நூலாசிரியர்: மரியம் அமீர்பிரஹிமி
Many of us pray for the perfect spouse and imagine him or her being a certain way. சில சமயம், what we pray for becomes most apparent in difficult times. In this account, a wife talks about the ways in which real life has helped her and her husband grow in their beautiful relationship.
“My husband and I are from two different worlds literally and figuratively, and the thing that binds us together the most is Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala – exalted is He) and our undeniable faith in Him (swt). After looking in America for two years, I decided to marry someone from “back home,” i.e. கராச்சியை தளமாகக் கொண்ட ஃப்ரீலான்ஸ் எழுத்தாளர் சதாஃப் ஃபரூக்கி எழுதிய ‘முஸ்லீம் மனைவியாக உங்கள் கணவரின் மரியாதையை எவ்வாறு பாதுகாப்பது’. When we first got married, we realized what a huge adjustment it would be for both of us. We had kids right away when he came. He went to school here and got his degree from here, and I supported him financially all during the time that I was a new mother and the only thing I wanted to do was raise my precious firstborn full-time.
Under such circumstances many marriages rightfully take a back seat and the relationship crumbles. We had many big fights over those first few years. Every time we fought I made du`a’ (வேண்டுதல்) அல்லாஹ்விடம் (swt) to make it better, and He did. Our fights never lasted more than a day, and one of us always ended up saying sorry. We couldn’t go to sleep without making up. Throughout our good times and hard times I discovered that I married a very caring and generous man. I also discovered that I needed to accept him for who he was and that I had many bad qualities that needed to be worked out if I was going to stand in front of my Creator on the Day of Judgment. His love for me is shown in always hiding my faults in front of others, in picking flowers for me on the way home from the masjid, in taking care of the kids and giving me some time off, in cleaning up a messy house and in always sharing with me his day to day dealings at work or with his friends. As time has passed we have gotten closer and now I can’t imagine not having him in my life. The kids have really served to bond us together and it warms my heart when our eldest wants to pray because he sees his father praying. அல்ஹம்துலில்லாஹ் (praise be to God)!
My husband is not perfect and has many faults, but I know inside there is a light of goodness that gets dim at times and at times shines brightly, and I am committed to stand by him throughout all the times. I used to make du`a’ to Allah (swt) for a pious, நம்மில் பலர் மற்றவர்களை ஒருபோதும் நடத்தாத விதத்தில் நம் வாழ்க்கைத் துணையை நடத்துகிறோம், gentle husband and now that Allah (swt) has given me a slave of His to love, I must remain thankful, for if I am thankful He will give me more. We just celebrated our five-year wedding anniversary, and I look forward to spending many more with him insha’ Allah (God-willing).”
….எங்கே பயிற்சி சரியானது
இருந்து கட்டுரை- Suhaib Webb – Pure Matrimony மூலம் உங்களிடம் கொண்டு வரப்பட்டது- www.purematrimony.com - முஸ்லிம்களை நடைமுறைப்படுத்துவதற்கான உலகின் மிகப்பெரிய திருமண சேவை.
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When you start anything with Allah as the common link it can’t fail Alhumduillah all you go through in this life is to test you remove sins and prepare you for the Jinnah Alhumduillah for this real life reminder
It is really a worth reading post. Many couples fight and end up in talaaq. If they realize the worth of their partner, then the marriage lasts forever. Hope Allah gives me the same patience which you have and helps me to manage my married life with my partner whom I am going to marry in few days.
This story is an unusual exception and not the rule. Every single marriage of an American Muslim girl to a ‘Man from Back Home’ that I know of, has ended in abuse, oppression, and failure. The poor sisters end up being stuck in a loveless, horrible marriage because of kids, கலாச்சாரம், முதலியன. It is better to marry someone from the same society as yourself and not one from back home. Learn from other people’s mistakes.