Masewera a Chibwenzi Opanda Maganizo: Chimwemwe kapena Kusweka Mtima

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Nkhani ili m'munsiyi ikufotokoza za mavuto akuluakulu omwe Achisilamu Achinyamata akukumana nawo masiku ano, makamaka, amene analeredwa kumadzulo. Wolemba amatipatsa chidziwitso chazovuta za "maubwenzi achikondi" awa omwe chikhalidwe chakumadzulo chimaphunzitsa achinyamata athu., kuwaphimba ndi zithunzi zotsekemera za mitima iwiri imakondana pakuwonana koyamba, ndipo pambuyo pa zokwera ndi zotsika pang'ono, potsiriza kukwatirana wina ndi mzake ndi kukhala ndi mapeto osangalatsa. Pomwe chowonadi chili kutali ndi izi monga momwe mlongo amawonetsera modabwitsa.

Anthu ambiri osakwatirana masiku ano amafunafuna “chikondi” m’mipambo ya maunansi osakwatirana, which far from yielding happiness, lead to nothing but spiritual degeneration, loss of self-respect, heartache and misery.

When the average girl reaches the age of ten or eleven, iye – sometimes with the knowledge of her parents, sometimes without their knowledge – becomes engrossed in and obsessed with the teen romance novel: a blonde, blue-eyed girl, with a perfect size 10 figure, falls in love with the football hero of the school, a few complications on the way (nothing major, kumene), but things end happily ever after. In these novels, girl and boy might hold hands, or there might even be a kiss, thrown in somewhere along the line.

By the time the impressionable reader of these novels reaches her teens, she is sick of these story lines… and is searching for more. And is most cases, "zambiri" nthawi zambiri zimapezeka m'nyumba mwake, anayikidwa pansi pa kabati ya amayi ake, m'mabuku achikondi achikulire.

Kugwirana manja, ndipo kupsompsonako kwapanganso zina zambiri, monga tsatanetsatane wa chilakolako chisanayambe m'banja, ndipo kukwaniritsidwa kwake kwalongosoledwa bwino pamasamba awa. Owerenga amauzidwa momwe "thupi langwiro" liyenera kuwoneka, maganizo oti kugonana musanalowe m’banja n’kokoma komanso mwachikondi akudutsa m’masamba amenewa… kumva kunyozeka, ndipo zotsatira zake zambiri zimasiyidwa mosavuta.

Nthano ndi nthano, timadziuza tokha, buku ndi buku…alibe zotsatirapo pa moyo weniweni. Ndithudi ana athu aakazi amamvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza izi…

Koma tikudzinyenga tokha. Nthano ndi mabuku omwewo "osavulaza"., kukhala ndi zotsatira zowononga maganizo, moyo ndi maganizo a ana athu. "Kusweka" / kukopeka koyamba komwe ana athu aakazi amakumana nako pokhudzana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, kaŵirikaŵiri zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi malingaliro onama ponena za “kukhala pachibwenzi,” maganizo amene zinthu zosiyanasiyana zimachititsa. Ndipo chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zojambula chithunzi cha shuga ndi maswiti chachikondi chisanachitike, Izi ndi zolembedwa zosazama zomwe ana athu aakazi amakumana nazo.

Nzosadabwitsa kuti atsikana amakula akukhulupirira kuti chibwenzi ndiye chinsinsi cha chimwemwe…pajatu sanangoyamba kuyenda, pamene nkhani za anthu osauka ankachitira Cinderella, kupulumutsidwa kokha ndi kalonga wothamanga, ndi Snow White wokongola anadzutsidwa ndi kalonga, ndi Rapunzel wowonongedwa, kupulumutsidwa ku nsanja ndi ngwazi yothamanga, amauzidwa kwa iwo.

Akamawerenga mabuku achikondi, chiphunzitso ichi ndi kulimbikitsidwa kwambiri – za, mu buku lachinyamata lachikondi lachinyamata, mtsikana wopanda chibwenzi, kapena "khumi ndi sikisitini okoma ndipo sanapsopsedwepo" ndi nthabwala yosauka yomwe ilibe tsiku lopita ku prom. Ndipo pamasamba a buku lachikondi la anthu akuluakulu, heroine nthawi zonse amakhala wopambana, mkazi wokongola ntchito, koma, akumva, kuti “chinachake” chikusowa m’moyo wake… ndipo “chinachake” chimenecho mwachibadwa ndi mwamuna.

