Txhaum kom Ua

Los ntawm Ntshiab Matrimony - Lub Ob Hlis, 19th 2012

Qhov chaw : http://www.onislam.net/english/family/husbands-and-wives/love-and-intimacy/415028.html
Have A Break to Revive Your Marriage!

By Huda Gamal Al-Deen
Assistant Editor – Egypt for OnIslam.net

What is the ‘break’, is the break to maintain a healthy marital relationship. A Break in a relationship could have a positive outcome for some of us, if one wants to avoid a ‘break up’.

My first time to hear about the notion of a ‘break’ in a marital relationship was from a friend of mine who was newly married. My friend was joining us on a 3 day trip. I could not hide my astonishment when I found her joining us on her own. She had only been married for a year at this point and I thought it only logical to see them as a married couple. I did not discuss the issue with her, Raws li kuv xav tias yuav tsum muaj hom teeb meem ntawm tus kheej ntawm nws thiab nws tus txiv. Kuv paub tseeb tias kuv cov lus qhia tau yog thaum thawj hnub ntawm txoj kev mus ncig nws tsis tau txais ib lub xov tooj ntawm nws tus txiv.

Los ntawm ob hnub, Kuv pom tias kuv tus phooj ywg nyob zoo nkauj hu xov tooj zoo nkauj, Thiab nws tau pom tseeb tias nws tab tom txaus siab rau qhov kev sib tham, Thaum taug kev ntawm lub puam thaum hnub poob. Kuv paub tias nws tab tom nrog nws tus txiv sib tham. Kuv txiav txim siab mus tom ntej thiab nug nws ncaj qha, Vim li cas nws tus txiv tsis koom nrog peb mus ncig ua si? Kuv xav tsis thoob thaum nws hais rau kuv tias nws tus txiv tau nrog nws tus phooj ywg nyob rau peb hnub mus ncig ua si, Thiab kuv xav tsis thoob thaum nws hais rau kuv tias lawv tau muaj 'so'.

Rau ib pliag, Lo lus 'tawg' suab nrov nrov rau kuv, Nws yog ntau dua li 'tawg-up' lossis lwm yam uas muaj lub ntsiab lus tsis zoo. Kuv nug kuv tus phooj ywg txog lub ntsiab lus ntawm 'so'.

Ib txoj hauv kev los ua pa lub neej rau hauv kev sib yuav

Nws hais rau kuv tias 'so' yog txoj kev noj qab haus huv kom rov ua kom tau, ntxiv zog, thiab muab txoj sia rau kev sib yuav. Kuv tus phooj ywg, Leej twg thiaj li coj cov lus qhia ntawm kev sib yuav sib yuav, Raws li nws txoj kev sib yuav tsis tau ua haujlwm kom zoo. Nws tau hais tias nws tau pib ua kom tau lub neej txij nkawm, thiab ntau cov teeb meem tau nkag mus rau hauv lawv txoj kev sib yuav.

Tom qab sim ntau txoj kev tsis ua haujlwm los tswj cov kev sib cav sib ceg tas li thiab sib cav sib ceg, Nws tus kws pab sab laj hais rau nws tias qhov no yog lub sijhawm rau ob leeg kom muaj 'so'. Ib tug 'so' uas txhua tus ntawm lawv tuaj yeem ua kom muaj zog, so, xav ib leeg, thiab tau txais lawv lub zog rov qab los txuas ntxiv kev sib yuav hauv qhov txias.

Kuv hu rau kuv tus phooj ywg tom qab tom qab kev mus ncig, Thiab nws tau hais tias Al Hamdu liillah yam tau mus zoo dua ntawm nws thiab nws tus txiv. Nws hais rau kuv tias 'so' muab ob lub sijhawm thiab chaw uas lawv xav tau kom tshem ntawm lawv tus kheej thauj khoom, Xav kom meej meej, thiab ntsuas xyuas lawv tus kheej li cov neeg sib koom tes hauv txoj kev sib yuav no. Txhua tus khub yog lub luag haujlwm rau kev ua tiav ntawm kev ua haujlwm muaj txiaj ntsig zoo no. Nws kuj hais tias 'so' ua rau lawv ob leeg ntev rau ib leeg, txoj kev xav tias nkawd ob leeg tsis tau txaus siab rau lub sijhawm ntev, Vim tias hnav thiab kua muag ntawm txhua hnub niaj hnub.

Muaj qee lub tswv yim uas koj yuav xav tau siv. Kev vam meej 'so', Raws li kuv xam tawm ua ntawv thov hauv txoj kev tsis ncaj ncees yuav ua rau muaj kev nyuaj siab 'tawg-up'.

