അവർ അതെ എന്ന് പറയുമോ?

നമ്മളെ മറ്റുള്ളവരിൽ നിന്ന് വേറിട്ട് നിർത്തുന്ന എന്തെങ്കിലും ഭയം നമ്മളിൽ ചിലർ വിവാഹത്തിന് പരിഗണിക്കാത്തതിന്റെ കാരണമായിരിക്കാം. This story shows us that what makes us truly unique is the characteristic which can draw someone to love us.

“After converting to Islam in my formative years of college I always had one frequent നിങ്ങൾ (പ്രാർത്ഥന) I would make; എ നിങ്ങൾ to be blessed with a righteous wife. Whether it was hearing marriage completes half your ദീൻ (ജീവിതരീതി) or constantly being pressured by media and temptations to engage in a relationship; or possibly a combination of factors. പരിഗണിക്കാതെ, I knew one thing and that was that I had a deep desire to find a spouse who would be my companion in this life and, God willing, assist me in making it to heaven in the next life.

I constantly spent my nights making നിങ്ങൾ to be blessed with a righteous wife. എന്നിരുന്നാലും, during the days I would continuously be told and hear about horror stories revolving around Muslim matrimony. There were two main themes to these horror stories:

1. A family from one culture would not accept a potential suitor from a different culture.
2. There are absurd and superficial expectations to be met. The man must be a doctor or engineer, his salary must be a certain amount of money, he must be older than the woman, he must provide aമഹർ (സ്ത്രീധനം) worth X amount of dollars etc.

Despite these horror stories I kept hoping and praying that I would be blessed with a righteous wife. Then one day, sorry to sound cliché, I saw my dream woman; this woman in my community, who, due to her condition, uses a wheelchair to get around, entered into a contest to win an accessible van. My heart inclined towards this woman. As I read about her on her contest page my admiration for her kept growing and growing the more I learned about her character and values. എന്നിരുന്നാലും, it seemed there were a few roadblocks on my newfound journey to love; most noticeably:

• She is Arab and I am white
• I was still in school with no high-paying job or desired degree
• She is five years older than me

Even with these roadblocks ahead of me I knew in my mind I had found the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life. As I obtained a job and grew closer to my graduation date I thought it was an appropriate time to ask for her hand in marriage. അതുകൊണ്ടു, I asked for her father’s contact information and to my relief she gave it to me without hesitation. I was thrilled to be granted an opportunity to ask for her hand in marriage but at the same time I felt a little uneasy about going through the allegedly daunting experience of meeting with an Arab father. I was in a glass case of emotions. എന്നിരുന്നാലും, when the day of the meeting arrived it could not have gone smoother alhamdullilah (praise be to God). Her father told me about how he has four sisters and when they got married they were just concerned about the ദീൻ. Then he began to talk with me and not once did he ask about my ethnic background, എന്റെ ജോലി, my status, my educational background or young age. മാഷാ അല്ലാഹ് (what God wills) all this man wanted was a good Muslim husband for his daughter. Near the end of the talk I said I was appreciative that they did not judge me based on my skin color and the father’s wife looked me in the eyes and said: “This is not Islam.” അള്ളാഹു അക്ബർ (God is Great).

അൽഹംദുല്ലിലാഹ് I have now been engaged to my dream woman for a decent amount of time and we plan to get married soon. Although we have vastly different backgrounds and personality traits we both believe it is the Qadr of Allah (the will of God) that we are soul-mates. We jokingly say we are the perfectly imperfect couple, alhamdullilah. I felt the need to share this to show any single person who may have concerns regarding the possibility of intercultural marriage that despite any differences, whether they may be cultural, ethnic, educational or age, with sincerity and good intentions if you hook up with Allah, Allah will hook you up as Maryam previously explained.”

ശുദ്ധമായ ദാമ്പത്യം

….എവിടെ പ്രാക്ടീസ് പെർഫെക്ട് ആക്കുന്നു

ലേഖനം എഴുതിയത്-Suhaib Webb - പ്യുവർ മാട്രിമോണി നിങ്ങളിലേക്ക് കൊണ്ടുവന്നു- www.purematrimony.com - മുസ്ലീങ്ങളെ പരിശീലിപ്പിക്കുന്നതിനുള്ള ലോകത്തിലെ ഏറ്റവും വലിയ മാട്രിമോണിയൽ സേവനം.

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