오늘날의 아버지들을 위해: 오늘날의 아버지들을 위해?

“Sisters, you are the shepherds of your children! 자매, raise your children well, for the future of the Ummah lies in your hands! 자매, your role as mothers is the most important in the world!"

Such is the mantra repeated over and over again, to audiences of women who have already had this message ingrained in them from youth. But where are the reminders to Muslim fathers?

It’s become a common cultural standard that women are assumed to be almost solely responsible for the raising and educating of children, from infancy right up until adulthood. The role of fatherhood, on the other hand, seems to have been relegated to one of financial obligation, and little else.

When we look to the time of Prophet Muhammad (그에게 평화와 축복이 있기를), 하지만, we see a very different model of fatherhood.

예언자 무하마드, The Father

Ali ibn Abi Talib was raised in the household of the prophet (PBUH) and the prophet was his father figure. When Ali accepted Islam at the age of 12, he didn’t do so out of indifference or merely because he ‘had’ 에게.

He had been raised to be intellectually capable of pondering what faith meant, what the consequences of accepting that would be, and the seriousness of living according to Islam. 따라서, when he accepted Islam, it was with a keenness of intelligence and awareness that was directly cultivated by the prophet (PBUH).

비슷하게, Zayd ibn Harithah who was also raised by The prophet (PBUH), in such a dedicated manner that when Zayd’s biological father and uncle came to take him back home, he refused to go with them. Zayd was approximately eight years old when he was captured by raiders and sold into slavery in Makkah. The nephew of Khadijah (알라가 그녀를 기뻐하길) bought him and then gave Zayd as a gift to her. She, in turn, gave him to The prophet (PBUH) who freed him and raised him as his own son.

When Zayd’s father and uncle came to claim him, Zayd informed them, “I have seen from this man (무함마드) such amazing things that I could never prefer him over anyone else.” (Ibn Sa’ad, Ibn Athir, Ibn Hajar).

Immediately after this, 예언자 (PBUH) formally adopted Zayd who became known as ‘Zayd ibn Muhammad’ until the Qur’anic verse was revealed forbidding this type of adoption.

Such a close bond could only have been the result of truly dedicated parenting. Zayd was also one of the first people to accept Islam, along with Ali and the rest of the Prophet’s household.

As an adult, the prophet (PBUH) made Zayd a commander of the Muslim army no less than seven different times, until he was martyred in the Battle of Mu’tah.

Nor was the prophet (PBUH) an exception when it came to fatherhood. His Sahabah followed his example.

Umar ibn al-Khattab (radhiAllahu ‘anhu) didn’t abandon his son ‘Abdullah to his wife to raise; he didn’t expect ‘Abdullah’s mother to be solely responsible for Abdullah’s education or the refinement of his manners. 대신에, he took a hands-on approach and ensured that Abdullah accompanied him from a young age, as is evidenced in the following hadith:

Narrated Ibn ‘Umar:

예언자 (sallAllahu ‘alayhiwasallam) 말했다, “The example of a believer is like a green tree, the leaves of which do not fall.” The people said, “It is such-and-such tree; it is such-and-such tree.”

I intended to say that it was the date-palm tree, but I was a young boy and felt shy (to answer).

The Prophet said, “It is the date-palm tree.” Ibn ‘Umar added, “I told this to ‘Umar (later on), 누가 말했다, ‘Had you said it, I would have preferred it over such-and such a thing!” (부하리)

Abdullah ibn ‘Umar grew up to be known as ‘the Jurist’ – but would he have become such a great man if it weren’t for the way his father made a point of involving him in the daily gatherings of the elder Sahabah with The prophet (PBUH))?

안타깝게도, there are far too many fathers today who prefer to leave their sons to be raised by social media and less-than-ideal friends, assuming that “their mother will deal with them”… until they suddenly realize that their sons are no longer young boys, but overgrown males with no understanding of Islamic manhood.

This situation, 사실은, took place in the time of Umar ibn al-Khattab (radhiAllahu ‘anhu), and his stance on fatherhood is further demonstrated in this narration:

It is related that a man once came to ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab, complaining of his sons’ disobedience to him. ‘Umar summoned the boy and spoke of his disobedience to his father and his neglect of his rights.

The boy replied: “O Ameer al-Mu’mineen! (Prince of believers)

Doesn’t a child have rights over his father?” “Certainly,” replied ‘Umar. “What are they, Ameer al-Mu’mineen?” “That he should choose his mother, give him a good name and teach him the Book (the Quran).” “O Ameer al-Mu’mineen! My father did nothing of this. My mother was a Magian (fire worshipper). He gave me the name of Julalaan (meaning dung beetle or scarab) and he did not teach me a single letter of the Quran.” Turning to the father, ‘Umar said: “You have come to me to complain about the disobedience of your son. You have failed in your duty to him before he has failed in his duty to you; you have done wrong to him before he has wronged you.”

Note that when ‘Umar mentioned the teaching of the Qur’an, it meant to the companions much more than what we assume – he didn’t mean that the father hadn’t simply taught his son the literal words of the Qur’an, but rather, that he had neglected to teach his son the meanings of the Qur’an as well.

A’ishah (알라가 그녀를 기뻐하길) described The prophet (PBUH) ~처럼:

“His character was the Qur’an.” (이슬람교도)

The automatic understanding was that his character was an embodiment of the teachings 꾸란의.

‘Umar’s rebuke to the complaining father wasn’t that it was the mother’s fault for not teaching the son how to be a good Muslim (or even a good person) – the responsibility was upon the 아버지 to raise his child according to the Qur’an.

In failing to carry out his responsibilities towards his son, the father was to blame for his own son’s disobedience.

오늘, there are countless books and lectures aimed at mothers about the importance of their role – yet few, if any, focused on Muslim fathers. As a result, our Ummah has been faced with a crisis of fatherhood: one where Muslim men have minimized their role as the head of the household and relegated themselves to providing only financial support, rather than being present, hands-on parents.

Subsequently, we have an entire generation of Muslim youth growing up with no idea of what it is like to be a truly responsible Muslim man.

It is time that we recognize the seriousness of the situation, and change our understanding of the role of Muslim men as fathers – by returning to and reviving the Sunnah of The prophet (PBUH) and his Companions. They were the men who exemplified what it meant to be true Muslim men … leaders of both their households, and of their Ummah.

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