Gawani Izi
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Wolemba Rasha Dewedar
Wolemba pawokha
Sabata yatha ndidawerenga nyuzipepala ya mkazi waku Egypt pomwe adanena izi pambuyo pake 18 Kwa zaka zambiri zaukwati anazindikira kuti ukwati ulibe mtundu, zosakoma, zotopetsa ndi zotopetsa!
Pamene ndinadutsa tsatanetsatane wa nkhaniyi, Ndinapeza kuti mkazi ameneyu samenyedwa kapena kuzunzidwa ndi mwamuna wake; wangotopa ndi moyo woterewu wotsatizana ndi mkhalidwe woipa wa mdera lake.
Lingaliro ili linafanana ndi anzanga osakwatiwa’ yang'anani ukwati ngati njira ndi moyo.
Nkhani ya ku Aigupto ndi yovuta mbali imodzi; akazi ena osakwatiwa amafunitsitsa kukwatiwa ndipo amagogoda khomo lililonse kuti apeze mkwati. Mbali inayi, akazi makamaka pakati ndi apamwamba socioeconomic makalasi, ganizirani ukwati ngati mgwirizano wopanda chilungamo.
Koma ndi zifukwa ziti zomwe akazi amapeza kuti azikhala osakwatiwa?
Sindinadziganizirepo ndekha ndikudzuka tsiku lililonse kuntchito zosatha izi, popanda kuyamikira pobwezera.
Kwenikweni, nkhani ya ntchito’ kugawana pamwamba mndandanda wa chifukwa akazi osasangalala, ndi chifukwa chake akazi osakwatiwa amalungamitsa kukana lingaliro la ukwati.
Zinthu zingapo zidapangitsa vutoli kuyandama pamwamba pomwe panalibe m'mibadwo yam'mbuyomu.
Kupsyinjika komwe kumakhalapo pofunafuna ntchito, kuwonjezera pa kukhala ndi ntchito yanthawi zonse yokhala ndi maola ambiri odzipereka, zonsezi zimapangitsa amuna ambiri kuganiza: “Chabwino, muyenera kundiyamikira, Ndine wopambana mkate, ndipo mukulera ana basi!”
Kusafotokoza bwino lomwe udindo wa mwamuna ndi ntchito ya mkazi kumakulitsa vutolo ndikulamula kuti okwatirana azigwirizana ndi kumvetsetsana..
Banja lachipambano limadalira okwatirana kupatsa ana awo mphatso imene onse ayenera kugwirirapo ntchito m’malo mwa katundu amene akufuna kuthawa., kuyesera kuti zinthu ziyende bwino, ndi kuthandizana wina ndi mzake kudutsa ndi kuthana ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana.
Sindikufuna kuti wina azilamulira moyo wanga ndikundiuza choti ndichite
Si zachilendo kupeza amuna otsimikiza kuti mwamuna ndiye yekha m’banja amene angasankhe zochita., nthawi zonse khalani ndi chidziwitso ndi chidziwitso komanso malingaliro ochulukirapo!
Zoona zake n’zakuti akazi nthawi zina amakhala ophunzira kwambiri kuposa amuna, wodziwa zambiri, ndi kudziwa zomwe zili zabwino kwa banja, chimene sichikuzindikirika nkomwe kapena kulandiridwa ndi amuna ena.
Mayi wosakwatiwa amene wakhala wosakwatiwa kwa nthawi yaitali wakhala akudziimira payekha kumene amayendetsa ntchito zake, kutenga zisankho zake, komanso thandizani ena akafuna.
Amuna m'dera lino ladziko lapansi ayenera kuona akazi ngati anthu ochita bwino komanso odziimira okha. Lingaliro ili lidzakhudza kwambiri mgwirizano wawo.
Ndazolowera kukhala ndekha mpaka kalekale 30 zaka; ndizovuta kusintha tsopano
Kukhala pamwamba 30 zikutanthauza zambiri; zikutanthauza kuti mwakhala mukugwira ntchito kwa zaka zingapo, mwina mu ntchito zosiyanasiyana, ndipo akhoza kukhala mu ntchito zosiyanasiyana, ndipo mwaphunzira zambiri, chidaliro, ndi kudziimira.
Kuganiza zogawana moyo wanu ndi munthu wina yemwe mwina ali ndi mbiri yosiyana, zochitika, ndipo kumvetsetsa nthawi zina kumakhala kowopsa.
Azimayi ambiri amaopa kuti sangathe kupirira akazi awo pambuyo poti zokumana nazo zawo zasintha umunthu wawo.
Kodi amuna awo angagwirizane bwanji ndi moyo wawo atazolowera kupanga zosankha zawo, kuthetsa mavuto awo, kuti azipeza ndalama, ndi kulamulira moyo wawo pafupifupi mbali zonse!
Ndimakonda ntchito yanga ndipo sindidzaika ntchito yanga pachiwopsezo
M’dera la Aigupto mkazi amalemekezedwa kwambiri chifukwa chogwira ntchito ndi kusamalira banja.
Okwatirana ena angagwirizane ndi lingaliro wamba la ntchito, koma osagwirizana pankhani zatsatanetsatane.
Ngakhale mkazi wogwira ntchito akhoza kupitiriza kugwira ntchito pambuyo pa ukwati; komabe, mwina sangathe kuchita bwino pantchito yake.
N’zosachita kufunsa kuti ntchito simangopita ku ofesi basi. Ntchito zambiri zimaphatikizapo maphunziro, maulendo a bizinesi, popita nthawi, ndi zina…
Mfundo zowonjezera zimenezi kaŵirikaŵiri sizilandiridwa ndi amuna ambiri makamaka pamene amuna awo eniwo ali ndi ntchito zawozawo zowonjezera.
Azimayi ambiri ogwira ntchito mwakhama sangavomereze kuika ntchito yawo pachiswe mpaka ataona mmene amuna awo amaonera zimene ntchito yawo imafuna..
