Halijoto: Jitambue, Jua Sehemu ya Mwenzi wako 1

Katika safu mbili za sehemu, Wake wenye busara wa Orange County alikuwa na bahati ya kuwa na SR. Hosai Mojaddidi anatuongoza kwenye majadiliano juu ya hisia na athari zao kwenye uhusiano wetu. Her talk was titled“Personality Differences: Jitambue, know your spouse.” She started by talking to us about the historia of the idea of temperaments. It was created by Hippocrates in 450 BC. He determined that people’s behaviors were related to the presence of four humors, or liquids, in the body. From Hippocrates onward, the humoral theory was adopted by Greek, Roman and Islamic physicians, and became the most commonly held view of the human body among European physicians until the advent of modern medical research in the nineteenth century. The famous Muslim scientist, Ibn Sina also further developed this theory. Vicheshi vinne ni: bile nyeusi, bile ya njano, kohozi, na damu na kila moja inalingana na moja ya jadi tabia nne: unyogovu, choleric, phlegmatic na sanguine. Nadharia hii ilihusiana kwa karibu na nadharia ya vipengele vinne: ardhi, moto, maji na hewa; Dunia ambayo mara nyingi hupatikana kwenye bile nyeusi, moto katika bile ya njano, maji katika phlegm, na vipengele vyote vinne vilivyomo kwenye damu. Hosai anasema hivyo, "ni majibu yako kwa kichocheo na muda wa hisia ambayo huamua tabia yako. Sio vitendo vyake, ni maoni yako…unaangalia jinsi mtu anavyoitikia dharura au unapopokea habari za kupendeza n.k.” Wikipedia inafafanua tabia hizi nne kama ifuatavyo: Sanguine Tabia ya sanguine kimsingi ni msukumo na kutafuta raha; watu sanguine ni sociable na charismatic. Huelekea kufurahia mikusanyiko ya kijamii, kupata marafiki wapya na huwa na fujo. Kawaida huwa wabunifu na mara nyingi huota ndoto za mchana. Hata hivyo, wakati fulani pekee ni muhimu kwa wale wa tabia hii. Sanguine pia inaweza kumaanisha nyeti, huruma na kimapenzi. Sanguine haiba kwa ujumla pambana na kufuata kazi zote, wamechelewa sana, na huwa na tabia ya kusahau na wakati mwingine ni mbishi kidogo. Mara nyingi, wanapofuata hobby mpya, wanapoteza hamu mara tu inapoacha kujihusisha au kufurahisha. Ni watu wa watu sana. Ni waongeaji na hawana haya. Kwa ujumla wana asili isiyo na aibu, hakika wanachofanya ni sawa. Hawana ukosefu wa kujiamini. Watu wa sanguine wana moyo wa joto, kupendeza, hai na yenye matumaini. Choleric Tabia ya choleric ni kimsingi ni wenye tamaa na kama kiongozi. Wana uchokozi mwingi, nishati, na/au shauku, na jaribu kuingiza hilo kwa wengine. Ni watu wenye mwelekeo wa kazi na wamejikita katika kupata kazi ipasavyo; kauli mbiu yao ni kawaida “fanya sasa.” Wao inaweza kutawala watu wa tabia zingine kwa mapenzi yao yenye nguvu, hasa aina za phlegmatic, na anaweza kuwa dikteta au dhalimu. Wanajeshi wengi wenye mvuto wa kijeshi na kisiasa walikuwa watu wa choleric. Wanapenda kutawala kila kitu na ni wazuri katika kupanga, kwani mara nyingi wanaweza kuona mara moja suluhu la vitendo kwa tatizo. Hata hivyo, wanaweza kuanguka upesi katika mshuko-moyo mkubwa au hali ya kuhamaki wakati kutofaulu au vikwazo vinapowapata. Melancholic Tabia ya melancholic ni kimsingi introverted na ni kutolewa kwa mawazo. Watu wenye unyogovu mara nyingi huzingatiwa sana (au kupita kiasi) kutafakari na wote ni wenye kujali na waangalifu sana. Wao ni kupangwa na ratiba oriented, mara nyingi hupanga sana. Melancholics inaweza kuwa ya ubunifu sana katika shughuli kama vile ushairi, sanaa, na uvumbuzi – na ni nyeti kwa wengine. Kwa sababu ya usikivu huu na ufikiri wao wanaweza kujishughulisha na janga na ukatili duniani na wanahusika na unyogovu na hisia.. Mara nyingi wao ni wapenda ukamilifu. Tamaa yao ya ukamilifu mara nyingi hutokeza kiwango cha juu cha ubora wa kibinafsi lakini pia huwafanya wawe waangalifu sana na wagumu kuhusiana nao kwa sababu mara nyingi wengine hawawezi kuwafurahisha.. Wanajitegemea na wanajitegemea, wakipendelea kufanya mambo wao wenyewe ili kufikia viwango vyao. Sehemu moja mbaya ya kuwa mnyonge ni kwamba wanaweza kujihusisha sana na kile wanachofanya na kusahau kufikiria maswala mengine.. Tahadhari yao inawawezesha kuzuia matatizo ambayo sanguine ya msukumo zaidi huingia, lakini pia inaweza kuwafanya kuahirisha na kubaki katika hatua ya kupanga mradi kwa muda mrefu sana. Melancholics wanapendelea kuzuia umakini mwingi na wanapendelea kubaki nyuma; wanafanya, hata hivyo, hamu ya kutambuliwa kwa kazi zao nyingi za ubunifu. Phlegmatic temperament phlegmatic ni kimsingi walishirikiana na utulivu, kuanzia usikivu wa uchangamfu hadi uvivu wa uvivu. Phlegmatics huwa na kuridhika na wao wenyewe na ni wema. Phlegmatics ni thabiti, wanaweza kutegemewa kuwa marafiki thabiti na waaminifu. Wanakubali na wanapendana, kufanya marafiki kwa urahisi. They tend to be good diplomats because their tendency not to judge and affable nature makes reconciling differing groups easy for them. Phlegmatics prefer to observe and to think on the world around them while not getting involved. They may try to inspire others to do the things which they themselves think about doing. They may be shy and often prefer stability to uncertainty and change. Their fear of change (and of work) can make them susceptible to stagnation or laziness, or even stubbornness. They are consistent, relaxed, Tulia, rational, curious, and observant, qualities that make them good administrators. They can also be passive-aggressive. There is a predominance in each of us that but you could be a blend of these four temperaments. Take this test with your spouse to determine which one you are: http://personality-testing.info/tests/4T.php Endelea kuwa nasi kwa sehemu 2 huku tukizama ndani zaidi tabia hizi. Ndoa Safi ….Ambapo Mazoezi Hufanya Kuwa Mkamilifu Ikiwa mmoja wao au wote wawili watafikia uzee mbele yako-Wake wenye Hekima – kuletwa kwenu na Ndoa Safi- www.purematrimony.com - Huduma Kubwa Zaidi ya Ndoa Duniani kwa Waislamu wa Matendo. Penda nakala hii? Jifunze zaidi kwa kujiandikisha kwa sasisho zetu hapa:http://purematrimony.com/blog Au jiandikishe nasi ili kupata nusu ya Dini yako Insha’Allah kwa kwenda:www.PureMatrimony.com