[Podcast] Wahi 2: Me pehea te Whakaritea i a koe ano, Hinengaro me te Wairua Mo te Marena

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Na Matrimony Pure - Noema, 22nd 2017

He aha te mea hei hanga i tetahi hoa rangatira whakamiharo?

Me aha koe inaianei ki te whakarite kei a koe 100% ready to get married and help your other half complete half of their deen?

In part two of this three-part series, we take a look at self-development from an emotional, mental and spiritual point of view to help you become the best version of you – ready for anything (including marriage!)

Join this lively discussion with Sister Arfa Saira and Sister Fathima Farooqi as they dive deep into what you need to change in order to become a great spouse!

Me pehea te Whakaritea i a koe ano, Hinengaro me te Wairua Mo te Marena

Playing – Pure Matrimony Jingles

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Discussion begins

Kāpa: Bismillah! Assalamu Alaikkum (wuru) Na ka mihi ki te whakaaturanga o te whanau. Ko au to kaiwhakarato. Arfa sira iqbal, Head of Pure Matrimony and in today’s show, we are into the second Podcast in our Podcast series of “The making of a perfect Spouse”.

In the first part, we talked all about Self-analysis. This is part 2 where we are really going to be diving deep into physical, spiritual, emotional and mental development. What you need to be doing to make yourself the best version of you.

He pono nga turanga marena ipurangi, joining me today is Sis. Fathima Farooqi who is my co-host and I’m so excited for this particular podcast because the last one was just Fantastic. He pono nga turanga marena ipurangi, Assalamu Alaikkum Sis. Fathima. How are you?

Fathima: Wa alaikkum saram (wuru) Hara. Kāpa. Alhamdulillah, I’m well and I’m really looking forward to this one as well. No te mea, Kawea mai a Mrs, My God! I’m just thinking, why we didn’t come across this one. I mean, why I didn’t think about this one very long ago.

(Both of them laughing out loudly)

Kāpa: This one is really interesting after we did that particular podcast. You and I were having a discussion after. We both actually said that we should have done this one thing before we got married.

Fathima: (tārua) Exactly! Nowadays it’s so easy to have all this knowledge and everything and really hope that anyone who is listening to this, (tārua) really implements these things and really focuses on Self-development because it’s that important in choosing the right Spouse.

Kāpa: Kaati! Kei te ite ahau…

Fathima : (continues)You are going to be in the right space to select the spouse once you know itself.

Kāpa: Kawea mai a Mrs, Definitely. I think to be honest with you; we are living in the 21st century, tika, if you are not developing yourself all time, like seriously, what you are doing.

Fathima: Yeah!

Kāpa: Engari koa, if you look at it from an Islamic perspective, Islam demands us to be in the best version of ourselves. Not just from a spiritual point of view but from the worldly point of you as well. That’s why actually if you look back, centuries before the golden age of Islam, why did we have such amazing mathematicians, scientists and doctors and what not. I mean, mooni, Europe was in darkness. And we brought light into that. That’s why it is called the golden age. Kawea mai a Mrs.

He pono nga turanga marena ipurangi, we actually brought light into the darkness of Europe, why because, the methodologies, the sort of discoveries that we did they were lights upon everything else. The reason being that our Deen demands excellence in everything. As very interesting actually because, this entire podcast is all about self development, and all of the different things you need to develop to be the best version of you.

But I remember speaking to Sheikh Musleh about this. And you know what Sheikh Musleh told me, he said that one another thing, very interesting actually, one another thing’s that people really sort of mess upon is decided, let’s say a person is an academic person they will push them in towards the Deen. Do you see what I mean? While there is nothing wrong in being a religious person. It’s like, well if you are not gonna be a, let’s say a doctor or a lawyer, anything like that. They try to push them into being like an Aalim or something like that.

If you are not going to mind it, then you are going to be ignorant about lot of things, and unfortunately, they take the ignorance with them into the Deen. And this is why you end up with these Maulavis and all these like Imam’s and stuff like that who have a very poor understanding of what religion actually is and that actually does the Deen more harm than it does good.

Fathima: Yeah! It is going to destroys so many lives.

Kāpa: Definitely! ( laughs) I’m gonna give this. You know, I love doing these Podcasts. Because it gets through all these extra lot of stories. There is an Imam, not mentioning any names because that wouldn’t be appropriate. There is a local Imam nearby I live, who gave her advise not to name her daughter with a certain name because he told her, if you give her this name she will grow up to be a bad woman.

Fathima: Kawea mai a Mrs, my god! Look at that!

Kāpa: I was shocked, I was like “are you joking?”. She was like “no, he told me not to name”. And this was the name from the Quran by the way. She got a beautiful name from the Quran and he just basically said “Don’t name with this, when she grows up she’s gonna be a bad woman”. And I’m like “Oh, my god! You really got to be kidding me”.

But that’s what ignorance does. It brings darkness where there should be light. Ehara i te mea karekau noa enei huanga engari ko te kimi i enei karekau e taea.

Fathima: Ehara i te mea karekau noa enei huanga engari ko te kimi i enei karekau e taea, Hara. Kāpa. Why is it important to… Let’s get on to the first phase of development. It’s about your physical development. Why is it important to improve oneself physically because, you know, some might say that I think I’m healthy, And Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed me with good looks and stuffs. We do appreciate the self-confidence but then why is it important to focus on your physical and your, you know, just your overall health and well-being.

Kāpa: Kaati. Ok. Here is something to consider…..

Mo te maha atu o tenei mea whakamiharo & Matapaki pono, Tena whakarongo mai ki te oro i runga ake ranei i te tango mai i te URL konei: http://traffic.libsyn.com/purematrimony/Part_2_How_To_Prepare_Yourself_Emotionally_Mentally_and_Spiritually_For_Marriage.mp3

Whakarongo ki tetahi waahanga i konei: https://www.muslimmarriageguide.com/podcast-part-1-making-perfect-spouse/

Listen to part three here: http://Traffic.libsyn.com/Purematrimony/3_personality_and_character.mp3

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