Kukhala mbeta kuli bwino kuposa kungokwatiwa ndi ‘aliyense’
Anthu ena amaona kuti akazi amene ali ndi zaka zinazake amangofuna kukwatiwa, choncho amangowauza kuti angolandira azikwati amene sakanawalola atakhala aang’ono..
Mkhalidwe umenewu kaŵirikaŵiri umakhala ndi chiyambukiro choipa chachindunji chimene akazi okulirapowo amapeŵa zochitika za ukwati wolinganizidwa ndipo nthaŵi zina amaipidwa ndi nkhani yonse ya ukwati..
Anzanga ambiri apabanja anasudzulana ndipo ndikuwopa kuchita zimenezi
Ziŵerengero za chisudzulo ziridi zowopsa kwa okwatirana limodzi ndi amuna kapena akazi osakwatira.
Azimayi ena amaganiza kuti kuli bwino kukhala osakwatiwa kusiyana ndi kuvutika ndi chisudzulo makamaka ali ndi ana.
Ndilibe nthawi kapena mphamvu zolera ana, ndipo ndimadziimba mlandu ngati sindinawasamalire bwino
Chifukwa china ndi kuchuluka kwa zofuna za ana m'dziko lino lomwe likusintha mosalekeza, zomwe zimapatsa amuna ndi akazi udindo wochulukirapo komanso zimawapangitsa kukhala opsinjika kwambiri kuposa kale.
Mwanjira ina, makolo amapatsa ana awo moyo wapamwamba ndi zosangalatsa zambiri, zidole, ndi zida, zomwe sizili zokwanira kwa mbadwo watsopano wovutawu.
Pakufunikanso khama kuti apewe zoopsa zomwe zingachitike, zomwe zimayamba ndi zakudya zopanda thanzi zomwe zimatha ndi kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo..
Chomaliza koma osati chosafunikira, kuopa kukhala ndi moyo wodekha wopanda mtundu, monga nthano ya mkazi ndinayamba nayo nkhaniyi.
Malinga ndi owerenga ena, zifukwa izi zingamveke zosakwanira kukhala mbeta; komabe, sitingakane kuti ili ndi tanthauzo lofunika kwambiri.
Zimasonyeza mmene achibale, amene ankaganiza ngati gawo limodzi ndikugwira ntchito yosamalira banja lonse, tsopano akuganiza paokha.
Ndi zowopsa kwa amuna ndi akazi, wosakwatiwa kapena wokwatiwa, kuti abwererenso kumalingaliro awo, osati za ntchito zawo m’banja lokha, koma za udindo wawo wosunga banja ili bwino ndi losangalala.
Mulungu asangalale nawo
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Nkhaniyi ndi zinyalala, ndikuwonetsa zonse zomwe zili zolakwika ndi ena 'amakono’ akazi osakwatiwa achisilamu amasiku ano. Ndi chifukwa chosowa chidziwitso cha Chisilamu ndi kumvetsetsa komwe anthu amawona kapena kukhala ndi ukwati molakwika.
Wolembayo akutero “Kusafotokoza bwino lomwe udindo wa mwamuna ndi ntchito ya mkazi kumakulitsa vutolo ndikulamula kuti okwatirana azigwirizana ndi kumvetsetsana.”
Ngati muwerenga ndikumvetsetsa Quran ndi Sunnah moyenera, maudindo amafotokozedwa momveka bwino. Ndipo izo zimapita kwa amuna, amuna ambiri achisilamu ndi olakwa posamvetsetsa udindo wawo monga mwamuna wachisilamu moyenera. Amayi achisilamu ayenera kuyesetsa kupeza bwenzi labwino, osagwiritsa ntchito zifukwa ngati
“Ndimakonda ntchito yanga ndipo sindidzaika ntchito yanga pachiwopsezo”
“Anzanga ambiri apabanja anasudzulana ndipo ndikuwopa kuchita zimenezi”
“Ndilibe nthawi kapena mphamvu zolera ana, ndipo ndimadziimba mlandu ngati sindinawasamalire bwino”
…ndipo mndandanda wa zifukwa zochokera kwa shaytan ukupitirira. Satana akufuna kuononga banja, ndipo poletsa anthu kukwatirana poyamba wapambana kale theka la nkhondoyo.
“Ndipo zina mwa zisonyezo Zake ndi izi, kuti adakulengerani akazi mwa inu nokha kuti mukhale mwamtendere. Ndipo adaika chikondi ndi chifundo pakati pa mitima yanu.: Ndithu, m'zimenezo muli zisonyezo kwa olingalira.” (Surah Al Rum 30:21)
Mtumiki sallallahu alaihe wasallam watero, “Ukwati ndi maziko a madalitso ndipo ana ndi chifundo chochuluka.”
Mtumiki sallallahu alaihe wasallam adalamula, “Khalani okwatiwa ndikukulitsa mzere wa banja lanu. Kudzera mwa inu ndidzakhala ndi chifukwa chonyadira ma Ummat ena onse (otsatira). Ngakhale zikhoza kuchitika chifukwa cha kupita padera kapena chifukwa cha kubadwa msanga.
Wokondedwa Rasha Dewedar, chonde bwererani kwa Allah Subhanuta’ala ndi Mtumiki Wake Muhammad Swallallahu Alaihe Wasallam. Bwererani ku Quran ndi Sunnah ndipo ikani chidaliro chanu mwa Allah Azawajal. Chotsani malingaliro awa kwa satana pakukhala mbeta ndi kunyada, ndi kusiya kufalitsa malingaliro oipa ochokera ku feminism omwe akufuna kuwononga Chisilamu ndi dziko lanu la Egpyt.
Ayi ndiyenera kunena, Ndimagwirizana ndi Omar ndipo zomwe akunena ndizomwe ndimaganiza nditawerenga nkhaniyi koyamba. Zopanda pake.
mashallah kubwereza kwabwino. Ndinaganiza chimodzimodzi
Ndipo kumbukani kuti shaytan nayenso adakunong'oneza mu mtima kuti muitenge moyipitsa nkhaniyi. Nkhaniyi siikanakhalapo popanda chifuniro Chake. Basi redha ndi kulemekeza ena amaona. Palibe angaweruze ena koma Iye.
