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60 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love
1.Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!
2.Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3.Smell good!
4.Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
5.Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
6.Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complain about.
7.Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! Yen sampeyan mikir sampeyan pengin ngatasi masalah perkawinan sing sah, Banjur goleki penyuluhan karo wong sing bener sing bisa menehi saran ing salah siji:
Mediasi apa wae sing ditindakake dening salah, mula salah bisa didandani lan pasangan bisa nggawe ulang kanthi harmoni, Kanjeng Nabi Muhammad
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8.Dadi apik kanggo ibu-ibu sampeyan kanthi cara sing kaya bojomu supaya bisa dadi ibumu dhewe.
9.Sinau kabeh hak lan kewajiban saben liyane ing Islam. Fokus kanggo ngrampungake kewajiban sampeyan, ora nuntut hak sampeyan
10.Balapan menyang lawang nalika dheweke mulih, kaya yen sampeyan nunggu dheweke. Eseman lan ngrangkul dheweke.
11.Jaga omahmu resik, paling ora kanggo level sing dikarepake.
12.Pujian marang perkara sing sampeyan kenal yen dheweke ora yakin banget (kabeh sifat apik sing sampeyan temokake ing wong sing duwe deen sing kuwat, intelijen, lsp.) Iki bakal mbangun ajining dhiri.
13.Dakkandhani yen dheweke dadi bojomu sing paling apik.
14.Nelpon keluargane asring.
15.Menehi tugas sing gampang ditindakake ing omah banjur matur nuwun nalika nindakake. Iki bakal nyengkuyung supaya luwih akeh.
16.Nalika dheweke ngomong babagan sing mboseni, ngrungokake lan nod sirah sampeyan. Malah takon pitakon supaya katon kaya sampeyan kasengsem.
17.Kasurung dheweke nindakake tumindak sing apik.
18.Yen dheweke ana ing swasana ati sing ala, Menehi papan. Dheweke bakal njaluk liwat, Insya Allah.
19.Matur suwun kanthi tliti kanggo nyedhiyakake panganan lan papan perlindungan. Iku kesepakatan gedhe.
20.Yen dheweke nesu karo sampeyan lan wiwit bengok, Ayo dheweke sumunar nalika sampeyan sepi. Sampeyan bakal bisa ndeleng gelut sampeyan bakal mungkasi luwih cepet. Banjur nalika dheweke tenang, Sampeyan bisa ngomong babagan crita sampeyan lan kepiye carane dheweke pengin ngganti soko.
21.Nalika sampeyan nesu karo dheweke, Aja ngomong "sampeyan nggawe aku ngamuk", tinimbang, "Tumindak iki ndadekake aku nesu". Langsung nesu marang tumindak lan kahanan tinimbang dheweke.
22.Elinga, bojomu duwe perasaan, Dadi digatekake.
23.Ayo dheweke hebat karo kanca-kancane tanpa kaluputan, utamane yen dheweke pancen apike. Nyengkuyung dheweke metu, Dadi dheweke ora rumangsa "cooped" ing omah.
24.Yen bojomu pegel banget babagan perkara sing sampeyan lakoni (lan sampeyan bisa ngontrol), Banjur mandheg nindakake. tenan.
25.Sinau babagan carane ngandhani apa sing dikarepake tanpa dheweke kudu ngira-ngira kabeh wektu. Sinau komunikasi raos sampeyan.
26.Aja kesusu amarga cilik. Iku ora pantes.
27.Nggawe guyon. Yen sampeyan ora duwe alam lucu, Bukak Internet lan maca sawetara lelucon, banjur kandha karo dheweke.
28.Dakkandhani yen sampeyan dadi bojo sing paling apik lan pujian kanggo sampeyan tartamtu babagan sampeyan ngerti yen sampeyan apik.
29.Sinau kanggo nggawe sajian favorit.
30.Ora nate, Nate ngomong sing ala karo kanca utawa kulawarga ora perlu. Yen dheweke mungkasi setuju karo sampeyan, Sampeyan bakal bisa ndeleng manawa sampeyan bali ing rai amarga sampeyan luwih depresi yen sampeyan duwe bojo sing ala - lan wong liya uga mikir yen sampeyan duwe bojo sing ala.
31.Gunakake wektu kanthi wicaksana lan entuk prekara. Yen sampeyan dadi produsen omah, njupuk kelas online lan aktif ing komunitas sampeyan. Iki bakal nggawe sampeyan seneng lan bonus sekunder yaiku ngungkuli bojomu.
