စာရေးသူ: Zaima Khaliq
မိန်းမကို လူ၏နံရိုးမှ ဖန်ဆင်းသည်။. သူ့ခေါင်းကနေ သူ့အပေါ်ကနေ ဖန်ဆင်းထားတာမဟုတ်ဘူး။, ခြေမနင်းရ။. She was made from his side to be close to him, from beneath his arm to be protected by him, and near his heart to be loved by him.
The rib cage has been specially crafted by Allah SWT to encase and enclose the heart, and its surrounding structures. The curved and crooked rib, is perfectly formed to serve its enshrouding function. And just like the ribs protect the heart, women were created to protect and safeguard man.
တမန်တော်မြတ် (လွှများ) ဟုဆိုသည်။, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbour. And I advise you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; ဖြောင့်အောင်ကြိုးစားရင်, it will break, ထားခဲ့လျှင်, ကောက်နေလိမ့်မယ်။, so I urge you to take care of the women.”
The comparison drawn between woman and the rib, is a beautiful reminder that women, are created imperfect. We have our off days, our emotions are fervent and sometimes, the pressures of daily life can get on top of us. But this is all part of our nature, and we are created perfectly to fulfil our primary role as care giver. Our emotions help us to be better wives, better mothers and to be compassionate when tolerance is running thin.
As a husband, it’s important to remember that your wife will not be exactly the way you want her to be. She has her own method of doing things, her own techniques and quirks, and these may not always coincide with your preferred ways. But rest assured, she is perfectly suited for her function, and for you, her chosen companion.
The beloved Prophet SAW, advises not to try and fix these 'faults' in your wife, nor change her disposition, but to leave her as she is and accept that the female nature is comprised of many attributes, most of which are significantly different from the genetic make-up of man. This does not mean, that one is superior above the other, but that, just like the rib, men and women are too created in perfect adherence to their purpose. Neither man nor women is complete without the other, they both have a need for each another, like two sides of the perfect coin. For where one is weak the other is strong.
The Prophet SAW described women beautifully, as delicate glass vessels, to be handled with love and care. In your hands, know that you have one of the most abundant blessings of Allah SWT, a partner for you to dwell in tranquillity with. And If treated well, your wife will be a source of joy and comfort for you, a form of protection and purity, and a safe haven on this flawed and imperfect world.
ထို့ကြောင့်, be not forceful with your wife. Embrace her differences and know that it is her fluid nature that makes her perfect for her role. မလုပ်ပါနှင့် enforce your will upon her, women respond to kindness and affection, much more readily than harsh words and instructions. Do your very best to ignore her perceived faults, and focus upon and take benefit from her positive qualities, you will find they are present in abundance. အားလုံးထက်, be merciful towards her, for if you try and straighten her, sure enough, just like the rib… သင်သူမကိုချိုးလိမ့်မည်။.
‘Women are like curved ribs because of their emotions, and in any marriage, it’s vital to understand how to manage your emotions to ensure a happier home.
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Beautiful balanced article, abundantly emotionally wise.
I love my family
မင်္ဂလာပါ: i want to draw your attention two words why have you put fault in the quotes of prophet(လွှ) saying its wrong(how you assume it mean fault) and other is use of imperfect in first paragraph.
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmathullahi wa barakathuhu,
The word ‘fault’ is put in single Quotation marks. Its not the quoting the prophet. ဒီမှာ, the quotation mark indicates that they are not really faults of a woman, as is the common misconception rather, its just the way a woman is created.