Korani 49:11
“E inu amene mwakhulupirira!, Anthu asatonze [wina] anthu; mwina Angakhale abwino kuposa iwo; ndiponso akazi asanyoze [zina] akazi; mwina Angakhale abwino kuposa iwo. Ndipo musanyozane, ndipo musaitane wina ndi mnzake [zokhumudwitsa] mayina aulemu. Ndiloipa dzina la kusamvera pambuyo pake [yomwe] chikhulupiriro. Ndipo amene salapa – Kenako iwo ndi ochita zoipa.”
Wokongola, yankho lomveka komanso lokwanira. Chifundo ndi madalitso osatha za Allah zikhale pa inu ndi Asilamu amene mukuwakonda. Uzimayi sikutanthauza kufanana ndikukhala wapamwamba kuposa amuna ndikuwononga maudindo omwe Chisilamu chafotokoza.; zake za kukonda chuma ndikuwapangitsa akazi kukhala odzikonda kuti apeze zomwe akufuna ngakhale zitafunika kuwononga miyambo ndi kusakondweretsa Allah SWT.. Ndikunena kuti adzikumbire manda awo, tsiku lina adzakalamba ndipo adzakhumba chikondi, ubwezi ndi chikondi pomwe sadzapeza chifukwa cha moyo waukazi UMODZI womwe adasankha. Satana akhale bwenzi lawo, ndipo tsiku lina Malik Ul Maut adzakhala pakhomo pawo ndipo zonse zidzakhala zopanda pake ndipo adzakhala odandaula..
Uwu Omar, sakuyesa kukakamiza akazi kukumbatira mfundo zachikazi kapena kutsimikizira akazi kukhala osakwatiwa ndi onyada. Amangonena zenizeni - azimayi ambiri ayamba kuwona ukwati kukhala wopanda malire komanso wopanda mphotho yomwe umakhala nawo.. Akupereka vuto lachitukuko lomwe lilipo ndikuyembekeza mwina kulimbikitsa kukambirana pankhaniyi, ndipo mukufuna kumuphunzitsa momwe ukwati wa Chisilamu uyenera kukhalira? Ngati maukwatiwa akadakhala momwe amayenera kukhalira mwachisilamu, ndiye mwina sipangakhale vuto - ndikulondola? Zifukwa zomwe amayi amagwiritsa ntchito ndi chizindikiro chabe cha vuto lomwe anthu ochepa amangonena. Kugwira mawu Quran pofuna kuthetsa mkangano wake sikusintha zenizeni za vuto lomwe akufuna kufotokoza..
Gwirizanani – ngakhale kunena chilungamo kutayika kwa masanjidwe a nkhaniyo mwina sikunathandize. Werenganinso, koma powerengera, kutulutsa kapena kupanga ngati 'maudindo agawo’ nkhawa iliyonse inanena, ndiye ziyenera kuonekeratu kuti nkhaniyi ikungofotokoza nkhawa zomwe zanenedwa za akazi osakwatiwa ndikuwonetsa vuto lomwe izi zitha kuyambitsa ukwati..
Ndiye n’chifukwa chiyani mutu wakuti ‘Single and Proud’? Kachiwiri ali ndi mkangano wotani? Walemba momveka bwino zifukwa zake zosafuna kukwatira, ndipo ndikunena kuti ndizosavomerezeka chifukwa zimachokera ku mantha kapena kulephera, maganizo oipa omwe nthawi zambiri amachokera kwa satana. Ayenera kusintha maganizo ake oipa ndi kuika chikhulupiriro chake chonse mwa Allah Azawajal. Ngati alibe chikhulupiriro kapena kumvetsetsa za Chisilamu, sayenera kuloledwa kuti nkhani yake ifalitsidwe patsamba lachisilamu. Nkhaniyi idasindikizidwanso pagulu lalikulu la Asilamu pa Facebook. Kodi mungaganizire kuchuluka kwa Fitna komwe kungachitike ngati Asilamu ambiri atasankha kuti sakufunanso kukwatira chifukwa cha zifukwa zomwe wolemba adagwiritsa ntchito.? Choncho anthu ayenera kungosiya ukwati chifukwa amakonda ‘ntchito yawo’ zopitilira muyeso? Mulungu atiteteze.
Mavuto a anthu aku Egypt alipo, ndikuvomereza, koma zoona zake n’zakuti unyinji wa okwatirana m’chitaganya cha Aigupto ali ndi moyo waukwati wabwino. Akhoza kukhala ndi zowona, koma njira yowonetsera ndiyowopsa. Ndimayimilirabe ndi lingaliro langa lakuti kufuna kukhala wosakwatiwa mwa kusankha sikuli kwachisilamu ndipo nthawi zambiri kumakhala kofala m'magulu omwe si achisilamu omwe agwa ndi zoipa za malingaliro a akazi..
Ndiye kodi zonsezi 'zosankha mwa kusankha’ akazi amachita pamene zilakolako zawo zachibadwa zakugonana zimawafikira? Potsirizira pake zimabweretsa ziphuphu ndi chiwonongeko cha anthu. Yang'anani akazi akuthengo ndi omasuka a magulu omwe si a Chisilamu. Amawatcha omasulidwa. Ndithudi, awa ndi anthu oipa a zihana.
Allah Subhanahu wata’ala anatipatsa chitsanzo chabwino ndi dongosolo. Ndi kusiya kwa anthu komwe kumabweretsa mavuto awa.