32.Tindakake kabeh dina Sabereelillah ing ndhuwur lan sampeyan bakal weruh Allah nyelehake Barakah ing kabeh sing sampeyan lakoni.
33.Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]
34.Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisyah (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, kanthi cara, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”
35.Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.
36.Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, bojo, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.
37.Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.
38.Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.
39.Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.
40.Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.
41.The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
42.Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the “dough”. Iku nggawe luwih gampang dheweke kerja.
43.Priksa manawa sampeyan mesthi duwe apa-apa kanggo nedha bengi.
44.Sikat rambutmu, saben dinten.
45.Aja lali nindakake umbah-umbah.
46.Kaget dheweke karo hadiah. Malah kabutuhan, kayata sepatu anyar, bisa hadiah.
47.Rungokake Panjenengane. (Malah nalika ngomong babagan perkara-perkara sing mboseni kaya basket utawa komputer.)
48.Nyoba (hard amarga bisa uga) kanggo njupuk kapentingan ing hobi.
49.Coba aja lunga blanja akeh ... lan nglampahi kabeh dhuwit.
50.Katon apik lan dadi seductive menyang dheweke. Flirt karo dheweke.
51.Sinau Trik lan "Teknik" kanggo nyenengake bojomu sampeyan. (Mesthi wae loro cara.)
52.Siapke kanggo sore khusus karo dheweke karo nedha bengi khusus lan wektu eksklusif (Ora ana bocah sing diidinake).
53.Ngurus kulit sampeyan, utamane pasuryan sampeyan. Pasuryan minangka pusat atraksi.
54.Yen sampeyan ora puas banget, Ngomong karo dheweke lan ngomong. Nulungi dheweke utawa menehi sumber daya, Aja ngenteni nganti masalah dadi luwih elek.
55.Takon marang Allah kanggo nguatake lan ngluhurake ikatan welas asih lan katresnan ing antarane wong loro, saben dina, Saben pandonga. Takon marang dheweke kanggo nglindhungi ikatan saka Shaytaan. Nalika setan sing luwih murah ngrusak katresnan antarane pasangan bojo, dheweke iku sing paling disenengi Shaytaan. Ora ana sing kerja kaya Du'ah, lan katresnan mung ana ing antarane pasangan bojo ing endi wae.
56.Aja mbandhingake bojomu marang bojo liya! Umpamane aja ngomong, "Wah bojone ora nindakake perkara kasebut, Napa sampeyan ... " (sing pembunuh!)
57.Seneng karo apa sing sampeyan alami amarga ora ana sing sampurna. Yen sampeyan pengin sempurno, Enteni nganti sampeyan mlebu Jannah bebarengan inShaallah - lan mesthi wae, kosok balene!.
58.Usaha katresnan Allah sing luwih dhisik lan paling penting! Yen kabeh bojo nyoba golek katresnan lan kesenengan Allah, mesthi, dheweke uga bisa njaga bojone. Lan elinga - Yen Allah tresna sampeyan, Malaikat bakal tresna sampeyan, lan kabeh titah bakal tresna sampeyan.
59.Yen sampeyan ngemas nedha awan kanggo bojomu supaya bisa mlaku, Saka wektu kanggo nyelinep ing cathetan katresnan cilik utawa puisi manis. Yen dheweke ora mangan awan, Ninggalake cathetan ing papan liya kanggo golek, Kaya ing tas cilik, utawa dompet utawa ing rodha mobil
60.Tangi dheweke nganti Qiyam ul-lay (Ing pihak pungkasan wengi) lan takon supaya ndedonga karo sampeyan.
Muga-muga Gusti Allah njaga kabeh kekawin lan mbantu kita mangertos lan ngetrapake lan kanthi tata krama, ameen! Inshaallah Yen sampeyan ngerti luwih akeh cara, Kirimake ing komentar lan nuduhake bathi.
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Kalorone kudu ngerti saben liyane.
Sejatine, artikel ngandika:
– Wanita luwih murah tinimbang pria.
– Wanita ora bisa ngatonake masalah apa sing ana ing antarane wong katelu.
– Wanita ora bisa ngrembug masalah karo bojomu kajaba dhawuhe.
– Wanita minangka alat sing nyenengake kanggo wong lanang ing Islam.
Dadi wong wadon dhewe, Aku rumangsa seneng karo wanita sing dikunjara ing Islam.
Hai ana,
Mangga uga weruh http://www.purematrimony.com/blog/2011/01/60-ways-to-keep-your-wife%E2%80%99s-love/
Banjur komentar :p
Matur nuwun Akriti Kaul, iki nyerang lan ngrusak, Apa sing ora nyerang kudu diwenehake menyang pelawak lokal.
