Momwe Ndinadzipezera Ndili Mayi

Muyenera kuti munamvapo nthawi zambiri, nawonso: momwe umayi/ubaba/umakolo umasinthira kawonedwe ka moyo wanu, Momwe 'ine' imatembenukira 'ndi' momwe mumayamba kuyang'ana nkhope ya mwana wanu pa chithunzi cha gulu musanadziyang'anire nokha, Momwe Moyo Umakhalira 'Brobercentric' ndipo 'Kumatirira' kumakhala Ntchito Yofunika Kwambiri… Ndine mayi wa awiri, WL, Ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti zonse zitha kukhala zoona. Koma osati ine. Zedi, Mayi Andisintha, koma chifukwa cha chifukwa chopanda chidwi sichimandilola kuiwala ndekha. Wambali ina: Ndikumva ngati ndiyenera kudziwa ndekha ndikakhala mayi.

Kwa nthawi yayitali sindinadziwe zomwe ndikufuna kuchita. Chabwino, Ndinkadziwa kuti ndikufuna kukhala ndi banja, Mwamuna ndi Ana, Koma osati chidziwitso chokhudza zomwe ndingachite m'moyo wanga. Ndikuganiza kuti nthawi ina ndimaganiza kuti kukhala mkazi ndi mayi adzakhala kokwanira, Koma nditangokwatirana ndipo ndinakhala ndi ana anga kuti ndazindikira kuti ndikufuna kwambiri. Sikuti moyo wanga wa banja langa sunali kundilimbikitsa - zinali. Ndipo mwina chifukwa cha izi ndidazindikira kuti nditha kuchita zambiri ndipo ndimafuna kuchita zambiri. Ndinkafuna kulemba, kupanga, kugawana malingaliro anga ndikusinthana malingaliro. Ndinkafuna kuchita zambiri kuti ndikhale.

Zodabwitsa, Nditangopanga 'ife' omwe ndinazindikira kuti ndani '. Mwina zinali chifukwa cha ana anga akazi? Ndimamva kuwauziridwa ndi iwo tsiku lililonse; Ndikumva kuti ndikufuna kukhala wopitilira mummy chifukwa cha iwo; Ndikumva ngati mayi ndi zomwe zimandidziwitsa maloto anga.

ndikudziwa, Ana ndi ntchito zambiri: kuphika, kudyetsa, Kusintha Trpies etc… Koma sindimamva ngati ntchito za amayi a amayi adandiletsa kuchita zinthu zina, china chofunikira kwambiri. Pali masiku, pomwe sindingathe kudikirira kuti agone kuti nditha kukhala ndikulemba, Komano ndi china chake chomwe ananena kapena chomwe chimandipangitsa kuganiza ndikundilimbikitsa kuti ndilembe za chinthu.

Inde, Pali zinthu zina zomwe ndizovuta kuchita ngakhale mayi: Simungathe kupita ku cinema pokhapokha ngati munthu wina amakupatsani, Simungathe kugwiritsa ntchito tsiku latsikulo, Chifukwa ana akutopetsa m'mabwalo, Simungakhale chete pakama theka la tsiku kapena kukhala ndiulesi pamaso pa TV, chifukwa sadzakulolani kuti muchite. Nayi gawo labwino kwambiri: Mukudziwa kuti zinthu zonsezi sizofunikira kwenikweni kapena zoipa kwa inu. Ndipo mumaphunzira zomwe ndizofunikira komanso zabwino kwa inu. Mumaphunzira kuti pali zinthu zina zomwe sizikuwoneka ngati "zosangalatsa" zomwe zingakusangalatseni. Monga kuperekera kusamba mpaka mwana kapena kuwerenga nkhani nthawi yogona…Ndipo mukazindikira kuti mutha kusangalala ndi zinthu zomwe anthu ena angaone kuti otopetsa, mumayamba kudziwa zambiri za zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe sakonda, palokha pazomwe anthu ena amati. Mudzidziwa bwino. Amene akukulira 'Ine'.

Achichepere anga omwe amakhala nthawi zonse amakhala mayi omangidwa kwambiri omwe adadandaula posachedwa pamene mwana wawo wamkazi, tsopano wachinyamata, adakhala usiku umodzi ndi azakhali a makolo ake amzinda wina, kuti popanda iye kunyumba yachulukitsa ndikuchedwa kugwira ntchito ndipo sakanadya chakudya chamadzulo. Mwana wake wamkazi wake sanali komweko ndipo kulanga kwa moyo wake adagwedezeka kwambiri… Chifukwa ana amakupangitsani kuti alangize. Amakupangitsani kuzindikira kufunika kwa nthawi. Kenako ndikosankhidwa kwanu - mutha kunenedwa momwe moyo wa mayi ndi wopusa, Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kosatha komanso momwe mulibe nthawi yopumira - kapena, Mutha kuvomerezana ndi zofunikira za ana a ana ndikuyang'ana zomwe mumachita masana. Ndipo zimangochitika kuti ngati mungasankhe kuwona zinthu zabwino, Adzakhala abwino kwa inu.

Tsopano ndikuchita zinthu zabwino kwambiri kuposa kale m'moyo wanga: Ndikuphunzira kunyumba, kuwerenga kwambiri, Kulemba - zonsezi ndikukhala mayi wanthawi zonse, Kudyetsa Ana Anga Kunyumba Zabwino Kunyumba Kuphatikizapo mkate wophika kunyumba ndikupeza nthawi tsiku lililonse kuti mupange utoto palimodzi ndikuwerenga nkhani imodzi pa nthawi yogona. WL, Ndikuwona kuti nditha kuchita zoposa zomwe ndidakhala nazo, koma ndilibe nthawi yoti ndikwaniritse kapena kuzengereza zinthu. Zinanditengera kanthawi kuti ndikwaniritse, koma pomwe maphunziro onse amafunikira kuti aphunzire ndikuchita nthawi.

Malingaliro anga amtsogolo? Ana ambiri, Inshallah. Chifukwa sindikuganiza kuti ntchito zanga zitha kuchuluka kwambiri, Koma ndimakhulupirira chisangalalo changa komanso chisangalalo cha abale onse azikhala ndi zowonjezera zatsopano. Ndikufuna kulemba bukulo. Ndikuphunzira Chiarabu kuti muwerenge Qur'an ndi kumvetsetsa. Inshallah.

Ukwati Wangwiro

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