Yadda Ake Hana Ciki Da Rashin Yabo A Cikin Aurenku

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By Auren Tsabta - Afrilu, 17th 2019

Source: https://www.hautehijab.com/blogs/hijab-fashion/yadda-ake-hana-ƙona-cikin-aure

Hoton wannan: mijinki ya dawo gida daga aiki bayan kwana daya a ofis. Kuna cikin kicin kuna gama cin abincin dare yayin da yarinyar ku ke ƙoƙarin kiyaye kanta duka biyu da nishaɗantarwa saboda ta ƙi yin bacci a farkon ranar.. Ta fita daga wasa tsakanin ƙafafunku yayin da kuke saran karas, don buya a cikin kwanduna, don kama duk abubuwan da ke cikin kantin kayan abinci da kuka shirya, don zubar da kayan wasanta a falon, sannan kiyi rarrafe zuwa inda kuka tsaya, manne da kafafunku da kukan da za a rike.

Daga karshe kin gane cewa mijinki yana gida, sannan ya nufi kicin ya maka sannu. Kina masa peck cikin sauri a lebe, a zahiri jefa jaririn a hannunsa, da sauri komawa yin dinner.

Bayan abincin dare, biye da wasu rigimar yara masu tsanani lokacin kwanciya barci, 'yarka tayi bacci. Ku biyu ku kwanta akan kujera, kokarin kasancewa da tambaya game da kwanakin juna, amma daga karshe bacci ya kwashe da tsantsar gajiya.

Sauti saba?

Yana da wani m sake zagayowar cewa da yawa daga cikin mu sami sauki fadawa ciki, kuma bazai san yadda ake karya ba. Mafi munin sashi shine, lokacin da al'amuran yau da kullum suka yi yawa ba za ka kula da matarka ba kamar da, feelings of under-appreciation can start to emerge and cast resentment onto things. Zai iya fara zama kamar kuna jayayya akan abubuwa iri ɗaya, kowane bangare yana tabbatar da matsayinsu, but neither understanding where the other person is coming from – until finally things come to a head and you decide to sit down and talk about what is really going on.

I’ve previously talked about thefirst year of marriage and how it can sometimes take a toll on yourself and your spouse, but once you have kids or jobs pick up, and the responsibilities and chores multiply, the root of the problem can change. Issues like these are no longer about two people trying to learn how to live together; they stem from pure exhaustion. When each spouse is stretched thin, they can feel like the other doesn’t always appreciate what they are contributing.

Babu shakka, every person’s life situation is different – the details may vary and not all challenges apply to everyone. Amma ina so in gaya muku wasu abubuwan da na koya waɗanda za su iya kawar da rashin godiya a cikin aure., kuma ka kiyaye su daga komawa zuwa ga cikar ƙonawa.

1. Dukanku kuna buƙatar magana! Sadarwa shine mabuɗin, shin shekarar aurenki ce ko ta goma, komai takamammen yanayin rayuwarka da nauyin da ke wuyanka. Ya kamata ku da ma’aurata ku ji daɗin yin magana da juna don guje wa gardama.

Da zarar kun yi magana, za ku iya gane da sauri cewa ku duka kuna jin abubuwa iri ɗaya ne. Mai yiwuwa mijinki yana jin rashin godiya saboda bayan kwana mai tsawo a wurin aiki, Baka dauki minti daya ba ka rungume shi da sumbata. He may feel like his efforts are going unnoticed when he brings home your favorite chocolate bar after picking up the groceries, or making sure you go to bed early and wake up to a clean kitchen, but you’re too busy to notice because all the while you’re feeling that no matter how much you pick up, there is always mess around the corner.

2. Learn each other’s love languages. A cikin kwarewata, learning about the ways my husband and I most naturally give and receive love has been key. In case you are not familiar, these include:

words of affirmation
receiving gifts
acts of service
ingancin lokaci
physical touch

It is common for a person to have multiple love languages, because we naturally express love in a variety of ways. Misali, my love languages are acts of service, quality time and receiving gifts. I feel happy and appreciated when my husband makes the bed in the morning, takes out the garbage without me asking, cleans the bathrooms, folds and puts away the laundry, loads the dishwasher, vacuums the house, fills up my gas tank, gives our daughter a bath at the end of a long day, and puts her to sleep. These “acts of service” make me feel like he cares and wants to give me a break from the day-to-day tasks in the household that can oftentimes overwhelm me. Spending quality time together, like when we work on a home project together, or giving and receiving gifts, like when he stops by my favorite bubble tea shop on our way home, makes me feel that much more appreciated, loved and cared for.

Making it a point to do things you know will make your spouse feel especially loved is so important to let them know how much you appreciate them. One of my husband’s love languages is words of affirmation. He thrives best on encouraging words from me, whether that is for small milestones he has set for himself or big achievements. He feels most loved when I outwardly and intentionally recognize his hard work, both inside and outside the home.

Being able to pinpoint each other’s love languages has gone a long way in how we communicate to one another. It’s so important to be intentional about them and ensure that each other’s “love tanks” are being filled. Hakanan - kar ku ji cewa dole ne waɗannan matakan su zama abubuwan almubazzaranci ko kyaututtuka masu tsada da yawa - samun ƙirƙira, mayar da hankali kan kananan abubuwa, kuma ku ga yadda ƙananan furci na harsunan ƙauna na juna za su iya haɗawa da lokaci zuwa jin daɗin gamsuwa da godiya..

3. Ɗauki lokaci don kanku don yin caji lokacin da kuke buƙata. Ki zama al'ada ku da mijinki ku kasance da ranar hutu da kanku inda mutum daya ke kallon yara dayan kuma ya fita ya yi wa kansa wani abu.. Ko aikin waje ne da kuke son gwadawa ko wani abu mai sauƙi kamar fita cin kofi tare da wasu abokai, or even staying home and watching a movie while your spouse takes the kids to the park or out for ice cream. Having some “me time” will go a long way in how you interact with one another.

If you have kids, it’s equally important for you and your husband to take time for yourselves, like by having monthly date nights. Taking some time off to yourself is great, but spending quality time with the person you fell in love with is equally as important. Make arrangements with grandparents, or anyone you trust with the kids, and surprise your husband with a fun-filled evening. We may be conditioned to expect these romantic gestures from the man in the relationship, but trust me – they love it when you take control of the planning from time to time.

4. Mafi mahimmanci, remember that you are a team. No one is working “harder” than the other. No one’s job is easier or less stressful than the other. Marriage is teamwork and will always need both of you to put in 100% in order for it to thrive. There’s no such thing as the the perfect marriage, even if it seems that way on the outside. Every couple has their flaws, but it is up to them to decide how to work with each other in order to strengthen their bond.