Sing ayu, cara gratis lan gampang kanggo njaga bojomu seneng lan omah-omah sehat. Mesthi bakal nggawe wanita sing unggul ing mripate bojone.
Akriti, nyoba iku siji dina, it may save you much heartache. Akriti what role would you like to take in a marriage? Would you be able to define it? Wake up person! Get a broad oulook in life as a start. Which religion burns a woman with her dead husband and which religion, prays to a lingum (male sexual organ), decorates it with flowers and washes it with milk? – Not Islam!
I agreee
In Hindu, WOMAN are the one who PAY dowry when it comes to marriage. It’s the craziest thing ever happen for the woman herself. IT gives them a lot of stress and burden if they can’t afford it especially if her family is poor..no wonder many hindu woman commit suicide if they are not marry until they gettin old or whatsoever. Read QURAN, and u will know how good ISLAM is in treating WOMAN.
Akriti, you shouldn’t be sorry for anybody cos we the muslim women did not tell you we are in prison or we are complainin, we are very happy and proud of our religion.
ohh cme on,,just go an read the rule book which are for men and speak,,Gods rule is always fair and aquare,,follow it or reject,,do or die,,,thts it,,
This entire list is such an offense to women I cannot believe somebody had the gall to post it. And then to drag the Prophet and his wives into it? The authors ought to be ashamed of themselves!
Akriti Kaul, as a Muslim woman who actually DOES know about her religion, I can assure you this article is pure, one-sided nonsense. Probably put-together by some miserable soul who thinks he’s superior because he learned how to read or something.
Unfortunately a lot of people like to blame the religion for this type of philosophy but I truly believe that this is more the result of a narrow-minded patriarchal culture.
I really wish they would get over themselves!
akirti, i hav nothing to say about who n wut kinda person rote this article… jus read d article as if it was 60 ways to keep your wife’s love. all these acts are mutual.
well this is not a matter of conflict between men and women..this was a simple article for wives to act perfect from their side,,the remaining role will be played by husband as his deed, but atleast a woman should be fair and perfect from her side.
i truly agree to all these things mentioned and respect them.
Aku percaya iki sisih liyane kanggo crita iki dikirim ing situs kepungkur kanggo wong-wong sing maca kanggo entuk kawruh lan ora kanggo komentar
http://www.purematrimony.com/blog/2011/01/60-ways-to-keep-your-wife%E2%80%99s-love/
Artikel iki ora bias utawa sisi siji lan mesthi ora nggawe wanita luwih ringkes…….sisih liyane menyang artikel 60 Cara kanggo njaga bojomu seneng.
Isine sawetara saran sing apik…kabeh wong duwe peran kanggo muter supaya luwih seneng.
setuju 100%
Aku wnna hav bojo guud
Ora heran….Napa non-Muslim mikirake kita saka ekstrem, wong lanang sampeyan butuh kabeh nganti ekstrem…Artikel iki minangka fantasi wong edan……..Plz Wanita Al-Quran N Sahi kanggo Pandhuan Ora Artikel Kesalahan Sing Paling Apik Iki Freaks Publik…..
Apa wae objektif… Mung njupuk sisih positif.. Aku seneng artikel , Iku mung ora bisa marem kabeh wong… afterall..god nggawe Adam minangka Khalifah saka wong liya sing sepisanan.. Wanita dadi realistis… Ora ana bias utawa prejudis… jujur kanggo awake dhewe.. Manungsa iku wong lanang.. Gusti Allah ngerti. Nyuwun sewu yen ora ana nabi lady. ngurmati karsa lan tumindak nitahake… Pinujia Pangeran Yehuwah.. Gusti mberkahi mohd(pbuh) ..Saya Saya….
Aku setuju karo wanita THT main peran sing luwih gedhe tinimbang sing ditindakake dening wong lanang, dheweke njaga kabeh, Dheweke dadi siji sing menehi nilai lan aturan omah. Tumindak bojone lan watesé adhedhasar kepiye bojone ngrawat dheweke. Iku bisa uga kaya wong lanang duwe kekuwatan luwih akeh babagan garwane BT sing bener yaiku bojone mung dadi kekarepan kaya dheweke. Perkawinan minangka pengalaman sing paling apik
There is something called proper use of language and vocalbulary.If you want to advice don’t make it sound like a fanatic’s attempt to snub women but rather a respectful advice article.Don’t give people chances to attack our religion due to your ignorance.
