கேள்வி: இந்த நேரத்தில் எனக்கு ஒரு நல்ல ஆலோசனை தேவை 29, மேலும் நீண்ட நாட்களாக திருமணம் செய்து கொள்ள முயற்சி செய்தும் பலனில்லை. I am losing hope and even get thoughts of marrying a non-Muslim man but I know this will be disaster for my relationship to Allah.
பதில்: We learn from the guidance of the Beloved of Allah to seek the strongest and most effective means available, while placing one’s trust in Allah.
Sayyiduna Umar (அல்லாஹ் அவரைப் பற்றி திருப்தியடைவான்) கூறினார், “நான் அல்லாஹ்வின் தூதரை கேட்டேன் (Allah bless him & give him peace) சொல், “If you relied on Allah as He should be relied on, He would provide for you as He provides for birds. They go out hungry in the early morning, and return full in the evening.” [திர்மிதி] The scholars note that birds do not merely place their trust in Allah: they go out early, and take all means to fulfill their goal.
திருமணம்: Communal Means
In every community, there are people who set up marriages, who know suitable would-be spouses, and who should be sought out if one wants to marry. If it does not work through one’s family, try going through other elders in the community (such as one’s friends’ பெற்றோர்கள், community leaders, imams of mosques, marriage services, முதலியன)
Perform the Prayer of Need (Salat al-Haja): make wudu and perform 2 rakats after which you make heart-felt supplication, asking for a suitable spouse.
Be certain that Allah will answer your duas, in the best of ways:
“சொல் (unto them, ஓ முஹம்மது): Who provides for you from the sky and the earth, or Who owns hearing and sight; and Who brings forth the living from the dead and bringeth forth the dead from the living; and Who directs the course? They will say: இறைவன். Then say: Will you not then keep your duty (unto Him) ?” [குர்ஆன், 10.31]
Allah reminds us:
“And in the heaven is your providence and that which you are promised;
And by the Lord of the heavens and the earth, it is the truth, even as (it is true) that you speak.” [51.22-23]
So keep taking the best of means, with complete trust in Allah and certainty that if you do that which He has asked of you, He will most certainly give you all that is best for you, in this life and the next.
Allah tells us:
“The devil promises you destitution and enjoins on you lewdness. But Allah promises you forgiveness from Himself with bounty. Allah is All-Embracing, All-knowing.” [குர்ஆன், 2.268]
“And the believers, ஆண்கள் மற்றும் பெண்கள், are protecting friends one of another; they enjoin the right and forbid the wrong, and they establish worship and they pay the poor-due, and they obey Allah and His messenger. As for these, Allah will have mercy on them. அது! Allah is Mighty, Wise.
Allah promises to the believers, ஆண்கள் மற்றும் பெண்கள், Gardens underneath which rivers flow, wherein they will abide – blessed dwellings in Gardens of Eden. மற்றும் – greater (far)! – acceptance from Allah. That is the supreme triumph.” [குர்ஆன், 9.71]
மேலும் பொறுமையாக இருங்கள். The Beloved of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) reminded us that:
“No tiredness, illness, difficulty, sorrow, harm or sadness afflicts a Muslim, even to a thorn pricking him, without Allah wiping away his errors through it.” [Recorded by Bukhari and Muslim, from Abu Sa’id and Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with them)]
And Allah Alone gives success.
Answered by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari of the Hanafi fiqh list.
ஆதாரம் : http://www.themodernreligion.com/family/losing-hope.html