The Curse of Sins upon Marital Happiness

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The Curse of Sins Upon Marital Happiness

There is no doubt that sins bring misery, disaster, depression, darkness of expression, hardness of heart, and turn happiness to sorrow and love to hatred Some Scholars said: “If I disobey Allah I can feel the consequences of my sins on my wife’s and horse’s behaviour.”

Ibn al-Qayyim said: Sins have disgusting effects, which damage the heart and the body in this world and the Hereafter, and which Allah  Alone knows fully. It deprives one of knowledge, because knowledge is a light, which Allah puts into the heart of a believer, but the sins extinguish that light. A sinner finds himself alone and separated from Allah . He may have the pleasure of the world at his feet, but still feels deprived of any spiritual joy and pleasure. Because of his sins, he is far from happy and his heart is dead. A dead man feels no pain Therefore, a wise man is he who abandons his sins.

Ibn al-Qayyim: “Al-Jawaab al-kaafi Liman Saala Ant ad-Dawaa ‘ash-Shafim

Also, a sinner finds himself isolated and a stranger among his friends, especially the righteous ones. The more isolated he gets the more he feels cut off from them and from their help. Worse, he starts getting close to the followers of Satan, may Allah curse him, as he hides himself from the party of Allah. This isolation grows and the sinner loses his temper and falls out with his wife, children and relatives. He starts feeling lonely and alienated. All his goals become difficult to achieve. The doors are closed in his face whenever he intends to accomplish a job. On the other hand, whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out from every difficulty. Allah often provides a solution in the most unexpected ways or from the most unexpected quarters. But whoever abandons Taqwa’ (piety), Allah will make things difficult for him A sinner finds and feels real darkness in his heart similar to the darkest night. The gloom of a sin for the heart is like darkness for the eye. Obedience to Allah is a light and disobedience and sin is like darkness. The more this darkness intensifies, the more confused the sinner becomes. He, then, becomes unaware and falls victim to innovation (Bida’) and misguidance. He becomes like a  blind man walking alone in a dark night. Worse than that, this darkness grows until it becomes visible in the eye, then it grows until it emerges on the face, which becomes dark.

Abdullah Ibn Abbas  said: “A good deed reflects brightness in the face, a light in the heart, abundance in livelihood, strength in the body and love in peoples’ hearts. A sin reflects darkness on the face and heart, weakness in the body, scarcity in livelihood and hatred in peoples’ hearts.”

Moreover, sins reduce a person’s life span and obliterate his or her fortune. Piety and righteousness increases one’s life span while impiety reduces it.

Among the sins which spread in our Muslim society:

– Abandoning Salaat.

– Abandoning Zakaat.

– Failing to observe Hajj for those who can afford it.

– Slander.

– Drinking intoxicants and smoking.

– Going out to markets wearing indecent clothes and without a male relative (Mahram).

– Bringing up children in a Western education.

– Watching filthy movies and listening to music.

– Reading dirty magazines.

– Allowing domestic servants and drivers to enter the house without reason.

– Accompanying evil and corrupt people.

– Neglecting and disobeying one’s husband.

These are but a few examples of sins which have become

prevalent in our society. Therefore, we have to fear Allah as much as we can,

as Allah  says,

0 you who believe!Ward off from yourselves and your families a (Hell) fire whose fuel is men and stones

At Tahrim verse 6

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Taken from the book winning the heart of your wife.

Author: Ibraahim Ibn Saaleh al-Mahmud

5 Comments to The Curse of Sins upon Marital Happiness

  1. I mean the below line

    – Allowing domestic servants and drivers to enter the house without reason.
    – Bringing up children in a Western education

  2. Zaffar Khan

    I am amazed and shocked! Why do we have to present the darker side of everything, have you guys heard of ‘TAUBA’ and ‘Maghfirat’? Do you guys know that Allah (SW) is the most merciful and takes pride in his people’s ‘Tauba’ and then forgiving them? Do you guys know that during HAJJ all the women are walking around in the presence of men? Open your eyes, minds and hearts to the greatness of Allah and your face and heart will shine with the light of faith.

    • Are you saying we should continue sinning because we think Allah Subanahu’ta’ala will accept our repentance everytime? By the way, the issue of freemixing in Hajj is an exception, not a justification to openly engage in it outside of that environment.

      I think your missing the point of the article completely. The author is pointing out the affect of sins on your soul. The more you sin, the more darkness will cover your heart and your ability to be pious.

      Allah says, “Nay! But on their hearts is the Ran (covering of sins and evil deeds) which they used to earn.” [Al-Mutafiffin 83:14]

      It has been reported by Imam Ahmad in Al-Musnad and Al-Tirmithi in Sunan that Abu Hurairah narrated that the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “When the believer commits sin, a black spot appears on his heart. If he repents and gives up that sin and seeks forgiveness, his heart will be polished. But if (the sin) increases, (the black spot) increases. That is the raan which Allah mentions in His Book: ‘Nay! But on their hearts is the Raan (covering of sins and evil deeds) which they used to earn’ .” Al-Tirmithi said that it is sahih (authentic).

  3. Are you saying we should continue sinning because we think Allah Subanahu’ta’ala will accept our repentance everytime? By the way, the issue of freemixing in Hajj is an exception, not a justification to openly engage in it outside of that environment.

    I think your missing the point of the article completely. The author is pointing out the affect of sins on your soul. The more you sin, the more darkness will cover your heart and your ability to be pious.

    Allah says, “Nay! But on their hearts is the Ran (covering of sins and evil deeds) which they used to earn.” [Al-Mutafiffin 83:14]

    It has been reported by Imam Ahmad in Al-Musnad and Al-Tirmithi in Sunan that Abu Hurairah narrated that the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “When the believer commits sin, a black spot appears on his heart. If he repents and gives up that sin and seeks forgiveness, his heart will be polished. But if (the sin) increases, (the black spot) increases. That is the raan which Allah mentions in His Book: ‘Nay! But on their hearts is the Raan (covering of sins and evil deeds) which they used to earn’ .” Al-Tirmithi said that it is sahih (authentic).

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