Ndikufuna Mkazi Wabwino Koma...

Makhalidwe "okhudzana ndi ukwati"., ndemanga ndi zolemba zimapeza zokonda zambiri pamasamba ochezera masiku ano, ngati Facebook, Twitter, Google plus ndi ena.

Mwina izi ndichifukwa choti aliyense amafuna kutulutsa zokhumudwitsa zawo, kugawana zomwe awona komanso kuvomereza kapena kukana kwawo pamutu wovomerezeka ndi wosangalatsawu. Pankhondo iyi, Ndawonapo anthu ena akukhala okhumudwa kwambiri mpaka amasanza zomwe adakumana nazo, nkhani zachikondi, ndi nthawizonse- kuphwanya kosatha pamodzi ndi mayina omwe angakhale nawo pagulu!

Poyeneradi, ukwati ndi nkhani yaikulu komanso yofunika kwambiri, zomwe zitha kuwoneka kuchokera mbali zonse ziwiri: mbali ya serious ndi mbali ya zosangalatsa. Zimatengera zaka za munthu, kukhwima ndi maganizo pa moyo.

"Ndikufuna mkazi wabwino koma ...", ndi gawo lodziwika bwino m'miyoyo ya achinyamata achisilamu omwe akuchita. Vutoli ndi zomwe timamva pozungulira ife m'magulu athu achipembedzo & macheza.

Kuti, ku dzanja limodzi, anthu onse okonda zachipembedzo amadziwa komanso amamvetsetsa hadith yotchuka kwambiri:

“Mkazi amakwatiwa pazifukwa zinayi: chuma chake, ulemu wake, kukongola kwake ndi kupembedza kwake. Sankhani wolungamayo ndipo mupambane.” (Bukharee)

Koma ndi ochepa okha amene ali ofunitsitsa kuchitapo kanthu.

Anzanga ena ochita masewera akuyembekezera kukakumana ndi mtundu wina wa Cinderella ku abaya. Zimenezi zinandipangitsa kuzindikira mosasamala kanthu za mmene amuna opembedza amawonekera, anthu ochepa kwenikweni ali okonzeka kupereka nsembe pankhani ya kukongola ndi zaka, ngakhale angapereke nsembe pa kuopa Mulungu, chuma ndi ulemu.

Izi zikutiwonetsa bwino lomwe mtundu weniweni wamkati mwathu. Tonsefe timamva ndikulankhula za Hadith zonsezi nthawi zonse, koma tikutanthauzadi? Mofananamo, kukanidwa kumapangidwa pansi pa zilembo za "kuff" (kugwilizana), koma chifukwa chenicheni chokanira ndi china. Kapena ngakhale kuff, kwenikweni chimatanthauza (Kuff) kufanana m'maso mwathu, iyi ndi nkhani yotsutsana.

Akatswiri osiyanasiyana apanga Ijtihad yawo kuti ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zikukhudzidwa pankhani ya Kuff. Pali malingaliro osiyanasiyana, koma lingaliro lamphamvu ndi lomveka bwino kwambiri - ndipo lomwe Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymiyn adagwiritsa ntchito - ndikuti Kuff akungonena za kudzipereka kwachipembedzo kokha.. [Werengani zambiri : http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/84306]

Malingaliro a amuna ndi akazi m'dera lathu sali osiyana; nawonso amachita chimodzimodzi. Ngakhale atha kumaliza maphunziro awo mu fiqh, sungani hijab yoyenera ndikunena pamodzi ndi makolo awo, “tikufuna mkazi wolungama…” Ndi ochepa okha amene ali olimba mtima kuti achite zomwe zikunenedwazo. Ndi zoonekeratu kuti pamene munthu otsika banja (koma wopembedza kwambiri) imayandikira kwa iwo, mwadzidzidzi zinthu zambiri zimawonjezedwa pamndandanda wawo. Nawonso akudziwa Hadith yodziwika (pa mtima!):

“Ngati munthu amene mchitidwe wake wa chipembedzo (chipembedzo) amakukhutitsani inu, akufunsira mwana wako wamkazi kuti akwatiwe, muyenera kuwakwatira; mwinamwake, padzakhala chivundi pa dziko lapansi.”(pa-Tirmidhee)3

Koma nthawi zambiri samachitapo kanthu.

Azimayi amakonda kukwatiwa ndi anyamata ochokera kumayiko a First World omwe ali ndi madigiri apamwamba angapo, Ferrari ndikukhala ndi ndalama zambiri ku banki. Kodi nthawi zonse ndi chinthu choipa? Ayi. Koma ngati zingakupangitseni kusiya malingaliro angapo abwino komanso ngati zili zanu zokha komanso zomwe mumayika patsogolo, ndiye inde, mukhoza kukhala ndi vuto. Pokhapokha okana akalephera kupeza phukusi lawo langwiro, amanong'oneza bondo chifukwa chokana omwe adawafunsira modzichepetsa kudzera mwa makolo awo.

Musa (alayhi salam) sakanakwatira mwana wamkazi wa munthu amene anam’patsa pogona, ngati mikhalidwe ya apongozi ake inali yozikidwa pa chuma chakuthupi monga lerolino. Panthawi imeneyo, analibe umembala wa kilabu, ndalama, magalimoto kapena zinthu zina zapamwamba, anali asanapatsidwe Uneneri! Anali munthu wodzichepetsa komanso mwamuna wolungama. Ndizo zonse zomwe anali nazo. Koma kwa anzeru, ndicho chuma chenicheni, mfundo zenizeni.

Pankhani ya kuchedwa kwa maukwati ndi masautso okhudzana ndi ukwati, nthawi zambiri, cholakwa chili mwa ife; malingaliro athu a dziko longopeka komanso miyezo yapamwamba.

Pankhani ya kuchedwa kwa maukwati ndi masautso okhudzana ndi ukwati, nthawi zambiri, cholakwa chili mwa ife; malingaliro athu a dziko longopeka komanso miyezo yapamwamba. Zoona zake n’zakuti kukonda chuma kudakali kwinakwake m’maganizo ndi m’mitima mwathu. Zikuwoneka kuti sizikuchoka ngakhale tikumva ndikudziwa zonena zonsezi ndipo ngakhale tikudziwa nkhani za anzawo onse ndi njira zawo zonyamula okwatirana..

Dzifunseni nokha, ngati lero, lingaliro limabwera mwanjira yanu, zomwe zimawoneka zolimbikitsa mwachipembedzo koma, mwina, kulimbana ndi zinthu za dziko, mungavomere kapena kuchokapo? Zonse ndi nkhani yofunika kwambiri.

Ukwati Wangwiro

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