Ukwati mu Islam

“Ndipo zina mwa zisonyezo Zake ndi izi, kuti adakulengani akazi ochokera mwa inu nokha, kuti mukhale nawo mwamtendere ndi bata, Ndipo waika pakati panu chikondi ndi chifundo (mitima): Ndithu, m'zimenezo muli zisonyezo kwa olingalira” (Korani 30:21).

“E inu anthu muopeni Mbuye wanu Mtetezi, Yemwe adakulengani kuchokera mwa munthu mmodzi yemwe adalengedwa mofanana ndi Mnzake;, ndi obalalika awa (ngati mbewu) amuna ndi akazi osawerengeka. Muopeni Mulungu Yemwe kudzera mwa lye Mukudzinenera maufulu anu onse awiri” (Korani 4:1).

Ndime za m'Qur'an zomwe zili pamwambazi zikuyika maziko ake, zolinga ndi cholinga cha ukwati mu Chisilamu. Mu Nzeru zomaliza za Allah timauzidwa poyamba kuti onse awiri mwamuna ndi mkazi adalengedwa kuchokera kugwero limodzi. Kuti ichi chikhale tcheru pamene ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zisonyezo Zake.

Mfundo yakuti timachokera ku moyo umodzi imasonyeza kufanana kwathu monga anthu, pamene chiyambi cha chilengedwe chathu chiri chimodzimodzi, mkangano woti ndani ali wabwino kapena wamkulu ndi wosowa. Kutsindika pa mfundo imeneyi ndiyeno kukamba za ukwati mu ndime yomweyi n’kofunika kwambiri kwa ife amene tikuchita uphungu wa ukwati..

Kusintha kwa malingaliro awa akufanana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi monga anthu kumayambitsa kusamvana m'mabanja omwe amatsogolera kubanja losokonekera.. Pamene gulu limodzi limadziona ngati lopambana kapena loposa lamulo pamakhala kusintha kwa mphamvu zomwe zingayambitse kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika mphamvu kapena kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika mphamvu chifukwa mnzake wocheperako amawonedwa ngati wosavuta.. Mavuto ambiri a m'banja amakhazikika kapena amayamba chifukwa cha kulamulira ndi kulamulira.

Pogogomezera za kufanana kwa anthu onse amuna kapena akazi ndi kuwapanga kukhala maziko a ukwati, Allah mu nzeru zake zopanda malire wakhazikitsa malamulo okhazikitsa mtendere, komanso kugaŵira maudindo osiyanasiyana kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi monga njira zogwiritsiridwa ntchito m’malo mokhala nkhani ya luso monga anthu..

Mtumiki Muhammad (mtendere ndi madalitso zikhale pa Iye) wanena kuti: “amuna ndi akazi ndi mapasa awiri a wina ndi mzake” (Bukhari). Hadith iyi ikufotokozanso mfundo yakuti amuna ndi akazi adalengedwa kuchokera ku gwero limodzi. Komanso, Pogwiritsa ntchito fanizo la mapasa awiri, Mtumiki adatsindika za kuyanjana komanso kudalirana kwa ubale wa amuna ndi akazi..

Cholinga ndi cholinga cha ukwati mu Chisilamu malinga ndi ndime ya Qur'an yomwe ili pamwambayi ndikutithandiza kukhala mwamtendere komanso mwabata.. Ndikofunikira kuti tiganizire za mawuwa ndi tanthauzo lake mu Chisilamu chofotokozera.

Kuti mukhale ndi mtendere zinthu zina ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa. Zofunikira za mtendere izi ndi Chilungamo, Chilungamo, Equity, Kufanana, ndi kukwaniritsa maufulu onse awiri. Choncho kusalungama kulikonse kaya ndi kuponderezana, kapena chizunzo, sungalekerere ngati m’nyumba za Asilamu muzikhala mtendere.

M'nyumba zapakhomo kuponderezedwa kumaonekera pamene ndondomeko ya Shura (kukambilana) yasokonezedwa, kunyalanyazidwa kapena kunyalanyazidwa. Pamene bwenzi limodzi (nthawi zambiri mwamuna) amapanga zisankho za mbali imodzi ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito utsogoleri wopondereza, mtendere umasokonekera. Chizunzo chimakhalapo ngati pali mtundu uliwonse wa nkhanza zapakhomo.

Mtendere kumbali ina ndi mkhalidwe umene umapezeka pamene mtendere wakhazikitsidwa. Kukhazikika kumasokonekera pakakhala zovuta, nkhawa ndi mkwiyo. Ndi kulakwa kutenga bata kutanthauza chimwemwe chosatha. Popeza kukhala Asilamu sikumatiteteza ku masoka ndi masoka.

Ndipotu Allah akutiuza mu Quran kuti tidzayesedwa (2:155,57). Chimene chikhalidwe cha bata chimachita ndikutipatsa mphamvu kuti tithe kuthana ndi zovuta za moyo ndi okwatirana athu monga atumiki omvera a Allah.. Allah mu Chifundo Chake chopanda malire amatipatsanso zida zomwe tingathe kukwaniritsa mkhalidwe wamtendere ndi bata..

Mfundo yachiwiri pambali pa Shura yomwe moyo wabanja lachisilamu wakhazikikapo ndi Chifundo (Rehma), Ndipo m’ndime iyi Mulungu akutiuza kuti waika chifundo pakati pa akazi. Chotero, mwachibadwa timafuna kuchitira chifundo mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu. Chifundo chimaonekera mwa chifundo, chikhululukiro, kusamala ndi kudzichepetsa.

