Karattru Jiġi L-Ewwel!

Meta tqum il-kwistjoni taż-żwieġ, X'taħseb? Ħallini npoġġiha mod ieħor, X'induna l-ewwel? Tinduna l-ġid tagħhom, in-nisel tagħhom, l-istatus tagħhom, karattru u piet jew sbuħija? Daqstant inkwetanti kif dan huwa għal ħafna mill-għeżież aħwa tagħna, Ħafna Musulmani jħarsu l-ewwel fuq is-sbuħija qabel ma jieħdu deċiżjoni li jimxu 'l quddiem billi jitkellmu mal-prospett potenzjali.

Il-Profeta li għamel wara kollox semma li s-sbuħija hija waħda mill-karatteristiċi li nistgħu niżżewġu għalihom, Flimkien ma 'l-oħrajn li semmejt hawn fuq. Madankollu, Filwaqt li m'hemm xejn ħażin meta tħares lejn is-sbuħija ta 'barra ta' xi ħadd, Is-sbuħija vera hija dik li ma tistax tara - il-karattru u r-ruħ tagħhom.

Il-Profeta SAW qal:

“Kull min jiġi għandek u int kuntent bid-deen u l-karattru tagħhom (Khuluq) jiżżewġu magħhom! Jekk m'għandekx, Se jkun hemm korruzzjoni u ħsara kbira fid-dinja.”

Rakkontat minn at-Tirmidhee f '"Nikaah", (#1085), a Hasan hadith.

So what was the hikmah behind this hadeeth? The truth is that our beloved Prophet SAW is advising us that before we look at anything else, we should always look at a person’s character AND deen together. A person who has a wonderful character and is pious, but is rejected on these things simply means that you are setting yourself up for long-term disappointment and fitnah.

How many times have you met brothers or sisters who married for beauty and nothing else but then were severely let down and hurt afterwards? All the beauty in the world can’t serve or help you in the slightest in the akhirah, unless it’s matched by deen and character. Glorja lil Alla, so many lives have been ruined and so many people have been hurt as a result of bad decisions they made when choosing a spouse. Everyone wants their spouse to be attractive, but the truth is that if they don’t have a good character and or have the deen in them, then they are of little use to you in this life or the next.

Glorja lil Alla, there is so much hikmah in this hadeeth – it is immeasurable. Let me draw your attention to another hadith also:

An-Nawwas ibn Sam’an said, “I asked the Messenger of Allah, Allah ibierku u jagħtih il-paċi, about piety and wrong action. Hu qal, ‘Piety is good character and wrong action is what is hatched up in your self and you do not want other people to know about.” [Musulman]

Allah l-iktar għoli jagħmel distinzjoni ċara f'din il-hadith dwar il-piety li ġej minn karattru tajjeb u karattru ħażin huwa dak li trid taħbi minn oħrajn għax int mistħija minnha.

Il-verità hi li taċċetta nies b'karattru tajjeb ifisser li qed taċċetta d-difetti tagħhom u l-ħsarat tagħhom u tiskużahom. Kif se jinbidlu n-nies u jkunu Musulmani aħjar jekk jiġu aċċettati fl-istat attwali li jinsabu fihom?

F'hadith ieħor:

Abu'd-Darda’ irrapporta li l-Messenger ta 'Allah, Allah ibierku u jagħtih il-paċi, qal, “M’hemm xejn itqal fil-bilanċ ta ’min jemmen fil-jum li jogħla milli karattru tajjeb. Allah ma jħobbx il-lingwa mniġġsa.” [at-Tirmidhi]

Mhux dak li lkoll irridu? Dakinhar tal-kalkolu, Kull persuna waħda tkun iddisprat bit-tama li l-għemejjel tajbin tagħhom jiżnu tqal fl-iskali. Tiżżewweġ persuna ta 'piety u karattru tajjeb se jgħinek tkun persuna aħjar u tgħin lill-iskala tiegħek tkun tqila b'atti tajbin fl-akhirah.

Fl-aħħar, Għandek bżonn tifhem u tirrealizza li s-sbuħija tinxef u tmut u l-ebda garanzija li persuna tittrattak sew. Il-ġid jiġi u jmur. In-nisel u l-istatus ma jfissru xejn jekk m'intix persuna tajba. L-unika ħaġa li tieħu miegħek meta tmut hija l-għemejjel tajbin tiegħek u kull ħaġa oħra titħalla warajha.

Allura l-ħin li jmiss persuna tajba tiġi għandek titlob idek fiż-żwieġ, Aħseb bir-reqqa qabel ma tgħid le - jista 'jkun li tbiddel xi ħaġa li fiha Allah SWT poġġa ħafna tjubija għalik.

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