நான் கடந்த என் புகுந்த வாழ 7 ஆண்டுகள், நான் என் தந்தை inlaw இணைந்து பெற வேண்டாமா, நான் அவர்களிடம் இருந்து வெளியேற என் கணவர் கேட்டுள்ளனர். He is very hurt on this matter, He says he cannot live without his parents, and its hard for me to live with his parents and his younger brother, am i asking too much. What does islam role says on this. Please answer me ASAP. I am desperate to move out, But I like my husband to be happy with me also.
நபி (அல்லாஹ்வின் அமைதி மற்றும் ஆசீர்வாதம் மீது இருக்கலாம்) warned against the husband’s relatives who are not mahrams to the wife entering upon her. It was reported from ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir that the Messenger of Allaah (அல்லாஹ்வின் அமைதி மற்றும் ஆசீர்வாதம் மீது இருக்கலாம்) கூறினார்: “Beware of entering upon women.” A man from among the Ansaar said: “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the brother-in-law?” he said: “The brother-in-law is death.” (அல்-தப்ரானி, 4934; முஸ்லீம், 2172).
It is not permissible for her to be alone with any of her in-laws except those who are so young that there is no fear that they will tempt her or be tempted by her.
The husband must provide his wife with a dwelling place that will conceal her from the eyes of people and protect her from heat and cold, where she can live and settle and be independent. Whatever meets her needs is sufficient, such as a room in good condition with a kitchen and bathroom – unless the wife has stipulated larger accommodation in her marriage contract. He does not have the right to make her eat with any of her in-laws. The kind of accommodation provided must be commensurate with what the husband is able to provide and be suitable according to local custom (‘urf) and the social level of the wife.
(ஒரு) Ibn Hazam (ரஹ் இருக்கலாம்) கூறினார்:
He has to provide her with accommodation according to his means, அல்லாஹ் கூறுகிறார் ஏனெனில் (பொருள் விளக்கம்):
"அவர்களை லாட்ஜ் (விவாகரத்து பெண்கள்) நீங்கள் வாழ்கிறது எங்கே, உங்கள் வழிமுறையாக "படி [அல்-Talaaq 65:6]
(ஆ) Ibn Qudaamah (ரஹ் இருக்கலாம்) கூறினார்:
She (the wife) is entitled to accommodation because Allaah says (பொருள் விளக்கம்):
“Lodge them …” [அல்-Talaaq 65:6]
If it is obligatory to provide lodgings for a divorced wife, then it is even more appropriate that lodgings should be provided for one who is still married. அல்லாஹ் கூறுகிறார் (பொருள் விளக்கம்):
“… and live with them honourably…” [அல்-நிசா ' 4:19]. Part of that means providing them with accommodation, because she cannot do without proper accommodation to conceal her from people’s eyes and so that she may go about her business, relax and her keep her belongings in order.
(கேட்ச்) Al-Kaasaani (ரஹ் இருக்கலாம்) கூறினார்:
If a husband wants to make her live with a co-wife or her in-laws, such as his mother or sister or daughter from another marriage or another relative, and she refuses to accept that, then he has to provide her with accommodation of her own… But if he lodges her in a room of the house that has a door of its own, this is sufficient for her and she should not ask him for alternative accommodation, because the harm caused by fear for her belongings and not being able to relax is no longer there. (Badaa’i’ al-Sanaa’i’, 4/23)
(ஈ) Ibn Qudaamah also said:
A man does not have the right to make two wives live in the same dwelling without their consent, regardless of whether the house is large or small, because this will cause them harm due to the enmity and jealousy between them. Making them live together will cause conflict and each of them will be able to hear when the husband spends time with (has marital relations with) the other or she will see that. If they both agree (to live together in one house), this is permissible because they have the right to do to ask for independent accommodation, or they may choose to forgo this right. (அல்-Mughni, 8/137)
He did not mean that it is OK for the husband to have marital relations with one where the other can see and hear that; what he meant was that it is permissible for them to live in one house, where (கணவர்) can come to each of them on her night in a place in the house where the other cannot see her.
If he can give each wife a part of the house with a bedroom, bathroom and kitchen, this will be sufficient. இதேபோல், he could give each wife a separate house or apartment.
Al-Haskafi (ரஹ் இருக்கலாம்) – one of the Hanafis – said: இதேபோல், she is entitled to a place in the house that is free of his family and her family according to their means, as is the case with food and clothing. A separated part of the house with a door of its own and facilities such as a bathroom and kitchen will be sufficient for the intended purpose.
Ibn ‘Aabideen commented:
What is meant by “a bathroom and kitchen” is bathroom facilities and a place for cooking that should be within the room or in a place which is not shared by any other family members.
(al-Durr al-Mukhtaar, 3/599-600)
I say: what indicates that what is meant by “house” [bayt – literally, “house”, translated above as “room”] is a room is the comment of al-Kaasaani (ரஹ் இருக்கலாம்): If the house has rooms, a room should be allocated to her and given its own door. அதற்கு அவர்கள்,: she does not have the right to ask him for alternative accommodation.
(Badaa’i’ al-Sanaa’i’, 4/34)
On this basis, it is permissible for him to accommodate you in a room of the house that has its own facilities, so long as there is no fitnah (சலனமும்) or being alone with any non-mahrams who have reached the age of puberty. He does not have the right to force you to work for them in the house or to eat and drink with them. If he is able to provide you with accommodation that is completely separate from his family, that will be better for you, but if his parents are elderly and need him, and they have no one else to serve them and the only way he can serve them is by living with them, then he has to do that.
இறுதியாக, we urge you to be patient and to strive to please your husband and to help him to honour and be kind to his family as much as possible until Allaah grants you a way out. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
This Fatwa was taken from Islam Q and A and answered by Shaykh Muhammad Saalih al-Munajjid