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மூல : themodernreligion.com
by Ibrahim Bowers
This article presents the current relationship between a father and a child in this fast paced and time constraint society and provides many practical advises on how to improve this relationship to benefit the whole family.
It has been estimated that working fathers spend about 3 minutes a day with their children.

Fathers who abandon their families, fathers who rarely see their children because of divorce, and fathers who are busy and have very little or nothing to do with the raising of their children are common.
Dad gets up early, takes the long drive to work, gets off late, takes the long drive home, and gets home very tired. He just wants to have dinner, relax a little, and go to bed so that he can repeat the same routine the next day. Every now and then, he tells himself that he will spend more time with his children tomorrow.

But Muslims aren’t like that,” நீங்கள் சொல்கிறீர்கள்.

Perhaps.

How much time do you spend with your children in the day? Not just in the same house, but togetherreally together.

A popular American song by Harry Chapin tells the sad story of a boy who always tries to spend time with his father, but always finds him too busy. When the boy grows up and the father gets older, the father always wants to spend time with his son, but his son always has other things to do.

Quality time spent between a father and his children is essential for both the parent and the children. The children need to know that their father loves and cares for them, and the father needs to be careful that he does not lose his relationship with his children by neglect.

Tips to Improve Father-Child Relationship

There are several ways a father can spend quality time with his children and develop a relationship with them. Even if he is extremely busy, he can probably free up enough time to do some of these things.

*நீங்கள் அவர்களிடம் அன்பு என்று எளிய வழிகளில் உங்கள் குழந்தைகள் காட்டு.

Some fathers try to appeal to their children by showering them with gifts rather than giving of themselves. இந்த நல்ல விட அதிக தீங்கை விளைவிக்கும். The simple example of Prophet Muhammad is much better, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him. போது அவரது மகள் பாத்திமா (அல்லாஹ் அவளுடன் மகிழ்ச்சி இருக்கலாம்) அவரை வரும், the Prophet used to stand up, அவளை முத்தமிடு, அவரது கை எடுத்து, மற்றும் அவரது இருக்கை கொடுக்க. வாழ்வின் பிற்பாதியில், பாசம் இந்த தனிப்பட்ட வகை இப்புத்தகங்களைப் தந்திருக்க முடியும் என்று ஒரு பரிசு பெறும் விட மிகவும் மறக்கமுடியாத குழந்தைகளுக்கு இருக்கும்.

*Tell or read your children stories on some nights before bed.

There are lots of excellent Islamic stories and books available that you can use, or you can make up your own. அதே நேரத்தில், நீங்கள் உங்கள் குழந்தைகள் இஸ்லாமிய பாத்திரத்தை உருவாக்குவதற்கு உதவி வேண்டும். SoundVision sells a vast selection of Islamic children’s books. A twist on this idea is to ask your children to make up stories to tell you.

*Play with your children sometimes.

நீங்கள் பந்து விளையாட முடியும், color pictures, தொகுதிகள் இருந்து பொம்மை வீடுகள் கட்ட, அல்லது அவர்கள் விரும்புகின்ற என்ன செய்ய.

*உங்கள் குழந்தைகள் எளிய பணிகளை உங்களுக்கு உதவட்டும்.

Allow them to help you carry in the groceries, make dinner, or mow the yard. Children often get great joy from doing things that adults consider work.

*Take the family for a picnic.

Spend time with your children playing Frisbee, passing a ball, or pushing them in the swings. Your children will cherish this special time together as a family.

*Help your children with their homework.

Show them that you are truly interested in their education and life by asking them what they did in school and looking at their books, திட்டங்கள், and assignments with them.

*Have at least two meals a week as a family.

*Use driving time with your children.

Don’t just turn on the news and forget your children when they are in the car with you. Talk or joke with them, or sing Islamic songs together.

*Give your small children a bath sometimes.

பொதுவாக, mothers bathe the children, but bath time is an excellent opportunity for fathers to be with their kids. Let them splash around and play a little more than mom does.

*Teach your children to make wudu and pray with you.

If at home, praying together as a family Jamat is better than praying alone. குழந்தைகள் Azan அழைக்க விரும்புகிறேன். Make the youngest one the salat manager at home, பிரார்த்தனை விரிப்புகள் கவனித்து, நேரம், and inviting everyone to salat.

*Take your children to the masjid with you.

This is an excellent way for you to build a relationship with them as both a father and a Muslim.

*Be available for your children, and let them know that you are there for anything they want to discuss.

If you are not available to talk to your children, somebody else probably will be, and it may be the wrong kind of person. A good way of getting to know your children better as individuals is to take them out one at a time for eating, conversation, or some other event.

*Practice talking with your child, not at him.

Since the father often takes the main responsibility for disciplining the children, it is very easy for fathers to merely become order-givers rather than parents and companions of their children. Spend some time listening, rather than talking.

We only have one chance to be with our kids before they grow up. If we want them to love us and respect us when we are old, we have to build those relationships while they are young.

Fathers usually don’t have the time to devote to their children that mothers do. But if we make the little time we have with our children quality time, we still might be able to build enduring relationships with them before it’s too late.
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மூல : themodernreligion.com

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  1. Before becoming muslim, I use too try too get my kids father too relate too them, to get closer too them. Nothing worked. He didnt have a minute too spend with his kids. His pleasures of golf, baseball, and work were far more important.
    Now that my kids are older, they have nothing to do with their dad. He cant understand that! That songCats in the Cradleis very true. My children make time for me their mom, because I was always there for them no matter what. My oldest son now has a son of his own, and even though he works and is tired, he spends alot of time with his son Jett. He loves his son so much. Im glad that my son is opposite of his father. My son is a wonderful father, to his own son, Im proud of him.

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