Half of these are true being married to a muslim myself what happend to men keeping wives happy its all about the men.i do do most of these things but sum r jus mental .im not religious at the moment but hopefully I will be 1 day I dnt see why I should become sumthing im not just because my husband is muslim ie. Name change islam etc I will do if I want to 1 dina. Aku nikah karo dheweke NT agama, aku ngajeni lan tresna marang dheweke, aku bakal ngetutake dheweke dadi Islam mung amarga aku ora ngerti apa-apa sing ana ing kana:-) Aku nyepelekake wong-wong sing ora bisa ngomong yen ora bisa omah-omah, nanging Gusti Allah sing paling apik, nanging dheweke entuk ngimpi wadon, nanging dheweke duwe ngimpi sing paling elek, nanging dheweke entuk klambi ing pakistani nalika aku Inggris! Mung amarga wong liya duwe masalah ! Aku ngormati kulawargane lan kabeh nindakake kabeh 4 dheweke dadi inggris ora atiku aku dadi muslim pakistani dnt tegese im gud . Wong sing ana ing nt Werna n balapan.Kami duwe hubungan sing apik loro bocah lanang sing dijupuk sawise ana bapak mesthi. names n religion and most importantly we work as a team! I just wrote this as there is much discrimination against mixed race couples frm both sides .its england so its bound to happen ! Only god can judge us! Peace out
Dont completely agree with this article. Maybe the intentions are good but content may not be suitable for all Muslim women especially those who were not raised in the traditional Asian household. ya wis, this article seems to be more of a mix of the asian culture and religious understanding of what a man wants and what a woman should be doing
DEAR Akriti Kaul, you just thinking narrow.How on the earth respecting your husband and striving to keep his love can be imprisonment? All Christians think so and they think Christian women are independent ,but in reality this independence means having baby before marriage, changing boyfriends,divorcing for even unworthy things,showing their parts of body enough to make others to gaze at them even in front of their husbands[Mbebasake dhewe saka budaya lan golek wong sing apik,these husbands have not any sense of jealous instead they feel proud that they have a sexy wife,in its place these husbands can’t stop looking at another ‘sexy’ meteng lan meteng rumit; and a lot of things that Christians consider independence and they ignore these things are prohibited even in ”Bible”.].And a lot of Muslim families keep their life happy for following religious rules.The article is just about the ways of keeping a husband’s love.And they are optional,but whoever follows it keeps marriage beautiful ,whoever doesn’t follow gain less love of her husband,Iku mung iki.
adhine sing paling apik
thieeeee thnx
uga nanggapi aisha
Yen sampeyan ora bisa nyoba dadi Muhammad saka njero,Tembung-tembung sing Jujur. Agama minangka gampang ing pendapatku, budaya sing bisa angel. Dadi wong sing paling apik sampeyan bisa,Tindakake naluri gut&Ndedonga marang Gusti Allah kanggo mbantu,Pandhuan&Nglindhungi Sampeyan & kulawarga.salams sampeyan
Oh gusti. Iki ora masuk akal. Yen wong wadon kepengin nindakake sawetara perkara kasebut kanggo bojone, Sampeyan ora seneng lan pengin nindakake… Ora amarga dibutuhake. Cara aku ndeleng iku: Yen sampeyan ora menehi, sampeyan ora bakal nampa lan kosok balene. Aja ngarep-arep nampa jinis perawatan nalika sampeyan ora menehi hormat lan tresna marang liyane sing penting. Cetha kanggo ndeleng manawa wong iki ora seneng banget ing omah-omah (utawa perkawinan sadurunge) and wants to use this website as a means to bash the wife/ex-wife. On a different note, if my husband is going to put equal effort to make me happy, I will be the best wife to him. Women love men that know how to treat them with respect, dignity and ESPECIALLY giving the wife a reason to life other than cooking, cleaning and being their sex object. 🙂
This is written for a muslimah without a career/job. Title should be “60 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love (if you are a housewife)”
may ALLAH bless tht women
Great words.Jazakumlahu kairan
I do alot of these things for my husband an i do them out of love, its not a plan or a tack tick to keep my husband this man who has brought our religion into this noncense has forgot to mention our prophet did NOT teach us or mention how a wife should keep her husband but how a husband an wife should work together because thats what he did.. my husband runs for the chance to do something for me an thats only because of the love we have for each other he wouldnt let me get up if it were up to him…My husband is not only my husband but my best friend we have travelled the world an being with each other an thanking allah that we met is more than enough never mind the KEEEPING HUSBAND DRAMA…and this dudes bulls**t shows how awfully he must have treated his wife he shouldnt have named it 60 cara kanggo njaga bojomu nanging 60 Cara kanggo kelangan bojo kanthi cara nggawe dheweke budak!!!
