10月17日 2012, 明智的妻子奥兰治县很幸运有姐姐 Noha Alshugairi, 多发性硬化症. 婚姻家庭治疗师, 与我们谈谈妻子对丈夫的服从这一有争议且微妙的问题.
To set the stage for discussion, Noha started by explaining a very important concept that all Muslims should keep in mind when discussing any religious obligation.
Urf:
This concept is called urf. It is the Arabic word for social/cultural norms. 在伊斯兰教, 她说, “urf is taken very seriously as long as it doesn’t go against our religion.”
例如, 头巾 (proper Islamic dress) is obligated on women. The urf of hijab are determined by where and when you live. From the time of the Prophet (pbuh), hijab has been worn differently from time to time and from place to place.
Urf describe the dynamic changes of things around us and the concept of marriage is also impacted by it. We live in the West in 2012. We must look at the social norms here and accommodate them, but based on the Quran and sunnah.“我们永远无法弥补或违背我们的宗教告诉我们的事情. 宗教是至高无上的,” 她说.
她问我们，我们认为我们的社会规范对丈夫和妻子之间的关系有何看法. 一个女人回答说有一个 强烈关注角色平等 通常双方都在工作，并且双方在家里有帮助. 过去可能是基于关系的与 “公平” 妻子照顾房屋，孩子和丈夫在家里外面工作，当时唯一的养家糊口.
这是真的 您会在世界各地找到各种各样的生活。. “这些角色没有限制. 伊斯兰教不说女人不应该在家外工作, 伊斯兰教并不是说丈夫不应该在家里有帮助,诺哈说. 相反, 先知的圣训 (pbuh) 告诉我们他曾经修补自己的衣服，并为家务提供帮助. 他嫁给了一个名叫卡迪亚（Khadija）的女人，她是当时最大的商人之一.
到底, 夫妻可能会选择以自己想要的任何方式生活, 职业, 等等. 只要他们对自己的角色感到高兴和满意，只要他们坚持自己的宗教价值观.
“最终，您决定您将作为妻子做的事情，而您的丈夫将要做什么将取决于您的协议, 进行讨论, 根据您的URF以及您对角色的理解,“ 她说. 在本系列的晚些时, you will see how urf affects many aspects of the specific issue of obedience.
父亲 30:21:
In the end marriage is meant to be a beneficial part of life, so much that its positive light is even mentioned in the Quran in ayah 30:21.
So let’s delve right into this first ayah on her list. 父亲 30:21 说, “And among His Signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may come to for Sakina. 他把你的玛瓦达和怜悯放在你当中. 真的, 这确实是反思的人的迹象。”
Even though we have not talked about the specific topic of obedience yet, she said that we must discuss this ayah when we talk about anything to do with marriage.
She explained this ayah to us by defining the Arabic words sakina and mawada. The word sakina means inner peace, 宁静, serenity…it is the goal of any relationship. To generate sakina, each spouse must have mawada and mercy. Mawada是一个描述一定程度的爱的词. “更高的爱形式,“ 她说. “这意味着激励您采取行动的爱的类型。”
阿拉的目标是使每一个婚姻都有萨基纳, 因此，他放下了指南, 一个框架, 为了维持它，必须遵循, 它不仅会自动发生.
该框架包括应遵循之前应遵循的指南, 期间, (甚至结婚后，如果要离婚) 为了使萨基纳的存在并在真主的视线中结婚.
例如, 结婚前一个人应该: 祈祷伊斯蒂哈拉 (做出决定的祈祷), 以清真的方式了解他们的未来配偶 (不违背任何宗教价值观), 选择一个虔诚的丈夫. 这不是完整列表，但您明白了.
She dwelled on the element of choosing someone with a good character for a while saying that you should never just focus on just his religiosity, you must take his character and personality into account. You must “click” with the person and like his personality. It’s not enough to just see someone’s outward actions of religiosity like praying and fasting. You must get to know his character in order to distinguish between a suitable spouse and a non-suitable one.
During marriage each spouse must follow certain rules and guidelines as well. She asked us what we thought these include, some responded saying: having respect, caring for one another, being honest, being trusting…etc.
She agreed with all these and added that in order to delve more into the guidelines of marriage set by Allah we must study more ayahs and hadiths.
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