If you’ve been searching for a spouse for a while, don’t despair.
Because it’s in this waiting time that you’re being tested with patience.
Ko te kupu a Allah Swt i roto i nga waahi maha i roto i te Quran ko tetahi o nga mana o te iwi o Jannah
We are commanded to remain patient when afflicted with misfortune and to seek help through prayer:
"A ka rapu awhina i te manawanui me te rite - seaka (Te pure) me te pono, He tino taumaha, he uaua anake mo Al-Khaashi'oon [i.e. Ko nga tangata whakapono pono i Allaah - ko te hunga e whakarongo ana ki a Allaah me te tuku tonu, he wehi nui mai i tana whiu, me whakapono ki tana kupu whakaari (Pararaiha) A i ana whakatupato (Rarohenga)]” [Surah Baqarah 2:54]
I roto i tenei irava, Ko te Allah Swt e whakaae ana ko te turoro e toe ana he mea uaua ki te mahi, Engari e whakamarama ana hoki koinei te tohu o te whakapono.
I tetahi atu irava, E kii ana a Allah Swt i a ia me te manawanui:
"He pono, Ko Allaah te hunga e rite ana ki a - Saabiroon (Te manawanui)” [Surah Anfaal 6:46]
Ko te manawanui he tino motuhake i roto i Ihirama:
'Ae, Ka whakawhiwhia te manawanui ki a raatau utu kaore he putea. ' [Surah AZ-Zumar 39:10]
Ko nga tohunga o Tafseer i whakamarama i tenei irava hei tikanga ka hoatu koe ki to utu i te akhirah (i roto i a Allah me etahi wa ka wareware tatou ki tera) me te kore e haere i te tauine ka pa ki etahi atu.
Kia whakakororiatia a Allah! He aha te utu ataahua mo nga tangata e manawanui ana!
If you’ve been searching for a spouse for a while now and it’s not yet happening, then this is proof that He SWT wants good for you.
But you must understand that patience means having full acceptance of Allah’s decree.
Making a lot of dua and not despairing of His Mercy or complaining about your situation.
It’s perfectly normal to feel upset, depressed or become anxious when you can’t find a suitable spouse – but there’s great wisdom behind you struggling to find the one.
The real test of your patience is you placing your trust in Allah that HE will do what is best for YOU.
As long as YOU keep striving towards your end goal of marriage
This means you continue to talk to potential prospects and not become restless or impatient because it’s not happening.
Allah indeed rewards the patient, but He SWT also commands us to take action.
Signing up for a service likeMatrimony Pureis perfect if you’re single and practising and want to find a like-minded spouse.
But the key thing here is to keep striving and knowing that as long as you keep trying.
Your time will come one day insha’Allah.
Kia mahara, if it’s not happening for you, don’t lose hope – rather increase in your istighfar and duas
Remain content in knowing that Allah SWT is with you and you WILL by His permission, find a suitable spouse.
Waiho he Whakautu