Zikuwonekeratu kuti zonsezi ndizinthu zomwe zimapanga mgwirizano wopambana. Ukwati mu Chisilamu uli pamwamba pa zonse mgwirizano wozikidwa pa kufanana kwa okondedwa ndi kulongosola maudindo. Kupanda chifundo m’banja kapena m’banja kumapangitsa kuti m’mawu achisilamu musakhale bwino.

Allah akunenanso kuti waonjezeranso chifundo, chikondi pakati pa okwatirana. Komabe, ziyenera kudziwidwa kuti lingaliro lachisilamu la chikondi ndi losiyana ndi chikondi chomwe anthu ambiri amachidziwa m'madera akumadzulo..

Kusiyana kwakukulu ndikuti chikondi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi m'chisilamu chimatha kuzindikirika ndikuwonetseredwa muukwati wovomerezeka. Pofuna kukulitsa njira yabwino yosonyezera chikondi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi kupereka chitetezo kotero kuti unansi wachikondi woterowo ukule bwino., nkofunika kuipereka chitetezo cha Shariya (Malamulo achisilamu).

Chikondi cha m'banja mu Islam chimalimbikitsa zotsatirazi:

Chikhulupiriro: Chikondi chimene akazi achisilamu ali nacho kwa wina ndi mzake ndi chifukwa cha Allah ndiko kupeza chisangalalo Chake. Ndikuchokera kwa Mulungu kuti tikumanena ufulu wathu (Korani 4:1) Ndipo kwa Mulungu ndife owerengera zochita zathu monga amuna ndi akazi.

Imachirikiza: Chikondi si kudya koma kuchilikiza. Allah akuonetsa chikondi chake pa ife potipatsa chakudya. Kukonda mu Islam ndiko kusunga wokondedwa wathu mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro, muuzimu ndi mwaluntha, momwe tingathere (kusamalira chuma ndi udindo wa mwamuna, komabe mkazi akafuna atha kuperekanso)

Amavomereza: Kukonda wina ndiko kumvomereza monga momwe alili. Ndi kudzikonda kuyesa kuumba munthu mmene timafunira kuti akhale. Chikondi chenicheni sichiyesa kuthetsa mikangano kapena kuthetsa mikangano, koma ndi wamkulu komanso wotetezeka kuti athetse kusiyana.

Zovuta: Chikondi chimatikakamiza kuchita zonse zomwe tingathe, zimatilimbikitsa kutengera luso lathu ndikunyadira zomwe tachita. Kupangitsa okondedwa athu kuzindikira zomwe angakwanitse ndizochitika zopindulitsa kwambiri.

Wachifundo: Chifundo chimatikakamiza kuti tizikondana ndipo chikondi chimatikakamiza kuchitira chifundo. M'Chisilamu ziwirizi ndi zofanana. Khalidwe lomwe Allah adasankha kuti likhale lopambana kwa Iye yekha ndilokuti lye Ngwachifundo chambiri. Khalidwe ili la Rehman (Wachifundo Chambiri) amatchulidwa 170 nthawi mu Quran, kubweretsa kunyumba kufunikira kwa okhulupirira kukhala achifundo. Chifundo pochita zinthu chimatanthawuza kukhala ndi chifundo ndi chifundo.

Kukhululuka: Chikondi sichinyadira kwambiri moti n’kulephera kupempha chikhululukiro kapena kukhala wosaumira moti n’kulephera kukhululuka. Ndiwokonzeka kusiya zopweteka ndi zokhumudwitsa. Kukhululukidwa kumatipatsa mwayi wokonza ndi kukonza tokha.

Ulemu: Kukonda ndiko kulemekeza ndi kulemekeza munthu zomwe amapereka ndi malingaliro ake. Ulemu sutilola kunyalanyaza okondedwa athu kapena kunyalanyaza malingaliro awo. Mmene timachitira zinthu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu zimasonyeza kuti timawalemekeza kapena ayi.

Chinsinsi: Kukhulupirirana ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri pa chikondi. Anthu akamakhulupirirana mwachinyengo ndipo chinsinsi chimasokonekera, chikondi chimataya moyo wake.

Kusamala: Chikondi chimalimbikitsa chikondi chozama chimene chimachititsa kuti tizisamala ndi kuchita nawo zonse zimene timachita. Zofuna za okondedwa athu zimayamba kuposa zathu.

Kukoma mtima: The Seerah (mbiri ya moyo) Mneneri wathu wokondedwa ali wolemera ndi zitsanzo za chifundo, adawonetsa banja lake makamaka akazi ake. Ngakhale pamene kuleza mtima kwake kunayesedwa, sanali wosakoma mtima m’mawu kapena m’zochita. Kukonda ndiko kukhala wokoma mtima.

Amakula: Chikondi cha m'banja sichikhazikika koma chimakula ndikukula tsiku lililonse la moyo wa m'banja. Zimafuna ntchito ndi kudzipereka, ndipo timadyetsedwa kudzera mu chikhulupiriro tikamathokoza ndi kuyamikira madalitso a Allah.

Zimawonjezera: Chikondi chimakulitsa chithunzi chathu ndikukongoletsa dziko lathu lapansi. Zimapereka chitetezo m'maganizo ndi thanzi labwino.

Kusadzikonda: Chikondi chimapereka mopanda malire ndipo chimateteza mosavomerezeka.

Zoona: Chikondi ndi kukhulupirika popanda nkhanza ndi kukhulupirika popanda kunyengerera.

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