Your Eyes , "The Beloved Things" – Lower Your Gaze

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Your Eyes , "The Beloved Things" – Lower Your Gaze
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Source : 1. islam-laws.com : Allah swt Commands lower your gaze by Tariq Jamil , How to lower your gaze by Sabeel Ahmed.
2. quran-m.com : Your eyes..and Lowering the gaze by Dr. Muhammad El Saqqa Eid.
Allah swt commands: Lower Your Gaze

  • What does it mean?

“There was a companion of ours in Glasgow who became ill and was hospitalized. He was admitted for three days and on the fourth day the attendant nurse said, “Marry me”. He [the brother in Glasgow]asked, “Why? I am a Muslim, you and I cannot become companions.” She said, “I’ll become Muslim”. “What’s the reason?” it was asked. She said, “In all my time that I have served in hospitals, except you, I have never seen a man lower his gaze in front of a woman. In my life you are the first person who lowers his gaze when seeing a woman. I come, and you close your eyes. Such great modesty can be taught by none other than a true religion.” The protection of one’s gaze entered Islam in her. She testified to the Oneness of Allah and became a Muslim. They both got married. By now, the same woman was and is the means of bringing so many other girls / women into Islam.”

It goes without saying that every Muslim should spare no pains in lowering his/her gaze and preserving his/her modesty. This should occur in compliance with the Divine command given in Surah An-Nur: “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest.” (An-Nur: 30-31)
In a hadith, the Prophet (saww) is reported as having said: “And the eyes commit zina (adultery). Their zina is gazing.”
He (saww) commanded Ali (as) said: “Ali! Do not look once after another, for the first look is for you (since it happens accidentally) while the second is against you.”

  • How To Lower Our Gaze

“A big curtain is not my intention, but a big iman and befitting Islamic manners is ”

“The ayats in Sura Nur about lowering our gazes doesn’t affect me anymore,” expressed another youth, talking about the intense temptations felt by today’s young. Difficulty in lowering the gaze by both the young and old is readily perceived on the street, weddings, parties and even in the mosques. What has gone wrong? How can Muslims, called by Allah, our Creator the model community, the custodians of Truth and the upholders of morality behave this way? Why are we adopting the attitudes and routes of the kuffar? How can we rectify ourselves? What follows is a series of practical, though graphic advises which can work for us and set us free from Satan’s stronghold, Insha`Allah.

When Allah created humans with all our desires and urges, he also revealed to us sufficient and complete guidance to properly channel these desires, both in the midst of Dar-ul-Kufr or Dar-ul-Islam. All we need to do is seek it, contemplate on it and pursue it. “This day I have perfected your deen for you, completed my favours upon you and chosen Islam as your deen.” (Maida).

When confronted with an alluring situation like passing by a non-mahram on the street, office or school, Satan is constantly tempting us to glare at her/him with evil thoughts. Satan is probably excitingly saying, with a big smile, ‘yes, yes, yes,’ when we steer into the bait he is setting. During these situations, immediately and consciously realize that when we give a second or following glances, we are obeying Satan. “O you who believe, follow not the footsteps of the devil”. (24:21). By immediately averting our gazes and disobeying Satan, we are giving him a one-two punch in the face and leaving him frustrated and accursed.

Satan rebelled and was expelled by Allah, so let’s all rebel against Satan and expel him from our hearts. Satan intends to fight a war against Muslims, so let’s gather our forces behind the Qur`an and the Sunnah and defeat him. Remember that even if no human eye is watching us, the Ever-Watchful Allah is constantly monitoring the innermost regions of our hearts. Our eyes, limbs, tongue and private parts will be witnesses on the Judgment Day and not an atom’s worth of deed will remain unexamined.

Our minds are conditioned to associate thoughts of stealing clothes from a store to being in handcuffs and hauled into a police van. Likewise we should condition our minds to bring the verses of Surah Nur in front of our eyes during any tempting situations and imagine that Allah is speaking to us directly “Say to the believing, men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty. O you believers! Turn you all together towards Allah that you may attain success” (24:30-31). If the Qur`an contained only these two ayats, it would be enough to convince me that it is the book of Allah.