Omar,
Sindikuganiza kuti wolembayo akulankhula za iyemwini, wati izi ndi zina mwazifukwa zomwe ena mwa anzake osakwatiwa amanena kuti akukhalabe mbeta. Sindikuganiza kuti mungavomereze kuti zina mwa izi ndi zifukwa zomveka, monga “Ndimakonda kukhala wosakwatiwa kusiyana ndi kukwatiwa ndi aliyense chifukwa chakuti ndadutsa zaka zinazake” pamene ena amaoneka ngati osafuna kukwatira kapena kukwatiwa chifukwa chowononga ntchito.
Kuchokera pazomwe ndawerenga iyi si nkhani yotsutsa ukwati, ndi kuyesa kosangalatsa kukambirana nkhani yomwe ikukumana ndi magulu ambiri achisilamu, ndiko kukwatiwa pa msinkhu wamtsogolo.
Tisakane anthu chifukwa chofuna kukambirana nkhani zomwe Asilamu ambiri akukumana nazo. Ndikuvomereza kuti mutuwu ndi wokopa pang'ono kuti ukope chidwi choyambirira koma nkhaniyo ndiyofuna kuwunikira nkhani yosangalatsa..
Ndikuganiza za mkazi kapena mwamuna wosakwatiwa pankhaniyi, ngati safuna kukwatiwa…mwina chifukwa theka lawo lina silinawapezebe. Ndizosavuta.
Ngati akufuna wina, iwo ayenera kuchita kwa ALLAH. InsyaAllah. Ngati achita kapena sachita doa osakwatira m'dziko lino, m'moyo wapambuyo pake, ndithu InsyaAllah ubwino wake umaposa chisangalalo chomwe aliyense ali nacho pa dziko lapansi. Tiyeni tichite, tonse timafika ku Jannah ndi okondedwa athu.
Kwa amayi/amuna amene akhuta mbanja, inde.. shaytan amanong'oneza m'mitima ya maanja kuti apange mikangano yaing'ono, kupangitsa aliyense kukhala wosasangalala, kuwononga nyumba. Ndizosadabwitsa kuwona zisudzulo zambiri ndikusweka mabanja moyenera? Satana ndi mdani wathu tonse. Tiyenera kukumbukira zimenezo.
Nthawi zina ppl satha kupeza njira yomvetsetsana. Palibe yemwe ali wofanana ndi munthu wina, ndipo palibe amene ali theka kupeza theka lina… Kuti mukwatire muyenera kudziwa ndikumvetsetsa kuti maubwenzi amtundu uliwonse amakhala ndi zokwera ndi zotsika.
Nthawi zina kupsinjika maganizo kumathetsa kukoma mtima kwamtundu uliwonse kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi. Pamene banja silingathe kuchita bwino, bwino kuyang'ana kwa akatswiri thandizo, ngati sizigwira ntchito zikutanthauza kuti palibe chikondi chokwanira… Ndine mkazi wosudzulidwa kumene. Ndinayesetsa kwambiri koma sizinatheke chifukwa kusowa kwa ukwati 2 munthu kuti agwire ntchito. Onse awiri ayenera kuyesetsa kuti amvetse bwino wokondedwayo.
Ngakhale zomwe ndakumana nazo muukwati wanga, Ndimakhulupirira za chikondi… Koma izi ndizabwino kusakwatira kuposa kugawana moyo wanga ndi kampani yoyipa…
ok ndawerenga zomwe mwanenazi ndingovomelezana nanu kwathunthu.
Nkhani yosangalatsa, ndi chowonadi chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri. Ndizowona kuti ndizovuta kwambiri kupeza Msilamu wopembedza kuti mugawane naye moyo wanu. Ndizo zonse zomwe wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukhala- opembedza ndi ochita. Zina zonse zabwino zimachokera ku zikhumbozo kotero sipadzakhala vuto. Ndine wamng'ono kwambiri ndipo ndimakhulupilira m'banja chifukwa cha zomwe Allah ndi sunnah amalonjeza koma ndimayang'ana anyamata amasiku ano ndi momwe ndiyenera kupeza wokwatirana naye mu chisokonezo ichi.?? Chabwino, duah za… ngakhale kwa zaka zambiri. Ndikungolingalira momwe zimakhalira zovuta kwambiri pamene wina watha 30 zaka zakubadwa. Ndemanga zonse zolondola koma ndiyenera kuvomerezana ndi Omar kwambiri. Tsimikizirani zisankho zonse ndi zisankho pa Chisilamu ndipo simungalakwe. Ndiye nayenso ukwati sungakhoze kuwoneka “zopindulitsa” padziko lapansi, koma ngati mwakwatiwa ndi kupirira ndikuchita mbali yanu, ndithu, malipiro oona ali kwa Mulungu, musadandaule chilichonse chomwe mungapite mu dziko lino… ingochitani zomwe zikuyenera kuchitika ndikukhulupirira mumalipiro anu omwe ali ndi Allah 🙂 Salaam
Maashallah Kauthar mwanena bwino…..jazaka ALLAHU khaira
Omar…Ndikugwirizana nanu kwathunthu..Chisilamu chimafuna anthu ngati u..sindikudziwa chifukwa chake zolemba zotere zikuyenera kuikidwa m'gulu lomwe akuganiza kuti akuchita zachisilamu.…
Ndikukhulupirira kuti pali mfundo zomveka zomwe wolembayo adalemba ndipo zimabweretsa zovuta mdera lathu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu ambiri aziyankha monga momwe amawonera mu ndemanga.. Koma chonsecho sindimagwirizana ndi nkhaniyi. Ndikuwona kuti ndi njira yokonda chuma yaukwati ndi maubwenzi osati achipembedzo. Kufunafuna kosalekeza kosangalatsa mu dunya nthawi zonse sikungapite pachabe ndipo ndikuwona kuti ndi zomwe anthu ambiri amazinyalanyaza. Ndi ndalama, ntchito, ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu osati chitukuko cha anthu, mabanja, midzi, ndi Ummah wonse. Zonse ndi za ine.
