Ukwati: Lamulo, Mzimu & Tanthauzo

Qur’an ikuti: Ndipo zina mwa zisonyezo Zake (Zosonyeza kuonongeka) ndikukulengerani akazi (akazi) Kuchokera mwa inu nokha kuti mukhazikike mwa iwo, Ndipo adaika chikondi Ndi chikondi pakati panu. M’zimenezi muli zisonyezo kwa anthu olingalira. [30:21]

Hadith imodzi ikunena: “Ukwati ndi chitsogozo changa; amene amachita zosemphana ndi malangizo anga sali mwa ine. Choncho kukwatira, kuti ndichulukitse mitundu ina mwa inu. Akwatire amene ali ndi chuma mwa inu. Ngati sangathe, msiyeni asale, pakuti kusala kudya ndi chikopa.¹

Qur’an ikuti: Ndipo zina mwa zisonyezo Zake (Zosonyeza kuonongeka) ndikukulengerani akazi (akazi) Kuchokera mwa inu nokha kuti mukhazikike mwa iwo, Ndipo adaika chikondi Ndi chikondi pakati panu. M’zimenezi muli zisonyezo kwa anthu olingalira. [30:21]

Ukwati, moyo wogawana wa mwamuna ndi mkazi, chikuyamikiridwa m’Chibvumbulutso kukhala cholemekezeka. Inali njira ya aneneri a Mulungu, kupatulapo Yesu, mwana wa Mariya, mtendere ukhale pa iye. Tidatumiza Atumiki patsogolo pako, ikutero Qur’an, ndipo adawaikira akazi ndi ana. [13:38] Pano, mu Hadith yomwe ili pamwambayi, tikumuona Mneneri, mtendere ukhale pa iye, kukongoletsa makonzedwe a ukwati ndi mawu ake.

Poganizira za mphamvu ndi kufunika kwa ukwati, isalowedwe mopupuluma kapena mopanda nzeru. Koma m'malo mwake, mwaulemu, mwaulemu ndi mwanzeru ndi ndi chikhulupiriro mwa Mulungu. Zomwe zimayambitsa ukwati ziyenera kuganiziridwa musanayambe kufunafuna chibwenzi.

M'mabuku ovomerezeka a Chisilamu zifukwa zomwe ukwati udakhazikitsidwa zimanenedwa kukhala:

Choyamba, kuti chibadwa chachibadwa cha chikondi ndi unansi wobzalidwa ndi Mulungu akhoza kupatsidwa mawu odala.

Kachiwiri, kuti kukula kwa anthu, ndi kuti ana akuleredwe m’chikumbukiro cha Mulungu ndi kumthokoza kolemekezeka.

Chachitatu, kuti apindule ndi anthu onse: pakuti banja ndilo maziko a anthu achilungamo ndi osamala; ndi malo amene chikondi, ntchito, kudzipereka, chithandizo ndi kudzipereka kumakumana ndi kuphunzira koyamba.²

Kuzitchula m'chinenero cha akatswiri anthropologists, ntchito ya ukwati ndi kuonetsetsa: kuberekana kwamagulu, kuyanjana kwa ana ndi kupititsa patsogolo chikhalidwe cha anthu.³

Kugonana kunja kwa banja (zina) chikuwoneka mu Chisilamu ngati chimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa kusokonekera kwa anthu, kupewedwa pa mtengo uliwonse. Chigololo ndi dama, onse awiri pansi pa zina, kutsutsana mwachindunji ndi ukwati. Pamenepo, Lamulo lachisilamu mwachidziwitso limakhazikitsa zolimbana ndi zina kudzera muukwati, monga momwe zingamvekere mu hadith yomwe ili pamwambayi. Izi zikufotokozera mfundo za malamulo zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ukwati ukhale wovomerezeka kwa iwo omwe zilakolako zawo zakugonana zili zosalamulirika kapena pafupifupi kutero.. Kulephera kukwatira, zikatero, zimanenedwa kuti zimabweretsa uchimo (ithm), kuti alangidwe mu Ukatha Wakufa. Kwa iwo omwe ali ndi "avareji" yogonana ndi omwe amatha kusunga chilakolako chawo, ukwati umachitika kuti uvomerezedwe. Omwe alibe chikhumbo chokwatira kapena osafuna kugonana - mwina chifukwa cha ukalamba, kudwala, kapena chifukwa china chilichonse - oweruza ena amawonabe kuti ukwati ndi wovomerezeka; ena ankati sichikondedwa (zonyansa), makamaka ngati ziwachotsa ku zomwe zili zopindulitsa kwambiri pakupeza chidziwitso chachipembedzo kapena kukhala otanganidwa ndi kulambira kopembedza..⁴

Zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimapezeka m'malamulo ovomerezeka paukwati zimawonetsa chidwi pa kusiyana kwa anthu pankhaniyi. Koma zigamulo zosiyana zofananira ndi kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe cha anthu zimapangidwira kutumikira m'modzi, cholinga chachikulu: mgwirizano wapagulu.⁵

1. Ibn Majah |, Dzina, nambala 1836. Hadith ndi hasan, monga mwa al-Albani, Silsilat al-Ahadith al-Sahihah (Riyadh: Maktabah al-Ma'arif, 1991), nambala 2383.

2. cf. Ibn Qudamah, al-Mughni (Riyadh: Dar ‘Alam al-Kutub, 2007), 9:343.

3. Scruton, Zotsutsana za Conservatism (London: Kupitiliza, 2006), 95.

4. Mwaona: al-Mughni, 9:341-44.

5. Funsani: Halaq, Shariya: Chiphunzitso, Yesetsani, Kusintha (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2009), 272.

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