10 Альтернативні поради щодо щастя від шейха Валіда Басюні

Я мав честь і привілей слухати лекцію шейха Валіда Басюні – дивовижний інструктор, який мені дуже подобається навчатися у alhamdulilah. Below is my summary of the lecture he delivered called ‘10 Tips For Happiness’ which I am sharing with his permission:

When we talk about happiness, it’s important to understand that people vary in what makes them ‘happy’. З ісламської точки зору, let’s not forget that the Prophet SAW was sent as a Mercy to Mankind so we could benefit in every aspect of our lives – including in how we feel. One of the main goals of Islam is to help impart peace and happiness by removing the very things from our lives that sap us from feeling happy. This is important to understand because many people equate being practising to being ‘dull, boring’ and no fun. And this is simply not true.

The Prophet SAW was known for smiling more than anyone, and would often do things to help everyone around him be happy. He would laugh, joke and play with his family and his friends – and they loved him all the more for it. One of his SAW’s primary aims was to impart happiness in everyone around him, and subhan’Allah, 1400 years later, the Prophet SAW’s legacy of inner peace and happiness remains.

Most tips for happiness are almost always focused on what you should do, rather than what you should eliminate from your life. So these 10 tips are a little different to what you might expect, but when you see the wisdom behind them, you’ll understand why they are so powerful in helping you to gain that inner happiness all of us desire.

1.Триматися подалі від гріха – Це головний ворог щастя і активно позбавляє вас будь-якого добра. Гріхи з часом стають жалем, а жаль може зробити вас дуже нещасним і зруйнувати ваше життя. Покаяння у вашому гріху є ключовим, і ви повинні пам’ятати, що ваша гріховність ніколи не може бути більшою, ніж прощення Аллаха.

2. Хасад (Заздрість) – Заздрість гірша за ревнощі, тому що ти не тільки хочеш мати те, що має хтось інший, ви також бажаєте, щоб у них його не було. Людина, яка робить хасад, не дивиться на те, що вона має, натомість вони постійно зосереджуються на тому, чого у них немає. Хасад був першим гріхом на небесах, тому що Ібліс заздрив Адаму – і подивіться, куди це його привело! The true ending of hassad is in the fact that it only destroys and hurts the one who actually does it more than it hurts anyone else. Тому, a person who does hassad, can never truly be happy.

3. Greed – Greed, like hassad, is the focus on what you haven’t got. A greedy person is never satisfied with what they have, and in the end, they are the ones who lose out on every goodness and happiness in life. It’s not possible to go through life having greed in your heart for everything and be happy because a greedy person always thinks in a state of what’s lacking.

4. Lack of Routine – A routine is helpful to provide structure and balance to your time and to your life. Those who don’t have routine get bored quickly and expect new things all the time. And inevitably, when they don’t or can’t get something new, they feel empty and unhappy.

5. Same old, same old – Being stuck in a rut and having nothing new to look forward to can really eat away at your happiness as boredom and a lack of motivation and desire to want better for yourself sets in. Some people mistaken ‘same old’ for a routine – but that’s not true! Routine provides structure to WHAT it is you do. And if you don’t have something new to challenge you and help you create a new routine, it can really sap your internal energy.

6. Fear & The Victim Mentality – Living in fear keeps you frozen and stuck and prevents you moving on with your life. But this is not the way of a Muslim! Allah SWT wants you to be confident! Fear breeds worry and worry eats up your days and your nights, preventing you from growing and expanding and reaching your true potential.

Allah SWT created us to look forward and not to look back. Звичайно, we take lessons from our past – but that’s all we take. Lessons are to help us make smarter decisions in life – not to hold us back. A beautiful analogy for fear is like that of an object with a shadow. The shadow of an object is always bigger than the object itself – and so it is with fear.