Ndizosatheka kuti wachinyamata wamba, ndingowerenga mabuku awa, ndi kuti sipadzakhala kukhudza maganizo ake. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosiyana ndendende: amalakalaka akanakhala munthu wa pamasamba a bukhulo, ndipo amasamutsira malingaliro ake ku moyo wake weniweni. Akhoza kuona wina kusukulu, yemwe ali wotchuka, ndi wowoneka bwino [i.e. ngwazi ya mpira], ndipo amayamba kusweka kwake kowawa koyamba, zomwe zimatsagana nazo ndithu, pomutumizira osadziwika 'Tsiku la Valentine’ makadi, kapena kumuimbira foni ndi kumuimba nyimbo. Satana watchera msampha wake, ndipo chiyeso cha uchimo chimakula, ndipo nthawi iliyonse mayesero amaperekedwa, mtsikanayo amakhala wolimba mtima. Pa nthawi yomwe mwanayo amamufunsa, mtima wake wamupeza bwino, ndipo mutu wake uli wodzazidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro a momwe kugwirana manja kokoma kusanayambe kupsopsonana koyambako kumayenera kukhala, sangathe kukana.

Kenako "mgwirizano" umayamba. Koma izi zili ndi zonse zomwe buku lachikondi lachikale silikhala….kwa masamba okutidwa ndi maswiti samakuuzani za kusweka mtima, misozi, kusinthasintha kwamalingaliro ndi zinthu zosawerengeka zosawerengeka zomwe zili pakatikati pa maubwenzi awa. Kapenanso musakuuzeni za kudzitsitsa ndi kudzichotsera ulemu komwe anthu amakumana nako, makamaka akazi, zimawonekera pambuyo pa maubwenzi awa.

Pakuti palibe mtendere, palibe bata mu maubwenzi oterowo. Kuzungulira kwatsiku ndi tsiku, maganizo, chilichonse chokhudza munthuyo chimakhudzidwa. Pali mtundu wina wa mdima, kusakhazikika komwe kumadzaza mtima, ndipo kusakhazikika kumeneku kumakhudzanso banja lonse. Pakuti tsopano ndi pamene mikangano yonse ndi makolo imayamba: “Bwanji sindingathe kutuluka usikuuno? Anzanga onse akupita!”

Ndipo pali kusinthasintha kwa maganizo ndi kusinthasintha kwa kudya. Ngati foni siyiyimba, ndiye ndi nkhani ya "Sindikufuna kudya." Ndiye pali kusaona mtima… sanathe kuuza makolo ake kumene akufunadi kupita, akupanga chowiringula choti apite ku library kukaphunzira mayeso a mawa.

Kutha kwa ubale uliwonse nthawi zambiri kumadziwika ndi kuzunzidwa kwanthawi yayitali, momwe mtsikanayo amayenera "kugonjetsa" mnyamatayo. Moyo watsiku ndi tsiku umakhala womvetsa chisoni…zizindikiro zake zikuchepa, tsiku ndi tsiku maganizo amayamba kudalira mmene panopa ubale wake ndi mnyamata ndi atsikana ambiri, Wasokeretsedwa kwathunthu ndi Satana, ngakhale kupanga dua la "chiyanjanitso." Panthawi imeneyi mtsikanayo amakhumudwa kwambiri ndi liwongo, chifukwa pansi pamtima pake, akudziwa kuti zimene wachita ndi haraam, ndipo amadziimbanso mlandu chifukwa chonamiza makolo ake. Ngati panali mbali yakuthupi paubwenzi wake, ndiye malingaliro a liwongo ameneŵa amawumbikitsidwa mozama ndi kuphatikizidwa ndi kudzitayira ulemu kotheratu.

M'malo ovuta kwambiri, zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri, mtsikanayo, pofuna kukulitsa “chithunzi chake,” angayambenso zizolowezi zina zosiyanasiyana monga kusuta, kukwapula, kumwa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kapena angayambenso kuchita zinthu zongopeka kuti adzimvenso kuti ndi “wapadera”.

Mwachidule, "maubwenzi" ofotokozedwa mokoma kwambiri m'mabuku achikondi, zomwe zimangonena za chokoleti, maluwa ndi chisangalalo, kuthera pomwepo: pamasamba a novel. M'moyo weniweni, Maubwenzi oterowo amangobweretsa kusasangalala ndi kupwetekedwa mtima. Pakuti pangakhale bwanji chisangalalo chenicheni mu "chikondi" chouziridwa ndi Satana?? Mtundu uwu wa “chikondi,” kutali ndi kukhala woyera ndi wopatulika, amagwera m’gulu la dama.

