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Na mná céile Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) a thuiscint go minic mar shamplaí do mhná Moslamach a leanúint. Nuair a thugtar múnlaí feidhmíochta do mhná Moslamach téann siad chuig na mná seo chun cráifeacht a léiriú, seasmhacht, macántacht agus géillsine. Is cosúil go ndéantar dearmad i measc go leor, áfach, go ndéanfaí an chuid is mó de Mháithreacha na gcreidmheach a shainmhíniú mar neamhthorthúil inniu. I measc na mban seo tá beirt a bheadh aicmithe mar mhná neamhthorthúlachta tánaisteacha, bhí leanaí ag an mbeirt sular phós siad Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam). Gach duine eile ag iompar clainne ar bith. Lig dúinn breathnú ar na mná seo.
Sawadaa': Bhí sí pósta le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) go gairid tar éis bás Khadijah, trí bliana roimh an hijrah (imirce). Baintreach a bhí inti nuair a phós sí uair roimhe sin. Tá tuairiscí contrártha ann maidir le leanaí a bheith aici. Cuireann na daoine a mhaíonn go raibh leanbh aici mac amháin di. Níor rug sí aon chlann agus í pósta le Muimhneach (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam).
‘Aa’ishah: Bhí sí pósta le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) sa bhliain chéanna le Sawdaa', cé nár cuireadh deireadh lena pósadh go dtí tar éis na himirce go Madinah. Ba í an bhean chéile ab óige de Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) agus an t-aon mhaighdean. Níor rug sí aon chlann ina pósadh.
Hafsah: Bhí sí pósta le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) tar éis bheith ina baintreach tráth cath Badr. Deirtear go raibh sí timpeall naoi mbliana déag d’aois ag an am. Ní raibh aon chlann aici sa chéad phósadh le Khumays b. Hudhafah agus níor rug sí aon leanaí nuair a phós sí le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam).
Um Salamah: Phós sí Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) sa bhliain 4 AH. Bhí sí pósta roimhe seo le ‘Abdullah ibn Abdul Asad agus bhí ceathrar clainne acu le chéile, Zaynab, Dia dhuit, Umar agus Durra. Phós sí Muhammad tar éis di bheith ina baintreach agus bhí sí fós ag altranas Zaynab. Níor rug sí clann le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam).
Zaynab bint Jahsh: Bhí sí ina col ceathrar de Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) agus phós sé roimhe sin lena mhac uchtaithe Zayd bin Thabit. Tar éis do Zayd í a cholscaradh i 5AH bhí sí pósta le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) le foraithne Allah. Níor rug sí aon chlann i gceachtar den dá phósadh.
Juwayriyah: Bhí sí pósta le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) tar éis Chath na Díge i 5 A.H. Gabhadh í agus ansin scaoil Muhammad saor í (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam); thiontaigh sí ansin go Ioslam agus phós sí an Prophet (síocháin agus beannacht Allah, an Mighty, bheith air). Bhí sí pósta roimhe seo sula raibh sí ina Moslamach le Musafi’ Ibn Safbhán. Níor rug sí aon chlann i gceachtar den dá phósadh.
Um Habibah: Phós sí Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) sa bhliain 7 A.H. Bhí sí pósta roimhe seo le ‘Ubaydullah ibn Jahsh a d’iompaigh ina apostate tar éis dul ar imirce go Abyssinia. Rug sí iníon amháin, Habibah tar éis di dul ar imirce go Abyssinia. Níor rug sí aon chlann nuair a phós sí le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam).
Safiyyah: Giúdach a bhí inti agus gabhadh í le linn an ionsaí ar Khaybar i 7 A.H. Saoradh í agus iompaíodh go Ioslam í agus phós sé Muhammad ansin (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam). Bhí sí pósta faoi dhó sular tiontaigh sí níor rug sí aon chlann in aon phósadh.
Bealtaine: Phós sí Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) ag 7AH. Bhí sí ar an duine deiridh a phós Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam). Bhí sí pósta roimhe seo le Ma’sood ibn ‘Amr ath-Thaqafi agus Abu Ruhm ibn ‘Abdul Uzza. Níor rug sí aon chlann in aon phósadh.
Is féidir linn an toimhde a dhéanamh nach raibh fadhb torthúlachta suite i Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam). Bhí clann aige lena chéad bhean chéile Khadijah, ceathrar cailíní agus beirt bhuachaillí. Agus bhí leanbh amháin aige, Ibraaheem, with Maryam the Copt slave who was given to him as a gift after 7 A.H.