Fear is also what breeds a ‘victim mentality’, whereby a person always feels hard done by. But this is not what Allah SWT wants us to feel! A person who has a victim mentality has a hard time trusting people – and if you don’t trust, you fear, and fear is what keeps you stuck!

Менталітет жертви означає, що ви покладаєтеся на співчуття, щоб досягти результату, а не докладати зусиль собі… але натомість вам слід зосередитися на тому, щоб заслужити повагу та робити щось для себе. Це додасть вам більшої впевненості в собі, і іншаАллах допоможе вам бути набагато щасливішими.

7. Песимізм і негатив – Ці дві риси вбивають щастя, тому що ви ніколи не зосереджуєтесь на хорошому в ситуації, ти зосереджуєшся лише на поганому. Людина, яка негативно ставиться до всього, витягує енергію з усіх оточуючих. Нікому не подобається бути в оточенні негативних людей, це означає, що ви почуваєтеся самотніми, і це може посилити ваше нещастя. Якщо це ти, перестаньте зосереджуватися на недоліках усього, а натомість у всьому шукайте хороше. Try and be optimistic and have hope in the goodness from Allah.

8. Lack of Accomplishments – Not having any accomplishments in life can really leave you feeling empty and lacking in drive and happiness. Setting goals for oneself, no matter how small and actively working towards those goals not only gives you confidence, but also gives you a sense of inner peace and contentment when you accomplish them. The secret is to establish 3-5 goals for yourself and clearly define them… and then follow up with lots of action. Remain focused and be consistent and insha’Allah you will reap the rewards.

9. Arrogance – Arrogance is a horrible trait for anyone to have, and few things sap your happiness faster than being arrogant about something, which if you really think about it, is always as a result of Allah’s blessing for you. We alone can do nothing without Allah’s permission, therefore it makes no sense to be arrogant about the things we think we have achieved. Because we wouldn’t have those things if Allah didn’t will us to. True happiness comes from being grateful to Allah for everything you have. This gives you inner peace and contentment – since you acknowledge everything is from Allah.

Аллах каже в Корані:

І [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, справді, My punishment is severe.’ ” (Коран 14:7)

Arrogance can lead to you to earn the anger of Allah, and this can really rob you of your happiness. Тому, remain humble and grateful, and always remind yourself that Allah is in control.

10. Be Proactive About Your Happiness – When you choose to be around people who are positive, Також подивіться на те, як іслам навчає батьків і дітей діяти, content and generally happy, then this will have a positive effect in your life and the lives of others. Something else to think about is your overall attitude towards life.

Факт є, physiology impacts psychology – so SMILE and you’ll feel better instantly. Also remember that no one can truly defeat you except yourself. Плюс, after Allah SWT, there really is no one that can make you truly happy EXCEPT you. By keeping your focus on Allah SWT, obeying Him, hastening to His commands and remaining positive in all situations, it’s actually easier to be happy. This is especially true when you realize that as a believer, tests are to purify you and elevate you as long as you are patient, тоді як усе добре, що відбувається, є благословенням від Аллаха, за яке ви повинні бути вдячні. В обох сценаріях, Ви виграєте, доки зосереджуєтеся на позитиві.

Нарешті, пам'ятайте, що в житті є три види людей:

• Ті, хто змушує події відбуватися
• Ті, хто запитує, що сталося
• Ті, хто спостерігає, як все відбувається

Віруюча людина - це людина, яка СПОЛУЧАЄ все, що відбувається, і несе відповідальність за своє щастя, бо розуміють, що в житті, завжди відбуватимуться речі, які знаходяться поза вашим контролем. Ви не можете контролювати все або нікого, але ти МОЖЕШ контролювати себе та те, як ти хочеш бути.

Автор: Умм Джамаль

Чисте подружжя – Найбільша у світі служба подружжя для практикуючих мусульман

Шейх Валід Басюні з Х'юстона, Texas in the USA and is Vice President as well as Head of Department and Instructor at The Al-Magrib Institute.

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