Lingaliro limodzi lomwe ndigwirizane nalo ndilakuti ngati simunakonzekere kukwatiwa kuposa osakwatiwa, koma musanyalanyaze dongosolo lonse la ukwati chifukwa chakuti siligwirizana ndi kaonedwe kanu. Ndinganene kuti anthu ayenera kuyang'ana kwambiri mabanja awo ndi maubale awo komanso kuchepera pa kupititsa patsogolo ntchito ndikuwononga china chilichonse..
Chinthu chotsiriza. Ife amuna achisilamu tikuyenera kulimbikitsa utsogoleri wathu m'mabanja ndi mdera. Ife ndife atsogoleri osati ankhanza ndipo Allah watipatsa udindo umenewo. Chitani nawo mbali zambiri m'banja.
Moni,
Nkhaniyi inali yosangalatsa chifukwa inadzutsa zikhulupiriro zomwe ndakhala ndikukhala nazo mpaka pano 9 miyezi yapitayo. Ineyo pandekha ndikudziwa alongo ambiri omwe amalankhula zaukwati ndipo mukakangana nawo amatha kubwera., "Ndikudikira Allah kuti anditumizire mwamuna wanga."
Komabe amakana malingaliro aliwonse. Ameneyo anali ine. Pomaliza ndinavomera pempholi ndipo ndi misonkhano ndi Istikharah zambiri tinakwatirana ndi Alhamdulillah.
Ukwati ndi theka la chipembedzo chathu. Ndi njira yowonjezeretsa kuchuluka kwa Asilamu ndikulimbitsa chikhalidwe cha Chisilamu. Ndi gawo la moyo wake ndi momwe Allah anatipangira ife, tonsefe timafuna mwachibadwa kukhala ndi anzathu ndi maubale. Ukwati ndi umene umatiteteza ku machitidwe a haram. Ukwati umabweretsa Asilamu pamodzi.
Chimene sindinachikonde pankhaniyi ndikuti ndimamva tsamba 2 anali akusowa. Anafotokoza zifukwa zomwe akazi safunira kukwatiwa ndipo anafotokoza pang'ono, koma palibe njira yothetsera mavuto aliwonse omwe amayi amaganiza kuti angakumane nawo.
Yankho lake ndi Allah. Moyo wathu ndikukondweretsa Allah ndipo Allah akufuna kuti tikwatire ndi dziko lapansi (ndi ntchito yanu) nzofunika kwambiri kuposa kusangalatsa Ambuye wathu. Akazi mwachibadwa amakonda kusamalira ana. Chisilamu chimalimbikitsa kutengapo gawo kwa mwamuna ndi kufanana pamagulu onse m'banja kotero kuti mikangano yonse ikhale yopanda pake.
salaam
Nkhani yosangalatsa. Wolembayo amayesadi kufotokoza zenizeni za moyo wosakwatira ndi waukwati, koma nkhaniyo ndi penti ndi burashi yopenta yoipa. Pamapeto pa tsiku, chirichonse chiyenera kubwerera ku chikhulupiriro. Ngati njira ya Qur’an ndi Sunnah ikutsatiridwa moona mtima, ndiye zina zonse zimagwera m'malo mwake–Ndi chifundo chachikulu cha Mulungu pa anthu.
Ndimagwirizana ndi mfundo zonse za Omar–jazakallah khair…zomveka komanso zolankhula.
Ndikugwirizana ndi Kauthar mu zimenezo ndithu, kuyesera kupeza munthu wabwino komanso wodzichepetsa wachisilamu (amene amalemekeza chikhulupiriro ndi kuchichita monga momwe angathere) kuli ngati kuyesa kupeza singano mu mulu waukulu wa udzu (makamaka m'madera omwe si achisilamu). Ndili pafupi zaka 30, m'chigawo cha NJ/NY ku US (kumene kuli Asilamu ambiri), sindinakwatirepo ndipo ndikukumana ndi fitnah/mayeso/mavuto omwewo–pali amuna ambiri kunjako koma pafupifupi onse amakonda njira ya duniya kuposa china chilichonse; ndizomvetsa chisoni kwambiri. Kumene kuli amuna achisilamu oganiza bwino? Ndiwo $ miliyoni funso, ndipo ndiye mutu womwe tiyenera kuyang'ana kwambiri kuposa kale.
Zosangalatsa. Ndawerenga nkhani yanu yonse. Mukuwoneka kuti ndinu wolunjika komanso ndendende.
Izi ndi zomwe ndimaganiza nthawi zina. Ndipo zimakhala zovuta kufotokoza maganizo anga, ngakhale m’gulu la Asilamu maganizo pa akazi sali osiyana kwambiri ndi anthu omwe si achisilamu. Amuna angakuuzeni zimenezo “Chisilamu” Wawapatsa akazi ulemu wabwino koposa, “Chisilamu” wapatsa akazi ichi ndi icho… Koma ngati uwafunsa “wapereka chiyani kwa akazi a m’nyumba mwako?” yankho nthawi zambiri limabwera mwa njira yodzitetezera.
Vuto la anthu amasiku ano lasintha mosagwirizana. Simungathe kubwerera, koma ndizovuta kupita patsogolo.
Ine ndekha ndikayang'ana pozungulira, Ndikuwona atsikana ambiri omwe amapanga amayi abwino komanso akazi abwino. Ndimadzifunsa ndekha “Ndikanakhala mwamuna, ndingamukwatire?” Yankho limabwera labwino. Koma zikafika kwa amuna, zinthu ndi zosiyana. Yankho likubwera lotsutsa.
Vuto lalikulu m'banja (m'magulu achisilamu masiku ano) ndi zimenezo, amuna amakonda kuganiza kuti ntchito ndi maganizo a mkazi si zofunika. Ndithudi iwo ali abwino koposa amuna ochokera m’magulu ena achipembedzo ndi okhulupirika kwambiri, koma ndikumva, munthu wa Muslim ayenera kukhala bwino.