Za dama, Allah Ta’ala akutero mu Qur’aan yopatulika:

“Mkazi ndi mwamuna amene ali ndi mlandu wa chigololo, “… ndiye ife: chifundo chisakusonkhezere inu mwa iwo, m’chilamulo cha Mulungu, ngati mukhulupirira mwa Mulungu ndi tsiku lomaliza: Ndipo gulu la okhulupirira lione chilango chawo.” [Surah An-Nur: 2]

Kodi chingakhale chotani chisangalalo cha nthawi yaitali mu tchimo lomwe chilango chake ndi chokhwima chotere?? Komabe, pokumbukira lamulo la pamwambali, Komanso tisataye mtima ndi chifundo cha Allah Ta’ala… pakuti ife sitingathe ngakhale kuzindikira kukula kwa chifundo cha Mulungu.

Tiyenera kuzindikira ndikudziuza tokha kuti pali kukhutitsidwa kwakanthawi chabe kwa nafs mu ubale usanachitike., ndipo tiyenera kuthetsa ubale uliwonse wotere womwe tingakhale nawo, ndikuchita taubah moona mtima (kulapa) kwa Allah. Zingakhale zovuta kuthetsa maubwenzi oterowo, tikangozindikira ndikuvomereza tokha kuti mabuku omwe timakumana nawo kuyambira tili achichepere akhazikika pa kafir. (kusakhulupirira) njira ya moyo, zomwe zikuwoneka zokopa kwambiri kuchokera kunja, koma zimene zilibe chikhutiro ndi chimwemwe chenicheni, atero Insha’Allah, kukhala kosavuta kutero.

Kuwonjezera pa kujambula chithunzi cha duwa la chibwenzi, mabuku awa amapanganso lingaliro lolakwika kwambiri la zomwe bwenzi labwino liyenera kukhala. Ndizodziwikiratu kuti popeza ndi zofalitsa za kafir, palibe kupsinjika pa umulungu, makhalidwe abwino, kuona mtima ndi makhalidwe ena onse amene anthu ayenera kufunafuna mwa munthu woti adzakwatirane naye. M’malo mwake mabukuwa amalimbikitsa kuganiza mongoyerekeza, ndi kutsindika kwawo pa maonekedwe abwino, wangwiro 10 ziwerengero, osewera mpira wa nyenyezi, magalimoto onyezimira, ndi zina.

Makolo ayang’anire mosamalitsa zowerenga zomwe ana awo amabwera nazo kunyumba ndipo aphunzitse ana awo za kukongola kwa nikaah (ukwati). Tiyenera kuzindikira, kuti pamene kuli kwachibadwa kuchita manyazi kukambirana nawo mbali zotere za Chisilamu, Ndibwino kwambiri kwa iwo kuti tiwapatse chidziwitso cholondola cha moyo wa Chisilamu, kuposa kuwalola kupeza lingaliro lolakwika kotheratu la chikondi m’mabuku, televizioni, mafilimu, ndi anzawo ndi chilengedwe.

Ziyenera kufotokozedwa kwa wachinyamata aliyense kuti maubwenzi asanalowe m'banja, zibwenzi, ndi zina zomwe tikuziona kukhala zofunika kwambiri padziko lapansi zilibe kanthu koma zili ndi zotsatira zoipa pa miyoyo yathu mu Aakhirah. (pambuyo pake). Ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa mobwerezabwereza m’maganizo mwawo kuti maubwenzi asanalowe m’banja ndi tchimo, Pomwe nikaah ndi ibaadah (kulambira).

Allah Ta’la adalenga amuna ndi akazi ndi zilakolako za chilengedwe, ndipo walenga nikaah kukhala chikhazikitso chomwe zilakolakozi zikhoza kukwanilitsidwa. A nikaah momwe onse awiri, mwamuna ndi mkazi akuyesetsa kukwaniritsa udindo wawo kwa Allah Ta’ala, Nikaah yotereyi idzadzazidwa ndi kulemekezana, chikondi ndi mosalephera, kukhutitsidwa, zomwe timazifufuza mopanda chiyembekezo mu maubwenzi asanalowe m'banja. Mkati mwa nkhani yopatulika ya nikaah, m’menemo magulu awiriwo ngomvera Allah Ta’ala, ndi kutsatira Malamulo Ake, sipangakhale malo otaya ulemu, kukhumudwa, ndi zina. zomwe zimayendera limodzi ndi "kutuluka" kapena "kucheza" ndi wina.

Nthawi zonse tizikumbukira kuti tikamwalira tili ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi, Tikhala tikuchoka pa dziko lino titakhala nthawi yochepa ya moyo uno tili pamodzi ndi munthu yemwe si Mahram, ndipo mwina chifukwa cholakwira Mulungu ndi ife tokha.

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