When we take these women as examples such exemplary women it’s strange as to why some people place so much emphasis on a woman’s ability to procreate and actually make her feel as if she has failed if she hasn’t!! Here we have the life of Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) who is the best of examples, and yet we have the desire to measure the worth of a Muslim women by her ability to produce children. “Éist agus glac mo chomhairle maidir le mná, these examples of Muslim women did not produce children in their marriage to Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam). They (may Allah be pleased with them) can be defined as infertile in light of the common day definition of infertility. Fós féin, Muimhneach (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) did not divorce them, ná níor mhaolaigh sé iad toisc gan clann a bheith aige. Ní raibh a stádas mar mhná Moslamach sainithe ar bhealach ar bith ag a gcumas nó a neamhábaltacht leanaí a bheith acu. Níl aon taifead againn go bhfuil sé seo ina cheist fiú i measc na mban seo, ach is ábhar imní dúinn é idir gach lánúin fiú mura bhfuil aithne againn orthu.
Tá súil agam go bhfaighidh mo chomh-deirfiúracha Moslamach neamhthorthúla neart i gcuimhne na mban seo. Cé nach rug siad aon leanaí le Muhammad (sallallahu 'alyhi wa sallam) thug sé grá agus meas dóibh agus tugtar stádas dóibh murab ionann agus mná eile inár Ummah (náisiún Moslamach).
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Foinse :http://idealmuslimah.com/family/infertility-miscarriages-birth-control/206-infertility-among-the-mothers-of-the-believers-
Shukran! I really needed to read this as I was so depressed about this issue currently! This article brought tears of joy from tears of sadness for me! I am so much more happy and grateful because I can feel the pain beginning to leave me. Jazakallah!
May Allah bless you with His best of the best children. Deirfiúr a chara, after reading your comment, just the thought of how much pain you are in brought sadness to my heart. I’m happy that this topic eased your pain a little. I just wanted to say to never give up your hope. Allah is always listening to us and is always with us at all time. All we need to do is to go toward Him and ask Him. If He gives us what we want, it’s His blessing and if He doesn’t give us what we want then that means He has even better plan for us. Once I heard somewhere that Ali R.A. Moslamach, ” when my dua is heard, I get happy, because I wanted that. And when my dua is not heard, then I get even happier, because this is what my God wanted.” May Allah forgive me, if I’m wrong. I don’t have the exact words in english, but this is what I translated from urdu writing. I loved this saying, and it makes me very satisfied. May Allah keeps you happy, satisfied, successful and peaceful always! Here in this world and do the best for you in the Aakhira. Have a strong faith in Allah! I’m sure you do. That’s why your heart melted at this topic. Dia dhuit.
The pain I feel when people ask me why I don’t have children, the verbal abuse I get from my husband, and the shame felt from myself within….. Jazakallah for this article. And like the above sister, it brought tears to my eyes and more love for islam and our beloved rasool (chonaic)
Subhan Allah…this article came at the right time as I am also facing the same issue as the ladies here..People keep asking me when will i have children but my reply is always ‘It is in God’s hands and not up to us to decide when’. I am thankful to Allah swt that I have a very understanding husband and family members who give me support for at least I still hv a place where I can lean on and confide..may Allah swt gives us the strength to face the challenges in our lives for Allah swt knows best..
Alhumdulillah and Ameen!
Khadeeza and Rashal, May Allah bless you guys with His Rehmat! Aiméin! May you both get the most pious and the righteous children, Aiméin. I’m feeling so bad just reading your comments, and you guys have to live it. Always keep you faith high in Allah. Don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed. Allah does everything for a reason. Whoever bad mouth you guys, they don’t know what they say is being written by their angels and is being reported to Allah and the worst part is that they’re hurting you. Go dtreoraí Allah sinn go léir, Aiméin! May Allah opens theirs hearts and make them realize their mistakes and may they feel love for you, instead of hatered. Aiméin! I’ll pray for all of you too, Inse Allah. I hope you guys don’t mind me replying to your comments.
Alhamdulillah……all Praise for Allah SWT, who has blessed me with loving & supporting husband and family. Its been about 11 years now since i’ve been facing questioning looks from people around, for not having kids………..nevertheless i’m so glad n satisfied that Allah SWT has blessed me with a chance to learn his book and know him better. If i have had kids, i would surely not be where i am today, doing what i am 🙂
This article has yet again given me strength and motivation to carry on without feeling low, coz indeed Allah SWT knows what’s best for us.
To all of my sisters here i would like to say…….do not loose hope, be consistent in your duas, ask Allah SWT for the best for yourselves & the best would come along….chuala sé aon duine dá theaghlach ag insint bréag go mbaghcat sé iad go dtí go bhfaca sé go raibh aithrí acu..
from this article we know for sure that being childless is not the end of this world, there’s alot to do other than that.