Kuno kum’mwera kwa Asia amuna sathandiza ntchito zapakhomo. Ndikumvetsa kuti ndi mwambo. Koma miyambo ikusintha. Amuna amafuna akazi anzeru, koma safuna akazi amene amagwira ntchito ndi kupeza ndalama. Amafuna kuti mkazi wa injiniya azikhala kunyumba ndi kusamalira ana okha.
Mwachikhalidwe, akazi amagwira ntchito kunyumba ndi kusamalira ana pamene amuna amapita kukapeza ndalama. Tsopano ngati mkazi nayenso atuluka kukagwira ntchito, ndi zomveka kuti mwamuna ayenera kugawana ntchito zapakhomo. Koma kawirikawiri satero. Ndipo ngakhale atero, amachiyesa chokomera mkazi wake. Kunyada kwamwamuna ndichinthu chomwe simuyenera kuchipeza mwa munthu wachisilamu, makamaka munthu wachisilamu, chifukwa Mulungu adati adzatiweruza chifukwa cha taqwa, koma chomvetsa chisoni kuti ambiri aife sitikumbukira.
Ndawonanso mayankho olakwika ku nkhani yanu. Sindikudziwa ngati zingathandize kubisa vuto monga momwe zimachitira kubisa matenda. Ndipo ndimagwirizana ndi omwe amati mphotho yathu siili “basi” m’dziko lino. Chifukwa chake ngati pali zokhumudwitsa tiyenera kukumbukira kuti pali moyo wina. Koma sindikuganiza kuti izi zimapangitsa kukhala kofunikira kunyalanyaza mkhalidwewo ndikukwatirana mulimonse, kukwatiwa podziwa kuti mwayi wa chimwemwe chanu ndi wochepa kwambiri.
Ili ndi vuto, ndipo tiyenera kuzindikira. Ndiye yesani kuthetsa izo. Tidali ndi mtundu wa Chisilamu wathunthu ndi Mtumiki Muhammad (sm) ndi ma Khalifa anayi. Pa nthawiyo mavuto a chikhalidwe cha anthu ankakambidwa ndi kuthetsedwa ndi akatswiri, mbiri imatiwonetsa zimenezo. Ngati iwo akanakhoza kuchita izo. Ifenso tiyenera kutero. Tiyenera kutulutsa mavuto athu ndi kuwathetsa. Inde, tili ndi moyo wotsatira, koma zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti tisayese kukhala osangalala m’moyo uno.
Ndikuganiza kuti zinthu zikhoza kukhala zosiyana, ngati tisintha malingaliro athu. Zinthu zazing'ono zimatha kubweretsa kusintha kwakukulu pang'onopang'ono. Ngati abale athu achisilamu asintha maganizo awo kwa amayi vutoli likhoza kuthetsedwa. Ndipo ndithudi kugwirizana kumabweretsa zotsatira zabwino kulikonse.
Kwa wolemba: Ndikuyamikira kuyesera kwanu kuthetsa mavutowa. Zikomo.
Koma sindinasamale koma kuzindikira, simunapereke yankho limodzi pavuto limodzi. Chifukwa chake, nkhaniyo ikuwoneka yosakwanira pang'ono.
Ndisanayiwale, ndi ntchito yabwino. Pitilizani!
nkhaniyi ili pamalo oipa. anthu ena akhoza kuzitengera mosiyana ndi kusakwatira ndipo izi zingakhudze wolemba. ndipo monga wina wanenera pamwambazi zitha kubweretsa zina. chonde onani zomwe Chisilamu chimanena pa nkhani ya ukwati kudzera m'mabuku a Qur'an ndi Hadith. Lekani kutsatira zomwe anthu amaganiza kuti ndizolemba. Jazakumullah Kheir. Mulungu atipatse kuzindikira ndi kutitsogolera kunjira yoongoka. Amene
Moni,
Ine ndekha ndikuganiza mutuwo uyenera kutchedwa “akadali wosakwatiwa komanso wosasangalala” chifukwa ndikudziwa bwino lomwe kuti pansi pamtima aliyense amafuna ndipo amafunikira bwenzi. Ndi zaka (24 zaka zakubadwa) ndipo ngakhale mlongo wanga ndi wamkulu sitili pafupi ndi ukwati. Kungoti banja lathu lili patokha ndipo timaleredwa kukhala okonda ntchito. Ndikufunadi kukwatiwa kapena kuchita chinkhoswe chifukwa pakapita nthawi anthu amanditsutsa. ndiyamba kuyankhula ngati “chavuta ndi chani pabanja/asungwanawa? Bwanji sanakwatiwe kale?”. Thats whats scaring me off..komanso ndimasungulumwa kwambiri koma nthawi yomweyo sitinakhale omasuka..its all so hectic and moyo ndi mamuna/banja ndizovuta kwambiri., ali ndi mavuto awoawo ndipo ngati sianthu/Asilamu abwino kutanthauza ngati sangakukhutiritseni(monga kukhala wodekha ndi wololera, osagwiritsa ntchito ndalama nthawi zonse pazinthu zopanda pake komanso osachititsa manyazi theka lina). Ndili ndi matenda apakhungu motero ndimayenera kudya zakudya zapadera kuti zikhazikike. Ngati wina akuseka, Ndikanathetsa chibwenzi. Choncho, zomwe ndimafuna kunena ndi: ukwati si bwalo lamasewera ndipo akazi ambiri amaopa kapena sanapeze aliyense panobe chifukwa cha zifukwa zambiri. Wolemba pano akuwoneka choncho kwa ine,nawonso. Shes anapulumuka 30 zaka opanda mwamuna ndipo sanazolowere kukhala ndi mwamuna kumbali yake koma amakondera amuna poyamba. Bwanji osayesa zinazake ndiyeno muwone ngati mwamunayo ndi woyenera kukwatiwa? Ndikanakonda amuna ena abwera kudzandiona kuti tikwatirane. Ndikanakonda ndikanakhala wokongola komanso wodzidalira koma ndine ine ndipo ndimomwe Mulungu anandipangira. Tsoka ilo amuna ambiri sakhala achisilamu ndipo amachita zinthu za haraam monga disco etc. Kapena amacheza ndi akazi achizungu ndipo ife akazi achisilamu timayima tokha…Pepani kwambiri ndi izi…
Ndikuganiza kuti ndizosazindikira kuti tonsefe timafuna bwenzi. Nditchuleni kuti ndine munthu wamba, koma sindikufuna kuti munthu awononge malo anga. Kukhala pafupi ndi anthu kumanditopetsa, ndipo anthu okhawo omwe ndimalekerera kukhala nawo ndi anthu omwe ndawadziwa kuyambira ndili mwana, ndipo sindikufuna kukhala nawo nthawi zonse.
