Sida Loo Burburiyo Noloshaada (Adigoon Xataa Ogayn inaad Tahay)

Faham in noloshu aanay ahayn khad toosan. Noloshu maaha waqti go'an oo marxalado muhiim ah. Waa caadi haddii aadan dhammaysan dugsiga, guurso, raadso shaqo ku taageerta, reer lahaadaan, lacag samee, oo si raaxo leh ku noolaada dhammaan da'dan, ama da'daas. Waa caadi haddii aad sameyso, inta aad fahantay haddii aadan guursan 25, ama Madaxweyne ku xigeenka by 30 - ama xitaa faraxsan, Arrintaas - dunidu kuma xukumi doonto. Waa laguu oggol yahay inaad dib u noqoto. Waxaa laguu oggol yahay inaad ogaato waxa ku dhiirigelinaya. Waqti baa laguu ogolyahay, waxaana filayaa in aan inta badan illowno taas. Waxaan dooranaa barnaamij isla markaaba ka baxsan dugsiga sare sababtoo ah waxa ku haboon in la sameeyo waa in si toos ah u aado Jaamacadda. Waxaan dooranaa shaqo isla markiiba ka baxsan Jaamacadda, xitaa haddii aanaan jeclayn barnaamijkeena, sababtoo ah wakhti ayaan galnay. Waxaan aadnaa shaqadaas subax kasta sababtoo ah waxaan dareemeynaa baahida aan u baahanahay inaan nafteena si weyn u taageerno. Waxaan qaadeynaa tallaabada xigta, iyo talaabada xigta, iyo talaabada xigta, iyagoo ku fekeraya inaan buuxineyno liiska hubinta nolosha, oo maalin maalmaha ka mid ah ayaanu ka soo toosnay niyad jab. Waxaan ka kacnay walaac. Waxaan dareemaynaa cadaadis mana garanayno sababta. Sidaas ayaad noloshaada u duminaysaa.

Waxaad noloshaada ku baabi'inaysaa adigoo dooranaya qof qaldan. Waa maxay baahidayada inaan si degdeg ah ula socono cilaaqaadka? Waa maxay sababta aan aad ula dhacsannahay fikradda ah inaan marka hore qof noqonno halkii aan cid gaar ahayn? I rumayso markaan idhaahdo jacaylku wuxuu ku dhashay raaxo, jacayl ka soo baxa baahida loo qabo in qof la garab seexdo, jacayl ah in uu daboolo baahidayada dareenka halkii xamaasad, waa jacayl aan ku dhiiri galin 6 subaxnimo markaad is rogrogto oo aad isku duubto. Ku dadaal inaad ogaatid jacaylka aasaasiga ah, nooca xiriirka ee kugu dhiirigeliya inaad noqoto nin ama naag wanaagsan, nooca isu-soo-dhowaanshiyaha ee naadir ah halkii uu halkaas ka ahaan lahaa. “Laakiin ma doonayo in aan kali noqdo,"Waxaan inta badan ku dhawaaqnaa. Kaligaa noqo. Keligaa wax cun, naftaada qaado taariikhaha, kaligaa seexo. Inta ay taasi ku dhex jirto waxaad baran doontaa naftaada. Waad kori doontaa, waxaad ogaan doontaa waxa ku dhiirigaliya, waxaad hagaajin doontaa riyadaada, waxa aad aaminsantahay, caddayntaada cajiibka ah, iyo marka aad la kulanto qofka sameeya qoob ka ciyaarka unugyadaada, waad hubsan doontaa, sababtoo ah waad hubtaa naftaada. Sug. Fadlan, Waxaan ku boorinayaa inaad sugto, in loo dagaalamo, inaad ku dadaasho haddii aad hore u heshay, because it is the most beautiful thing your heart will experience.

You ruin your life by letting your past govern it. It is common for certain things in life to happen to you. There will be heartbreak, confusion, days where you feel like you aren’t special or purposeful. There are moments that will stay with you, words that will stick. You cannot let these define you – they were simply moments, they were simply words. If you allow for every negative event in your life to outline how you view yourself, you will view the world around you negatively. You will miss out on opportunities because you didn’t get that promotion five years ago, convincing yourself that you were stupid. Waxaad ku waayi doontaa kalgacal sababtoo ah waxaad u malaysay jacaylkii hore inuu kaa tagay sababtoo ah ma aadan fiicneyn, oo hadda ma rumaysnid ninka ama naagta kugu boorrinaysa inaad rumaysato. Kani waa meerto, wax sheegidda is-fulisa. Haddii aad u oggolaan weydo inaad ka gudubto wixii dhacay, maxaa la yiri, maxaa la dareemay, waxaad mustaqbalkaaga ku eegi doontaa muraayadaas, oo waxba ma awoodo inay jebiyaan xukunkaas. Waxaad sii wadi doontaa inaad caddeyso, dib u soo noolaynta, iyo hurinta aragti aan markii horeba jirin.

Noloshaada waxaad kharribaysaa markaad la barbar dhigto dadka kale. Tirada taageerayaasha Instagram-ka aad leedahay ma dhimayso mana kordhinayso qiimahaaga. Qadarka lacagta ku jirta akoonkaaga bangiga saameyn kuma yeelan doonto naxariistaada, garaadkaaga, ama farxaddaada. The person who has two times more possessions than you does not have double the bliss, or double the merit. We get caught up in what our friends are liking, who our significant others are following, and at the end of the day this not only ruins our lives, but it also ruins us. It creates within us this need to feel important, and in many cases we often put others down to achieve that.

You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself. We are all afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us. Caring is not synonymous with crazy. Expressing to someone how special they are to you will make you vulnerable. There is no denying that. Si kastaba ha ahaatee, that is nothing to be ashamed of. Waxaa jira wax aad u qurux badan waqtiyada sixirka yar yar oo dhaca marka aad dharka iska dhigto oo aad daacad u noqoto kuwa muhiimka kuu ah. Gabadhaas ha ogaato inay ku dhiiri geliso. U sheeg hooyadaa inaad jeceshahay saaxiibbadaa hortooda. Express, muujin, muujin. Naftaada fur, Aduunyada ha isku adkayn, oo ku dhiiran yaa, iyo sida, aad jeceshahay. Geesinimo ayaa ku jirta.

Noloshaada waxaad ku baabi'inaysaa inaad u dulqaadato. Dhammaadka maalinta waa inaad ku faraxsan tahay inaad nooshahay. Markaad dejiso wax ka yar waxa aad rabto, waxaad baabi'isaa suurtogalnimada in gudahaaga ku dhex nool, oo sidaas ayaad ku khiyaamaysaa naftaada iyo adduunka awooddaada labadaba. Midka xiga ee Michelangelo ayaa laga yaabaa inuu fadhiyo gadaasha Macbook hadda isagoo qoraya qaansheegta xaashida, sababtoo ah waxay bixisaa biilasha, ama sababtoo ah waa raaxo, ama sababtoo ah wuu u dulqaadan karaa. Ha u ogolaan in tani kugu dhacdo. Noloshaada sidan ha u dumin. Nolosha iyo shaqada, iyo nolol iyo jacayl, isma eegin. Waxay ku xidhan yihiin gudaha. Waa inaan ku dadaalnaa inaan qabanno shaqo aan caadi ahayn, waa inaan ku dadaalnaa inaan helno jacayl aan caadi ahayn. Kaliya markaas ayaanu geli doonaa nolol farxadeed oo aan caadi ahayn.

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