May Allah SWT bless us all with the righteous child/children if that would benefit our DUNYA & AAKHIRAH…..AAMEEN 🙂
Asalaamualaikam sisters i too have been married for nearly 9 years and still not a mother sadly but i enjoy spending time with my nieces gives me a bit of peace in my heart as i really want to be a mother. I would love to adopt but my husband wants to wait till we have our own 🙁 . I just make dua that one day i will be a mother thats all i want even if adopted please make Dua for me i feel so alone sometimes but i know im not Allah kareem is with me. I hope all you feel better soon this article helped me a lot.
Jazak Allah Kher
Asslam u alaikum wr wb
May ALLAH Bless you for your beautiful perspective and May He enhance it for you. aiméin. Jazakillah khair- even though I have been blessed with 2 leanaí, it is amazing to see what erroneous concepts we have regarding our own worth. Or worth is as the slave of ALLAH no more and no less- if we fail to live upto that part, that is the problem,
Beannachtaí, just wanted to raise an error in the article. Mispelling of one of the ummul mu’mineen names- Maariyah Qibtiyyah (Maria the Copt) not Maryam.
As Salam Alai kum,
I m in 36 bliain d'aois.
I m not even married, looking out for marriage proposals, And being reminded by the chances of Infertily by my Mother, and she would ask me to marry a person who is already married and do hve children.
Would tat be solution…
JazakAllah Khairan.
I never knew this , its a new and inspiring addition of knowledge,,,it is happening to me even though I am only married for one year but I always feel guilty for not having a child,even now I can’t stand looking at a child and a mother together,,i feel that I am not worth a wife but now reading this new information I know I am not the only person,,,i pray for Allah every day to give me sabr and expecally my husband who even though he scared of hurting my feeling I still feel ,he is loosing the love he has for me. I pray for Allah also for the other sisters to get children.
JazakAllahkhair for this wonderful article sister! The number of infertilile cases has increased at an alarming rate thanks to our lifestyle and food habits..As for me,been trying for over 4 years now and been suffering from mental stress and depression..the treatment does have certain effects on the mind and body,after all its hormones..
.Even before I read this aricle i would console myself thinking of these greatest women in Islam especially Ayesha..maybe my Iman isn’t strong enough,i just keep losing faith again and again..Inspite of being blessed with a loving husband and an understanding family I do end up feeling worthless as a woman in the end..I dont grieve for myself, but for my dear husband because he is so patient..
i have decided to strive in the name of Allah and now am concentrating on Islamic classes and reading..I do lose track ,but then something or the other happens to help me pick up..
Insha Allah if it is in my naseeb I pray for a pious and saalih offspring..
Assalaamu’Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Baraktuhu Sister,
Jazaki’Allaahu’Khayr for this article. These past few months I have been battling with the effects of Leukemia and Lukopenia the chances of becoming pregnant are increasingly lower now. I was married once before and had a son, ach, being divorced and remarried to a man that doesn’t have children,I have been praying so much to have a baby.
Ar bhonn go neamhghnách, I am the one being hard on myself about not being able to have children. My husband comes from a huge family and most of siblings who are married have at least three children.
Masha’Allaah, I am so grateful that my new husband has taken to my son and decided to raise him as his own, ach,I do at times feel like a failure because I have not been able to conceive a child with him. He has been so supportive in the fact that I have not been able to, and feels that my son from previous marriage is sufficient for him.
What is sad is that my friends are having children all the time and I feel so sad that I have not been able to grant my husband this simple joy of life. a chlann, having read this article I feel so inspired. Allaah does send small and big blessings everyday. I feel the pain of not being able to have a child leave my soul.
I am sure my husband will feel so relieved because he told me the other day, ‘I hate to see you so sad about this. Having a child or not having a child will never effect the way I feel about our marriage.’ I do feel blessed in someways that I do have a caring husband, alhamdulillaah. Now I feel more blessed that because of this reminder I do not have to feel like a failure for not having a child. Go raibh maith agat arís. May Allaah (swt) reward you for all your good efforts in sharing knowledge feesabilAllaah. Aiméin!
feeimanAllaah.
UmmYahya
Jazakhallahu khaira sister. To all the sisters( i inclusive) asking Allah for children. May Allah grant us righteous children. Aiméin.
My husband did hurt me by saying today that I cannot have children because of my black heart. This his not the first time he said stuff like this to me. He asked to marry me after him having another wife and two kids with her.
Asalaamualaikam sister sometimes its pressure on your husband too and they say things they dont mean