With practice, these associations and the remembrance of Allah during tempting situations will prevent us from getting stuck by devilish arrows. Successfully controlling our gazes also deadens our avoidance of sinful situations. An Islamic idiom says, “Anything that leads to haram is haram in itself.” To do a pious deed is a reward; to avoid a sin is a reward too. One of the biggest culprits in this class is movies. In the name of entertainment, to please our peers and children and an excuse to do something together as a family, we astonishingly allow un-Islamic pictures and dialogues in front of our eyes and ears. Can we ever imagine the Prophet or our Imams (aozubillah) renting the latest hit from Blockbuster Videos, or listening to music with alluring lyrics at high volume?

In our wedding ceremonies and parties and even in many Islamic fundraising dinners, there is heavy free-mixing between brothers and sisters. Often the chairs of males and females are arranged facing each other, knowing that about 90 percent of our sisters do no wear proper Islamic hijab. Perfume, make-up, tight fitting clothes and much more is always around. It is often noticeable to see males and females peeking glances at each other from the opposite ends of the hall. A big curtain is not my intention, but a big and befitting Islamic manners is.

  • Lowering the gaze and its health benefits

Eyes are the precious pearls that no price can afford. Allah has called them “The beloved things”, or “the dear things”, as came in the Hadith narrated by Al Bukhari, Al Tarmizi, and Ibn Habaan, that the prophet sala Allah alyh w salam said:”Allah said, ‘If I deprive my servant of his two beloved things (i.e., his eyes) and he remains patient, I will vouchsafe him the Paradise in compensation for them.’

The question is: Does lowering the gaze have any benefits to the human health? Scientific research and studies proved that repeated desirous looking at the opposite sex, and the ensuing need to fulfill the suppressed and unfulfilled desires, lead to many problems as serious as productive system diseases, such as the cognition of prostate, the sexual inability, or total infertility.

Some social studies have also proved that, in western societies, not lowering the gaze leads to depression and other psychological disorders. Such studies also indicate that moral disintegration and sexual promiscuity in those societies are some of the results of the inexistence of a religious doctrine or ethical and moral restrictions that regulate such a noble sense and channel it into what conforms to the human physical and psychological health.

The sense of sight is absolutely the strongest of the senses as far as responding to sexual excitement is concerned. Using this sense unconsciously and indiscriminately in looking at what arouses the desires simply means that its owner is wasting it unknowingly, and consequently is wasting his/her own psychological balance in vain and in no return except for an illusion of enjoyment and pleasure. The best remedy for the desirous looking at the opposite sex is to remember that Allah is always there seeing us all the time, and is watching over our deeds.Remind yourself that Allah sees you but you can’t see Him, so where on earth could you be able to commit a sin without being caught? Where would such a place be?. Also remind yourself of Allah’s (thawab) forgiveness and reward for those who lower their gaze in fear and obedience of Him, as the prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) said, as narrated by Ahmad and Al Tabarany, <<<Whoever( Muslim) looks at the beauties of a woman, then lowers his gaze, Allah will reward him with an act of worship that he feels its sweetness in his heart>>.>.

Let us contemplate the above humble advices and constantly make the supplication, “O Allah help us control our sensual desires until we get married, and even after we marry, let our desires be only towards our spouses.”

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Source : 1. islam-laws.com : Allah swt Commands lower your gaze by Tariq Jamil , How to lower your gaze by Sabeel Ahmed.
2. quran-m.com : Your eyes..and Lowering the gaze by Dr. Muhammad El Saqqa Eid.

