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Most of this article is pure nonsense. Interesting that the author is not even willing to say their name–makes you wonder if they’re afraid of being associated with these ideas.

What about women whose husbands do not provide for his wife and kids? He chooses to come home late as he wants to visit his parents and siblings EVERYDAY rather than coming home to spend time with his wife and children? The wife has no choice but to work to provide for her children. How can the wife find it in her heart to respect such man?

Very good article, ماشاالله
I think this is so true and I know this from my experience
My mom works from noon and comes back at night at about 11 pm. When she comes back she is so tired, she can barely do anything and sometimes she gets really frustrated. We only get to spend weekends with her so I see where your going with the children needing their mother thing. I intend to be a housewife because I don’t want the situation to be that the husband and wife both come back from work tired and I also want to be there for my children.
And it does make sense, the article is not saying women should NOT work, its saying there’s a choice (but it just outlines the benefits of being a home-maker) but if you do decide to work, make sure its in a halal setting. In my opinion if you decide to become a housewife, you should still be involved with your community and do things such as volunteer. I plan to do that, InshAllah 🙂

السلام علیکم,
من بخشی از این مقاله را خواندم, باید بگویم که با اکثر مواردی که شما گفتید موافق نیستم. من یک هستم 24 زن مسلمان یک ساله, در کار تمام وقت.
به عنوان یک حرفه ای باید با مشتریان ارتباط برقرار کنم, مردان و زنان. این مرا به نوعی زناکار تبدیل نکرده است (همانطور که به دلایلی از قرآن در مورد زنا نقل کرده اید), و مرا گمراه نکرده است, در واقع به تغییر زندگی من کمک کرده است.
Working in the right profession and in the right working environment shouldn’t change anything about being a Muslim. In fact I love the freedom I get as I don’t need a man in my life to support me. I feel liberated. I have a good stable job, a great boss who is a wonderful Christian lady. She is understanding and respectful of my faith and my headdress.
To me being told to stay at home and not work would mean oppression. In this day and age a woman must prove her status and by that I don’t mean be wealth but have a purpose in life. I value my mother for being a house wife but this is not something I want, and there are many women out there who feel the same way. I was unemployed for a while and it made me lose focus and I felt rather lost and had no purpose.
Work in this day and age is what makes you. Of course I wouldn’t consider doing something like..I don’t know becoming a security guard, because I know my strengths and weaknesses. Saying that there are so many other professions out there that women could do just as good as men if not better.
Islam is about moving forward, gaining knowledge, being part of the revolution. Always wanting to strive forward. This applies to both men and women. We need to better ourselves and be strong and hiding at home isn’t going to do that.
Anyway these are just my thoughts.
Sallam.

در طول خواندن این مقاله یک احساس داشتم: I feel both shocked and staggered to read such thoughts supposed to be based upon shari’ah. Where did you hear that in the time of the Prophet SAAWS, women ALL stayed at home? They used to study, to help in wars, to assist as nurses and doctors, Umu Salama was famous for her knowledge of the Quran, Khadija bintu khouwailid was best known for her business talents,AIcha umu al mu’minin taught the hadith to all the companions and even led a war. You mentionned at the end of the article that,آره, a woman should be a doctor, a teacher, a tailor but it’s preferable for her to stay at home…what’s this contradiction???How can she learn a profession without going out to study and reach university??and when she finishes her studies, how can she help her sisters if she doesn’t practice in a hospital, in a school, in a company,in a bank???The Prophet SAAWS DID NOT PROHIBIT respectable exchange and relationships between men and women and this can be extened to all types of relationships:inside the family as well as in work places. You also developped the article as if all men were caring and so responsible about their sisters,mothers and wives?? Are you living in the same world we’re living in??DOn’t you hear of men beating their wives and daughters?preventing them from their rights before asking for their duties??Yes Islam came ALHAMDULILAH to end the jahiliya era where females were always demeaned and considered as maids and sexual objects. ALHAMDULILAH, ISLAM came to impose equality and parity male-female on many faces of daily life and duties and rights for each one of them considering where they are different. “Wa laqad Karamna bani adam wa hamalnahoum fi al biri wa al bahr..”Surat Al Israa. ALLAH mentionned “Bani Adam” نه “Males alone”. Why are you implementing this rough and harsh thought that men and women compete rather than cooperate?Reality now is that many women are talented and this is a blessed and divine ni’ma,Who else except Allah Has Given us minds and brains and intelligence and wisdom? Both men and women who are blessed with talent, intelligence, good health and any other ni’mah have to use these ones in order to help the humanity and transmit the essence of the message of Islam: “Your Creator is Allah,Observe Him in every single thing you do and serve Him as you were told”. According to the prophet SAAWS: Allah likes to see the effect and the benefit of His blessings on His servants, and using this blessing for a praiseworthy and laudable purpose is the way how to sincerely thank Allah SWT for it. May Allah Bless this Ummah and revive our spirit with true and accurate understanding of our deen, ya rab,آمین.

