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作者: 纯婚
你吸引的配偶的质量很大程度上取决于你提出什么样的问题!
The truth is that if your meetings with a potential spouse are filled with silences and not knowing what to say, you’re doing a bad job in REALLY getting to know someone. It isn’t enough to marry someone just because they like the same things as you do – this is NOT what compatibility is about!
Real compatibility comes from knowing whether or not the person you intend to marry has the same outlook on life as you do!
So here’s some of the key things you NEED to ask a potential spouse (and please don’t be shy, because this is the rest of your life so you’ve got to get it right!)
- Whether they have previously been in a relationship
- How they intend on raising kids
- What their relationship with Allah is like
- What their goals and aspirations are
- How they see themselves as a spouse
- What their expectations are regarding in-laws
- How financially fit they are
- What their aqeedah is
- How practicing they are
- What are their expectations of marriage
不要害怕提问, and certainly never feel embarrassed about asking what they expect from their spouse – especially if you are a sister. 你婚姻的结果以及这段经历是好是坏, 快乐或悲伤将很大程度上取决于您在初次会议中从潜在合作伙伴那里得到的回应.
加, 问这些问题会让他们措手不及, 所以你更有可能得到更好的回应. 你的目的不是让他们感到不舒服, 根据《古兰经》中的以下经文，这是男女之间产生的一种自然感觉, 您正在尝试确定是否值得花时间进行额外的会议.
To help you with some really detailed questions to ask, consider downloading our ‘Prepare For Marriage’ Toolkit which contains everything you need to find the right spouse, including over 100 critical questions you need to ask before you say ‘I do’!
Now there’s no excuse to have any awkward silences or not knowing what to say or ask!
如果你以积极的方式度过了你的第一次会议, continue the momentum by requesting further meetings and see what happens…and don’t forget to do your istikhara!
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