Artical iki ora ujar kabeh 60 NUNGGUH … Sampeyan bisa nggunakake apa sing ditrapake ing hubungan sampeyan!!! Ora ngrusak amarga sejatine wis akeh kedadeyan kasebut…. Ing kene dheweke mung didaftar lan sing katon ala.
Kanggo sawetara tips aku mikir cukup kanggo rempah-rempahe uripe pasangan. Nanging, Sisane tips yaiku, Aku wedi, mung ditulis saka perspektif lunatic lanang. Aku percaya jinis artikel iki kudu menehi tips kanggo loro jinis seks, i.e. Wong wadon iki kudu mbanting blah blah lan nanggepi wong lanang kudu blah blah blah. Checks jinis iki mung nyengkuyung konflik antarane pria lan wanita amarga bobote cenderung dipasang ing sisih siji. Kita lagi ngomong babagan iki, aku percaya karo cara sing paling apik yaiku ngobrol babagan loro sing padha utawa liya lali lan lali crap kasebut. Iki lara…
Matur nuwun kanthi sooo akeh kanggo ngelingake aku manawa aku pancen dadi batur & abdi kanggo bojoku, dudu mitra sing padha karo omah-omahku.
Aku nemokake artikel iki mbiyantu,Saran sing diwenehake marang wong-wong sing milih kapentingan yen sampeyan ora seneng, sampeyan ora kudu menehi kritik sawise ora ana sing ngganggu.
Ummah Kasthum,Hannah,lan fatma,Pisanan aku ngirim salam sing paling apik(Asc wrw),Banjur bakal setuju isus iki,matur nuwun adhine,Nanging adhine sampeyan bisa nindakake halband sing luwih dhisik,I think sister you doing well
I’m a religious man, and i find this to be a stupid list that does make us Muslims seem as though women are our slaves. My mother worked hard to please God and then my father, and she is appreciated by all of us, even though she didn’t have this “list”.
Women are people too, and feel just as much as men do, and should be respected and treated fairly no matter their role in a relationship. They should not be some slave or “maid” for her man.
BEFORE ANY MAN THINK OF GETING MARY ALLTHIS THING THAT HE MORE DO YOU DON’T NEED TO SHOUT ON YOUR WIFE BECUASE SHE IS YOUR HALF ALSO SHE IS YOUR HELP MATE SHE IS NOT YOUR SALVE SHE IS YOU MOTHER BOTH OF YOU NEED TO RESPECT ONE ANOTHE EVEN THOUGT YOU ARE THE HEAD YOU MUST KNOW THAT SHE IS A WEEKER VESLE YOU NEED TO KEEP HER SAVE PRESENT HER AS QUEEN TO YOU FAMILY, FRIENDS ,NEBOURS BECUASE IF YOU DON’T PRESENT HER AS YOUR QUEEN SHE WILLTREATED LIKE SLAVE WHICH YOU LIKE ANYBODY TO TREAT LIKE THAT TO KEEP YOUR MARRAGE SHOW TO YOUR WIFE OPRATE WITH SPIRIT OF MEEKNESS THAT IS SOMEBOBY HOW POWER TO DO ANYTHING THAT THEY WANT BUT THEY DID NOT BECUASE THE PUT THEMSELVE THE SAME SHOE LIKE THEIR WIFE
Muslims for some reason think that the Western community is out to get them. I was a Muslim women until i Realized that it is a Cult based on HATE!!! They rant,,,, “God is Great”, think they are Superior than any other Race, Religion or culture. The Men are constantly bark orders at women as if there wife is a slave. I personally think it is a dangerous Religion and should be banned in all Countries except for the Middle East.
Just my thoughts
May allah bless us for understand each others.
Subhannallah ex muslim. U got mixed up in d wrong thn nd def with d wrong ppl. There’s nothing more LOVING and peaceful as ISLAM. Astagfirulah
i love my husband dearly alhamdulilah..his dreams are mine,i have done all this alhamdu..but am curious- can someone stay the same when your husband does not clearly love you after doing all the above and he has an afair/ 2nd marriage…it makes you feel WORTHLESS
How is this article degrading women? These are some great ways for women to save their houses by being more patient and calm. no wonder you see so many divorced couples in non muslim countries! Islam creates a balance in our lives, alhamdulillah for this way of life which frees us women <3