• Nco ntsoov tias nws yog txoj hauv kev: Thawj qhov koj yuav tsum paub txog qhov 'so', yog tias nws tsis yog qhov tseeb txoj hauv kev los daws cov teeb meem ntawm cov khub niam txiv sib yuav. Tias yog vim li cas thiaj li coj kev txiav txim siab 'kev sib tsoo' yuav tsum yog raws li kev sib yuav cov lus qhia sib yuav, thiab nrog ob tus khub kev pom zoo. Thaum noj 'so', Ob tus neeg koom tes yuav tsum koom nrog thiab yuav tsum txaus siab rau kev so. Qhov no txhais tau tias txhua tus yuav tsum muaj sijhawm so hauv txoj kev uas nws xav tau.
• Zoo siab tsis yuam: Yog tias tus khub txiav txim siab ,Tom qab sab laj nrog tus kws pab tswv yim, tias 'so' yog xav tau los kho lawv txoj kev sib raug zoo, nws yuav tsum xub coj lawv tus khub kev tso cai. Ib tug 'so', tsis yog kev txiav txim siab uas koj tuaj yeem nqa ntawm koj tus kheej, thiab tom qab ntawd yuam koj tus khub kom txais. Nws yog kev txiav txim siab uas xav tau ob qho tib si ntawm cov koom tes los zaum ua ke thiab tham seb nws puas yog txoj kev daws teeb meem rau qhov teeb meem lossis tsis yog. Yog tias ib tus khub sib txuas lus tsis kam lees qhov 'tawg' tswvyim, tus khub nyob rau hauv kev haum, Yog tias tsis muaj peev xwm yaum, yuav tsum soj ntsuam lub tswv yim thiab ua siab ntev. Tom qab ntawd lawv yuav tsum sim tshawb nrhiav cov kev daws teeb meem uas yuav haum ob qho tib si.
• Ib qho kev ncua tsis sib cais: Thaum noj 'so', ob qho tib si yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias nws tsuas yog nres ib ntus kom xav ntsiag to thiab meej. Qhov 'tawg' tsuas yog ib txoj kev uas tuaj yeem ua rau kev daws cov teeb meem tsis tsim nyog ntawm cov khub niam txiv, Yog li nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau ob tus khub nyob sib cuag nrog txhua tus. Nws tsis yog 'tawg' lossis cais lub sijhawm, Tab sis ncua. Lub neej txij nkawm yuav tsum tau rov ua kom muaj kev noj qab nyob zoo.
• Xav kom tsis txhob khiav mus:Qee cov khub niam txiv tau kho lub sijhawm so kom zoo li nws yog lub sijhawm kom khiav tawm ntawm kev txij nkawm. Tsis muaj leej twg tuaj yeem tsis lees tias kev so tuaj yeem muab ob lub sijhawm sib koom tes kom tsis txhob muaj kev ntxhov siab txhua hnub ntawm lub neej, Tab sis kev sib yuav yog lub luag haujlwm. Siv sijhawm los xav txog kev daws thiab cov hau kev los ua kev ua txij ua nkawm ntau sib npaug. Yog tias ob qho tib si xav tias 'so' li tsuas yog so los ntawm lawv txoj kev sib yuav, lawv cov teeb meem tsis nyiam yuav nyob li qub thaum nkawd ob leeg rov qab los ua ke. Qhov 'tawg' tsis yog cia li los so nws yog lub sijhawm los xav.
• Luv ntev tsis ntev: Raws li qee cov lus qub ntawm kev txawj ntse hais tias "kev deb ua rau lub siab loj hlob", Lub sijhawm ntev 'tawg' yog txoj kev luv tshaj plaws rau 'tawg-up'. Qhov cuam tshuam 'kev so' yog lub sijhawm luv luv 'so', uas tsuas yog ua ob peb lub sijhawm ntev rau ib leeg.

Tsis muaj ib qho tshwj xeeb ntev ntawm kev ua tiav 'tawg', Raws li nws feem ntau yog nyob ntawm ob peb tus kheej xav tau thiab xwm. Rau cov neeg uas tau ntsib txoj kev vam meej 'tawg', Lub sijhawm uas siv tau yeej tsis dhau ib lub lim tiam.

Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws kom paub qhov kawg yog qhov ntawd, Qhov 'so' tsuas yog ib txoj kev xav kom kho koj cov teeb meem txij nkawm, Thiab nws tsis yog ib txwm yog txoj kev daws teeb meem. Kev sib tham sov, ib qho kev tawm mus ua ke, lossis ncaj yuav ua tau zoo dua li txoj kev tawg 'hauv qee kis. Koj ua ib khub niam txiv yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los txiav txim siab qhov yog los daws koj cov teeb meem, Thiab yuav ua li cas rau caij nkoj koj lub nkoj uas muaj kev nyab xeeb ntawm Hiav Txwv Hnyav ntawm lub neej.

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Qhov chaw : http://www.onislam.net/english/family/husbands-and-wives/love-and-intimacy/415028.html