Komanso, amene akunena kuti mkazi adzachita zibwenzi pamapeto pake ngati sakwatiwa: Mwatiganizira ife amene mwa ife mulibe zilakolako zoterozo?? Munayamba mwamvapo za mtundu umenewo wa anthu?
ndikuvomereza, Ukwati ukuwoneka kuti ukupezedwa moyipa m'nkhaniyi. Ndine mkazi ndipo sindikufuna kukwatiwa. Ndinakwatira kamodzi ndipo zinatha msanga opanda ana Alhamdulilah. Koma ndimaona ngati anthu akunena kuti n’kulakwa kusakwatira. Kukwatiwa mu Chisilamu sikuli kutali. Ngati mungathe kupewa zoipa ndikukhala mbeta, chimenecho sichinthu choyipa. Sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake anthu amafulumira kuweruza ngati wina sakufuna kukwatira. Ndibwino kuti munthu amene sakufuna kukwatira, osakwatira. Chifukwa ngati iwo anatero, iwo akanapanga miyoyo yawo kugahena. Munthu ayenera kukhala wokonzeka akadzalowa m’banja ndipo asanyozedwe ngati satero. Ndimadana ndi malingaliro awa omwe anthu ali nawo. Iwo amadziona kuti ndi apamwamba kwambiri ndipo ali ndi ufulu wopereka chiweruzo.
ndikuvomerezana nanu
Nkhani yodabwitsa.
O ndi njira, Ndine mwamuna. Inde Muslim nayenso. Chimenecho chinali chiyani? O anthu!
Penyani!, Uwu ndi umboni wa mkazi woganiza bwino komanso woganiza bwino yemwe ali wamphamvu m'chikhulupiriro chake chokana kukwatiwa.. Inde, chake ndi chilimbikitso, nthawizonse zakhala ziri. Izi ndi zopempha; chilakolako chokhala ndi ana, chilakolako chogonana, ndi zina.
Mtsikana wamng'ono wosadziwa zambiri yemwe alibe mphamvu zakunja ndipo wakonzeka- pafupifupi anakonzekeretsedwa kukhulupirira kuti ukwati ndi njira yokhayo kwa iye, ndi malingaliro oipa achisilamu. Iye ali ndi chosankha. Ukwati ndi sunna yapadera ya Mtumiki ndipo uyenera kuchitidwa ndi chilolezo cha onse okhudzidwa.
Chiwerengero cha maukwati okakamizika omwe akuti chikuchitikira chikuchuluka chifukwa pali njira zoti amayi azitha kuthawa.. Mwamwayi ku UK tili ndi 'Forced Marriage Unit’ yomwe imagwira ntchito limodzi ndi anthu amderali kuthandiza anthu onse amuna ndi akazi kuti athawe vutoli.
Koma kachiwiri poyerekeza ndi unyinji wa anthu padziko lapansi, ndi dontho chabe la m'nyanja. Kodi tikufunikadi kukhala ndi kuchuluka kwa anthu athu kukwera ndi kukwera? Tikuvutikira kale kupereka ndi kuyang'anira zothandizira zomwe zikukula kale 7-8 Mabiliyoni amene alipo lerolino ndipo m’zaka zoŵerengeka chabe chiŵerengero chimenecho chidzawonjezereka.
Ndikuvomereza kuti nkhani zomwe zikukambidwa pano ndizovuta ndipo mwina zikukhudzana ndi wolemba yekha. Kusonyeza kudodoma motsutsana ndi malingaliro ake ndi kugwirizanitsa zochita zake ndi chikoka cha Shaitaan ndi maganizo opambanitsa. Ndikuganiza kuti munangowerenga ndime zingapo zoyambirira ndikudumpha zina zonse. Omar. Sunnah ya Mtumiki siudindo wanu kukankhira pakhosi pa aliyense, komanso sikugawira ndi vitriol yomwe mwawonetsa pazokambirana zake. Mlongoyo wapereka lingaliro la kukambirana komanso ngati mumayamikiradi deen, ndiye mukadapereka malingaliro ogwirizana okhudzana ndi zomwe adakumana nazo kuti afotokoze zina. Osati diatribe ya mullah kugwa kwa anthu amasiku ano. Ndikuyembekezera kuyankha kwanu kwaukali wodzaza ndi chidani ndikunyansidwa…
Komabe, ukwati ndi dalitso monganso ana. Ayenera kuyamikiridwa ndi kulemekezedwa. Ngati munthu akuona kuti imaan yake ingakhudzidwe asakwatire. Zosavuta.
Kuphatikiza pa olemba ndemanga pa 'nouveaux luxury’ m'badwo (ana omwe apatsidwa zidole zaposachedwa komanso zodula kwambiri), tikhala tikupanga m'badwo wa 'sadzachita'’ posachedwa. Achinyamata ambiri amene ndakumana nawo sanavutikepo, ndikuyembekeza malipiro ochuluka chifukwa chochita zochepa kapena osachitapo kanthu tsiku lililonse. Zimenezi zidzayesadi kuleza mtima kwa makolo.
