi. aivapo pamariro, ndokuzofamba ndokuuya kusvika 25th yaFebruary 2012 usiku, Ndaive ndichiri kumba kwangu, achingouya sisi vakabva vamudaidza kuti varonge kuenda kuzvisikwa zuva raitevera. Ndakati nguva haikodzeri aifanira kugara neni kuti andinzwire tsitsi uye aone zvandinoda, asi akaramba achienda. Ndakabva ndaita hasha ndikati zvagara sisi vako vaifanira kudzoka kuzondiona uye kundinzwira tsitsi.. Akatsamwawo akandidzosera kumba kwangu, uye musi wa7 Kurume ndakagamuchira kubva kudare chikumbiro chekurambana. zvakandiomera kutsigira 2 matambudziko akafanana kufa kwamai vangu nekurambana kwemurume. Alhamdolilah ndine kutenda muna ALLAH, uye ALLAH inchallah vacharipa iye nemhuri yake nekuti vakandidzvanyirira. Ndinokumbira kuti munamate neni kuti ALLAH vabatsire…
hupenyu hwangu hwekuroora hwakaperawo nekuda kweresuns idzi, kwete rudo kwete rudo , no appreciation nd no compromise even no communication nd conversation frm my husbands side.
he played wid my emotions and ruined my whole life…….kundisiya ndapedza kundiita mhamha.