AOA
I have been working in a univeristy as student and teacher for the last 7 سال ها. I have seen both the westren and eastren cultures. I THink that to go for job is not that big problem because it is now difficult to move back the whole society rather the thing important is how to go for a job if you are required and how to manage your children and familly.I agree to you that the time is changing and every body need to move forward but let me tell you that what you are seeing is an illusion. It is good to have education and if you want go to job but right now most of the muslim states are in the transitional states between the peaceful islamic society than the westren one. So it seems to be helpfull for the needy people to have support with job and girls not getting married to work instead of just wasting time with television internet etc and may be extremely helpful for those being in problem because of familly problems. BUT the diffuculties faced today are much easier than those we will have in the next world. When HAZART UMer was dying one of the relatives said to him you are leaving 12 sons with few dinars so let us give you some money. He replied that I can not have money from illegel means and I could not be burnt for this wordly wishes so i did what i could and dont need your money earned from they ways prohibited and left his sons with virtue and world has seen that his sons used to give number of horses in donations and the other ones use to beg money infront of the same mosque. But now a days because of the irresposbility of elder brothers or father or familly and because of expanding social requirements some how you need to come out SO please Do not waste yourself for the hard time. Do what so ever you could do. Take education and if you have a hard time do a job but dont leave you respect as most of the girls are doing. Have your scarf and hijab and be proud of it instead of proud of hair cut and dress. And then go out with confidence and lower your eyes and make your voice not too beautiful while talking to others. And Allah will protect you and the society INshALlah

Wow after reading that article it has given the impression that a person is trying to teach others the ways of Islam but needs to be taught themselves. There are some points which make sense such as A women should be able to look after her children and teach them so they can have knowledge and become doctors, scholars etc then why can it not be the same for them if they can teach it to there children they can do it themselves. In this day and age a man cannot support a family on his own even being on a good income as living in a western society is difficult when it comes to running a household. A husband and wife should both work as they can teach there children knowledge as well as giving them stability. It is sad that in most cases women cannot work but that is why them families have more of a struggle. And their husbands are trying to support a family and then coming home and to tired to interact with the wife or children so were is the love and togetherness of the family. In Islam men and women are equal so if a man can work so can a women asking as she has good intentions and doing it for the right reasons. She can still run the house hold whilst working. And in the end we will all go to our Own graves and Allah swt will judge us. So if women have comited a sin for working they will get the punishment but that is not for us to say only Allah sat noes

I live in Singapore, and being in a fast-paced society both parents have to work. What i understand from this article is that wOmen are given the choice to work or not to work. If she chooses to work, ensure that the setting is in a halal one that doesnt risk herself islamicly or otherwise.

After i have children,i intend to leave work and care for them, as i know i may not be able to care for them holistically if i were working. As a women, i am proud to stay home and care for my family. Insyallah, Allah will take care of us and my husband will be able to provide for us.

خواهران, dont take the article extremely. Everyone knows when a women is PMSing we are more emotional. But of course we dont become emotionally handicapped. به علاوه, it is not that Islam disallows us women to work, Islam says that men are responsible for that and women are responsible for raising children the way ONLY a mother can. Men cant raise them like we do. Nonetheless, if we wanted to work.. Then by all means, work, and try to share the burden of raising a family between the couple.

It’s your choice sisters.