Ndimakhulupirira kuti ndi momwe munthu amaonera/chikhulupiriro chokhudza banja. Ndi sunnah, ndi kuchita bwino pano ndi m'moyo wotsatira, sunnah ya Nabii wathu, s, ndi chitsanzo. Koma onse awiri ayenera kukhala ndi kumvetsetsa koteroko kapena padzakhala mavuto. Mabanja ena sagwirizana kuyambira pachiyambi. Azimayi ena amadzinyozetsa okha mwa kukwatiwa ndi aliyense chifukwa cha kuthedwa nzeru. Amuna ambiri sadziwa pang'ono za iwo eni ndi deen kutsogolera bwino banja. Pali nkhani zambiri. Koma kumapeto kwa tsiku, Allah adalenga mwamuna ndi mkazi ndipo adakhazikitsa ukwati ngati njira yopezera mtendere ndi bata, komanso ngati njira yodzitetezera ku ubale wosaloledwa. Ndi chifundo chochokera kwa Iye chimene tiyenera kufuna kuchilandira. Timangoyenera kuchigwirira ntchito ndi kuyesetsa kuchisamalira, monga chilichonse chomwe munthu akufuna m'moyo. Kumapeto kwa moyo wanga sindikuganiza kuti ndidzanong'oneza bondo chifukwa chosatsata ntchito yanga ndikupanga ndalama zambiri. Ndidzanong'oneza bondo zabwino zilizonse zomwe ndaphonya kuchita kaya muukwati kapena ayi. Choncho lowani pomwe mwakwanira ndipo yesetsani kuchita zabwino zomwe Allah wakupatsani. Mulungu ationgolere ndikutisunga kufunafuna nkhope yake, amene.
Cn any1 answr ths prblm?
Kodi sizodabwitsa?
Ndi akazi angati omwe akufuna kukwatiwa? Zaka- Zonse.
Ndi angati amuna omwe akufuna kukhala akapolo? Zaka- Palibe
si zachilendo?
Ukatswiri mkazi= kapolo. Onse ali ndi zofanana, maufulu a idntcl ( kusamalira, clthng, chakudya) Onse ali ndi udindo womwewo monga whtevr ur hsbnd kapena master amanenera. Komanso inu ar Islam alowd kumenya mkazi wanu koma nt alowd kumenya kapolo.
Bwanji sindimakonda kukhala kapolo koma mkazi? Ngakhale Whn kapolo ndi bwino.?
Cn any1 chonde yankhani kusokoneza kwanga
ndi kupusa kwa wmen or wht?
Mnzanga wina yemwe sanali Msilamu anandifunsa funso limeneli ndipo sindinayankhe.. Ndi ufulu kapena udindo uliwonse umene umasiyanitsa thm?
Choncho akazi ali ndi ufulu kukhala osakwatiwa. Kodi mungakonde kupita ku nyumba yachilendo, yekha ndi nkhope zachilendo. Ngati mkazi sakufuna kukwatiwa chifukwa safuna kuti moyo wake uzilamuliridwa ndi wina kuposa kuti ndi bwino kuti asakwatire othrwise she will nt be a gud wife.. Ndipo mwa njira ukwati ndi sunnah osati kutali. Kusiya sunnah kuli bwino kuposa kusiya udindo monga kumvera mwamuna.. Kumbukilani kuti mu Heli mudzakhala amuna ochuluka kuposa amuna chifukwa cha kusamvera komweko. Chifukwa chake palibe mwamuna wopanda kusamvera
ndikuvomereza mwamtheradi
mwina ndikugwirizana ndi wolemba koma ena sangakhale olondola.
Ndikumva kuti ukwati wokha uli ngati kusankha wantchito wakunyumba yemwe azigwira ntchito zapakhomo m'mbali zonse kuyambira ana ,mwamuna ndi achibale ena kuti asamalire. kwenikweni ukwati ndizochitika zabwino kwambiri m'moyo koma sizili choncho zili ngati kulemba ntchito wantchito woona mtima wapakhomo.. ngati akana kumvera zofuna za mwamunayo, ndiye kuti adzatengedwa ngati woipa. ndikufuna kudziwa ngati mayiyo angagwiritse ntchito ufulu wake wachibadwidwe. mwamuna akhoza kukhala ndi udindo wocheperako kukhala membala wabanja amatha kusangalala ndi moyo monga momwe amasangalalira kunyumba kwa makolo ake ndipo mayiyo amayenera kukonza zinthu zonse kuti mwamunayo azimva kunyumba.. koma mkaziyo akhoza kumupweteka maganizo pambuyo pa ukwati ndipo adzagwira ntchito ngati kapolo. nayenso anali atakhala moyo womwewo ngati bambo ankakhala kwawo kwa makolo ake.koma iye sakanatha kusangalala ndi ufulu wake waumunthu kuti mwamuna sasintha malingaliro ake amoyo ngakhale atakwatirana amasangalala ndi zipangizo zonse monga nyumbayo ngakhale atakwatirana. koma mkazi adaphunzitsidwa kutumikira ngati wantchito ndipo malingaliro ake asintha akadzakwatiwa ndipo sakanatha kukhala ndi moyo womwewo womwe amakhala nawo kunyumba kwa makolo ake.. onse abereka makolo ao m’njira imodzi, naleranso chimodzimodzi. pali yankho lililonse lomwe mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kukhala ndi malingaliro ofanana mu Chisilamu.
mlembiyo anayiwala kunena kuti amuna ambiri achisilamu amapita kumeneko kukachita nkhanza monga kukwatira mkazi wina popanda kunyamula mkazi wake., kunama, kumwa mowa osayika maganizo a mkazi wake ndi zomwe QURAN YOYERA IKUPHUNZITSA IFE? KAPENA AZIMU AKUNGOCHITA ZOKONDWETSA MTIMA WAWO. Kodi tikuchitadi zomwe sunnah ikufuna kwa ife?? Ngati sichoncho palibe njira yomwe mkazi wokhulupirika angapirire ndi otchedwa amuna kuchita chinyengo komanso popanda kuopa Mulungu..