12 Comments to Your Eyes , "The Beloved Things" – Lower Your Gaze

  1. This is a very good point, and I wish more people would take these teachings to their hearts. I’ve been in Islamic countries, and there are places I feel uncomfortable walking in the streets, because most men stare at me, even I wear hijab. However, it has also become more common that girls stare at boys in the streets too. Alhamdullilah I try to protect myself from these things. I try to restrain my glance and I never give a second look to a man in either the street or the TV or anywhere else. It’s wrong to think that only men stare at women and not vice versa, because that’s not true. Sometimes I fight with myself to not look at a handsome man, but I don’t want to give in for Shaytan. I also have a fiancee and I only need him in my life. Anyone else is of no importance to me and I keep telling myself that. Alhamdullilah my fiancee is also not one of those “bad guys.” His family memebers have told me many a time that they never saw him look at any girl. May Allah help us to stay strong and may He make all the Muslims strong enough to not follow the way of Shaytan.

    • Abdul Basit

      If you and your fiance are really like this then you both are satisfying Allah Awt and His beloved Prophet SAWW

  2. Aisha Umeenah

    Thank you so much for putting this up. Many young people have a problem with lowering their gaze. It is a very difficult task, especially in the Western world. Sometimes we get carried away by Shaytan and we forget that Allah is always with us! Insha’allah Allah will guide us all through these tough times and help us defeat Shaytan. May Allah forgive our previous sins and our future sins for Allah is forgiving and merciful!

  3. Thank you so much….. I’d been lowering my glance for more than an year, with some failures at some very weakest moments.. Alhamdu lillah, I still can do it… But what I observed is that having in mind that someone is mine is always giving me more energy to lower my glance. There was a time when I’d someone in my mind, and then I could lower my glance so well and now when the person is gone, I find more difficulty in doing it. The person had bid me bye when she came to know that I was intending to marry her. I used to talk deen to her, and also sometimes about her studies. Nothing else.

    I’m a 24 years old man and I believe it’s time for me to marry. But I still being a student and having no job, parents and the society cannot really agree. So marrying is a far away target. And in this part of India there’s no fiancé like customs… I find no solutions to this.. I
    know pairing up is Haram. But the situation demands some surety from a girl that she’ll be happy to wait for me so that it gives me a feeling that “there’s a jewel waiting for you, so don’t waste your senses”. In a campus like the one I study, it is indeed very difficult to lower my glance, and still i do it… But the urge to have my yang is bothering me so much that i sometimes am losing my concentration in studies… can someone at least counsel me, if I’m wrong.. I intend not to have any kinda of haram ways of premarital love. I wish to abide by all bounds Islam has kept.. Just the surety from someone so that i can stay away from mistakes wit more energy…

    • Br. Qurrath,

      Asalaam Alaikum,

      The Blessed Prophet (SAW) urged us to get married young, but if we were unable to due to financial reasons, then the solution was to fast. So I highly suggest you begin to fast, especially on Mondays and Thursdays, The Prophet (SAW) said that fasting curbs our sexual desires. Hope this helps insha’Allah

      Harris.

      • Wa alaikum salam. Bro Haris, thank you for the suggestion. I do fast continually. But, due to very tight schedules in academics, i find it very difficult to fast. I already owe 5 more fasts, as i’d promised to Allah. And i’d been experiencing this urge for the last 2 years.

    • Subhanallah brother the one thing that should come to mind is NO woman. ONLY ALLAH. Allah is your most beloved, and you love your wife for the SAKE of Allah.
      So if that person is disobediant to Allah and you are disobediant to Allah then how can one love Allah? The only love left is lust from Shiytan, the love of shiytan.

      This time, love Allah get closer to Allah. Do what he loves and hate what he dislikes. Build your relationship with him then look for a spouce who will complment this, and also love you for teh SAKE of Allah.

  4. this is excellent, i have learnt a lot from it and inshallah i will follow all your advice.

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  5. I had to battle this issue with my husband for 9 months of our marriage. It took a loooot of hard work, sweat, tears, to get him to stop looking at non mahram women. Now, he is conditioned to lower his gaze automatically. Alhamdulillah, it was a frustrating time. But i just had to support him, and remind him with Quran and hadith and be there for him, and remind him when he would stare. Now he is like a different person.

  6. My husband doesnt lower his gaze.when i confront him he says he didnt look.his definition of looking is when you look at someone and have inappropriate thoughts so his justification is that since he doest think inappropriately he is not looking.

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